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LEVEL OF COMMUNICATION Name : Gohil Jayendra J.Branch : Information TechnologySemester : 1stYear : 2016En.no. : 160210116012

Standards and ObjectivesStandard: ARR 2.0 - ARFL 4.00 Students will identify effective communication in interpersonal relationships.

Objectives:Identify various types of communication styles. Define the levels of communication

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Levels of CommunicationMake a small circle with the groups I have organized.Everyone must participate.No talking with other groups.Everyone must listen with their eyes.When I call time you must stop where you are.If you have not finished the previous round, finish it and then move on.

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Round #1Share an event you have experienced.

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Round #2Describe a situation that has proven to be a good INFLUENCE on your life.

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Round #3Describe a quality you already have that will make you a better parent or spouse.

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Round #4You must give a compliment to one other person in your group.

Example

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Levels of Communication Discussion

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Levels of CommunicationEvent

SuperficialInfluence

Personal

Personal Quality

Validating

Compliment

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ValidatingPersonalSuperficialLevels of Communication SPVCommunication reinforcing peoples feelings about themselves.Communication involving opening up and talking about feelings, beliefs and opinions that mean something to you.Communication making up the majority of our communication. Talking about the weather, home, school, food, etc.

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Levels of Communication QuestionsCan a relationship remain stable for an extended period of time if they communicate in a superficial state? Why?Which levels of communication must a relationship strive for in order to grow? Why?Which was more difficult to share in group? Events, Influences, Personal qualities, Compliments. Why?What are some reactions that occurred in your group? Explain why these occurred.Why is it more difficult to share personal qualities and compliments.Why would you communicate superficially?

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You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.--Leo Aikman

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Video ClipsGoonies Say AnythingSingles

Reality BytesSleepless in SeattleValidatingSuperficialSuperficial into Personal ( Proximity closer)SuperficialSuperficial to Personal

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What kind of communication makes up majority of our conversations?What kind of communication makes a relationships stronger?What is validating Communication?

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Reasons for keeping Communication Superficial:I may be hurt.I dont want to hurt their feelings.They will misinterpret what I say.They wont be receptiveIt will put our relationship at risk.I will be out on a limb and wont be supported.

http://www.mnadr.state.mn.us/workplace/pdf/Keepcomm.pdf

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What Validation IsTo validate someone's feelings is first to accept someone's feelings. Next, it is to understand them, and finally it is to nurture them.

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Basic Steps to ValidationAcknowledging the other person's feelingsIdentifying the feelingsOffering to listen Helping them label the feelingsBeing there for them; remaining present physically and emotionallyFeeling patientFeeling accepting and non-judgmental

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Example of ValidatingI hear you.That hurtsThat's not goodWow, that's a lot to deal withI would feel the same way. (I would be sad/hurt/angry/jealous, etc. too)That is sad.That sounds discouraging.That sounds like it would really hurt That must really hurt.I know just what you mean.I would feel the same way.I can understand how you feel.It sounds like you are really feeling ____.It sounds like is really important to you.

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Validating necklacesStudents talk to one another about their admirable qualities and traits they see in each other. They must validate their compliments. Each time they validate someone they get a piece of yarn tied to their necklaces.

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Painful feelings that are expressed, acknowledged and validated by a trusted listener will diminish.

Painful feelings that are ignored will gain strength. (1)

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No man means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words are slippery and thought is viscous.Henry B. Adams

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Summary:What is SPV?The greater the need to communicate our feelings, the harder it is to do. Indeed, sharing our opinions and emotions is risky business. We minimize the risk when we move through the levels of communication incrementally. That is, each conversation ought to begin with phatic (superficial) communication and move through the levels (however quickly seems appropriate) before moving to the more intimate levels.Generally, we look for the other individual to reciprocate at the same level of intensity. There is a social convention to match levels. If the other initiates a conversation at the evaluative level, we often feel compelled to respond in kind. This is dangerous.Sharing our ideas and feelings is generally reserved for those whom we trust. Trust is a function of confidence, commitment, and time. We generally share our essence with those weve known a long time.(2)

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Thank You.....