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Resolving Conflicts
Understanding Conflicts
Conflict: Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. Interpersonal conflicts: Disagreements between
groups of any size, from two people to entire nations.
Remember that disagreements are normal in healthy relationships and that not all conflicts are harmful.
Learning to work together and recognize how conflicts build are key components in relationships.
What Causes Conflicts? Understanding the causes of conflicts in relationships
may help you keep conflicts from developing. Situations such as these often lead to conflict Power Struggles—teen deciding what time he will come
home at night Loyalty--when a best friend does not pick your side of
an argument with someone else Jealousy/Envy—Best friend makes the sports team
however, you are cut Property disputes—friend borrows something without
asking Territory and space—brother or sister uses your ipad in
your room
Responding to Conflict When a conflict arises, you have a choice: face
the conflict or ignore it. Minor conflicts can typically be resolved from
compromise. Remember to evaluate each conflict to decide
whether a safe, agreeable solution can be reached.
Conflict resolution: the process of solving a disagreement in a manner that satisfies everyone involved.
Strategies for resolving conflicts
Take time to calm down and think over the situation.
When discussing the conflict, take turns explaining each person’s side of the conflict without interruption. Use “I” messages.
Ask for clarification so that each person understands that other’s position.
Brainstorm solutions. Agree on a solution that benefits both sides. Follow up to see whether the correct solution was
chosen and whether that solution worked for each person.
More Conflict Resolution
Respect for oneself and others: Having respect for yourself means that you
recognize that you have a right to your own opinions and values
When you respect others, you can listen to them with an open mind.
Negotiation: the use of communication and often compromise to settle a disagreement.
Negotiating During Conflict ResolutionNegotiation: use of communication and often compromise to settle a disagreement
Preparing for Negotiation
Make sure the issue is important to you
Check your facts. Make sure the disagreement is not based on incorrect information
Remind yourself that your goal is to find a solution
Rehearse what you will say
Steps to take when negotiating
Select a time and place suited to working out problems
Work together toward a solution
Keep an open mind Be flexible Take responsibility for your
role in the conflict Give the other person an
“out”
The Mediation Process Sometimes negotiation is not always possible. Mediation: process in which specially trained people
help others resolve their conflicts peacefully. Confidentiality: respecting the privacy of both
parties and keeping details secret. With mediation, it always best both parties express
their feelings and thoughts with the end result of the mediator helping the parties come to a solution.
Throughout our lives people will encounter conflicts. However, being able to use effective communication and resolving conflict strategies will help in building and maintaining healthy relationships.