Resolving Workplace Conflicts Effectively

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Are you faced with conflicts in the workplace and unsure how to resolve them effectively? Have you tried to resolve a conflict with a manager, direct report or peer and felt like you got nowhere? Do you sometimes avoid conflicts because they seem impossible to resolve? In this webinar, we will discuss a step by step process for preparing to resolve a conflict, how to have a productive conflict resolution conversation, and learn more about the nature and purpose of conflict in the workplace.

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  • 1. Resolving Workplace Conflicts Effectively Claudette Rowley December 7, 2011A Service Of: Sponsored by:
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  • 5. Resolving Workplace Conflicts Effectively NONPROFIT WEBINARS DECEMBER 7, 2011 1-2PM EST
  • 6. Webinar TakeawaysParticipants will learn The five typical responses to conflict. A step by step process for preparing to resolve conflict. Communication skills for engaging in a conflict resolution conversation.
  • 7. The Purpose of Conflict To generate change; allow growth and evolution To surface something thats not working To signal that change is trying to happen
  • 8. Why do we resist/avoid/confront conflict? Brain chemistry Influence of past experiences Feels bad; feels vulnerable Not having the skill set Not feeling confident
  • 9. Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Modes (TKI)1. Competing2. Collaborating3. Compromising4. Avoiding5. Accommodation
  • 10. TKI - CompetingCompeting is assertive and uncooperative, a power- oriented mode. When competing, an individual pursues his or her own concerns at the other persons expense, using whatever power seems appropriate to win his or her position. Competing might mean standing up for your rights, defending a position you believe is correct, or simply trying to win.
  • 11. TKI - CollaboratingCollaborating is both assertive and cooperative. When collaborating, an individual attempts to work with the other person to find a solution that fully satisfies the concerns of both. It involves digging into an issue to identify the underlying concerns of the two individuals and to find an alternative that meets both sets of concerns. Collaborating between two persons might take the form of exploring a disagreement to learn from each others insights, resolving some condition that would otherwise have them competing for resources, or confronting and trying to find a creative solution to an interpersonal problem.
  • 12. TKI - CompromisingCompromising is intermediate in both assertiveness and cooperativeness. When compromising, an individual has the objective of finding an expedient, mutually acceptable solution that partially satisfies both parties. Compromising falls on middle ground between competing and accommodating, giving up more than competing but less than accommodating. Likewise, it addresses an issue more directly than avoiding but doesnt explore it in as much as depth as collaborating. Compromising might mean splitting the difference, exchanging concessions, or seeking a quick middle-ground position.
  • 13. TKI - AvoidingAvoiding is unassertive and uncooperative. When avoiding, an individual does not immediately pursue his or her own concerns or those of the other person. He or she does not address the conflict. Avoiding might take the form of diplomatically sidestepping an issue, postponing an issue until a better time, or simply withdrawing from a threatening situation.
  • 14. TKI - AccommodatingAccommodating is unassertive and cooperative the opposite of competing. When accommodating, an individual neglects his or her own concerns to satisfy the concerns of the other person; there is an element of self-sacrifice in this mode. Accommodating might take the form of selfless generosity or charity, obeying another persons order when you would prefer not to, or yielding to anothers point of view.
  • 15. NeedsWhose needs are being met in a given situation?
  • 16. Preparing to Resolve a Conflict: Self-ReflectionPreparation and self-reflection are important for two reasons:1. If you are emotionally distraught, its not a good time to respond to a conflict.2. Winging it can backfire.
  • 17. How to Prepare: 6 Steps4. What are your assumptions about the conflict, yourself and the other person?5. What are your dignity violations?(a term coined by Donna Hicks, PhD in her book Dignity: The Essential Role It Plays in Resolving Conflict.)6. Put yourself in the other persons shoes.
  • 18. How to Prepare: 6 Steps1. Understand your own conflict tendencies.2. Whats your current perspective on the conflict? What are other perspectives?3. What are your emotional triggers?
  • 19. The Bridge: From Preparation to the ConversationQuestions to ask: Whats the change the conflict is trying to surface? What are your interests? What do you know about the other persons interests? What are possible approaches to handling the conflict?
  • 20. Having the Conversation: Communication SkillsHave a conversation about how to have the conversation: What would a successful resolution look like? What are the ground rules for the conversation?
  • 21. Helpful Skills to Use Focus on interests Name whats happening Ask open-ended questions Use active listening skills Stay as neutral as possible Acknowledge emotions (rather than acting on them)
  • 22. Agreements & Options Give the other person an opportunity to share their story, perspective and any dignity violations. Discover your areas of agreement. Clarify your differences. Brainstorm options: expand the options before you, look for mutual gain, create a list of possibilities, get creative.
  • 23. Objective CriteriaTwo questions: How will you know when this conflict is resolved? How will you know that its staying resolved?
  • 24. If Youre Stuck1. Refrain from blaming, defensiveness and criticism.2. Name your experience.3. Reframe the conversation toward interests or options.4. Take a break and reconvene at an agreed upon time.5. Get a neutral third party if needed.
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