Whose Turn is It? How to be a Successful Power Couple (WOC 2014)

October 23–25, 2014

WHOSE TURN IS IT?HOW TO BE A SUCCESSFUL

POWER COUPLE

Talia Fox, M.Ed.KUSI Visions, CEO

Women of Color STEM ConferenceWhose Turn Is It? How To Be a Successful Power Couple

What Is The Vision?

Define Love.

What does love have to do with it?


What Are Your Choices?

The Heart The Mind The World


Do You Agree?

More education will give you a better chance at marriage than someone who is less educated.

True or False


Do You Agree?

The more money you have will give you a better chance at getting married and staying married.

True or False


Do You Agree?

Culture, Race, and nationality has a huge impact on marriage success.

True or False

Marriage rates are the lowest in the Black community, however, they are still only marginally behind the national average.


The Statistics Regarding Racial Divides in US Marriages

Marriage facts on Black Men:

• Men ages 35+ never married was 1890 - 1930 for White men than Black men, but by 1960, this had reversed, with Black men age 35+ having a higher percent never married.

• By 1960, Black men age 45+ had a higher percentage who never married.

• As of 2010, 20 percent of black men and 9 percent of white men have never been married by age 45 and over.


The StatisticsMarriage Facts on Black Women:

• Black women were more likely to have been married by age 35 than their white counterparts until 1970.

• The crossover happened in 1980, and by 2010, 20 percent of black women and 7 percent of white women had never been married by age 45 and over.


The StatisticsOverall US Census Bureau Conclusions:

• The median age at first marriage in 2010 for all races is the highest on record, but didn’t exceed the 1890 value until 1990.

• There was a sharp increase in the proportion never married for Black men and women since 1980 – the attributing of which warrant further investigation.


5 Ways to Make Someone Fall In Love


What Is Your Love Language?

• Gifts• Quality Time• Words of Affirmation• Acts of Service• Physical Touch


The Woman of Color “Double Consciousness” In Relationships


Talia’s Vision: Am I Asking For Too Much?

He must be tall, dark and handsome

He must have a genuine spirit

He must be funny He must be ambitious

He must be an intellect

He must be a humanitarian


Then Two Become One

The Married Power Couples


What Are The Challenges?

Two successful and driven people are in a romantic relationship.

The time, energy and attention required to make their relationship successful may be difficult when trying to balance a thriving career.

The question is…


Can You Have It All?

Is it possible to balance a successful career and a successful relationship?


Ten Characteristics of Successful Marriages

1. Commitment: To the Commitment2. Common Interests: Shared

values and interests in children, work, travel, goals, dependability and the desire to work together

3. Communication: Openness about opinions and feelings (self-disclosure) where couples are willing to interact, trust and share



4. Religiousity (High Levels of Religious Committment: A strong religious orientation provides a couple with social, spiritual and emotional support

5. Trust: Provides a stable foundation for security in marriage

6. Finance and Work: Being non-materialistic – valuing family and marriage over the accumulation of material goods. Practicing financial self-control and not spending beyond their means



7. Role Models: Good marriages beget good marriages. Growing up in a happy parental marriage helped create good marriages for children

8. Virtues: Individuals who develop good character make better husbands and wives, mothers and fathers

9. Low Stress Levels: Low stress levels in one’s life are associated with marital quality

10. Sexual Desire: Sexual desire for one’s spouse expressed consistently through the life course

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