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VPLD Hot Seat session 26th October 2011Fiona WhiteMediation Matters

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  • 1. The Compassionate Classroom - open communicationVPLD session 26th October 2011 with Fiona White of Mediation MattersThe Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11

2. Teacher Tube video What do you think is the intention of the principal in using thisdemonstration? What are they hoping will be the effect on the students? What do you think might be the actual effect on the students? What might be the consequences of such a demonstration?The Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 3. Rules & ValuesValues exercise: What words would you use to describe theclassroom/school you would like to be a part of? What does respectful communication look like for you? What obstacles might get in the way of you living up tothese values? What might you do when you perceive that someonesbehaviour doesnt match these values?The Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 4. Our brain in conflict Picture from www.nccr-neuro.uzh.chMirror Neurons:Mirror neurons fire in the brains of observers watching a given action, andreplicate to some extent the experience of the one being observed.These neurons fire when we observe someone else angry, suffering orfrightened, reproducing those experiences in the form of empathy.The Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 5. Our brain in conflictThe Limbic System:The Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 6. List of feelings/emotions When needs are met:When needs are not met: Comfortable, full, satisfied, easy, content, Uncomfortable, pained, uneasy, hurt, relaxed, fulfilled, safe miserable, embarrassed Glad, happy, excited, hopeful, joyful, Sad, unhappy, troubled, disheartened, delighted, grateful, encouraged, confident,heavy, lonely, anguished, gloomy, cheerful, elated, enthusiastic despairing, depressed Grateful, appreciative, thankful Annoyed, disappointed, bitter Interested, curious, engaged, intent,Uninterested, aloof, bored, distant, involved, absorbed apathetic, disinterested, withdrawn Loving, connected, touched, warm,Mad, angry, furious, aggravated, irritated, affectionate, tender, open, friendly,enraged, hostile, bitter, upset, frustrated compassionate, nurturedTired, exhausted, fatigued, lethargic, weary,sleepy, dull, overwhelmed, discouraged Rested, refreshed, rejuvenated, energized, strong, invigorated, alive, alert, relaxed Scared, fearful, afraid, anxious, hesitant,reluctant, shocked, terrified, horrified, Peaceful, calm, serene, trusting, tranquil,unsettled clear, composed, secure, at ease, contentThe Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 7. List of Needs SpaceBelonging Fairness IntegrityTrust Choice Celebration Growth Appreciation HopeRespect Community PurposeEfficiency OrderProgress Patience NourishmentInclusion CompassionEquality Honesty PlayConsideration To be heardKeepingCo-operation Rest Connection Joyagreements AcceptanceEmpowermentClaritySupport TransparencyIndependence Safety/securityAuthenticity Understanding/be understoodThe Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 8. What would you like this student to do?Specific positive action requestThe Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 9. List of feelings/emotions When needs are met:When needs are not met: Comfortable, full, satisfied, easy, content, Uncomfortable, pained, uneasy, hurt, relaxed, fulfilled, safe miserable, embarrassed Glad, happy, excited, hopeful, joyful, Sad, unhappy, troubled, disheartened, delighted, grateful, encouraged, confident,heavy, lonely, anguished, gloomy, cheerful, elated, enthusiastic despairing, depressed Grateful, appreciative, thankful Annoyed, disappointed, bitter Interested, curious, engaged, intent,Uninterested, aloof, bored, distant, involved, absorbed apathetic, disinterested, withdrawn Loving, connected, touched, warm,Mad, angry, furious, aggravated, irritated, affectionate, tender, open, friendly,enraged, hostile, bitter, upset, frustrated compassionate, nurturedTired, exhausted, fatigued, lethargic, weary,sleepy, dull, overwhelmed, discouraged Rested, refreshed, rejuvenated, energized, strong, invigorated, alive, alert, relaxed Scared, fearful, afraid, anxious, hesitant,reluctant, shocked, terrified, horrified, Peaceful, calm, serene, trusting, tranquil,unsettled clear, composed, secure, at ease, contentThe Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 10. List of Needs SpaceBelonging Fairness IntegrityTrust Choice Celebration Growth Appreciation HopeRespect Community PurposeEfficiency OrderProgress Patience NourishmentInclusion CompassionEquality Honesty PlayConsideration To be heardKeepingCo-operation Rest Connection Joyagreements AcceptanceEmpowermentClaritySupport TransparencyIndependence Safety/securityAuthenticity Understanding/be understoodThe Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 11. Nonviolent Communication 4-part strategyObservation: Whenyou say ...(without I see ...evaluation)x happens.Feelings: Are you (feeling) ...I feel ...Needs:because youre needing ...Im needing ...Request:Would you like to I would like to Would you be willing to ...(must be a clear message of what you want to happen)The Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11 12. What are you taking away from todays VPLD session?Fiona Whites contact detailsMobile: (+64) 021 232 6805Email: [email protected]: www.mediationmatters.co.nzFacebook ID: Mediation matters NZBlog: www.theconflicttoolbox.wordpress.comOther topics to consider: The power of empathy for self and others. Rules & values - Values exercise for behavioural expectations. Four uses of the 4-part strategy: for self-empathy, empathy for others, expressingown needs, & expressing gratitude. How the labels we use limit our connections with others teacher, student,principal. How we behave towards authority, and as an authority the choices we make. Reward & Punishment and their effects performance appraisals that work.The Compassionate Classroom 26/10/11