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The art of
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self-coachingEd BatistaCLASS 7: UNHAPPINESS
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UnhappinessEveryone you meet
is fighting a battleyou know nothing about.
~ Wendy Mass
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3 exercises 60 minsSmall groups 15 minsFor next time… 5 mins
Agenda
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Positive
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psychologyConnections with todayImportance of meaningEmotion managementMental models
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Downsides
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Banish unhappiness?Peterson: Blame the victimAgency “I’m responsible”
& limits
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3 exercisesPen & paperNo one will see what you writeBe explicit, detailed & personalEmotional experiences, not just cognitive
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Discuss with your
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partner
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Stoicism
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Not “stoicism”Equanimity ≠ weary resignation
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Stoicism
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What is happiness?Equanimity & tranquility(Eudaimonia, not mere pleasure)
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Stoicism
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Cultivate equanimity & tranquilityTurn toward negative emotions(Growth mindset)(Meta-emotion)
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Stoicism
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Things do not touch the soul.Our perturbations come only
from the opinion which is within.
~Marcus Aurelius
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Stoicism
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Distress stems from our beliefs & judgmentsTurn infinite fears into finite ones(Emotion management)(Mental models)
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Discuss with your
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partner
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Buddhism
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Resisting our addiction to avoiding painBeing inquisitive & open to experience(Comfort with discomfort)(Mindfulness)
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Buddhism
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What we call obstacles are really the waythe world teaches us where we’re
stuck.~Pema Chödrön
(Mental models)
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Buddhism
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Seeking pleasure is an opportunity to observe
what we do in the face of pain.~Pema Chödrön
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Buddhism
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A strong feeling will arise, and instead of
simply letting it be there, we panic.
~Pema Chödrön(Meta-emotion)
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Buddhism
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Death is wanting to have every experience
confirm you and congratulate you andmake you feel completely
together.~Pema Chödrön
(Growth mindset)
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Discuss with your
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partner
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LogotherapyHappiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.
~Viktor Frankl(At odds with positive
psychology?)
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LogotherapyMan’s search for meaning is the
primary motivation in his life.~Viktor Frankl
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LogotherapyConsistent with positive psychology?Eudaimonia > Mere pleasureAgency & responsibility
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LogotherapyIt is possible to practice the art of living
even in a concentration camp,although suffering is
omnipresent.~ Viktor Frankl
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LogotherapyEverywhere man is confronted with fate,
with the chance of achieving something through his own suffering.
~Viktor Frankl
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Thank yourpartner
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3 approachesWhich one is most relevant to you right now?Reflect
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Form smallgroupsStoics, Buddhists, LogotherapistsGroups of 5 or fewer
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Discuss with your group
How are these ideas relevant to me?What might I do with them?
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DebriefWhat did you learn?
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To sum up
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Many approaches beyond positive psychologyDifferent from, not opposed toLearning how you learn
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Class 8SuccessSonja Lyubomirsky on mythsDavid Foster Wallace on valuesPeter Drucker on self-management…and an assignment