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Transcript of Ed Batista, The Art of Self-Coaching @StanfordBiz, Class 8: Success
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The art of
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self-coachingEd BatistaCLASS 8: SUCCESS
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Strengths + a conversation 30 minsValues + a group discussion35 minsConditions + a conversation 25 minsFor next time… 5 mins
Agenda
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Today’s guiding spirit
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StrengthsIt takes far more energy and work to improve from incompetence to mediocrity than it takes to improve from first-rate performance to excellence.
~Peter Drucker
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Growth mindset?Change is always possible…
What’s the opportunity cost?
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With yourpartnerWhat have you learned about your strengths?Where are you capable of excellence?
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Myths
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I’ll be happy
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when…
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I’ll be happy
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when…
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I’ll be happyApplicants rejected by the GSB this year: 7,383
when…
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I’ll be happySonja LyubomirskyWhy doesn’t success make us happier?
when…
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Hedonic treadmill
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Hedonic treadmillThe more we attain, the happier we
become. But the more we attain, the more we want.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
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Hedonic treadmillTwo chief explanations: We experience
less & less pleasure over time & our aspirations rise.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
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SocialThose of us who typically rely on our own internal, objective standards are happiest.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison
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SocialThose of us who base our self-evaluations on comparisons with others are the unhappy ones.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison
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Goal
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pursuit
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GoalThe critical factor in whether goal pursuit makes us happy lies in enjoying the journey & not in realizing the end-goal.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
pursuit
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So whatcan we do?
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AspirationConcrete experiences & observationsGratitude & appreciationGoal selection & framingValues
management
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ValuesTo work in an organization whose value system is incompatible with one’s own condemns a person to frustration.
~Peter Drucker
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A value systemIf you worship money & things, you will never have enough. Worship your own body & beauty, you will always feel ugly. Worship power, you will end up feeling weak & afraid.
~David Foster Wallace
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A value systemThe really important kind of freedom involves attention & awareness & discipline & effort & being able truly to care about other people & to sacrifice for them, over & over.
~David Foster Wallace
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In your groupsof 6How might I manage my aspirations?How might values play a role?
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Find your Profl.
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Partner
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ConditionsToo many people work in ways that are not their ways... For knowledge workers, How do I perform? may be an even more important question than What are my strengths?
~Peter Drucker
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Another
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conversation
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Anotherconversation What have you learned about the conditions
under which you do your best work?
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To sum upSuccess may entail focusing on strengthsManaging aspirations will be keyClarity on our values can help
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Class 9EndingsWilliam Bridges on transitionsChristopher Peterson on life & habits& an assignment