Today's Woman February 2013

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FEBRUARY 2013 CELEBRATING 21 YEARS Inspire • E • Inform All About Your Heart to the She Said NEED MORE ADVENTURE? Get Inspired Here…

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Improve Your Relationship! Oh, relationships are complicated, and the relationship a woman has with herself may be the most confusing. This issue of Today’s Woman is largely dedicated to matters of the heart, with 24 pages exclusively about heart health. Read about local women and the surprise their hearts played on them. This surprise changed their own relationships with themselves: the way they think, the way they live, and the way they approach each day. It could inspire you to a change of heart.

Transcript of Today's Woman February 2013

Page 1: Today's Woman February 2013

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I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

Need More AdveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

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CoNTeNts

Todayrsquos Woman

In our Issue 6By aniTa oldham

on our Cover 6 By Tiffany WhiTe

10 old SchoolNew School By lucy PriTcheTT

14 Survival SkillsBy marie BradBy

16 the AgendaBy caThy Zion

18 21 thingsBy aniTa oldham

26 Be Brave mdash do Your thing By holly GreGor

27 Super+duosBy Gina roBerTs-Grey

30 ready to Change Your Life By melissa donald

34 Wellness WatchBy Jessica smiTh

36 Why Are We So Miserable By BoB mueller

38 Cozy diningBy melissa donald

42 Whatrsquos Happening on todaysWomanNowcom

44 PassionsBy aniTa oldham

46 Hot HappeningsBy Tiffany WhiTe and Gioia PaTTon

48 FallingBy KimBerly crum

50 Before You GoBy Tiffany WhiTe

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Rebecca Kimura looks forward to seeing the excitement on the face of a future bride who has just found the perfect wedding dress Read more about what shersquos doing on page 10

CoveroN our

Photo by Melissa DonaldMaKeuP (as seen on Pg 10) by Denise Zeydel and

Stephani Jones of Z Salon amp Spa

IssuEIN our

Oh relationships are complicated and the relationship a woman has with herself may be

the most confusing

The Inattention In any relationship attention is a key ingredient It seems that women are not always paying attention to themselves It is difficult with all the other people needing something

The Misunderstandings Sometimes your body is trying to tell you something and you just donrsquot understand it Or you misinterpret it mdash perhaps the internet doesnrsquot always know the answer

The Fights Do you have fights with yourself over going to the doctor or making check-up appointments I have heard every type of excuse and used many of them myself Arguing with yourself about doctors exercising or eating right does not make you any healthier

The Answer We donrsquot have the answer for how to improve your relationship with yourself but spending a little more time thinking about yourself and your health is always a step in the right direction

This issue of Todayrsquos Woman is largely dedicated to matters of the heart with 24 pages exclusively about heart health Read about local women and the surprise their hearts played on them This surprise changed their own relationships with themselves the way they think the way they live and the way they approach each day It could inspire you to a change of heart

mdash Anita Oldham

IMe

Myself

Improve Your Relationship

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Subscriptions are available by sending $18 to the above address for 12 monthly issuesTodayrsquos Woman magazine is published monthly by Zion Publications LLC and distributed free to the people of metropolitan Louisville and

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Volume 23 8 Number 2

C E L E B R A T I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

PUBLISHER Cathy S Zion

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EDITOR Anita Oldham

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SALES DIRECTOR Cheryl Suhr

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ACCOUnT ExECUTIvE Teri Hickerson

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SEnIOR ADvERTISIng DESIgnER

April H Allmanapriltodayspublicationscom

ASSISTAnT EDITORDESIgnERJessica Smith

jessicatodayspublicationscom

COnTRIBUTIng EDITOR Lucy M Pritchett

ASSISTAnT EDITOR Tiffany White

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OFFICE ADMInISTRATOR Kaitlyn Tew

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CIRCULATIOn MAnAgERW Earl Zion

PHOTOgRAPHERFOOD WRITER Melissa Donald

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SEnIOR PAgE amp gRAPHIC DESIgnER

Kathy Bolgerkathybtodayspublicationscom

ADvERTISIng DIRECTORSusan Allen

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ACCOUnT ExECUTIvERose Helm

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Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdreBecca KimuraOld SchOOl Founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique

Rebecca Kimura 50 founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique 159 chenoweth Lane

bull Neighborhood Prospect

bull Household husband Zorre Kimura two daughters alex 22 who lives in austin Texas and sam 20 who attends Western Kentucky university dogs Willie and max cats Kanu aspen and Jerry

bull In the Biz since september 1989

bull Website rebeccasweddingscom

In the store you will find bridal gowns bridesmaid and flower girl dresses mother-of-the-bride-groom outfits veils jewelry belts and headpieces

My twin sister Karen Wellinghurst manages Rebeccarsquos Black Tie the brother to Rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique that features tuxedos and formal wear for the groom and groomsmen

Lace is back which adds even more romance Sparkly belts jewelry and tiaras add the bling I am seeing a small move away from the strapless gown and toward a soft off-shoulder drape Some brides add a lace jacket that can be taken off at the reception or have two belts mdash one for the ceremony and one for the reception mdash giving them a different look

She is hardworking and organized and she loves sparkle

I have 17 employees mdash full- and part-time On average the store sells 50 dresses a month

Bridal gown prices range from $600 up to $3500 The average cost is $1600

For the past three years as part of the national Brides Across America program

(bridesacrossamericacom) we have given away 50 dresses a year to military brides It is a small way in which we can give back and thank those in the

military for what they do

BIggest WeddINg paRty Nineteen bridesmaids 10 junior bridesmaids and eight candle girls plus the same number of corresponding groomsmen ushers and escort boys

IN HeR cute Kate spade leatHeR puRse

Phone peppermint gum Burtrsquos Bees lip gloss wallet car keys and a travel-size container of lotion mdash Estee Lauderrsquos Pleasures

aBout BRIdal RetaIl

Our busy season starts in January Traditional wedding months are May June September and October bull Most brides spend a year planning their wedding bull Dresses take four to six months to come in bull Brides try on samples that we have in the shop and then order their size and color bull Most bridal gowns ordered are of a soft light ivory that looks good on almost all skin tones

aBout BRIdes Each one wants to feel special and pretty She also wants a good value for her money Brides are looking for guidance and help and even if they come in with their own ideas they can be opened up to what is out there They love the attention It really is all about them

This dress has a champagne

color mdash a trend in gowns is a

touch of color

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Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

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Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

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Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

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Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

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Todayrsquos Woman

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22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

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As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Mon bull 530 pmCulbertson West904 E Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 8122829310

BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

NAWBO- National Association of Women Business OwnersEvery 3rd Tuesinfonawbolouisvilleorgnawbolouisvilleorg

National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

Network NowEvery 2nd Fri bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneLee Ann Lyle 5028361422leelalcomputerscom

NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

WIN- Women in Networking IIEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amFern Valley Conference Center2715 Fern Valley RoadKim Fusting 5022677066kiminsbellsouthnetwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IIIEvery 2nd Tues bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneAngela Boggs 5022623575 angelaboggsriterugcomwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IVEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amCorner Cafeacute9307 New LaGrange RoadAmanda Smith 5028071781infowin4louisvilleorg

WIN - Women in Networking VEvery 2nd Thurs bull 1130 amBuca di Beppo2051 S Hurstbourne ParkwayLee Ann Lyle 502-836-1422infowin5networkingcom win5networkingcom

WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn CommissionEvery 2nd amp 4th Wed bull 1130amLimestone Restaurant10001 Forest Green BlvdCharlene Burke 8129513177woamteccom

Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of WomenEvery 1st Thurs bull 6 pmLoganrsquos Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Seymour 5025539241jespudbellsouthnet

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Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

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Tip 2

26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

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There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

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Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

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2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

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Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

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Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 2: Today's Woman February 2013

4 FEBRuaRy 2013

CoNTeNts

Todayrsquos Woman

In our Issue 6By aniTa oldham

on our Cover 6 By Tiffany WhiTe

10 old SchoolNew School By lucy PriTcheTT

14 Survival SkillsBy marie BradBy

16 the AgendaBy caThy Zion

18 21 thingsBy aniTa oldham

26 Be Brave mdash do Your thing By holly GreGor

27 Super+duosBy Gina roBerTs-Grey

30 ready to Change Your Life By melissa donald

34 Wellness WatchBy Jessica smiTh

36 Why Are We So Miserable By BoB mueller

38 Cozy diningBy melissa donald

42 Whatrsquos Happening on todaysWomanNowcom

44 PassionsBy aniTa oldham

46 Hot HappeningsBy Tiffany WhiTe and Gioia PaTTon

48 FallingBy KimBerly crum

50 Before You GoBy Tiffany WhiTe

Go red For Women Heart Supplement

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6 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rebecca Kimura looks forward to seeing the excitement on the face of a future bride who has just found the perfect wedding dress Read more about what shersquos doing on page 10

CoveroN our

Photo by Melissa DonaldMaKeuP (as seen on Pg 10) by Denise Zeydel and

Stephani Jones of Z Salon amp Spa

IssuEIN our

Oh relationships are complicated and the relationship a woman has with herself may be

the most confusing

The Inattention In any relationship attention is a key ingredient It seems that women are not always paying attention to themselves It is difficult with all the other people needing something

The Misunderstandings Sometimes your body is trying to tell you something and you just donrsquot understand it Or you misinterpret it mdash perhaps the internet doesnrsquot always know the answer

The Fights Do you have fights with yourself over going to the doctor or making check-up appointments I have heard every type of excuse and used many of them myself Arguing with yourself about doctors exercising or eating right does not make you any healthier

The Answer We donrsquot have the answer for how to improve your relationship with yourself but spending a little more time thinking about yourself and your health is always a step in the right direction

This issue of Todayrsquos Woman is largely dedicated to matters of the heart with 24 pages exclusively about heart health Read about local women and the surprise their hearts played on them This surprise changed their own relationships with themselves the way they think the way they live and the way they approach each day It could inspire you to a change of heart

mdash Anita Oldham

IMe

Myself

Improve Your Relationship

8 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Zion Publications LLC9750 Ormsby Station Road Suite 307 Louisville KY 40223Phone (502) 327-8855 bull Fax (502) 327-8861todayswomannowcom

Subscriptions are available by sending $18 to the above address for 12 monthly issuesTodayrsquos Woman magazine is published monthly by Zion Publications LLC and distributed free to the people of metropolitan Louisville and

Southern Indiana Circulation 50000 guaranteed The opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect the position of the publisher Todayrsquos Woman magazine does not endorse or guarantee any advertiserrsquos product or service

Copyright 2013 by Zion Publications LLC with all rights reserved Reproduction or use of editorial or graphic content in any manner is prohibited without permission from Zion Publications LLC

Todayrsquos Woman is published monthly by

For advertising information in Todayrsquos Woman call (502) 327-8855

BBB RaTIng OF

RepRints aRe availableCall (502) 327-8855 ext 10 or email us at

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Volume 23 8 Number 2

C E L E B R A T I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

PUBLISHER Cathy S Zion

publishertodayspublicationscom

EDITOR Anita Oldham

editortodayspublicationscom

SALES DIRECTOR Cheryl Suhr

cheryltodayspublicationscom

ACCOUnT ExECUTIvE Teri Hickerson

teritodayspublicationscom

SEnIOR ADvERTISIng DESIgnER

April H Allmanapriltodayspublicationscom

ASSISTAnT EDITORDESIgnERJessica Smith

jessicatodayspublicationscom

COnTRIBUTIng EDITOR Lucy M Pritchett

ASSISTAnT EDITOR Tiffany White

tiffanytodayspublicationscom

OFFICE ADMInISTRATOR Kaitlyn Tew

officeadmintodayspublicationscom

CIRCULATIOn MAnAgERW Earl Zion

PHOTOgRAPHERFOOD WRITER Melissa Donald

melissatodayspublicationscom

SEnIOR PAgE amp gRAPHIC DESIgnER

Kathy Bolgerkathybtodayspublicationscom

ADvERTISIng DIRECTORSusan Allen

susantodayspublicationscom

ACCOUnT ExECUTIvERose Helm

rosetodayspublicationscom

2013 FEBRuaRy 9todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

10 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdreBecca KimuraOld SchOOl Founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique

Rebecca Kimura 50 founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique 159 chenoweth Lane

bull Neighborhood Prospect

bull Household husband Zorre Kimura two daughters alex 22 who lives in austin Texas and sam 20 who attends Western Kentucky university dogs Willie and max cats Kanu aspen and Jerry

bull In the Biz since september 1989

bull Website rebeccasweddingscom

In the store you will find bridal gowns bridesmaid and flower girl dresses mother-of-the-bride-groom outfits veils jewelry belts and headpieces

My twin sister Karen Wellinghurst manages Rebeccarsquos Black Tie the brother to Rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique that features tuxedos and formal wear for the groom and groomsmen

Lace is back which adds even more romance Sparkly belts jewelry and tiaras add the bling I am seeing a small move away from the strapless gown and toward a soft off-shoulder drape Some brides add a lace jacket that can be taken off at the reception or have two belts mdash one for the ceremony and one for the reception mdash giving them a different look

She is hardworking and organized and she loves sparkle

I have 17 employees mdash full- and part-time On average the store sells 50 dresses a month

Bridal gown prices range from $600 up to $3500 The average cost is $1600

For the past three years as part of the national Brides Across America program

(bridesacrossamericacom) we have given away 50 dresses a year to military brides It is a small way in which we can give back and thank those in the

military for what they do

BIggest WeddINg paRty Nineteen bridesmaids 10 junior bridesmaids and eight candle girls plus the same number of corresponding groomsmen ushers and escort boys

IN HeR cute Kate spade leatHeR puRse

Phone peppermint gum Burtrsquos Bees lip gloss wallet car keys and a travel-size container of lotion mdash Estee Lauderrsquos Pleasures

aBout BRIdal RetaIl

Our busy season starts in January Traditional wedding months are May June September and October bull Most brides spend a year planning their wedding bull Dresses take four to six months to come in bull Brides try on samples that we have in the shop and then order their size and color bull Most bridal gowns ordered are of a soft light ivory that looks good on almost all skin tones

aBout BRIdes Each one wants to feel special and pretty She also wants a good value for her money Brides are looking for guidance and help and even if they come in with their own ideas they can be opened up to what is out there They love the attention It really is all about them

This dress has a champagne

color mdash a trend in gowns is a

touch of color

2013 FEBRuaRy 11todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

2013 FEBRuaRy 13todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

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Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

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Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

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1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Mon bull 530 pmCulbertson West904 E Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 8122829310

BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

NAWBO- National Association of Women Business OwnersEvery 3rd Tuesinfonawbolouisvilleorgnawbolouisvilleorg

National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

Network NowEvery 2nd Fri bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneLee Ann Lyle 5028361422leelalcomputerscom

NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

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Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of WomenEvery 1st Thurs bull 6 pmLoganrsquos Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Seymour 5025539241jespudbellsouthnet

Listings are on per month basis To list your meeting for free email your meeting date time location contact phone number and website to advertisingtodayspublicationscom or call 5023278855 ext 14 Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 28

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Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

Dr Kathleen KlueberChair School of Natural Sciencekklueberspaldingedu502-873-4445

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

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Where The Olmsted

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

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ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

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i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 3: Today's Woman February 2013

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6 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rebecca Kimura looks forward to seeing the excitement on the face of a future bride who has just found the perfect wedding dress Read more about what shersquos doing on page 10

CoveroN our

Photo by Melissa DonaldMaKeuP (as seen on Pg 10) by Denise Zeydel and

Stephani Jones of Z Salon amp Spa

IssuEIN our

Oh relationships are complicated and the relationship a woman has with herself may be

the most confusing

The Inattention In any relationship attention is a key ingredient It seems that women are not always paying attention to themselves It is difficult with all the other people needing something

The Misunderstandings Sometimes your body is trying to tell you something and you just donrsquot understand it Or you misinterpret it mdash perhaps the internet doesnrsquot always know the answer

The Fights Do you have fights with yourself over going to the doctor or making check-up appointments I have heard every type of excuse and used many of them myself Arguing with yourself about doctors exercising or eating right does not make you any healthier

The Answer We donrsquot have the answer for how to improve your relationship with yourself but spending a little more time thinking about yourself and your health is always a step in the right direction

This issue of Todayrsquos Woman is largely dedicated to matters of the heart with 24 pages exclusively about heart health Read about local women and the surprise their hearts played on them This surprise changed their own relationships with themselves the way they think the way they live and the way they approach each day It could inspire you to a change of heart

mdash Anita Oldham

IMe

Myself

Improve Your Relationship

8 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Zion Publications LLC9750 Ormsby Station Road Suite 307 Louisville KY 40223Phone (502) 327-8855 bull Fax (502) 327-8861todayswomannowcom

Subscriptions are available by sending $18 to the above address for 12 monthly issuesTodayrsquos Woman magazine is published monthly by Zion Publications LLC and distributed free to the people of metropolitan Louisville and

Southern Indiana Circulation 50000 guaranteed The opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect the position of the publisher Todayrsquos Woman magazine does not endorse or guarantee any advertiserrsquos product or service

Copyright 2013 by Zion Publications LLC with all rights reserved Reproduction or use of editorial or graphic content in any manner is prohibited without permission from Zion Publications LLC

Todayrsquos Woman is published monthly by

For advertising information in Todayrsquos Woman call (502) 327-8855

BBB RaTIng OF

RepRints aRe availableCall (502) 327-8855 ext 10 or email us at

reprintstodayspublicationscom with details and specifics

Volume 23 8 Number 2

C E L E B R A T I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

PUBLISHER Cathy S Zion

publishertodayspublicationscom

EDITOR Anita Oldham

editortodayspublicationscom

SALES DIRECTOR Cheryl Suhr

cheryltodayspublicationscom

ACCOUnT ExECUTIvE Teri Hickerson

teritodayspublicationscom

SEnIOR ADvERTISIng DESIgnER

April H Allmanapriltodayspublicationscom

ASSISTAnT EDITORDESIgnERJessica Smith

jessicatodayspublicationscom

COnTRIBUTIng EDITOR Lucy M Pritchett

ASSISTAnT EDITOR Tiffany White

tiffanytodayspublicationscom

OFFICE ADMInISTRATOR Kaitlyn Tew

officeadmintodayspublicationscom

CIRCULATIOn MAnAgERW Earl Zion

PHOTOgRAPHERFOOD WRITER Melissa Donald

melissatodayspublicationscom

SEnIOR PAgE amp gRAPHIC DESIgnER

Kathy Bolgerkathybtodayspublicationscom

ADvERTISIng DIRECTORSusan Allen

susantodayspublicationscom

ACCOUnT ExECUTIvERose Helm

rosetodayspublicationscom

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10 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdreBecca KimuraOld SchOOl Founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique

Rebecca Kimura 50 founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique 159 chenoweth Lane

bull Neighborhood Prospect

bull Household husband Zorre Kimura two daughters alex 22 who lives in austin Texas and sam 20 who attends Western Kentucky university dogs Willie and max cats Kanu aspen and Jerry

bull In the Biz since september 1989

bull Website rebeccasweddingscom

In the store you will find bridal gowns bridesmaid and flower girl dresses mother-of-the-bride-groom outfits veils jewelry belts and headpieces

My twin sister Karen Wellinghurst manages Rebeccarsquos Black Tie the brother to Rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique that features tuxedos and formal wear for the groom and groomsmen

Lace is back which adds even more romance Sparkly belts jewelry and tiaras add the bling I am seeing a small move away from the strapless gown and toward a soft off-shoulder drape Some brides add a lace jacket that can be taken off at the reception or have two belts mdash one for the ceremony and one for the reception mdash giving them a different look

She is hardworking and organized and she loves sparkle

I have 17 employees mdash full- and part-time On average the store sells 50 dresses a month

Bridal gown prices range from $600 up to $3500 The average cost is $1600

For the past three years as part of the national Brides Across America program

(bridesacrossamericacom) we have given away 50 dresses a year to military brides It is a small way in which we can give back and thank those in the

military for what they do

BIggest WeddINg paRty Nineteen bridesmaids 10 junior bridesmaids and eight candle girls plus the same number of corresponding groomsmen ushers and escort boys

IN HeR cute Kate spade leatHeR puRse

Phone peppermint gum Burtrsquos Bees lip gloss wallet car keys and a travel-size container of lotion mdash Estee Lauderrsquos Pleasures

aBout BRIdal RetaIl

Our busy season starts in January Traditional wedding months are May June September and October bull Most brides spend a year planning their wedding bull Dresses take four to six months to come in bull Brides try on samples that we have in the shop and then order their size and color bull Most bridal gowns ordered are of a soft light ivory that looks good on almost all skin tones

aBout BRIdes Each one wants to feel special and pretty She also wants a good value for her money Brides are looking for guidance and help and even if they come in with their own ideas they can be opened up to what is out there They love the attention It really is all about them

This dress has a champagne

color mdash a trend in gowns is a

touch of color

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12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

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Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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oto

by m

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ss

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ald

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Febm

Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

gt Pa

ge 2

0

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

Pag

e 22

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

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Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Mon bull 530 pmCulbertson West904 E Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 8122829310

BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

NAWBO- National Association of Women Business OwnersEvery 3rd Tuesinfonawbolouisvilleorgnawbolouisvilleorg

National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

Network NowEvery 2nd Fri bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneLee Ann Lyle 5028361422leelalcomputerscom

NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

WIN- Women in Networking IIEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amFern Valley Conference Center2715 Fern Valley RoadKim Fusting 5022677066kiminsbellsouthnetwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IIIEvery 2nd Tues bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneAngela Boggs 5022623575 angelaboggsriterugcomwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IVEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amCorner Cafeacute9307 New LaGrange RoadAmanda Smith 5028071781infowin4louisvilleorg

WIN - Women in Networking VEvery 2nd Thurs bull 1130 amBuca di Beppo2051 S Hurstbourne ParkwayLee Ann Lyle 502-836-1422infowin5networkingcom win5networkingcom

WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn CommissionEvery 2nd amp 4th Wed bull 1130amLimestone Restaurant10001 Forest Green BlvdCharlene Burke 8129513177woamteccom

Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of WomenEvery 1st Thurs bull 6 pmLoganrsquos Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Seymour 5025539241jespudbellsouthnet

Listings are on per month basis To list your meeting for free email your meeting date time location contact phone number and website to advertisingtodayspublicationscom or call 5023278855 ext 14 Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 28

presented by

Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

Dr Kathleen KlueberChair School of Natural Sciencekklueberspaldingedu502-873-4445

Spalding UniversitySpaldingeduAdmissions 502-585-7111

Dr Kathleen Klueber

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Tip 2

26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

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There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

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HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

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Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

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Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

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Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

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Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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fDA-APProVeD LASer TreATMeNT for ToNAIL fUNGUSUse your HSA now so yoursquore ready to go barefoot soon

Dr H Fred Preuss Jr4 Office Locations in Louisville and Southern IN

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 4: Today's Woman February 2013

6 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rebecca Kimura looks forward to seeing the excitement on the face of a future bride who has just found the perfect wedding dress Read more about what shersquos doing on page 10

CoveroN our

Photo by Melissa DonaldMaKeuP (as seen on Pg 10) by Denise Zeydel and

Stephani Jones of Z Salon amp Spa

IssuEIN our

Oh relationships are complicated and the relationship a woman has with herself may be

the most confusing

The Inattention In any relationship attention is a key ingredient It seems that women are not always paying attention to themselves It is difficult with all the other people needing something

The Misunderstandings Sometimes your body is trying to tell you something and you just donrsquot understand it Or you misinterpret it mdash perhaps the internet doesnrsquot always know the answer

The Fights Do you have fights with yourself over going to the doctor or making check-up appointments I have heard every type of excuse and used many of them myself Arguing with yourself about doctors exercising or eating right does not make you any healthier

The Answer We donrsquot have the answer for how to improve your relationship with yourself but spending a little more time thinking about yourself and your health is always a step in the right direction

This issue of Todayrsquos Woman is largely dedicated to matters of the heart with 24 pages exclusively about heart health Read about local women and the surprise their hearts played on them This surprise changed their own relationships with themselves the way they think the way they live and the way they approach each day It could inspire you to a change of heart

mdash Anita Oldham

IMe

Myself

Improve Your Relationship

8 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Zion Publications LLC9750 Ormsby Station Road Suite 307 Louisville KY 40223Phone (502) 327-8855 bull Fax (502) 327-8861todayswomannowcom

Subscriptions are available by sending $18 to the above address for 12 monthly issuesTodayrsquos Woman magazine is published monthly by Zion Publications LLC and distributed free to the people of metropolitan Louisville and

Southern Indiana Circulation 50000 guaranteed The opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect the position of the publisher Todayrsquos Woman magazine does not endorse or guarantee any advertiserrsquos product or service

Copyright 2013 by Zion Publications LLC with all rights reserved Reproduction or use of editorial or graphic content in any manner is prohibited without permission from Zion Publications LLC

Todayrsquos Woman is published monthly by

For advertising information in Todayrsquos Woman call (502) 327-8855

BBB RaTIng OF

RepRints aRe availableCall (502) 327-8855 ext 10 or email us at

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Volume 23 8 Number 2

C E L E B R A T I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

PUBLISHER Cathy S Zion

publishertodayspublicationscom

EDITOR Anita Oldham

editortodayspublicationscom

SALES DIRECTOR Cheryl Suhr

cheryltodayspublicationscom

ACCOUnT ExECUTIvE Teri Hickerson

teritodayspublicationscom

SEnIOR ADvERTISIng DESIgnER

April H Allmanapriltodayspublicationscom

ASSISTAnT EDITORDESIgnERJessica Smith

jessicatodayspublicationscom

COnTRIBUTIng EDITOR Lucy M Pritchett

ASSISTAnT EDITOR Tiffany White

tiffanytodayspublicationscom

OFFICE ADMInISTRATOR Kaitlyn Tew

officeadmintodayspublicationscom

CIRCULATIOn MAnAgERW Earl Zion

PHOTOgRAPHERFOOD WRITER Melissa Donald

melissatodayspublicationscom

SEnIOR PAgE amp gRAPHIC DESIgnER

Kathy Bolgerkathybtodayspublicationscom

ADvERTISIng DIRECTORSusan Allen

susantodayspublicationscom

ACCOUnT ExECUTIvERose Helm

rosetodayspublicationscom

2013 FEBRuaRy 9todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

10 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdreBecca KimuraOld SchOOl Founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique

Rebecca Kimura 50 founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique 159 chenoweth Lane

bull Neighborhood Prospect

bull Household husband Zorre Kimura two daughters alex 22 who lives in austin Texas and sam 20 who attends Western Kentucky university dogs Willie and max cats Kanu aspen and Jerry

bull In the Biz since september 1989

bull Website rebeccasweddingscom

In the store you will find bridal gowns bridesmaid and flower girl dresses mother-of-the-bride-groom outfits veils jewelry belts and headpieces

My twin sister Karen Wellinghurst manages Rebeccarsquos Black Tie the brother to Rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique that features tuxedos and formal wear for the groom and groomsmen

Lace is back which adds even more romance Sparkly belts jewelry and tiaras add the bling I am seeing a small move away from the strapless gown and toward a soft off-shoulder drape Some brides add a lace jacket that can be taken off at the reception or have two belts mdash one for the ceremony and one for the reception mdash giving them a different look

She is hardworking and organized and she loves sparkle

I have 17 employees mdash full- and part-time On average the store sells 50 dresses a month

Bridal gown prices range from $600 up to $3500 The average cost is $1600

For the past three years as part of the national Brides Across America program

(bridesacrossamericacom) we have given away 50 dresses a year to military brides It is a small way in which we can give back and thank those in the

military for what they do

BIggest WeddINg paRty Nineteen bridesmaids 10 junior bridesmaids and eight candle girls plus the same number of corresponding groomsmen ushers and escort boys

IN HeR cute Kate spade leatHeR puRse

Phone peppermint gum Burtrsquos Bees lip gloss wallet car keys and a travel-size container of lotion mdash Estee Lauderrsquos Pleasures

aBout BRIdal RetaIl

Our busy season starts in January Traditional wedding months are May June September and October bull Most brides spend a year planning their wedding bull Dresses take four to six months to come in bull Brides try on samples that we have in the shop and then order their size and color bull Most bridal gowns ordered are of a soft light ivory that looks good on almost all skin tones

aBout BRIdes Each one wants to feel special and pretty She also wants a good value for her money Brides are looking for guidance and help and even if they come in with their own ideas they can be opened up to what is out there They love the attention It really is all about them

This dress has a champagne

color mdash a trend in gowns is a

touch of color

2013 FEBRuaRy 11todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

2013 FEBRuaRy 13todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

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Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

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Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

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Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

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5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

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Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

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As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

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On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

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National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

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NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

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Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

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Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

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Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

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Where The Olmsted

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

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ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 5: Today's Woman February 2013

8 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

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Subscriptions are available by sending $18 to the above address for 12 monthly issuesTodayrsquos Woman magazine is published monthly by Zion Publications LLC and distributed free to the people of metropolitan Louisville and

Southern Indiana Circulation 50000 guaranteed The opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect the position of the publisher Todayrsquos Woman magazine does not endorse or guarantee any advertiserrsquos product or service

Copyright 2013 by Zion Publications LLC with all rights reserved Reproduction or use of editorial or graphic content in any manner is prohibited without permission from Zion Publications LLC

Todayrsquos Woman is published monthly by

For advertising information in Todayrsquos Woman call (502) 327-8855

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RepRints aRe availableCall (502) 327-8855 ext 10 or email us at

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Volume 23 8 Number 2

C E L E B R A T I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

PUBLISHER Cathy S Zion

publishertodayspublicationscom

EDITOR Anita Oldham

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SALES DIRECTOR Cheryl Suhr

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ACCOUnT ExECUTIvE Teri Hickerson

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SEnIOR ADvERTISIng DESIgnER

April H Allmanapriltodayspublicationscom

ASSISTAnT EDITORDESIgnERJessica Smith

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COnTRIBUTIng EDITOR Lucy M Pritchett

ASSISTAnT EDITOR Tiffany White

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OFFICE ADMInISTRATOR Kaitlyn Tew

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CIRCULATIOn MAnAgERW Earl Zion

PHOTOgRAPHERFOOD WRITER Melissa Donald

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SEnIOR PAgE amp gRAPHIC DESIgnER

Kathy Bolgerkathybtodayspublicationscom

ADvERTISIng DIRECTORSusan Allen

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ACCOUnT ExECUTIvERose Helm

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10 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdreBecca KimuraOld SchOOl Founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique

Rebecca Kimura 50 founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique 159 chenoweth Lane

bull Neighborhood Prospect

bull Household husband Zorre Kimura two daughters alex 22 who lives in austin Texas and sam 20 who attends Western Kentucky university dogs Willie and max cats Kanu aspen and Jerry

bull In the Biz since september 1989

bull Website rebeccasweddingscom

In the store you will find bridal gowns bridesmaid and flower girl dresses mother-of-the-bride-groom outfits veils jewelry belts and headpieces

My twin sister Karen Wellinghurst manages Rebeccarsquos Black Tie the brother to Rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique that features tuxedos and formal wear for the groom and groomsmen

Lace is back which adds even more romance Sparkly belts jewelry and tiaras add the bling I am seeing a small move away from the strapless gown and toward a soft off-shoulder drape Some brides add a lace jacket that can be taken off at the reception or have two belts mdash one for the ceremony and one for the reception mdash giving them a different look

She is hardworking and organized and she loves sparkle

I have 17 employees mdash full- and part-time On average the store sells 50 dresses a month

Bridal gown prices range from $600 up to $3500 The average cost is $1600

For the past three years as part of the national Brides Across America program

(bridesacrossamericacom) we have given away 50 dresses a year to military brides It is a small way in which we can give back and thank those in the

military for what they do

BIggest WeddINg paRty Nineteen bridesmaids 10 junior bridesmaids and eight candle girls plus the same number of corresponding groomsmen ushers and escort boys

IN HeR cute Kate spade leatHeR puRse

Phone peppermint gum Burtrsquos Bees lip gloss wallet car keys and a travel-size container of lotion mdash Estee Lauderrsquos Pleasures

aBout BRIdal RetaIl

Our busy season starts in January Traditional wedding months are May June September and October bull Most brides spend a year planning their wedding bull Dresses take four to six months to come in bull Brides try on samples that we have in the shop and then order their size and color bull Most bridal gowns ordered are of a soft light ivory that looks good on almost all skin tones

aBout BRIdes Each one wants to feel special and pretty She also wants a good value for her money Brides are looking for guidance and help and even if they come in with their own ideas they can be opened up to what is out there They love the attention It really is all about them

This dress has a champagne

color mdash a trend in gowns is a

touch of color

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12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

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Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

gt Pa

ge 2

0

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

2013 FEBRuaRy 19todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

Pag

e 22

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

2013 FEBRuaRy 21todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Mon bull 530 pmCulbertson West904 E Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 8122829310

BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

NAWBO- National Association of Women Business OwnersEvery 3rd Tuesinfonawbolouisvilleorgnawbolouisvilleorg

National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

Network NowEvery 2nd Fri bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneLee Ann Lyle 5028361422leelalcomputerscom

NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

WIN- Women in Networking IIEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amFern Valley Conference Center2715 Fern Valley RoadKim Fusting 5022677066kiminsbellsouthnetwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IIIEvery 2nd Tues bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneAngela Boggs 5022623575 angelaboggsriterugcomwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IVEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amCorner Cafeacute9307 New LaGrange RoadAmanda Smith 5028071781infowin4louisvilleorg

WIN - Women in Networking VEvery 2nd Thurs bull 1130 amBuca di Beppo2051 S Hurstbourne ParkwayLee Ann Lyle 502-836-1422infowin5networkingcom win5networkingcom

WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn CommissionEvery 2nd amp 4th Wed bull 1130amLimestone Restaurant10001 Forest Green BlvdCharlene Burke 8129513177woamteccom

Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of WomenEvery 1st Thurs bull 6 pmLoganrsquos Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Seymour 5025539241jespudbellsouthnet

Listings are on per month basis To list your meeting for free email your meeting date time location contact phone number and website to advertisingtodayspublicationscom or call 5023278855 ext 14 Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 28

presented by

Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

Dr Kathleen KlueberChair School of Natural Sciencekklueberspaldingedu502-873-4445

Spalding UniversitySpaldingeduAdmissions 502-585-7111

Dr Kathleen Klueber

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Tip 2

26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

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tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

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42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

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the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 6: Today's Woman February 2013

2013 FEBRuaRy 9todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

10 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdreBecca KimuraOld SchOOl Founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique

Rebecca Kimura 50 founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique 159 chenoweth Lane

bull Neighborhood Prospect

bull Household husband Zorre Kimura two daughters alex 22 who lives in austin Texas and sam 20 who attends Western Kentucky university dogs Willie and max cats Kanu aspen and Jerry

bull In the Biz since september 1989

bull Website rebeccasweddingscom

In the store you will find bridal gowns bridesmaid and flower girl dresses mother-of-the-bride-groom outfits veils jewelry belts and headpieces

My twin sister Karen Wellinghurst manages Rebeccarsquos Black Tie the brother to Rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique that features tuxedos and formal wear for the groom and groomsmen

Lace is back which adds even more romance Sparkly belts jewelry and tiaras add the bling I am seeing a small move away from the strapless gown and toward a soft off-shoulder drape Some brides add a lace jacket that can be taken off at the reception or have two belts mdash one for the ceremony and one for the reception mdash giving them a different look

She is hardworking and organized and she loves sparkle

I have 17 employees mdash full- and part-time On average the store sells 50 dresses a month

Bridal gown prices range from $600 up to $3500 The average cost is $1600

For the past three years as part of the national Brides Across America program

(bridesacrossamericacom) we have given away 50 dresses a year to military brides It is a small way in which we can give back and thank those in the

military for what they do

BIggest WeddINg paRty Nineteen bridesmaids 10 junior bridesmaids and eight candle girls plus the same number of corresponding groomsmen ushers and escort boys

IN HeR cute Kate spade leatHeR puRse

Phone peppermint gum Burtrsquos Bees lip gloss wallet car keys and a travel-size container of lotion mdash Estee Lauderrsquos Pleasures

aBout BRIdal RetaIl

Our busy season starts in January Traditional wedding months are May June September and October bull Most brides spend a year planning their wedding bull Dresses take four to six months to come in bull Brides try on samples that we have in the shop and then order their size and color bull Most bridal gowns ordered are of a soft light ivory that looks good on almost all skin tones

aBout BRIdes Each one wants to feel special and pretty She also wants a good value for her money Brides are looking for guidance and help and even if they come in with their own ideas they can be opened up to what is out there They love the attention It really is all about them

This dress has a champagne

color mdash a trend in gowns is a

touch of color

2013 FEBRuaRy 11todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

2013 FEBRuaRy 13todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

2013 FEBRuaRy 17todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

gt Pa

ge 2

0

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

2013 FEBRuaRy 19todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

Pag

e 22

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

2013 FEBRuaRy 21todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

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Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

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As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

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What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

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Make Your Days Better

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out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

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42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

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i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 7: Today's Woman February 2013

10 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdreBecca KimuraOld SchOOl Founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique

Rebecca Kimura 50 founder and owner of rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique 159 chenoweth Lane

bull Neighborhood Prospect

bull Household husband Zorre Kimura two daughters alex 22 who lives in austin Texas and sam 20 who attends Western Kentucky university dogs Willie and max cats Kanu aspen and Jerry

bull In the Biz since september 1989

bull Website rebeccasweddingscom

In the store you will find bridal gowns bridesmaid and flower girl dresses mother-of-the-bride-groom outfits veils jewelry belts and headpieces

My twin sister Karen Wellinghurst manages Rebeccarsquos Black Tie the brother to Rebeccarsquos Wedding Boutique that features tuxedos and formal wear for the groom and groomsmen

Lace is back which adds even more romance Sparkly belts jewelry and tiaras add the bling I am seeing a small move away from the strapless gown and toward a soft off-shoulder drape Some brides add a lace jacket that can be taken off at the reception or have two belts mdash one for the ceremony and one for the reception mdash giving them a different look

She is hardworking and organized and she loves sparkle

I have 17 employees mdash full- and part-time On average the store sells 50 dresses a month

Bridal gown prices range from $600 up to $3500 The average cost is $1600

For the past three years as part of the national Brides Across America program

(bridesacrossamericacom) we have given away 50 dresses a year to military brides It is a small way in which we can give back and thank those in the

military for what they do

BIggest WeddINg paRty Nineteen bridesmaids 10 junior bridesmaids and eight candle girls plus the same number of corresponding groomsmen ushers and escort boys

IN HeR cute Kate spade leatHeR puRse

Phone peppermint gum Burtrsquos Bees lip gloss wallet car keys and a travel-size container of lotion mdash Estee Lauderrsquos Pleasures

aBout BRIdal RetaIl

Our busy season starts in January Traditional wedding months are May June September and October bull Most brides spend a year planning their wedding bull Dresses take four to six months to come in bull Brides try on samples that we have in the shop and then order their size and color bull Most bridal gowns ordered are of a soft light ivory that looks good on almost all skin tones

aBout BRIdes Each one wants to feel special and pretty She also wants a good value for her money Brides are looking for guidance and help and even if they come in with their own ideas they can be opened up to what is out there They love the attention It really is all about them

This dress has a champagne

color mdash a trend in gowns is a

touch of color

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12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

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Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

Pag

e 22

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

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Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Mon bull 530 pmCulbertson West904 E Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 8122829310

BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

NAWBO- National Association of Women Business OwnersEvery 3rd Tuesinfonawbolouisvilleorgnawbolouisvilleorg

National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

Network NowEvery 2nd Fri bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneLee Ann Lyle 5028361422leelalcomputerscom

NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

WIN- Women in Networking IIEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amFern Valley Conference Center2715 Fern Valley RoadKim Fusting 5022677066kiminsbellsouthnetwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IIIEvery 2nd Tues bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneAngela Boggs 5022623575 angelaboggsriterugcomwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IVEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amCorner Cafeacute9307 New LaGrange RoadAmanda Smith 5028071781infowin4louisvilleorg

WIN - Women in Networking VEvery 2nd Thurs bull 1130 amBuca di Beppo2051 S Hurstbourne ParkwayLee Ann Lyle 502-836-1422infowin5networkingcom win5networkingcom

WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn CommissionEvery 2nd amp 4th Wed bull 1130amLimestone Restaurant10001 Forest Green BlvdCharlene Burke 8129513177woamteccom

Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of WomenEvery 1st Thurs bull 6 pmLoganrsquos Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Seymour 5025539241jespudbellsouthnet

Listings are on per month basis To list your meeting for free email your meeting date time location contact phone number and website to advertisingtodayspublicationscom or call 5023278855 ext 14 Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 28

presented by

Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

Dr Kathleen KlueberChair School of Natural Sciencekklueberspaldingedu502-873-4445

Spalding UniversitySpaldingeduAdmissions 502-585-7111

Dr Kathleen Klueber

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

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2013 February 27

+

28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

BMi 266waist 35frac12rdquoHips 42frac12rdquo

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Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

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2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

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p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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She Said

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 8: Today's Woman February 2013

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12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

2013 FEBRuaRy 13todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

gt Pa

ge 2

0

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

Pag

e 22

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

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Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

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National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

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NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

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Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of WomenEvery 1st Thurs bull 6 pmLoganrsquos Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Seymour 5025539241jespudbellsouthnet

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Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

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Tip 2

26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

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Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

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2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

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p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

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What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

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42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

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who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

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the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

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Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 9: Today's Woman February 2013

12 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Interview by

Lucy m PriTcheTT

Photography by

meLissa donaLdmeghan hicKsNEW SchOOl owner of Beautiful Bustles

She is known for her bustles and has been sewing since age 9

Meghan Hicks 31 seamstress founder and owner of Beautiful Bustles a bridal gown alteration business

bull Hometown east Lansing mich

bull Neighborhood Fern creek

bull Household husband grant son ethan 5 and daughter ellyse 2

bull In the Biz since 2006

specIalty I am known for my bustles The bustle is created to pull the long train up to hem length so that it doesnrsquot drag and makes walking and dancing easier after the ceremony The French bustle is tied up with ribbons underneath and the American bustle is formed from the top with hooks and eyes

I took formal sewing lessons

from age 9 to 15 with a woman

who gave lessons in her home I was

home-schooled until I was 15 and the lessons were part of my curriculum I

had four younger sisters and made clothes for them They were my

real-life Barbies

HeR BusINessFull alterations for the bridal gown and any of the female wedding membersrsquo outfits I donrsquot make the gown from scratch but take what the bride has and turn it into what she wants I can make veils belts and headpieces I have taken a simple dress and turned it into a full ballgown

1 WHat Is a dReaM dRess

Every bride has a different idea of her dream dress and it is my job to bring that idea to life I never mark on or cut on the dress in front of the bride It gives them a heart attack I treat the dress like a baby 2 WHat Is a

successful dRess I love it when the bride says to me ldquoI donrsquot want to take my dress offrdquo3 WHat does a

dRess costI charge by the job Every one is different I would say the average cost for a full alteration is $250 I work on about 50 dresses a month4 WHat aRe youR

go-to MovIes 27 Dresses IQ While You Were Sleeping5 WHat aRe youR

gondashto autHoRs Sophie Kinsella Francine Rivers Jennifer Weiner

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Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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y 2

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

2013 FEBRuaRy 19todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

Pag

e 22

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

2013 FEBRuaRy 21todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

2013 FEBRuaRy 23todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Mon bull 530 pmCulbertson West904 E Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 8122829310

BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

+

28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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She Said

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Get Inspired Herehellip

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 10: Today's Woman February 2013

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Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

2013 FEBRuaRy 17todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

11

18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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ge 2

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WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

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Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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21 THINGSgt

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Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

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22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

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As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

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To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

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On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

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tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 11: Today's Woman February 2013

Written by

marie BradBy

Photography by

meLissa donaLd

Rule 4 Rest ldquoGet a good nightrsquos sleep and avoid the tough runs at the end of the day Accidents happen when people are tired Do that black run the next morning when you are freshrdquo

SURVIVAL SKILLS

Professional Ski InstructoreLaine TiLLman

She carried an avalanche rescue transceiver a radio and an emergency backpack with a shovel and a probe she could stick in the snow to find fellow skiers in the event of a snow-slide Elaine

ldquoETrdquo Tillman stepped out of a Bell helicopter last March in the Monashee Mountains of British Columbia Canada and took the

ride of her life in fresh champagne powder up to her kneesldquoThe adrenaline the excitement mdash I felt like I was 18rdquo says Elaine 60 a

professional ski instructor whose friends call her ldquoETrdquo mdash ldquoextraterrestrialrdquo or ldquoeternal terrorrdquo mdash for her unrelenting energy and daring ways ldquoWhen you are going through the snow it blows up and looks deeper than it isrdquo

So began a heli-skiing trip with Canadian Mountain Holidays where Elaine climbed in and out of a helicopter all day ate lunch on the mountain skied down 70000 vertical feet and stayed at a lodge so isolated that chains had to be put on buses to get them up the primitive road

ldquoWhat we were doing was very riskyrdquo says Elaine who is also an independent travel agent ldquoItrsquos an extreme sport The helicopter could crash We could get hung in an avalanche Each group in the helicopter had a guide and you did what he told you They drop you off you ski down Then they drop another group off and they ski down Then he picks you up and drops you in another spot and you do this all day

ldquoWhile wersquod wait for the helicopter Irsquod plop back in the snow and make snow angels and I kept telling everybody that Irsquom not afraid to die anymore because I know where the angels arerdquo

A tomboy who grew up in a sheltered religious family Elaine honed her skiing at Paoli Peaks in Indiana as an adult She was a natural

ldquoI liked going fastrdquo Elaine says ldquoI always wanted to ski with the guys Thatrsquos the first time in my life that I had done something that challenged me because my parents had held me backrdquo

Elaine was certified as a member of the National Ski Patrol at age 33 For nine years she aided people who got hurt on the slopes at Paoli After being shaken by a serious accident involving a young skier she switched to teaching She now spends her time instructing children at Paoli from December to February before teaching more students at a ski resort in Beaver Creek Colo from February through March

ldquoI started teaching these children and I was like lsquoWow This is excitingrsquordquo Elaine says ldquoIrsquom giving some confidence to these children and it can help them for the rest of their lives

ldquoI had children who said lsquoI canrsquot ride that liftrsquo I was like lsquoIrsquom going to be right here with yoursquo You do it with them and theyrsquore like lsquoOh my gosh I can do itrsquordquo

Elaine shares these rules for the slopes

14 January 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Rule 2 Safety ldquoAt Paoli I get children for two hours Out West people give me their children for six days I have them all day If we get hurt wersquore not going to have any funrdquo

Rule 3

Learn ldquoMany

parents push their

children saying

lsquoOh yoursquore going to

ski a black (difficult)

runrsquo They have no

business skiing on

a black run It will

scare them Yoursquove

got to take baby

steps to build up

their confidencerdquo

Rule 6 Have fun ldquoIf you arenrsquot having fun how can you learn anything When you see that they are getting bored as children do you take your skis off and climb up into the woods where there is fresh snow sprinkle Jello in the snow and sit there and eat Jello You talk about what yoursquove been doing and the skills you are usingrdquo

Rule 7 Drink lots of water ldquoBecause of the high altitude in the mountains you need to stay hydrated Also moisturize your skinrdquo

Rule 5 Donrsquot overeat ldquoPeople eat

hamburgers and chili for lunch

I donrsquot see how they do all that

and then do physical exerciserdquo

14 FEBRuaRy 2013

Rule 1 Giggle ldquoAdults forget what itrsquos like to be a child and let go Find something that makes you laughrdquo

Hope for the Slopes

16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

2013 FEBRuaRy 19todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGSgt

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

thirteen

2013 FEBRuaRy 21todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

17

22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

18

Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Mon bull 530 pmCulbertson West904 E Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 8122829310

BPW- Business amp Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wed bull NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street5024994420 bpwrcorgbpwreservegmailcom

CBPW - Christian Business amp Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday (Odd months only) bull NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 5029312918 cbpweastgmailcom

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wed bull 630 pmInverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502377862540222theheartlinknetworkcom

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

NAWBO- National Association of Women Business OwnersEvery 3rd Tuesinfonawbolouisvilleorgnawbolouisvilleorg

National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

Network NowEvery 2nd Fri bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneLee Ann Lyle 5028361422leelalcomputerscom

NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

WIN- Women in Networking IIEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amFern Valley Conference Center2715 Fern Valley RoadKim Fusting 5022677066kiminsbellsouthnetwin3louisvillecom

WIN- Women in Networking IIIEvery 2nd Tues bull 1130 amHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneAngela Boggs 5022623575 angelaboggsriterugcomwin3louisvillecom

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WIN - Women in Networking VEvery 2nd Thurs bull 1130 amBuca di Beppo2051 S Hurstbourne ParkwayLee Ann Lyle 502-836-1422infowin5networkingcom win5networkingcom

WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn CommissionEvery 2nd amp 4th Wed bull 1130amLimestone Restaurant10001 Forest Green BlvdCharlene Burke 8129513177woamteccom

Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

ZONTA- Advancing The Status of WomenEvery 1st Thurs bull 6 pmLoganrsquos Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Seymour 5025539241jespudbellsouthnet

Listings are on per month basis To list your meeting for free email your meeting date time location contact phone number and website to advertisingtodayspublicationscom or call 5023278855 ext 14 Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 28

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Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

Dr Kathleen KlueberChair School of Natural Sciencekklueberspaldingedu502-873-4445

Spalding UniversitySpaldingeduAdmissions 502-585-7111

Dr Kathleen Klueber

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

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2013 February 27

+

28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

BMi 266waist 35frac12rdquoHips 42frac12rdquo

STOrY AND pHOTOS BY MElISSA DONAlD

tRaiNeR allison Hilles

Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

2013 february 31todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

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Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

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Kentucky

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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16 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

FebruaryhellipA month for hearts and those full of heart

by CATHy ZION PublIsHer

The Agenda

If you own one of the more than 300000 small businesses in Kentucky make plans to attend Small Business Day in Frankfort on February 14 As Chair of the Kentucky Commission on Small Business Advocacy I see just how critical it is for us to have a voice in Frankfort with our state legislators Do you know your state senator and representative When was the last time you contacted himher This is a great way to get acclimated in a non-threatening way After a yummy breakfast in the Governorrsquos Mansion you break off with others of common interests to visit with your legislators Let them know what you think

mdash theyrsquore working for you coNtact nfibcomkentuckycontact-nfib

Go RedAs you can tell from our featured Heart Health Supplement (after

page 24) we are passionate about raising awareness of heart disease It is THE number one killer of women So on February 1 wersquoll all be decked in red as the American Heart Association recognizes

Wear Red Day Think about your heart as you see red everywhere from building lights to bridge spotlights Want to participate more Come to the Heart Ball on February 2 at the Downtown Marriott

coNtact 5023716023

Women of DistinctionWe love all the amazing women who elevate the status of women At this yearrsquos Celebration of Service and Survival five accomplished women will be honored as the 2013 Women of Distinction Madeline Abramson Dr Renee Campbell Susan Ely Tori Murden McClure and Mary Gwen Wheeler The Center for Women and Families annually hosts this event to not only recognize an outstanding group of women but also raise funds and awareness for their organization Itrsquos a powerful evening you wonrsquot want to miss coNtact thecenteronlinecom Yoursquoll also learn about the amazing work of The Center in working with victims of domestic violence and sexual assault and ways that you too can help

Febm 1 amp 2FebmFourteenth

Small Business Day

Febm

Cathy Zion at the National Association of Women Business Owners EPIC Awards Reception See her and say hi at one of these events this month

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Todayrsquos Transitions magazine recognizes caregivers throughout the year but at GuardiaCarersquos Chocolate Dreams event on February 11 we announce the 2012 Grand Prize winner while indulging in decadent desserts coNtact guardiacareorg And make sure you tell the caregivers in your life howmuch theyrsquore appreciated Even better Offer to help out for a couple of hours

Caregiver of the Year

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m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Take a Cruise

Todayrsquos Woman20 FEBRuaRy 2013

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Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

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22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

WH

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tues bull 530 pmContact for information amp reservation Dotty Wettigdw1122attcom

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IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Womenrsquos Political CaucusEvery 4th Mon bull 530 pmOlmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner 5027762051mayorconnerinsightbbcom

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National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Mon bull 530 pmCall for meeting locationPatty Stewart 8122884208 121

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NIA Womenrsquos RoundtableEvery 4th Fri bull 830 amNIA Center2900 West Broadway ndash 3rd floorSuzanne Carter 502-775-2548suzannecmorethanconsultantsorg

Southern Indiana Womenrsquos Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wed bull 1130 amHoliday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP lisastinnettelwoodstaffingcom

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wed bull 1115 amOxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

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Womenrsquos Business Center of KY funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

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Listings are on per month basis To list your meeting for free email your meeting date time location contact phone number and website to advertisingtodayspublicationscom or call 5023278855 ext 14 Deadline for inclusion in next issue is 28

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Networking and career-building opportunities for women around town

Professional Connections CALENDAR

Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

Dr Kathleen KlueberChair School of Natural Sciencekklueberspaldingedu502-873-4445

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

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p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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Dresses

She Said

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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18 FEBRuaRy 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

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21 THINGS

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

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Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

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Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

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at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

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2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

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p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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Dresses

She Said

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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m21 THINGS Happenings news celebrations

and tidbits that caught Todayrsquos Womanrsquos eye this month by ANITA OldhAm

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We keep bees(Mostly my husband does but I eat lots of fresh honey) Learn how to keep bees at one of these workshops at Bernheim ($30$20 for members 5029558512)

bull Natural Beekeeping with John Seaborn February 9 1-4pm

bull Bee Curious An Afternoon with Phil Craft February 16 1-4pm

Try a dinner cruise for Valentinersquos Day right down the Ohio on the Spirit of Jefferson Enjoy a dinner buffet entertainment and views of downtown Louisville You can order extras like roses balloons and champagne to make your night even more special 5025742992

Stop by the Muhammad Ali Center before March 16 to see the exhibit ldquoAli The Greatestrdquo which includes contemporary art of local artist Corinne Pondell Holt and 20 artists from across the country

If you havenrsquot had fresh maple syrup stop by

the Maple Syrup Festival in Salem Ind Besides the wafflespancakes you can enjoy music and pioneer demonstrations Check it all out on lmsugarbushcom

Vote for a Beautiful Baby to be on the June cover of Todayrsquos Family magazine TodaysFamilyNowcom

March 1-3 Kentucky Expo Center (louisvillehomeshowcom)

We are giving away tickets at todayswomannowcom

1 2Take a Cruise

3

5 Vote

Home amp Garden Remodeling Show4

Pass the Maple Syrup PleasePass the Maple Syrup Please

6Corrine said she became intrigued with Ali because of the determination it takes to be a fighter

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Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

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21 THINGS

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

m16

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thurs bull 6 pmLocation Varies ndash See Website for Detailsiaap-louisvilleorg

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tues bull 1130 amBristol Bar amp Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 5025952310 339aharrislouisvilleprosecutorcomlegalseclou-kyorg

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Every 1st Fri Roundtable bull 830amLocation ndash TBASharron Johnson 5025666076 104sjohnsoncvckyorgcvckyorgwomensbusinesscenterhtml

Womenrsquos Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thurs bull 1130 amWildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown RdLynda Minzenberger 5025528768lyndacatalystrealtynet

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Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

Spotlight on

Education

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

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p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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Dresses

She Said

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

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As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

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Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

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On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

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Center location onlyTo win enter online at

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Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

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tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

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Where The Olmsted

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

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36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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All About Your Heart

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

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i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Most Admired WoMAnList Revealed in March issue

7February 27

730pm WFPK Winter Wednesdayrsquos

final concert Featuring Bobby Long

Free at the Clifton Center

WFPK Free Wednesday8

BODY WORLDS Vital exhibition includes whole-body plastinates a large arrangement of individual organs organ and arterial configurations and translucent slices that give a complete picture of how the human body worksVital tells the fascinating story of how to best fight manage and prevent life-threatening diseases mdash such as cancer diabetes and heart ailments mdash through healthy choices and lifestyle changes Dr Gunther von Hagensrsquo BODY WORLDS exhibitions are the original anatomical exhibitions of real human bodies Contact 5025616100 To purchase tickets online kysciencecenterorg

teNViewing the Bodies

All the Single LadieshellipRead a single girlrsquos dating woes and share our own on TodaysWomanNowcom Also win tickets to the Single Mingle Louisvillersquos February event

That doesnrsquot sound old but when you say she is the 3rd oldest in North Americahellip She celebrated at the Louisville Zoo with banana cake designed by Heitzmanrsquos Traditional Bakery and Catering

Helen is 55

Another birthday party But he is old or would behellipThomas Edison turns 166

Louisville is throwing a birthday party at the

Thomas Edison House 729 E Washington St on February 9 10am-3pm

edisonhouseorg

Thanks SandyThe Center for Lay MinistriesBliss House Committee named the Sue LaRue

Service Award winner as Sandy McCauley who has dedicated many hours of volunteer time during the past seven years to help the Bliss House accomplish their mission of recovery of women dependent on drugsalcohol Celebrate at the Bliss House Fund Raiser Valentine Bliss February 16 at 530pm (300 Spring Street Jeffersonville) Cost is $50 5024451420

Stop and Eat a Light Bulb Cake12

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22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

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y 2

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BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

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As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

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To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

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On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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Spaldingrsquos School of Natural Science now offers a post-baccalaureate certificate

designed for qualified college graduates who wish to pursue additional coursework in preparation for a career in healthcare including medicine physical and occupational therapy nursing veterinary medicine dentistry pharmacy and other allied health fields Itrsquos also for students who wish to enhance their credentials in preparation for graduate education or P-12 teaching Students from Spaldingrsquos College of Health and Natural Sciences will be a major part of the educational component of Body Worlds an extraordinary human anatomical exhibition at the Kentucky Science Center available through May 19th Come see us

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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Win a

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

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tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

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ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

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Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

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Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

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of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 18: Today's Woman February 2013

Todayrsquos Woman

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22 FEBRuaRy 2013

21 THINGS

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y 2

1

BecauSe We are 21 yearS old

Beer brewing organic gardening consignment shopping and whiskey tasting are among 13 new enrichment classes introduced by the University of Louisvillersquos Lifelong Learning Most start this month or next Louisvilleedulifelonglearning 5028528564

Maybe I need to invite her to dinnerhellip

15 Jessica Grace chef and owner of Grace Personal Chef Servicesrsquo

main focus is weekly meal preparations for families too busy to cook dinner every night tired of takeout and who want to give their family restaurant-style and quality food on a daily basis She is also available for intimate dinner parties small events and cocktail parties Chefjessgracecom

Winter is the time of promise because there is so little to do mdash or because you

can now and then permit yourself the luxury

of thinking so mdash Stanley Crawford

Good Date IdeasFor our 25th anniversary my husband and I decided we had to celebrate Because we didnrsquot see getting away for a big vacation that conducive to our lives at the moment we decided we would go on 25 intentional dates this year and document them in an online scrapbook So if you have some good date ideas send them to me at anitatodayspublicationscom with ldquogreat daterdquo in the subject line and maybe we can capture you and your loved one on a great date

Valentine CookiesMaryhurst made-from-scratch original recipe

cookies mdash which include chocolate-dipped chocolate chip raisin-crammed oatmeal and buttery raspberry thumbprints mdash are from Sister Gracersquos recipes Cost is $25 with proceeds from the cookie sales helping Maryhurst care for more of Kentuckyrsquos abused and neglected children Maryhurstorg or 5022714523

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Start your Raised Bed Garden PlantingShawn Neal will lead you through a raised garden planting planning on TodaysWomanNowcom

19

As part of our Ready to change your life we are giving our readers an opportunity to jump in and try some of what our Ready to change Your life

participants are doing as part of their exercise and food plan program This month you can win a

month of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15 at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness center

location only

To win enter online at TodaysWomanNowcom

Win A Workout for A Month Learn How to

Do Something20 21

On Erinrsquos Wish List TodaysWomanNowcomThis fringe scarf from Dress and Dwell in New Albany is on Erin Fustrsquos wish list Read Erinrsquos style advice on TodaysWomanNowcom Her whole Valentinersquos gift wish list will

be revealed on February 5

ldquoI love this fringe scarf because of the variety in colors that it comes in the texture it can provide to a basic white tee-shirt and jean outfit and how you donrsquot have to compromise style for warmthrdquo

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

+

28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

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What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

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healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

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sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

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42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

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ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

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There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

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Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

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2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

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Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

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Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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She Said

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

BMi 266waist 35frac12rdquoHips 42frac12rdquo

STOrY AND pHOTOS BY MElISSA DONAlD

tRaiNeR allison Hilles

Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

albanyymcasiorg

Meal pRovideR Home Cuisine ~ louisville portion controlled low calorie meal provider Homecuisineonlinecom

Food by home Cuisine mdash Mae Pike Wallace avenue in louisville Ky5022886363homecuisineonlinecom

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

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Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

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All About Your Heart

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 21: Today's Woman February 2013

26 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

When I returned after nine years to Yew Dell Botanical Gardens in Crestwood Ky I was invited to tour the gardens and have lunch outside on the deck of the Pavilion mdash and have my questions answered by Mary Rounsavall president of the Yew Dell Gardens board of directors

How did you get involved in Yew Dell Gardens

My garden club had a meeting in 1999 at Kleinrsquos Yew Dell Farm (and nursery residence and garden) very shortly after Theodore Klein died and when there were grave questions about its future I was stunned by what I saw even in its ruined state (Klein was 93 when he died in 1998) I could see the ldquobonesrdquo of the gardens the beautiful stone walls and the Cotswold-style buildings including a half-scale castle I knew restoring it was a project Irsquod like to be involved in if we could ever get it off the ground

What made you think you could do this

I say I have a ldquoused car salesman generdquo I can be persuasive when Irsquom excited about something and people seem to respond to it Irsquom an eternal optimist with worrywart tendencies mdash just ask my children Irsquom a gardener and previously an artist so Yew Dell was right up my alley

Was the restoration a difficult task

We underestimated the enormity of the project and the amount of money it would take to put Yew Dell back in shape The property was completely overgrown

all 33 acres of it and the buildings were in dire condition I tell the story of setting out 12 buckets to catch leaks just in the little kitchen of the castle And since the old farm was in rough shape it was hard for donors to think our small community group could have the success we knew we could My husband was supportive saying ldquoYou are great at taking baby stepsrdquo The funny thing was that the people I thought would be donors were not It was people who just came out of the woodwork

What helped you continue despite the challenges

In the fall of 2002 two things happened that brought us recognition and tremendous momentum The most important was that Paul Cappiello who had been working as director of horticulture at Bernheim came on board part-time as executive director His is the hand that guides Yew Dell and we are very grateful for it Also notable was that the Garden Conservancy a national preservation organization recognizing

Yew Dellrsquos potential and the horticultural legacy of Theodore Klein named Yew Dell as one of its preservation projects They were a stamp of approval

Whatrsquos nextSince the last 10 years

have focused on rebuilding Yew Dell the next step is

building the Horticultural Center The old head house and potting shed are going through restoration now and a new greenhouse is being built The renovated buildings are ldquothe gutsrdquo of Yew Dell where seedlings will be planted and cuttings taken They will then be moved into the new greenhouse for propagation and display

Also new and close to Paul Cappiellorsquos heart mdash he is an adjunct professor of horticulture at UK mdash is the apprenticeship program that just got started this year Yew Dell took a graduating student from the horticultural school and gave him a place to live a job with pay learning real-life lessons and valuable contacts

How were you braveIt wasnrsquot just me

There was a tiny group of us including Theodorersquos daughter photographer Marian Klein Koehler We were passionate but foolhardy we just knew there was a little jewel in Crestwood that we couldnrsquot let slip away from us We owe thanks to a lot of people

What advice do you have for others

If you have a chance to make a difference in your community to provide a resource that wasnrsquot there or to save a precious place that would be lost forever why wouldnrsquot you do it

Interview by

Holly GreGor

Photography by

melissa donald

MARY RoUnSAvAllrsquoS THInG Restoring a Communityrsquos Treasure

It happened again mdash that feeling of falling in love with a place

AampQ

Do Your ThingBe Brave

Donrsquot miss Yew Dellrsquos fabulous plant sale on April 27 and 28

What is Yew Dell Gardens Theodore Klein took 33 acres of Oldham County

farmland in 1941 and transformed it into a successful commercial nursery collecting more

than 1000 specimen trees and shrubs Klein designed all the gardens as well as his family

home and support buildings His approach was as an artist down to the very last detail Yew Dell

Gardens recently celebrated 10 years

gt PaGe 28

Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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sUPer dUos

2013 February 27

+

28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

BMi 266waist 35frac12rdquoHips 42frac12rdquo

STOrY AND pHOTOS BY MElISSA DONAlD

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Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

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ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 22: Today's Woman February 2013

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Healthy Food Pairings You Should Make

On their own fruits veggies and other foods are

healthy But combining certain foods can enhance

their innate healthfulness so you can take advantage of

ldquofood synergyrdquo and boost you and your familyrsquos nutrient

absorption says Jackie Newgent dietician author of Big Green Cookbook and recreational chef instructor at the

Institute of Culinary Education

These super couples are some of the easiest and tastiest

ways to enhance nutrient absorption and effectiveness

Tea + lemonGo ahead and guzzle freshly brewed tea to quench a midday thirst

as long as you squeeze a splash of citrus in your glass Not only does tea deliver a hefty dose of healthful antioxidants to your cells but a new study says adding a twist of fresh lemon lime or orange is a simple and tasty way to turbo-charge the health benefits of tea ldquoAdding vitamin C to your tea enhances the absorption of catechins the antioxidants in tea up to threefoldrdquo says Ann Kulze MD nutritionist and author of Eat Right for Life Cookbook Companion

Veggies + olive oilWhether yoursquore grilling sauteacuteing or roasting spritz spinach

tomatoes green peppers squash and dark greens with a dash of a healthy fat to fully leverage all the glorious goodness in your vegetables ldquoFat improves flavor and texture but most importantly it serves as a vehicle for transporting fat-soluble phytochemicals like lycopene mdash which helps fight cancer heart disease and even wrinkles mdash from the digestive track into the bloodstreamrdquo Kulze says

ldquoAbsorption of the nutrients is enhanced further when heated rather than fresh or uncooked like tomatoes roasted with olive oilrdquo Newgent adds

The healthiest fats to pair with your veggies are extra virgin olive oil canola oil nuts seeds and avocados

Story by GIna robertS-Grey PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

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2013 February 27

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28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

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tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

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For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

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Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

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p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

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42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

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mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 23: Today's Woman February 2013

28 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

strawberries + whole wheat toast

The vitamin C in strawberries (and citrus fruits) helps your body better take in the iron in whole wheat toast and other grains ldquoVitamin C helps convert iron from a form you canrsquot use to a form you canrdquo says Geri Brewster a registered dietitian and certified nutritionist in Mt Kisco NY ldquoAnd it needs to be in the latter form to be taken up into the cells of the bodyrdquo Another great ironvitamin C pair says Brewster is lean meat served with vitamin C-rich foods such as red peppers or mandarin oranges

Broccoli + mustard horseradish or wasabi

A new study shows that a powerful cancer-fighting compound in broccoli is more readily absorbed in the upper part of your digestive system mdash where it will do the most good mdash when paired with the enzyme myrosinase which is found in mustard horseradish and wasabi ldquoAdd a splash or dash to your broccoli to kick up its flavor and its cancer-fighting powerrdquo Kulze says

spinach + mushrooms

Spinach provides calcium and mushrooms provide vitamin D says Newgent ldquoTogether they create a win-win combination for bone health because vitamin D helps with the absorption of calciumrdquo So itrsquos a good idea to think of spinach and mushrooms (and other calcium- and vitamin D-containing foods) as a nutritious bone-friendly couple ldquoTheyrsquore a delicious duet for the palate toordquo Newgent says

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

BMi 266waist 35frac12rdquoHips 42frac12rdquo

STOrY AND pHOTOS BY MElISSA DONAlD

tRaiNeR allison Hilles

Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

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giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

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Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

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Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Read comments from our wellness advisory

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42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

2013 February 41todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

inspire encoura

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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Dresses

She Said

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

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Your LifeYour LifeYour Life

Todayrsquos Woman30 February 2013

Ready to CHaNGe2013

itrsquos the 2013 weight loss challenge meet the readers chosen for this big challenge as well as the fitness experts leading the charge our food provider again this year is Home Cuisine who is creating three portion-controlled meals each day so follow along get inspired and take action

There are many who work at a desk in an office setting but there are also many who work from a desk at home which sometimes offers a more flexible schedule in the work day A flexible schedule is very appealing but this type of schedule keeps Maggie Helton from establishing routine ldquoIrsquove never been an overweight person well not until nowrdquo says Maggie who is a virtual employee working from her home in New Albany This sedentary lifestyle combined with menopause is what Maggie feels is the culprit to her weight gain As we get older and the body changes many find it harder to lose the weight

A workout routine and guidance from a trainer can make all the difference Maggie and her husband take walks together and this March they will be hiking the Grand Canyon A huge short-term goal for her right now is to build stamina and strength for her Grand Canyon hike Her other goals are to create an exercise routine she can stick with and run the Anthem 5K

Maggie HeltonaGe 53

HeiGHt 5rsquo5rdquoweiGHt 160 lbs

BMi 266waist 35frac12rdquoHips 42frac12rdquo

STOrY AND pHOTOS BY MElISSA DONAlD

tRaiNeR allison Hilles

Fitness instructor at Floyd County ymCa new

albanyymcasiorg

Meal pRovideR Home Cuisine ~ louisville portion controlled low calorie meal provider Homecuisineonlinecom

Food by home Cuisine mdash Mae Pike Wallace avenue in louisville Ky5022886363homecuisineonlinecom

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

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of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

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Center location onlyTo win enter online at

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Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

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who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 26: Today's Woman February 2013

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As part of our Ready to Change Your Life we are

giving our readers an opportunity to jump in

and try some of what our participants are doing for their exercise and food

plan program This month you can win a month

of Jazzercise from February 18-March 15

at the Jazzercise Middletown Fitness

Center location onlyTo win enter online at

TodaysWomanNowcom

Win a

Workout for a

Month

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32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

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What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

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did you know you could grow a garden in the

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Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

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42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 27: Today's Woman February 2013

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Over the last seven years Susan Barry has gained more than 30 pounds Ten were gained just in the past year ldquoAt 5-foot-three-and-a-half there are not many places to hide this much weight It has also taken a toll on my energy level and self-esteemrdquo Susan says Susan a single mother of two finds that itrsquos time to make healthy changes in her life The next step for Susan is to become stronger and healthier so she can be fully prepared for the next adventure life has for her

Susanrsquos short-term goal is to drop three sizes in three months Itrsquos an ambitous goal and one she is up for She too wants to make permanent healthy lifestyle choices

Susan BarryaGe 46

HeiGHt 5rsquo3frac12rdquoweiGHt 170 lbs

BMi 286waist 42rdquoHips 44frac34rdquo

tRaiNeR maria Bernard Fitness director at Baptist eastmilestone

Wellness Center louisville Ky

Baptistmilestonecom

For many of us a huge motivator for losing weight and adapting to a healthier lifestyle is a loved one and lizzet Verdi has found her motivation her 4 year-old daughter for whom wants to set a good example While she was pregnant lizzet had gestational diabetes and the risks of developing type II diabetes are very high which scares her She also suffers from high blood pressure

lizzet has come close to acheiving her weight loss goals but for some reason she always ldquofalls off the weight-loss wagonrdquo

lizzetrsquos goals are to make permanent healthy lifestyle changes for herself and for her family

Lizzet VerdiaGe 38

HeiGHt 5rsquo4rdquoweiGHt 182 lbs

BMi 315waist 3778rdquoHips 44frac12rdquo

tRaiNeR dave randolph owner and instructor at iron Body Fitness

louisvilleiron-bodycom

Your LifeYour LifeYour LifeReady to CHaNGe

2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

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I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

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Ask J

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ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

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i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 28: Today's Woman February 2013

2013 February 33

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

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Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 29: Today's Woman February 2013

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman34 February 2013

2013 February 35todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 february 33todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

12

3

45

6

Pe a r l s

p u m p s+

Kentucky

The Epilepsy

Foundation of

Kentucky is trying to secure 900 applications needed by the DMV to make a specialty license plate for epilepsy research Order a plate and help a local cause by going to googlG6jn9Ph

oT

o m

elis

sa d

on

ald

Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

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All About Your Heart

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44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

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Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

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the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

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Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

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i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 30: Today's Woman February 2013

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Q AampHave you ever ignored health problems

Read more of our advisory grouprsquos answers at TodaysWomanNowcom

We physicians are notorious for ignoring our own health I have ignored a few symptoms because I felt I was too busy to take time to go see my doctor Once I started verbally complaining about my symptoms my husband quickly reminded me that I couldnrsquot help my patients if I were dead

Tamella Cassis MD Dermatologist

Allison Collins Young licensed massage therapist

ListenUp

Tune into 939 FM on Saturdays at 11 am for the Painless Living Show with Louisvillersquos own Dr Michael Cassaro You can call in with health questions and learn practical treatment advice for chronic pain

gt 8884404442 painlesslivingradiocom

I will ignore colds at first and hope they donrsquot progress If it gets too bad and my symptoms progress to symptoms of infection then I will usually drag myself reluctantly to the doctor It works about half the time I do know a lot of people who rush to the doctor for anxieties when I personally feel that they might fare better at seeking help with emotional therapies and learning coping mechanisms instead of relying on medications

32 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

by Jessica smiThWellnessWatch

Brain injury survivor tackles her health limitations

In 2002 Kasey Whisman was told she would probably never walk

or talk again The 17-year-old had received a traumatic brain injury in an accident and her hopes of college or even of being able to sit up on her own were dashed She was also overweight something shersquod battled as long as she could remember

A decade later Kasey is happy healthy and excited about her upcoming wedding on St Patrickrsquos Day She works with trainer Alison Cardoza once a week at Milestone Wellness Center tracks her eating habits and shares her story with her patients as an occupational therapist at Norton Hospital Last year she even ran a 5K race with the Brain Injury Alli-ance of Kentucky Shersquos planning to do it again this year

ldquoIrsquove learned to never give up and say you canrsquot do anythingrdquo Kasey says ldquoI was told I would never be

able to sit up or walk or talk again I always look to that as something that pushes me forwardrdquo

After her accident Kasey went through 11 surgeries and eight months of therapy Once she was back on her feet mdash a miraculous ac-complishment in itself mdash she knew

she had to tackle her weight Shersquos since lost more than 115 pounds

ldquoOne of the things that helped me initially was keeping a food journalrdquo Kasey says ldquoEverything that went into my mouth I wrote down the calories

for Also having a partner or somebody like Alison who can keep you motivated to work out mdash thatrsquos half of it right there

ldquoLimitations that yoursquore told you may have mdash there are other ways to go about doing something Donrsquot ever be told you canrsquot do something because even if you canrsquot do it one way there are 10000 other ways you can do itrdquo n

Kasey (l) trains with Alison once a week and works out at least four other days a week

Kasey after her accident in 2002

a disturbing report last month by the center for disease control and Prevention found that about one in eight women mdash and one in five high school girls mdash report binge drinking consuming an average of six drinks per binge about three times a month

What a spring fashion show featuring local models and vendors and benefitting the womenrsquos cancer program at Baptist Health

When 11 am-2 pm Feb 9

Where The Olmsted

Cost $60 baptisthos-pitalfoundationorg or 5028967704

extras hors drsquooeuvres signature cocktails and prize packages up for grabs

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Todayrsquos Woman

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

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40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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more information Deadline for March issue February 22 2013

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Window WorldLocally owned by Barry amp Kim Foster

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Visit us at the HoMe GArDeN amp reMoDeLING SHoW March 1-3 with our new sister companies Hometown roofing and royal Kitchen amp Bath Designs Up-front pricing quality products and lifetime warranties

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

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All About Your Heart

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Get Inspired Herehellip

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Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

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ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

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by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

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Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

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Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

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Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 31: Today's Woman February 2013

36 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

By BoB mUeller

BoB mUeller is senior director of mission amp stewardship at Hosparus the community hospices of louisville southern indiana and Central Kentucky He has three books available Look Forward Hopefully The Gentle Art of Caring and his latest Create a Better World Find Bob online at bobmuellerorg and email him at bobmuellerinsightbbcom

The reason is we get caught up in our outside world and lose track of who we are on the inside

Geographic escape doesnrsquot help us find ourselves Our inner selves are not waiting on some faraway street corner for our bodies to catch up We simply pack up old habits and carry them like luggage wherever we go The surroundings are different but our responses are the same If we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in louisville we wake up feeling positive and optimistic in New York If we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in louisville we wake up to anxiety and pessimism in Hawaii The grass is not greener in another place

Those of us who feel incomplete and empty often look outside ourselves to correct bad habits or fill an inner void Many of us seek confidence through accolades overloading ourselves with projects deadlines and busy activities Or we use alcohol unhealthy relationships food and possessions to build confidence We become enslaved by greed competition power wealth and material gain thinking they are answers to our problems We search frantically for purpose through jobs relationships drugs cars or big homes We expect our careers children love interests or Oprah to give us the answers We rearrange our furniture change jobs divorce and remarry establish new friendships buy a new wardrobe change our hair color build a new house have children mdash all in an effort to lead a totally self-actualized life

Scientists and spiritual leaders agree on few things but they do agree that material things donrsquot buy confidence The studies on happiness show that wealth marital status age beauty and other external variables do not make people any happier or more confident mdash even though most people think they will physically attractive people arenrsquot happier and people with disabilities arenrsquot more miserable Happiness and self-confidence are not by-products of life circumstances They are by-products of our state of mind mdash the way in which we experience our lot in life

Material gain (a new house a new car or

more money) can bring us temporary highs that usually flatten out after a short time Tragedy or loss can put us at an all-time low for a while but eventually our mood rises back to normal regardless of highs and lows most of us keep going back to a baseline of happiness

So if we keep returning to a certain baseline regardless of our life conditions what determines our level of happiness The answer is internal conditions which keep us steady in a sea of ups and downs and carry us

for the long haul Irsquoll never forget a man I met

who at a young age had contracted HIV Devastated at the news the young man spent a year getting over the shock and disbelief However by taking the opportunity to explore spirituality for the first time he found his life transformed in positive ways He seemed to appreciate everyday things more and to get more out of each day than ever before and he felt

happier than he had before the diagnosis When misfortune hit this man afflicted with HIV refused to become a victim turning his obstacle into an opportunity to become an active participant in life rather than a passive recipient of what life doled out

I also remember a woman who lived four years with lung cancer who decided that regardless of how many days she had left shersquod live as large as possible She didnrsquot hold anything back She fully embraced her feelings hugging whomever she felt like hugging forging bonds with people unlike any she had ever forged before She adopted her own dress code expressed her opinions freely spoke out on important issues and stood her ground even when it went against the grain The people around her admired this uncharacteristic side of her

We must find our inner life make free choices and learn to take responsibility for our life conditions With the mindset of a survivor instead of a victim we can surrender to situations over which we had no control We can move out of our life what we do not want and make room for what we really do want Our whole life can change by living it inside out

Why Are We So MiserableEveryone wants to be happy and fulfilled So why are so many folks miserable most of the time

Happiness and self-confidence

are not by- products of life circumstances

They are by-products of

our state of mind

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Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

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Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

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Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

inspire encoura

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Here For You Advertising SectionCall 5023278855 or email advertisingtodayspublicationscom for

more information Deadline for March issue February 22 2013

Win

dow

Wor

ld

Window WorldLocally owned by Barry amp Kim Foster

5026717777 bull WindowWorldLouisvillecom

Visit us at the HoMe GArDeN amp reMoDeLING SHoW March 1-3 with our new sister companies Hometown roofing and royal Kitchen amp Bath Designs Up-front pricing quality products and lifetime warranties

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ss J

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You canrsquot hide your toes all year Get ready for Spring and Summer

fDA-APProVeD LASer TreATMeNT for ToNAIL fUNGUSUse your HSA now so yoursquore ready to go barefoot soon

Dr H Fred Preuss Jr4 Office Locations in Louisville and Southern IN

8129239837 bull 5022311206 bull LouisvilleLaserToenailFunguscom

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Colle

ge o

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amp D

esig

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

pho

to p

at

ti h

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 32: Today's Woman February 2013

2013 February 37todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

2013 February 41todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

inspire encoura

ge inform

Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

Photo by Mel

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Preu

ss J

r

You canrsquot hide your toes all year Get ready for Spring and Summer

fDA-APProVeD LASer TreATMeNT for ToNAIL fUNGUSUse your HSA now so yoursquore ready to go barefoot soon

Dr H Fred Preuss Jr4 Office Locations in Louisville and Southern IN

8129239837 bull 5022311206 bull LouisvilleLaserToenailFunguscom

Sulli

van

Colle

ge o

f Tec

hnol

ogy

amp D

esig

n

Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

pho

to p

at

ti h

ar

tog

Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

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m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

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Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 33: Today's Woman February 2013

Todayrsquos Woman38 February 2013

DiningStory anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

Left Vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese

CozyLa Coop Bistro

The interior is cozy and the deacutecor is oh so French located on the ground level of the Green Building la Coop offers modernized French classics with an added southern touch

Despite the small interior you find several different seating options which offer very different dining experiences From a high-top table in the bar area to bar seating a counter with an appropriately fleur de lis decorated divider allows one to be close to the kitchen Therersquos window seating and half-booth options as well

light fixtures replicating French bird cages cover the overhead lights and the simple yet elegant window treatments add a French feel

The FoodYoursquoll find Chef Bobby Benjaminrsquos version

of coq au vin (chicken in wine) a classic French favorite beautifully executed with a hint of southern flare If you like pork choose the lard de maison A pork belly served over sweet potato mash and gravy The pork belly is a labor of love and is processed in-house for approximately 15 days before serving The pork is first cured for 7-10 days and then braised for 72 hours The outcome is delicious The edges are slightly crisp and each bite melts in your mouth When combined with the sweet potato mash and gravy you have one fantastic starter

For the vegetarians the vegetable-stuffed eggplant with gruyeacutere cheese is a Chef Benjamin creation inspired by the French technique called en papillote This technique involves cooking typically fish in parchment paper This eggplant dish is not cooked in paper but instead is cooked in a cast iron dish with a thin filo dough crust on top For dessert one of their more popular items is the bananas foster topped with bourbon barrel ice cream Most dishes are cooked and served in small cast iron ware A nice touch that adds a French country feel

On February 11 la Coop is going Italian for one night Find details online

HOURS OF OPERATIONTuesday-Thursday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1030pm | Friday and Saturday (bar opens at 5pm) Dinner 530-1130 pm | Closed Sunday and Monday

La Coop Bistro732 E Market StLouisville5024102888Coopbistrocom

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

2013 February 41todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

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C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

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to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

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who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

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m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 34: Today's Woman February 2013

todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow 2013 February 39

Story anD PhotoS by MelISSa DonalD

The New Albany Exchange

Now in their new location in downtown New Albany this gastro pub has a rotating menu of American and seasonal fare Once inside The New Albany Exchange enjoy a high-end culinary experience in a casual laid back setting

This newly-renovated interior has exposed brick walls and steel ceiling supports creating an industrial and rustic blend of old and new The main dining area offers a view of the open kitchen and bar The wood top tables offer a warm rustic welcome and each table is adorned with a vase of small tree branches

The FoodItems such as the Seared Salmon

(shown below) with a parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans can be found on the menu Chef rick Adams puts together a cheese board that presents three local cheeses from farms including Capriole Farms and Kennyrsquos Cheese Owner Ian Hall includes as many local and regional ingredients as he can get in season Falling in line with their pub atmosphere The Exchange also pulls from Indiana and Kentuckiana craft beer breweries such as BBC New Albanian Flat 12 and 3 Floyds They offer 12 rotating taps and 12-15 bottle rotations as well

The dessert should not be ignored Check out their eacuteclair This classic and all-time favorite cream puff pastry is topped with chocolate and served with a dollop of whipped cream and fresh strawberries

The New Albany Exchange118 W MainNew Albany Ind8129486501newalbanyexchangecom

HOURS OF OPERATIONLunch Monday-Friday 11am-2pm | Dinner Monday-Thursday 5-10pm | Friday and Saturday 5-11pm

Left The Seared Salmon with a Parmesan risotto tangerinevanilla beurre blanc mushroom ragout and green beans

gt PaGe 38

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

2013 February 41todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

inspire encoura

ge inform

Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

Photo by Mel

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Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

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Here For You Advertising SectionCall 5023278855 or email advertisingtodayspublicationscom for

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Visit us at the HoMe GArDeN amp reMoDeLING SHoW March 1-3 with our new sister companies Hometown roofing and royal Kitchen amp Bath Designs Up-front pricing quality products and lifetime warranties

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Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 35: Today's Woman February 2013

40 February 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute

Just like its name this place is so sweet and so cozy andhellipitrsquos a gluten-free zone

When she was young Annie May McGill envisioned opening a cafeacute very much like the way this space is laid out The checkerboard floor was part of her vision In the front corner of the cafeacute is a game center where the young at heart can pull out a board game or two From Bananagrams to Candy land Annie has some fun options that will keep you entertained and wanting more of her delicious baked goods

The FoodAfter learning about her own food allergies

co-owner Annie McGill created gluten-free baked goods to taste as close to items that include gluten With co-owner Kenna Nelson a Sullivan Culinary school graduate the two of

them have created fantastic allergen-free baked goods and dishes Everything is always gluten peanut and tree-nut free

Seventy percent of their business is based on special orders Cakes sourdough bread baguettes dinner rolls sandwich buns are items many people order and pick up They create the gluten-free baked goods from their own special flour blend that they mill on site Consisting of five ingredients three grains are milled in house and then combined with two other flours to create the perfect Annie May flour blend

Check out their lunch options Build your own sandwich or order a pizza They also offer breakfast

The red velvet cheese cake is to die for Yes the crust is gluten-free The super cookie is available dairy free with a chocolate center rather than a cream cheese filling The dairy-free gluten-free brownie is well done Have it warmed slightly to melt the chocolate ganche interior

DiningCozy

Annie Mayrsquos Sweet Cafeacute3110 Frankfort Ave Louisville 5023842667anniemayssweetcafecom

Tuesday-Thursday 10am-6pm | Friday 10am-8pm | Saturday 9am-5pm | SundayMonday Closed

2013 February 41todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

inspire encoura

ge inform

Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

Photo by Mel

issa D

ona

lD

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

HereforYoUThe arearsquos finest products

and services at your fingertips

- advertisement -

Pers

onal

ized

Pre

vent

ion YouBEST

for

Rhonda Hettinger DNP NP-C APRN-CPersonalized Prevention Your Family amp Heart Care

1615 Blackistonview Dr Ste E bullClarksville IN 471298127251550 bull yourpersonalpreventioncom

one woman dies every minute from a heart attack Nurse Practitioner Dr rhonda Hettinger owner of Personalized Prevention knows that early detection of heart disease is key Dr Hettinger delivers a unique focus on prevention and an educational approach to promoting womenrsquos health

Cass

is D

erm

atol

ogy

amp A

esth

etic

s Ce

nter

YouBESTfor

The skilled compassionate care of the staff at Cassis Dermatology enhances patientsrsquo overall health as well as

self-esteem The Cassis team works to customize treatment for each patientrsquos unique skin care needs

Cassis Dermatology amp Aesthetics Center9301 Dayflower St Ste 100 bull Norton Commons bull Prospect KY 40059

5023268588 bull wwwcassisdermcom

Toda

yrsquos

Wom

an

reach 150000+ loyal primarily female readers with your message This section is designed for small businesses including Plumbing Home repair Personal errands and Dry Cleaning services to name a few

Here For You Advertising SectionCall 5023278855 or email advertisingtodayspublicationscom for

more information Deadline for March issue February 22 2013

Win

dow

Wor

ld

Window WorldLocally owned by Barry amp Kim Foster

5026717777 bull WindowWorldLouisvillecom

Visit us at the HoMe GArDeN amp reMoDeLING SHoW March 1-3 with our new sister companies Hometown roofing and royal Kitchen amp Bath Designs Up-front pricing quality products and lifetime warranties

Americarsquos 1 remodeling Company is More THAN JUST WINDoWS

Dr

H F

red

Preu

ss J

r

You canrsquot hide your toes all year Get ready for Spring and Summer

fDA-APProVeD LASer TreATMeNT for ToNAIL fUNGUSUse your HSA now so yoursquore ready to go barefoot soon

Dr H Fred Preuss Jr4 Office Locations in Louisville and Southern IN

8129239837 bull 5022311206 bull LouisvilleLaserToenailFunguscom

Sulli

van

Colle

ge o

f Tec

hnol

ogy

amp D

esig

n

Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

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Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 36: Today's Woman February 2013

2013 February 41todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

want Here are this monthrsquos prizes on TodaysWomanNowcom

~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

~ a $100 gift card from sassy Fox ~ Performance pillows gel-infused memory foam latex

or down from Bowles mattress

inspire encoura

ge inform

Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

type of atmosphere you like Look for melissa

donaldrsquos top picks of local places that fit you

IamTodaysWomancom becomes

TodaysWomanNowcom

Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

Photo by Mel

issa D

ona

lD

Herersquos an idea of what yoursquoll find online this month

HereforYoUThe arearsquos finest products

and services at your fingertips

- advertisement -

Pers

onal

ized

Pre

vent

ion YouBEST

for

Rhonda Hettinger DNP NP-C APRN-CPersonalized Prevention Your Family amp Heart Care

1615 Blackistonview Dr Ste E bullClarksville IN 471298127251550 bull yourpersonalpreventioncom

one woman dies every minute from a heart attack Nurse Practitioner Dr rhonda Hettinger owner of Personalized Prevention knows that early detection of heart disease is key Dr Hettinger delivers a unique focus on prevention and an educational approach to promoting womenrsquos health

Cass

is D

erm

atol

ogy

amp A

esth

etic

s Ce

nter

YouBESTfor

The skilled compassionate care of the staff at Cassis Dermatology enhances patientsrsquo overall health as well as

self-esteem The Cassis team works to customize treatment for each patientrsquos unique skin care needs

Cassis Dermatology amp Aesthetics Center9301 Dayflower St Ste 100 bull Norton Commons bull Prospect KY 40059

5023268588 bull wwwcassisdermcom

Toda

yrsquos

Wom

an

reach 150000+ loyal primarily female readers with your message This section is designed for small businesses including Plumbing Home repair Personal errands and Dry Cleaning services to name a few

Here For You Advertising SectionCall 5023278855 or email advertisingtodayspublicationscom for

more information Deadline for March issue February 22 2013

Win

dow

Wor

ld

Window WorldLocally owned by Barry amp Kim Foster

5026717777 bull WindowWorldLouisvillecom

Visit us at the HoMe GArDeN amp reMoDeLING SHoW March 1-3 with our new sister companies Hometown roofing and royal Kitchen amp Bath Designs Up-front pricing quality products and lifetime warranties

Americarsquos 1 remodeling Company is More THAN JUST WINDoWS

Dr

H F

red

Preu

ss J

r

You canrsquot hide your toes all year Get ready for Spring and Summer

fDA-APProVeD LASer TreATMeNT for ToNAIL fUNGUSUse your HSA now so yoursquore ready to go barefoot soon

Dr H Fred Preuss Jr4 Office Locations in Louisville and Southern IN

8129239837 bull 5022311206 bull LouisvilleLaserToenailFunguscom

Sulli

van

Colle

ge o

f Tec

hnol

ogy

amp D

esig

n

Terri George is the Interior Design department chair at Sullivan College of Technology amp Design

To learn about a degree in this field visit sctdedu

Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

pho

to p

at

ti h

ar

tog

Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 37: Today's Woman February 2013

Todayrsquos Woman

We Love Giving You Stuff

Every Thursday wersquore giving away something we know yoursquoll

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~ a $100 gift card from olivia amp Co~ a $100 gift card from Radiant skin

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Set the Mood for Dining

Choose the restaurant you want to eat in based on the

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IamTodaysWomancom becomes

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Be Fashionable Every Day

you can do it style expert Erin Fust will update you on

the essentials you should have in your closet

What They Said

Read comments from our wellness advisory

group about decisions theyrsquore making to live a

healthier lifeBack to Basics

did you know you could grow a garden in the

winter shawn neal will show you how to cut out

the excessiveness to make your life

comfortable and simple

Make Your Days Better

sometimes a little change is all you need to be your best Check

out our Inspiration monday post for ideas

on getting started

42 february 2013

Getting Real about Relationships

Veronica douglas gives you a peek into her life as a single girl and the

dating mishaps she canrsquot seem to escape

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Terrirsquos Tips When planning your interior be sure to consider the ceiling The so-called ldquo6th planerdquo is as much a part of the design as the walls and floor one hot trend is wood ceiling tiles mdash beautiful and easy to do yourself

febRuaRy 2013

C E L E B R AT I N g 2 1 Y E A R s

I n s p i r e bull E bull I n f o r m

All About Your Heart

Yes

to the

Dresses

She Said

NeeD More ADveNture

Get Inspired Herehellip

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

pho

to p

at

ti h

ar

tog

Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 38: Today's Woman February 2013

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44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

pho

to p

at

ti h

ar

tog

Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 39: Today's Woman February 2013

44 february 2013 Todayrsquos Woman

Passions In relationships play community mmmm

Just

Ask J

oyce

ldquoHow do I know if someone really loves me and if I love him Irsquove been in a relationship for two years He seems sincere

but Irsquom just not sure if itrsquos really love that we feel for one another my parents divorced when I was 12 his parents divorced when he was 7 We both feel a little uncertain about any kind of big commitment He wants to move in but that feels ldquobigrdquo to me Wersquore very comfortable around each other but how do I know if itrsquos really loverdquo

Q

AFind the at TodaysWomanNowcom

By ILysE mCCoRmICk

Kim Boyle opened up Barkstown Road in March of 2012 and she hasnrsquot questioned her decision to become a small business owner since Boylersquos intense love for dogs and a passion for bettering their lives and the lives of their owners caused her to leave graduate school in Chicago and move back to her hometown of Louisville to open Barkstown Road Our communityrsquos furry residents couldnrsquot be happier with Barkstown Road which is located in the heart of the Highland neighborhood and thriving in a community where shopping

local is a way of life and the dog culture is abundant

Barkstown Road carries as many American-made and locally made products as possible All the storersquos dog and cat food

is either American-made or made by an ethical source in Canada Pet food products in the shop are FDA-approved as human grade as well as a variety of foods for pets with a

sensitive stomach or any dietary restrictions Not only can you buy high-quality food for your beloved pet at Barkstown Road but you can pick up something to spoil them as well

All Bark ~ No BiteKim Boyle and her fuzzy friend

kimberly Greenwell and Cindi Gilpin both local single sisters started Single Mingle and are hosting the first event the weekend before Valentinersquos day

ldquoIf you have taken one of my networking seminars you will hear me say a thousand times you need to surround yourself with your target marketrdquo kimberly says ldquoWell if you are single and you want to meet someone then you need to surround yourself with other singles so I am creating an opportunity for people to do just thatrdquo

single mingle Louisvillersquos first event is February 9 from 7-9 pm at The melting Pot 2405 s Hurstbourne Parkway Cost $50 Reservations at singlemingleloucom (but walk-ins welcome)

Barkstown Road is located at 1045 Bardstown

Road in the Highlands Barkstownroadcom

Have fun with this group

single

14ndash The percent of women

who send themselves flowers on Valentinersquos day

pho

to p

at

ti h

ar

tog

Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 40: Today's Woman February 2013

Todayrsquos Woman

HOTwhatrsquos going on in the month of February

m

m

m

by tiffany white

HappeningsHistory up close

itrsquos the 150th anniversary of the emancipation Proclamation and in recognition of the milestone the frazier international history Museum will be showcasing ldquoSpirits of Passagerdquo an exhibition chronicling the events of the slave trade the exhibit includes authentic artifacts from a sunken slave ship

WHen ~ Feb 2-June 16WHere ~ Frazier

International History Museum

tickets ~ Adults $1050 Children (5-14) $6 Seniors $850

contact ~ 5027535663 fraziermuseumorg

Alice in Black and WhiteLooking for LiLith theatre Company

alice austen (1866-1952) was born into a world that was just discovering photography and from the age of 10 austen took thousands of photographs during her lifetime the play juxtaposes alicersquos love of photography and relationship with dance teacher Gertrude tate with the 20thcentury re-discovery of her work by publisher Oliver Jensen as he prepares his book American Women in Revolt which intermingles characters from

different time periods Paralleling the powerful true story the play captures the highs and lows of alicersquos life and love as her well-to-do Staten island family is ruined by the Depression WHen ~ Feb 28 March 1 2 7

8 and 9 730 pm March 9 2 pm

WHere ~ Mex Theater Kentucky Center

tickets ~ $18 adults $15 students and seniors

contact ~ the box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

a special treat for

caregiversOur sister publication Todayrsquos Transitions will be announcing their Caregiver of the year award winner at Chocolate Dreams an annual event hosted by GuardiaCare find out who won and sample tons of delicious chocolate desserts from some of the best chefs in town

WHen ~ Feb 11 6 pmWHere ~ Louisville

Marriott Easttickets ~ $6250contact ~ Guardiacareorg

46 february 2013

Be a sweetheart to your hearttreat the most vital organ in your body with care at the heart healthy happy hour Snack on nutritious foods including dark chocolates from Cellar Door sip some wine and watch a cooking demonstrationWHen ~ Feb 7 5-7 pmWHere ~ The Kentucky

Center for African American Heritage

tickets ~ Freecontact ~ 5025834100 kccaahorg

m

Live it upwhether itrsquos you and your guy or girlfriends yoursquore guaranteed to have a fun time at a Slice of Life Samples will be available from local restaurants wineries and distilleries you can also purchase a gift certificate from their silent auction Proceeds benefit local ovarian cancer programs

WHen ~ Feb 8 630 pmWHere ~ Clifton Centertickets ~ $50 in advance

$60 at the doorcontact ~ 5025003368

m

the Who Quadrophenia and More tour2013 marks this legendary rock bandrsquos first north american tour in four years which consists of their 1973 iconic double-album Quadrophenia (performed in its entirety) and a selection of who classics Quadrophenia was the british bandrsquos second rock opera and raised the bar for rock albums as an art form iGn placed Quadrophenia at 1 on its list of the greatest classic rock albums of all time WHen ~ Feb 16 730 pmWHere ~ KFC Yum Centertickets ~ $3650-$12450contact ~ the box office

aeglivecom Ticketmaster outlets 18007453000

m

mdash GioiA PATTonmdash GioiA PATTon

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 41: Today's Woman February 2013

m

mHappenings

Have a good timeSing and snap your fingers at the Soulful Sounds of Derbytown concert series presented by the Kentucky Center for african american heritage Proceeds from the event will go toward completing the centerrsquos interior and establishing educational programs

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Kentucky Center

for African American Heritage

tickets ~ $25 in advance or $35 at the door

contact ~ kcaahorg

m

Little Shopof HorrorsDerby Dinner pLayhouse

imagine a horror rock musical about a hapless floral shop worker named Seymour who raises a plant that grows so enormous it feeds on human flesh with music in the style of early 1960s rock lsquonrsquo roll doo-wop and Motown the popular 1986 movie musical (starring Rick Moranis and Steve Martin) is based on the show watch as the Rampb-singing carnivore plant offers Seymour fame in exchange for feeding its growing appetiteWHen ~ Feb 19-March 30 various performancesWHere ~ Derby Dinner

Playhousetickets ~ $35-$44contact ~ 8122888281

derbydinnercom

chris BottiOne of the worldrsquos top-selling instrumental artists trumpeter Chris botti is also a talented composer and charismatic performer i first became aware of botti more than 10 years ago when he was in concert at the Louisville Palace as part of Stingrsquos band Since the release of his 2004 album When i Fall in Love he has become the top-selling american jazz instrumentalist Over the past three decades botti has recorded with frank Sinatra Sting Michael bubleacute and Joni Mitchell to name a few irsquove been to every Louisville tour hersquos had to date (four) because botti manages to stretch himself artistically every time

WHen ~ Feb 24 7 pmWHere ~ Brown Theatretickets ~ Starting at $35contact ~ Kentucky Center

box office 5025847777 kentuckycenterorg

2013 february 47

Joseph and the Amazing

Technicolor DreamcoatCenterstage

after nine years of patrons requesting CenterStage to ldquobring back Josephrdquo since its sold-out run in 2004 the biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors returns to vibrant life in this delightful musical Set to a cornucopia of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock lsquonrsquo roll this Old testament tale emerges both timely and timeless

WHen ~ Feb 21-March 3 various performances

WHere ~ Jewish Community Center

tickets ~ $18 in advance $20 at the doorcontact ~ 5024590660

centerstagejccorg

m

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

mdash GioiA PATTon

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 42: Today's Woman February 2013

Todayrsquos Woman48 february 2013

By kImBERLy CRum ILLusTRaTIon By sILVIa CaBIB

Fall ginMy broken ankle was a small thing

relative to current events even as i

crashed to the ground burning lava was

consuming a city in the Congo My fracture

did not approach the status of that event yet it

was similar in one way the injury reminded

me of my vulnerability in a world where

random events happen

i was walking down the street while on a

winter vacation in Deer Valley Utah when i

slipped on a patch of ice flew into the air

and landed on the unforgiving concrete

Cursing in an uncharacteristic manner i

tried to stand My ankle crumbled beneath

me and i fell to the concrete once more

Stunned scared and alone i crawled into

our rental condo then cradled my swelling

extremity mumbling to myself all the while

ldquoOh my God help me help merdquo

i had not wanted to go on this vacationldquoirsquom too busyrdquo irsquod told my husband ldquoi canrsquot be away

right nowrdquohe insisted saying ldquothis will be good for our familyrdquoldquoi donrsquot want to skirdquoldquoyou do not have to skirdquo ldquoRemember our last trip out westrdquo

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 43: Today's Woman February 2013

2013 february 49todayswomannowcom facebookcomtodayswomanmagazine todayswomannow

i am not superstitious but my daughterrsquos Colorado horseback riding accident four years previous had changed me (and her) accidents in my family seemed to happen in the west

ldquoyou canrsquot let that incident rule your liferdquo instead of skiing i planned to attend the Sundance film

festival i would wait shoulder-to-shoulder with the intelligentsia to see artsy film noir and catch a glimpse of Robert Redford the founder of the fest ldquothis will give me something to write aboutrdquo i thought ldquoa traveloguerdquo

to boost my enthusiasm for the vacation i shopped i bought a satin skirt a black coat with a natural fur collar an audrey hepburn hat new blue jeans and a fishermanrsquos sweater i sent my children and husband out for ski wear and sturdy shoes with steel-radial tread no new shoes for me Robert Redford would not be looking at my shoes

Salt Lake City was clothed in darkness when we arrived we

drove below a star-spangled sky flanked by puffy white clouds ldquowhere are the mountainsrdquo the girls asked from the back seat at first glance what looked like clouds turned out to be snow on the rocky peaks Our ears popped as our rental car climbed toward our Deer Valley destination 8100 feet above sea level a winter wonderland famous for its abundant snow well-groomed ski slopes fine dining and the 2002 Olympic Park

the Valley glittered with white lights on evergreens and chalets that outshined the stars in the sky we checked into the condominium and started a fire in the hearth that quickly crackled a warm welcome

early the next afternoon the girls clicked their boots into the bindings of their rented skis and posed in positions resembling travel posters bent at the knees poles up and behind their hips polarized sunglasses pointed ahead My camera snapped their enthusiasm against the backdrop of bright snow-lit ski runs bordered by neat rows of evergreens Smiling ruddy-cheeked skiers looking like catalogue models for LL bean whooshed to a stop only 10 feet away

i left my family with a ski instructor and two final words ldquobe carefulrdquo forty-five minutes later i was a medical emergency

the ambulance followed the ascending and descending

curves of the mountains i watched the mountains move through the back window the chair lifts crawled slowly above steep slopes loaded with people whose skis dangled in front of them i wondered how the world continued unchanged as i lay terrified in a moving ambulance My pain did not halt the skiersrsquo pleasure the mountain beauty ignored my suffering My tree had fallen in the woods and no one had heard it

My husband did not have his cellphone no one except the eMt and God knew where i was

ldquoSo how did we hurt our anklerdquo the nurse at the emergency

center askedldquowe fell on the street and then we crawled into the condordquo i

repliedLucky for me the nurse laughed Stacy was to be in charge of

my comfort for the next three hoursas i lay under the florescent lights of my curtained cell in

Snow Creek emergency Center i felt the sting of fear said a quiet prayer had a good cry then began joking with the staff Levity for me is like whistling in the dark

ldquohey i had wanted to go to the spa Maybe this is my spa

experiencerdquo i said as Stacy prepared a morphine injectionldquoever have any trouble finding a vein beforerdquo Stacy asked

readjusting the tourniquet in hopes that an iV site would pop up to greet her

that night immobilized by a splint and numbed by narcotics

i lay on the couch with my ankle immobilized and elevated and watched my husband and daughters prepare the family meal they were three doing the job of one ndash slowly awkwardly but doing it nonetheless

ldquohow long does a baked potato take anyhowrdquoldquothis thing is hard as a rockrdquoldquohow much salt in the mushroomsrdquoldquoJust dump some inrdquoldquonapkinsrdquoldquoi have no ideardquoMy younger daughter Liz stood back to survey the table

setting mdash forks on the right knives on the left Something was missing She grabbed a large candle and proudly struck a match to light it from start to finish and with minimal input from the drugged homemaker my family had prepared a meal i was proud and disappointed mdash proud because of the family unity their effort represented disappointed because i no longer felt indispensable

My bilateral fracture required surgery mdash an Open Reduction

and internal fixation in other words they opened my ankle on both sides reassembled the bones like a Chinese puzzle and screwed them in place when an orthopedic surgeon says he will use ldquohardwarerdquo he means hardware the post-surgical X-rays looked like a home Depot project a tidy line of five screws on one side and a plate with two screws on the other from then on i would always be a person of flesh bone blood and steel

among the reasons for my fall were jet lag bad shoes walking

too fast for conditions and fate Mr Destiny had fated my injury in spite of my decision not to ski why i thought must i repeat the vulnerability lesson again Like a naughty child who must write on the chalkboard 100 times ldquoi am not in controlrdquo

who is in charge herei had asked this question several times before mdash when my

10-year-old daughter lay in an intensive care unit in Denver and again when my parents died of cancer within six months of each other i lost my illusion of control in the Colorado Rockies when i watched Susanna fall from her horse as it reared and then tumbled onto her soft abdomen

who is in charge here is misfortune a deliberate message

from God or simply a random event is there such a thing as destiny how does one cope with the fact of vulnerability

Mine is not a cause-and-effect God sitting on a gilded throne and pointing a manicured finger toward me as i walk innocently enough along the slippery streets of life Random events happen hardship can be a gift Vulnerability makes prayer necessary God greets my prayerful response with comfort and if i am lucky i fall into a state of grace and contentment until i deceive myself into believing i am in control again

i am alice falling down the rabbit hole Part of the way down i forget to be afraid and become merely curious while strange images whirl around me as i plummet to wonderland

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 44: Today's Woman February 2013

Todayrsquos Woman50 february 2013

BeFOreBy Tiffany WhiTE PhoTos By MElissa DonalD

Before I Goldquoi take my daily vitamin and i always make sure i have on some Egyptian Musk perfume i put my two dogs sophie and leRoy in their crates otherwise they would tear up everything and i thank God for what i haverdquo

safiyyah Rasool AGe 32JoB ownerChoreographer safiyyah DancelIves In hikes Point

yOUDancing to a hip-hop song turns an ordinary day into something far more special for safiyyah Rasool who has been dancing since age 5 ldquoDancing makes me feel extremely happyrdquo she says ldquoit is almost like a disease or sickness if you have a passion for it because you relate to it so much whether you are happy sad or madrdquo safiyyah is satisfying her healthy addiction through safiyyah Dance a dance studio she and her partner Venus ludlow opened four months ago in lyndon (8007 Vine Crest ave ste 2) They specialize in hip-hop but also teach ballet fusion (a combination of hip-hop and ballet) breakdancing jazz modern and contemporary dance safiyyah says she likes to keep her students on their toes by giving them a challenge after theyrsquove built up their confidence

FAshIon Irsquom WeArInG ldquoi wear a lot of designer dance clothes from Threader Wild Child nation and Urban Empire i also wear clothes from forever 21rdquo

moIsturIzer Irsquom lovInG ldquoi love oil of olay Body lotion and their body wash i dab a little of the nivea lotion on my facerdquo

lAtest PurchAse Irsquom PrAIsInG

ldquoMy studio purchase i used my own money to get the studio i am really fortunaterdquo

GO

Page 45: Today's Woman February 2013