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he moment I tell you about my mostprized family heirloom, you will knowthat I am Southern.

It’s one of those crude, old ceramicmilk jugs … you know, the kind that Mr.

Briscoe Darling (played by Denver Pyle) used as amusical instrument on“TheAndy Griffith Show.”I am aware that most women point to something

a bit more delicate when discussing heirlooms … anantique ring, a place setting of Noritake, a silver teaset. The thing is, I am one step up from dirt poor.There are no silver, crystal, or fine china collectionsto be found in my family.Instead, there are storytellers.Huggers. A few

wayward alcoholics. And the ceramic jug.The jug is the only item I own that is directly tied

to the grandfather I never knew. It was given to meby my favorite grandmother,making it doublyprecious — especially this month, the month ofmothers and grandmothers, and great women alike.The jug is a family heirloom of the most common

sorts. It always sat at the corner of my grand-mother’s dining room,propping open the woodenswinging door that led into the kitchen.Now, itmust be noted that while my grandmother was a lotof things — an athlete; a Republican who stoodbehind Richard Nixon until the day that she died; atalented seamstress with a knack for creatingdresses and curtains and, later in life,medical braces— a housekeeper she was not.The jug sat in thecorner a good 40 years without being moved ordusted in any fashion.I can’t explain what initially made it special to

me, as a child. I don’t remember first laying eyesupon it. But I always stared at the jug, and wonderedabout its significance.When I was about 9, I asked her about it, and she

told me the story. About how my grandfather, Ed,found the jug half-buried in the woods not long

after they moved to the clapboard house that stillstands on Dixie River Road, just shy of the airport.He brought it in the house to her, and it took upresidence.The jug grew in importance in my mind.My

grandfather died 10 years before I was born, but myfather still clung to the loss.This made Ed somewhatof a hero in my mind. If my dad was the greatest dadin the world, then imagine how wonderful mygrandfather must have been? And he had found thejug, held it in his hands, inspected it in the sunlight,before giving it to my grandmother.Ed may have found it, but the jug was inex-

tricably tied to my relationship with mygrandmother.Nearly 60 years apart in age,we weresoul mates just the same.My character was shapedby the many visits I made to her tiny dining roomon crisp fall afternoons and chilly winter nights, butmost often on hot summer days,when the smell ofcut grass was so rich it seemed like a dessert. Shelived down the street from us, and I often walkedover to feed my sister’s horse. Afterward,mygrandmother would make me a glass ofTang andhand me the latest JFG jar to spoon clean of peanutbutter. In exchange, I’d listen to her stories.The jug was always there. A tangible item tied to

a collection of childhood memories.As an adult, I mentioned once that I would like to

have the jug, one day. A few years later, she gave itto me,patting my arm and wisely saying,“Just to besure it winds up with you.”Not long after, shemoved to a nursing home. And promptly forgotwho I was.I never knew if anyone else had dibs on the jug.

Honestly, I never asked.The jug now sits in my foyer, by the front

door, because it feels most comfortable there.It’s a venerable piece of my past … valuable onlyto me. [TCW]

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14 Girl TimeTips,Trends, And Fancies

18 On The MoveCharlotteWomen Making Strides

32 FashionOrangeYou Glad: The Color OfThe Season

38 Wine UpTryTempranillo: A Shy GrapeWith Character

52 Health FlashWhatYou NeedTo KnowTo StayWell

56 Contributors PageThe NamesAnd Faces BehindThe Photography

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4 Editor’s LetterFamily Heirlooms &The StoriesTheyTell

9 So SocialAroundTown, In Pictures

10 Readers RespondCorrespondenceAnd Comments

12 Queen City JewelsHappeningsYou Don’tWantTo Miss

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22 A Modern-Day Mother NatureEmbryologist LareinaWelch Helps Couples Conceive

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42 Homemade Salsa?Yes,You Can

48 The Feminine WayA Photo Essay CelebratingWomenInThe Queen City

58 Essay: From Child To MotherOneWoman’s Search For Balance

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SoSocialPassport For Fashion

nApril 21, the second-annualspring fashion show returnedto the Queen City to highlight

the area’s burgeoning fashion industry.Hosted by Charlotte Seen’s Rita Miles,plus Beverly Grant, and Coco Callahan,the event spotlighted emergingdesigners in the area, includingAngelina Danette,Donna RaiLineberger and Candace Frieden.Theheadliner of the event was LuisMachicao,whose collections havebeen showcased in San Francisco,Washington,D.C., and NewYork.

Designer Luis Machicao and friends.

Rita Miles (second from left) poses with attendees,including the winner of the event,TriciaWest (thirdfrom right).

Fashionable attendees. Coco Callahan,Bill Scott,and Rita Miles.

The Legacy Committee. Beverly Grant withhusbandWaltTurner.

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finally got a chance to pick up a copy of theApril issue,with Jenna Klauk on the cover,and I couldn’t be happier. Thank you somuch for highlighting our team, sport, and, ofcourse, Jenna.The article came out better

than we could have ever anticipated, and thephotography is topnotch.We’ve had many nicearticles written about us … but for whatever reason,this is the one that seems to connect with thereaders.You should all be very proud!CRAIG BAILEYPresident, Race City Roller Derby

I was recently given theApril issue of Today’sCharlotteWoman by Pat Farmer, Allegro’s founderand president. She was so impressed by themagazine, and after reading it myself, I can certainlysee why. The use of crisp colors, interesting titles,and great empowering articles make it a must-readmagazine for women in this area!We just wanted todrop you a line to let you know we enjoyed thisissue very much.JESSICA LAPRADEDevelopment Coordinator, Allegro Foundation

My hubby stopped at Harris Teeter on the way homefrom work and it was there — theApril issue ofToday’s CharlotteWoman. It looks fantastic! I’m sohonored to be a part of the relaunch. Thanks somuch for the opportunity.ERICA LINEBERRY

I just picked upTCW— fabulous! Congratulationson surviving and reviving!BETH HOWARD

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I love Today’s CharlotteWoman. Last year, I movedhere from Canada with my husband, and the firstmagazine I saw was yours! I do look for it whereverI go. (I am a bit sad to see that your magazine is nolonger available at Harris Teeter in my area.)Nonetheless, I am a follower!Thank you for yourgreat work, especially for “newbies” in the arealike me.ROSE CARTY ARMSTRONGNote:As of mid-April, Today’s CharlotteWoman isback in stands at Harris Teeter, and also can befound at area businesses around town.

Thanks for choosing to profile a derby athlete andto share this exciting sport with your readers. Ithink that Vicki Moreland wrote a great article, andGlenn Roberson’s pics are beautiful.Wish I lookedthat good all the time!JENNA KLAUKBlocker, Charlotte Speed Demons

Kindest thanks for putting this magazine back intoour hands!There has never been a time when I havepicked up this magazine without gaining new hope,inspiration, or a tidbit to pass along to friends. Isimply love it.KELLY DEMARIOPurses With A Purpose

Have something to say? Letters are welcome via email toSharon@LNcurrents.com or karsenprice@hotmail.com; or mail toP.O. Box 1676, Cornelius, NC 28031. All correspondence shouldinclude names and full contact information. TCW reserves the rightto edit letters for clarity and brevity.

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Warm WelcomeAll of us at Today’s CharlotteWoman would like to thankreaders, contributors, photographers, and, of course, ourwonderful advertisers for offering us such a warm welcomeback into the Charlotte publishing scene this spring. From thebottom of our hearts,we can honestly say it is good to be back!We’d love to hear from you as the months go by; after all, thisis your community, and your magazine. So don’t be a stranger!

— Sharon, Fern, Karsen, Kerrie, & Joy

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Q U E E N C I T Y J E W E L S

H A P P E N I N G S Y O U D O N ’ T W A N T T O M I S S

Turn Up The HeatBurn The Floor Brings Ballroom To Life

ptly described as ballroom invented,“BurnThe Floor” is a newgeneration twist to ballroom and Latin dancing that is coming

to the BelkTheater May 16.The dance spectacular, called“the new rock ‘n’ roll”by critics,

features five new original pieces by Jason Gilkison, shaking up anyremaining preconceptions of the show.

ForecastingFashionWith Arlene Goldstein& The Mint

urious to discover the forecastfor fashion, and meet an amazingCharlottean with quotable style?

On May 18, Friends of the Mint ispresenting its May lecture, ForecastingFashionTrends, featuringArleneGoldstein, vice president of trendmerchandising and fashion direction,Belk Stores Services.Coffee is served at10 a.m.; the lecture is at 10:30.

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Walk The WalkFeel The Power

oin theTCW team and helpsupport Dress for SuccessCharlotte by participating in the

second-annual PowerWalk, a 5K walkaround Freedom Park May 12.Today’s CharlotteWoman team

members are planning to field a teamof walkers, and will be available afterthe event to talk with readers.Last year, the PowerWalk was held

in three countries and 32 cities. The2011 Charlotte PowerWalk for Dressfor Success raised more than $10,500for DFS’ ProfessionalWomen’s Group.In 2011,Dress for Success

Charlotte provided workforce pre-paredness, career retention, and/orcareer advancement programs andservices to 979 women,up from 276just five years ago.

Tinsel Town TunesCarolina Voices Takes On Hollywood

o you love the big screen? If so, don’t miss the glam, glitz, andtwinkle ofTinsel Town in“Hooray For Hollywood,”a musical

salute by Carolina Voices May 12 and 13 at McGlohonTheater. “HoorayFor Hollywood” includes renditions of some of the best-loved songs tocome out of Hollywood, including“My HeartWill Go On” from“Titantic”and“Take My BreathAway” from“Top Gun.” All selections will beperformed live along with remastered film footage and photos, allowingmusic lovers and movie aficionados alike to enjoy a unique musicalexperience.

Sing It, GirlPeyroux Does McGlohon

adeleine Peyroux, the master of“smoke and whiskey vocals,” is

coming to McGlohonTheater May 16,withspecial guest Nellie McKay in tow.Peyroux was born in Athens,Ga., and earned

her start in the quaint, acoustic streets ofEurope,where she molded her style after BillieHolliday and Bessie Smith. She is known for herintimately arranged covers of early Americanblues and jazz songs.Her oddly sparserecording career began in 1996; she is mostknown for her 2005 release“Careless Love,”byRounder Records.A $1 fee will be added to every ticket

purchased as a donation to the United FamilyServices Shelter for BatteredWomen. [TCW]

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Registration begins at 8 a.m., and the walkbegins at 9. Visit dfspowerwalk.org to register.

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Mother, May I?Celebrate Your Way This May

or many people,May is known for Cinco de Mayo,Mother’s Day, and Memorial Day. For me,May has adifferent connotation.

May is officially the month I start sucking in my gut.I happen to be fortunate enough to have a sister with the

flattest stomach ever. (Read: Sarcasm.) It’s her strong suit, likemy quads or sense of humor. I am the squishy stomach sister,and always have been. It’s not a fun title, let me tell you.It doesn’t help that I am notoriously lazy all winter.Oh sure,

I work out regularly, running, lifting weights, and riding horses— but I don’t hold in my stomach. I give my stomach a wintervacation. And in return, it gives me … nothing.That all ends on May 1, though. At that point, I know very

soon I will be somewhere in a bathing suit, preferably a two-piece, and most likely,my skinny sister will be nearby. (If youhappen to see me then and I don’t speak to you, you’ll knowwhy; it’s hard to hold your breath and talk.)Interestingly enough,my own personal appointment of May

as Gut Sucking Month hasn’t become a national holiday. Yet.But perhaps that’s because May is jam-packed with nationalcelebrations.Need a reason to celebrate this month?Take your pick …

May is officially:

• American Bike Month• National Stuttering Awareness Week (watch “The King’s Speech”in honor of this week, which falls on the second week of May)

• Asian Pacific American Heritage Month• Asparagus Month (Who knew?)• National Bar-B-Que Month & National Hamburger Month(Meat lovers everywhere, unite!)

• National Mental Health Month (You know who you are.)• National Physical Fitness Month• National Older Americans Month (This year’s theme is“Never Too Old To Play.”)

And don’t miss these important, albeit smallerhonors this month:• National Lost Sock Day, which you can celebrate to yourtootsies’ content on May 9

• National Clean Up Your Room Day, May 10• National Blueberry Cheesecake Day, May 26

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The Mint Julep,RevisitedA Twist On A Historic Drink

he first Kentucky Derby was held May 17, 1875, andthe mint julep has been the race’s official drink since1938. Even though we are a long way from Kentucky,

the month still wouldn’t be the same without a toast in honorof horse racing’s most celebrated event, the Kentucky Derby,also known as“The GreatestTwo Minutes in Sports.” Why notfollow the historical pack by trying a mint julep on for sizethis month?Traditional mint juleps are basically sugar,water, bourbon,

and mint.Try these two twists on the traditional mint julep inhonor of the 138th Kentucky Derby this month.

Mint JulepSorbetCourtesy of Emeril Lagasse,foodnetwork.com.

1 cup sugar2 cups water1/2 cup packed fresh mint leaves1/4 cup bourbon1/4 cup club sodaMint sprigs for garnish

Combine sugar,water, and mintleaves in a small saucepan andbring to a boil, stirring to dissolvethe sugar. Remove from the heatand cool to room temperature.Addthe bourbon and club soda to thecooled syrup, stirring untilcombined. Freeze mixtureaccording to manufacturer’sdirections in an ice cream freezer.

Place sorbet in a freezer-safecontainer and allow mixture tofreeze for 4 hours before serving.Garnish with fresh mint sprigs.

Orange MintJulepsCourtesy of recipe.com.

2/3 cup sugar1 cup snipped fresh mint leaves1 teaspoon shredded orange peel2 cups orange juice2/3 cup lemon juice1/3 cup bourbon or vodka(optional)Cracked ice2 cups water

Mix sugar and water in a saucepan.Bring to boiling, stirring until sugardissolves. Remove from heat; pourover mint leaves. Stir in orangepeel, orange juice, and lemon juice.

Cover; let stand at roomtemperature for 1 hour. Strainmixture through a mesh strainer;add liquor.Cover and chill up to24 hours. Serve over ice.Makes8 (4-ounce) servings.

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Mothers,Celebrate YourselfGo Extraordinary This Month

otherhood has always been one of MichelleIcard’s callings. She recalls having the urge toparent as early as age 9. “My parents and I

moved to Boston fromWashington,D.C., and our newneighbors had four kids under the age of 6,” Icard recalls.“I could not have felt more at home in their messy, loud,loving home. Every opportunity I had, I would pop in tosee if I could help take care of the kids.An only child, Iloved jumping into their beautiful chaos and playingmini-mom.”As founder of Athena’s Path & Hero’s Pursuit,

leadership programs taught in schools and summer camps,Icard knows plenty about playing mini-mom.However, sheis painfully aware of how badly mothers need to viewthemselves as people, first and foremost.“As girls,many of us believed that growing up to be a

mom would be the ultimate in fulfillment,” Icard says.“Infact, it is so profound and noble a position in life that itbecomes easy to believe it is all we need, or canaccommodate, in our busy lives.Maybe we’ll do somethingfor ourselves when the kids go to daycare.Orkindergarten.Or college.“Sometimes,” she adds,“imagining the time and energy

it would take to do things outside of our mom duties canbe daunting.”

To counter that attitude, Icard challenges women to askthemselves:• Is your husband defined by more than being a father?• Is your son defined by more than being a son?• Is your daughter defined by more than being a daughter?

She asserts that all other members of the family enjoyactivities, passions, and pursuits outside of the family. “Youknow that,” she says,“because you drive them to 90percent of those pursuits!”As such, Icard encourageswomen to reward themselves with somethingextraordinary this Mother’s Day.“Give yourself the gift of a new experience,” Icard says.

“This is not a ‘treat yourself to a mani/pedi’ kind of deal.Find some friends to go rock climbing at Inner Peaks;attend a writer’s workshop;buy tickets to a speaker series.Think big and bold!Trying something new keeps youyoung, ignites your passion, and allows you to bring all ofyour greatest potential to your family, your community,and the world itself.”

Find more tips from Michelle Icard by followingher website, MichelleintheMiddle.com.

“Give yourself the giftof a new experience.”

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Heavy MetalMake It Rose Gold

emember when gold was king?Then it became a platinum world.This spring, color is the name of

the game … and apparently that evenapplies to precious metals.According toMichelle Valcrose, sales associate at MichaelKors, Las Vegas, rose gold is the hot choicefor accessories this year. “It pulls togetheryour gold pieces,which are in style again,with your sterling silver and platinumpieces, and you wind up with a unique,warm look.”Available from DianaWarner Studio,dianawarnerstudio.com. [TCW]

Breathing FireYear Of The Dragon

heYear of the Dragon is considered to beone of the Chinese Zodiac’s luckiestyears, full of love, prosperity, and

success. (You are a Dragon if you were born in1916, 1928, 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000,or 2012.) In honor of the year of the dragon —and just in time for summer — create your ownheat,with these dragon-inspired pieces by John Hardy, themaster of edgy but sophisticated jewelry.Available from Nordstrom and fine jewelry stores.

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W O M E N M A K I N G S T R I D E S • B U S I N E S S S U C C E S S S T O R I E S

Job Changes/Promotions

Esthetician NicoleAmbrosio has joinedSignature Style Salon;Ambrosio specializesin facials,micro-dermabrasion, and lashcolor and lengthening.

Lisa Stancil waspromoted from jobdeveloper to businessdevelopmentrepresentative withGoodwill Industries ofthe Southern

Piedmont. She is responsible foridentifying new businessopportunities and employmentopportunities.

YWCA CentralCarolinas has namedMonique Martin theyouth learning centercoordinator atYWCA’snewest location,Amay James.Martinwill assist families in the communityby offering daily services designed tohelp meet the needs of school-agechildren.

YWCA CentralCarolinas also hasnamed JuliannaCanfield director offitness.Canfield willbe responsible for

directing, planning, and managing allprogram development and collab-oration in the fitness department,including aquatics, group fitness,and community education.

Carolyn Shaw has joined KirkPalmer &Thigpen, P.A. as partner.

Leslie Gillock wasnamed insightsdirector at themarketing agencyInsights Group, adivision ofWrayWard.

Cassandra Shortt has joined thetechnology account managementteam at Sherpa.

New Business/Changes

LindaWilliams has opened Le-mu-elWomen’s Couture & DesignerBoutique in JettonVillage, located at19826-A North Cove Road,Cornelius.

Freelance Journalist Jodi Helmer haslaunched a series of mentoringprograms for writers, including “The$50,000 Freelancer: Strategies ToHelp Writers Boost Their BottomLines.”Visit jodihelmer.com.

Mo2Salon has opened at 8200Providence Road, Suite 900.

Awards & Installations

JudgeYvonne MimsEvans was chosen byThe DemocraticWomen ofMecklenburg County asthe Doris Cromartie2012 Honoree; she

has been a Superior Court judge since2003, and is currently the only femaleResident Superior Court Judge inMecklenburg County.

Angela J.Mattson, chiefefficiency officer ofYour Organized GuideInc.,was namedPresident ofMatthews ExecutiveGroup for 2012.

Sheila Passenant, anattorney withWishartNorris Henninger &Pittman, P.A., hasreceived UnitedFamily Services’Commitment ofJustice Award for her work in theagency’s Legal Representation Project.Since 2009, the Project has servedover 650 victims of domestic violenceby providing them free legalrepresentation in obtaining domesticviolence restraining orders.

Sustain Charlotte has announced thewinners of its first community-widesustainability awards: June Blotnick,CleanAir Carolina, for Air Quality;Nicole Storey,City of Charlotte, forBuildings and Homes;AmandaBreeden,Michael Scott MaterFoundation, for SustainableEconomy;Helen Hilger,UNCCharlotte, for OutstandingEducator; Robin Emmons, of SowMuch Good, for Food; Ann HayesBrowning,CarolinaThreadTrail, forParks and Green Space; andTracyRuss,Crossroads Charlotte, for SocialEquity.

KatieTyler,CEO ofTyler 2 Construction,has received NAWBO-Charlotte’s 2012Community ServiceAward.

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NAWBO Notables

Delaine Mead, owner of ValuebizBusiness Furnishings & RelocationStrategies, has received the NAWBO-Charlotte Woman Business Ownerof the Year Award, given to amember who has demonstrated

strong leadership skills in growing andmanaging a successful business that is morethan five years old. Finalists for the award were:Gina Herald, Personal Success Partners; andMoira LoCascio,McLaughlinYoung.

Karen Bennetts, owner of Little RedBird, has received the NAWBO-Charlotte Rising Star Award, givento a member who has demonstratedentrepreneurial creativity in managinga business that is less than five yearsold. Finalists for the award were: JulieBee, of Bee Smart Social Media; and ShayProsser, of Get It TogetherToday. [TCW]

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Lift Your Skirts

Colorful College Garters are a fun and playful way toshow your team spirit. Perfect for weddings or

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Lovely DevotionThis astonishing cross is handmade in Israel of Swarovski crystals and semi-preciousstones. Famous the world over, Mariana’s Jewelry is designed to spiritually uplift thewearer with good energy.

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By Lee Rhodes | Photos By Michael Hernandez

Making BabiesHighly trained in laboratory and

bio-techniques, embryologists prepareegg samples and sperm, and providethe necessary conditions forfertilization and embryo developmentin vitro. Embryologists also arecertified to facilitate the growth,development,maturation, and pre-servation of human embryos. As a

result, couples facing fertilityproblems can take advantage of theadvanced scientific processesavailable today to help themreproduce.“I love what I do,” Welch says.Her career began conventionally

enough. Like many college students,she didn’t know what she wanted tobe when she grew up. While earning

Embryologist Lareina Welch HelpsCharlotte-Area Couples Conceive

Birds, bees and ... microscopes?These days, the process of making babies is not necessarily what it used

to be, and for many parents, this news is a godsend.Lareina Welch, M.S., plays a pivotal part in this modern-day, miracle-

meets-science process. As an embryologist at REACH Fertility Clinic, Welchspends her days retrieving eggs, freezing and thawing eggs and embryos,processing sperm, and more. “I love having the ability to help couples havefamilies,” Welch says. “I know how much having children changes your lifefor the better. This is truly my calling and my passion.” T

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her bachelor’s in science and biology ata NewYork state college, she chosebiotechnology as a topic for a researchpaper, and was soon fascinated bythe subject.She contacted a fertility clinic and

spoke with Dr.Robert Kiltz, founderand director of CNY Fertility Center,central NewYork’s first successfulin vitro fertilization clinic.“His ex-citement for helping couples reallyresonated with me,” she says.Welch soon accepted a position at

Boston IVF, one of the country’s leadinginfertility treatment centers.There, sheearned the requisite on-the-job trainingneeded to build a career in embryology,which is the scientific study ofembryonic development — the periodfrom fertilization until birth.Welchworked in clinics in Augusta,Ga., and

Syracuse,N.Y., before arriving inCharlotte to work at REACH a fewyears ago.In layman’s terms, after the REACH

physicians retrieve a woman’s eggs andfollicular fluid through a specializedprocedure, embryologists such asWelch view the eggs under micro-scopes.Welch isolates the egg andinjects it with sperm.Then it’s off tothe incubators for about a week todetermine if the eggs will fertilizeproperly and become embryos.

Fertility FactsA scientist at heart,Welch admits

that her field excites her. She isespecially passionate about oneadvanced reproductive technology inparticular: vitrification.Throughvitrification, scientists can instantly

freeze eggs and the embryo, in contrastto the more commonly used slow-freeze method.“The benefit is that both eggs and

embryos survive the freezing andthawing process better, and eggs do farbetter with vitrification than with slowfreezing,” Welch explains. “Freezingeggs is a growing trend for womenlooking to wait longer to havechildren.”Since more patients are freezing

eggs for later use, the data around IVFsuccess rates — which typically hoversaround 42 percent for women under35 — is changing.Welch explains thatthe single biggest fertility factor ismaternal age, although many otherissues affecting both women and mencan come into play.Welch has plenty of advice for

“I love having the ability to help couples have families. I know how much havingchildren changes your life for the better.”— Lareina Welch

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couples thinking about starting a family.Her best recommendation?“The soonerthe better,” she says.“The true biologicalclock is much different than peopleimagine, and a women is really at hermost fertile in her 20s.”She wants to clear up other

misconceptions, as well.“Going to afertility specialist doesn’t necessarilymean you’ll be doing in vitrofertilization,” she says. According toWelch, there are many other options.Patients typically start with diagnostictreatments and then move on tointrauterine insemination.Welch notes that infertility

treatments aren’t always covered byinsurance, and because of the cost,people often wait longer to try theprocedures.The good news?“Manycenters offer financing and refund

programs.There are many different waysyou can try to afford IVF,” Welch says.Ironically,while helping others

conceive is her career, on a personalnote, Welch is also currently“making ababy.” She and husband Jim areexpecting a baby boy in July; he willjoin big sister Sidonie,who is 3. Abeliever in finding the work-life balancethat best fits your life,Welch currentlyworks part time at REACH, allowing herto spend precious time with herdaughter.When she’s not working and raising

her family,Welch writes a blog,Babymakerblog.com,which focuses oneverything from fertility solutionscouples can try before they visit aspecialist to her own experiences asa mom. She also volunteers withTheSandbox, a nonprofit that joins

community resources to assist familiesin need,particularly those affected bypoverty and disease.Welch says children are ever-present

in her world.“My life is run by babies inall different aspects,” she says.“Thebalance of these two is the best of bothworlds.” [TCW]

ToLearnMoreVisit northcarolinafertility.comfor information about REACHFertility Clinic.

Lee Rhodes is a writer inWaxhaw whose “babies”are now 7 and 9.

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ExercisingTheir Options

ExercisingTheir Options

ExercisingTheir Options

ExercisingTheir Options

By Melinda Johnston | Photos By Glenn Roberson

Along with her 29-year-olddaughter and best friend,ClaryHilliard Gray, she has trademarked theHilliard Studio Method,whichpromises to trim, sculpt, and tone likenothing else around.“It’s a results-driven,powerful

workout unparalleled by any otherworkout method out there,”LizHilliard says.

The Mother Of InventionThe unique combination of Pilates,

resistance training, ballet barre work,

and cardio was developed over aperiod of months, as mother helpedprecious daughter get in shape for herwedding.The two were already close. In fact,

Clary spent much of her childhoodtraveling with her mother onmodeling assignments.“In the 1980s and ’90s, I worked all

over the Southeast, both on therunway and in print.My little girl —my future business partner — and mymother would travel with me.By thetime Clary was 9 years old, she was

At Hilliard Studio, This Mother-Daughter TeamMixes Business With Pleasure

This Mother’s Day, 6-month-old Aubrey Elizabeth Gray would like tohonor her grandmother, Liz Hilliard — if only she can get her “Gandy” to sitstill long enough.

Hilliard is not known for being sedentary. In addition to her role asgrandmother, the 58-year-old is also a wife, mother, former model, and co-owner of Hilliard Studio Method in Myers Park, one of the most successfulPilates studios in town.

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hired as my ‘dresser.’ And she was reallyquite good at it,”Hilliard says.Clary attributes her mother’s success

in life — no matter the arena — to herpositive personality. “Mom is one of themost joyful, positive creatures you’llfind,” she says.“She is passionate for lifeand gives freely this positive energy toher clients, friends, and family. All of thiswonderful sharing does need to bereplenished, so you can usually find herrecharging her battery at a movieSunday afternoons.”After Clary graduated from Charlotte

Country Day School and headed to UNCChapel Hill,Hilliard decided to hang upher high heels and go back to school, aswell. She spent a summer and fall inToronto studying with Moira Stott,creator of STOTT Pilates.Upon returning to Charlotte,Hilliard

opened a studio and taught traditionalPilates. Then Clary got engaged. She was

already power walking six days a weekand taking hot-yoga classes, but shewasn’t getting the results she desired.Clary wanted to get in tiptop shapebefore her wedding day, and so sheturned to her favorite Pilates instructorto fill in the blanks.“Clary wanted to lose a few pounds.

She came to me and asked if I couldhelp.We constructed this methodtogether, and she was my muse. Weadded resistance to basic Pilates moves,then integrated weight training, as wellas core-centric balance and stretching,”Hilliard says.“Clary ended up dropping two dress

sizes, and we had to get her weddingdress resized several times. I thought Iwas in great shape, but I dropped a dresssize, too. We quickly found out that wasthe norm.Every person who has cometo us and stuck with the program forseveral weeks has seen dramatic results.”

All In The FamilyThese days,mother and daughter are

in the best shape of their lives, anddoing what they love — together.Hilliard says Clary taught classes until

two days before she gave birth, andreturned three weeks after AubreyElizabeth arrived because she missed theworkout so much.“She was begging to come back to

work — not because her mother madeher, but because she just loves it,”Hilliardsays.“Clary and I have a symbioticrelationship.We are linked at the hip.She’s my child and the CFO. I’m hermother and the CEO. We work with ababy in the room.We’re best friends. It’sthe greatest way to have a businesspartnership.”Clary agrees.“Now that I’m a mom

myself, I have to say one of the greatestperks is to be able to run a business withthe baby on my hip — or on mom’s

“Clary and I have a symbiotic relationship. She’s my child and the CFO. I’m her mother and the CEO.We’re best friends. It’s the greatest way to have a business partnership.”— Liz Hilliard

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hip!” she says.“I feel blessed that I can bea mom and a businesswoman all at thesame time.”Later this year, the two are taking

things high-tech. Through their website,the mother/daughter team plans to offerPilates classes online, so whether you arein Australia or Alaska, you can haveaccess to the Hilliard Studio Methodthrough your iPad, computer, or othersmart device, anytime, day or night.Eventually, they hope to offerpersonalized training online to helpindividuals focus on the issues that bugthem the most, be it arms, hips, tummy,or thighs.

“We’re trying to stay ahead of theDVD market,”Hilliard says.“Technologyis changing so fast,we will be able tointeract with a much larger communitywithout diluting our brand.We will stilldo face-to-face classes in Charlotte, butwith our website,we can branch outand serve clients across the world.”And they can do all of that

together. [TCW]

ToLearnMoreVisit hilliardstudiomethod.comor call 704/236-3377.

Wise Words

Liz Hilliard offers thefollowing advice on stayingyoung as the years pass by:

• Age is a badge of honor.The older you get, the moreyou need to own it.

• Get off your bottom! Standup, get out of your chair, andwalk around. If you’re sittingdown, you’re getting old.

• Find the thing you love todo and do it. “Quit makingexcuses and just do it —write, paint, travel, whateverit is,” Hilliard says. “If youdo what your heart desires,it will keep you excited andyoung and passionateabout life.”

Writer Melinda Johnston, an avid runner and grandmother, was so inspiredby this story that she took Liz Hilliard’s advice to heart and wrote the entirestory standing up.

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ntil recently, the Tempranillo grape has kept itsname out of the headlines. That doesn’t mean youhaven’t sipped on a glass or two, it just means thatthe grape didn’t toot its own horn too loudly. That’s beginning to change.

Tempranillo is the workhorse grape of northern Spain,but its name rarely appears on wine labels from thatregion. Like most Old World wines, the majority of Spanish

wines are named for the region they come from rather than thegrape that’s in them. There is an excellent chance that in your wine-tasting moments, you’ve stumbled across a wine from the Riojaregion of Spain. If you have, you’ve already made friends withTempranillo. If you haven’t, it’s time to get acquainted.Rioja wines are typically blended, but Tempranillo plays the major

role, making up 70 percent or more. The other players are Garnacha,Graciono, and Mazuelo. There used to be a French influence withthe use of Cabernet Sauvignon, but that faded as growers figured outthat local Spanish grapes produced an excellent wine.

Some Like It HotTempranillo (and its friends) thrive in the hot, almost desert-like

conditions in Rioja — and that shows through in the wines. A deepred-black color, they scream out the character of the climate they aregrown in. There’s lots of fruit on the nose: blackberries, blueberries,and raspberries. There’s a little bitterness or harshness … almost acharcoal aroma. These are definitely mouth-filling, “meaty” wineswith lots of structure that comes from the grape’s tannin. And thatstructure stays around to the finish. On the palate the wine is spicy — sweet, peppery fruit with

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Some of the depth of character ofRioja wines comes from their aging.On the label of some of the wines,you’ll see the words Crianza, Reserva,or Gran Reserva. These designationstell you how long the wine has beenaged in an oak barrel, and then in abottle. Crianza wines are aged for 12months in a barrel, and 12 moremonths in a bottle. At the higher level,Gran Reserva wines are aged 24months in a barrel, and then 36months in a bottle. Reserva and GranReserva wines are deeper and morecomplex due to this extra aging time.

Chillin’ OutWhat shapes the character of Rioja

wines is the Ebro River. The vineyardsof the region are found on thenorthern and southern slopes alongthe river. A little farther south isanother river that gives its own,distinct character to wine — theDuero River. This wine is also mademainly from the Tempranillo grape.The name of the wine is Ribera delDuero, which means “the riverbanksof the Duero in the Duero Valley.” TheDuero River flows into Portugal on itsway to the Atlantic Ocean. It is hometo the vineyards that produce grapesfor Portugal’s famous Port wine. Ribera del Duero is all about

altitude. The region is at 2,300 to3,300 feet elevation, which is thehighest average elevation in Europefor growing vines. In comparison,Rioja’s more rugged topography hasgorgeous mountain vistas, yet most ofits vineyards lie between 1,300 to2,000 feet elevation. Ribera’s altitude has a great

influence on its wine. There is plentyof clear air, with more than 2,400hours of sunlight per year. During thesummer there is a huge diurnal swing;the vineyards experience temperaturefluctuations ranging from 100 degreesduring the day to 50 degrees at night.The cool night temperatures do twothings: 1) They slow down ripening —meaning, more hang time for thegrapes to develop their flavorcomponents, and 2) they allow grapesto build up a good level of acidity.

These are exactly the right conditionsfor producing deep, complex wines.Inevitably, Ribera del Duero is

compared to the Rioja region. The twowines are both made mostly fromTempranillo. Ribera del Duero winesare subtler than their Rioja siblings.The goal of many of the winemakersin Ribera del Duero is toward aBurgundian style rather than aBordeaux style — which means morenuance than power. The wines are a rich, red color. The

aromas are refined. There are scents ofripe strawberries, chocolate, and figs.The supple tannins and acidity createa velvety feel in the mouth. There’s afloral aspect of violets, and the fruitsare brighter than those found in Rioja.In the background there’s a bit ofearthiness. All of this leads to a longand satisfying finish. One grape, two regions that shape

its character. Terrific.

California, Here I ComeTempranillo is branching out a little

bit. And, if you’re a grapevine, wherebetter to set down some roots thanCalifornia? It is, however, a bit of awork in progress, as winemakers tryto find the growing conditions thatcan coax the best out of the grape. An area where winemakers are

getting it right is Paso Robles. BodegasPaso Robles has a goal of producingwines using Spanish and Portuguesevarietals, and they make blends ofTempranillo, as well as a wine with100 percent Tempranillo.An indication of how this grape

might become a star in California isthe fact that the prestigious Jarviswinery is getting on board. Jarvisproduces premium Napa ValleyCabernet Sauvignon and other wines.They are now producing wines madefrom 100 percent Tempranillo grapes.And so it seems that the shy grape isfinally ready to stand up and benoticed for its rich complexity. [TCW]

On the palatethe wine is

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spice within thewine.

Unlike the Tempranillo grape, shyness is nota Trevor Burton attribute — check out thatbow tie! However, the certified sommelierdoes like to get away from the grandeur thatcan make the world of wine intimidating.

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Homemade

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inco de Mayo might mean an easy excuse forwarm chips, fresh salsa, and salt-rimmedmargaritas — but what about the rest of May

… and the rest of summer? There’s no reason you can’thave fresh salsa every day, especially with the ripening offresh tomatoes right around the corner.The important thing to remember is, you can make

homemade salsa!Or so says Kristin Stone, who owns Unity Farms in Iron

Station, N.C., with her husband, Jason. In fact, Stone saysit’s quite simple to pull off a spectacular salsa. “Salsa is notcomplicated,” she says. >

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Tomato, To-mah-toMaking fresh salsa is a common

practice for Stone, so much so that shedoesn’t follow a recipe. She simplygrabs a handful of fresh tomatoes andmixes it with cilantro, onion, andpeppers, all produced from her ownfarm. Salsa ingredients are available forpurchase on Tuesdays from her standat Meeting Street Market at CedarWalk. (Visit meetingstreetmarket.comfor directions.)Stone encourages creativity with

salsa concoctions, but there is oneingredient she insists upon. “Cilantrois the key ingredient to any salsa,” she says.But what about those who don’t

like cilantro? (Yes, they do exist.) Forthose, Stone says to add her other“secret ingredient” … cumin.“It’s the something that people

notice because it just adds a specialtouch,” Stone says.Then, of course, there are those red,

ripe tomatoes to chop or puree, de-pending on how you like your salsa —chunky or smooth. Stone suggests “anice ripe tomato.” But you don’t wantit too ripe or your salsa will be mushy.“ You want it to have a texture to it,”she explains.Stone prefers roma tomatoes

because they contain less water thanyour traditional heirloom tomatoes.She especially likes black plumtomatoes for their sweetness.

Tools & TechniquesChef Susan Batten, a senior

instructor at Johnson & WalesUniversity, offers techniques forpreparing fresh salsa. First, use scissorsto clip herbs such as cilantro. Sharpknives are safest, and “for those whodon’t cook much, a serrated knife isgreat for tomatoes,” she says.When it comes to those pesky

peppers, be careful! Batten sayswashing hands afterward is a must;

better yet, she suggests wearingplastic gloves. She offers specificadvice on how to cut the peppers.“Remove ribs and seeds from

chiles, which is where the capsaicin[the hot stuff] is the mostconcentrated,” she says. “Cut peppersin half, scrape out the membrane andseeds, cut into thin strips, and then cutstrips into cubes.”And whatever you do, “Don’t rub

your eyes!” she cautions.If you want a little sweet to go with

the spice, why not whip up a salsawith peaches? Peach stands will bepopping up soon, and when they do,you’ll be able to enjoy the sweetnessof fresh peach salsa with your favoritepork, fish, or chicken dishes. If youlike, go ahead and scoop it up with asalty pita chip.Here are a couple of recipes to get

you started. But remember, as Stonesuggests, “It’s not an exact science.”Don’t be afraid to tweak the recipesuntil you find the right combinationfor you.

Tunes ToSalsa ByHere’s a suggested song list to bring out your inner spice girl:

“Tequila,” by The Champs

“Hips Don’t Lie,” by Shakira

“No Shoes, No Shirt, No Problems,”by Kenny Chesney

“Bamboleo,” by The Gipsy Kings

“Hot Hot Hot,” by Buster Poindexter

Anything by Gloria Estefan

recipesFrom Simple To Spectacular

Salsa MexicanaCourtesy of Rick Bayless, owner of Frontera Grill; rickbayless.com.

1/2 medium white onion, choppedHot green chiles to taste (usually 1 to 2serranos or 1 small jalapeno), stemmed,seeded, and finely chopped12 ounces chopped red ripe tomatoes(about 2 medium-to-small round, or 4 to 5 plum)2 to 3 tablespoons chopped freshcilantro (thick bottom stems cut off)About 2 tablespoons fresh lime juice

Chop the onion and tomatoes into 1/4inch pieces. Carefully remove the stemsand seeds (if you wish) from thejalapenos and finely chop. Scoop theonion into a strainer, rinse under cold tapwater, shake off the excess, and transferto a medium bowl. Add the peppers,tomatoes, cilantro, and lime. Stir well,taste and season with salt, usually about1/2 teaspoon. Cover and refrigerate untilyou are ready to serve.

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Mango And Peach SalsaCourtesy of Sunny Anderson; foodnetwork.com.

2 peaches, peeled and medium diced1 mango, peeled and medium diced1/2 cup chopped red onion1 jalapeno, seeded and finely chopped1 teaspoon fresh lime juice1 tablespoon vegetable oil1/4 cup chopped fresh cilantroSalt and freshly ground black pepper

Toss all the peaches, mango, onions, jalapeno, lime juice, oil,and cilantro together in a large bowl. Season with salt andpepper and refrigerate at least 1 hour before serving.

Note: If the fruit is under-ripe, toss with some lime juice and1 tablespoon sugar. Set aside to macerate for 15 minutesbefore adding the other ingredients and refrigerating.

Mild Green Chile SalsaCourtesy of Joyce Robertson.

South Charlotte’s Joyce Robertson has been preparing this salsa for over 20 years. “Every time I have an office get-together, this is what people want,” she says. “I have to make it.”When you want to share your salsa with friends and

family, this is the way to go, especially if you grow tomatoesand have a bumper crop. It involves canning, but you’vecome this far, so why not take it to the next level?

10 fresh jalapeno peppers, or 3 (4 ounce) cans chopped green chiles8 pounds firm, ripe tomatoes, chopped(Note: Place the chopped tomatoes in a colander to let thejuice drain. You don’t need this juice because the tomatoeswill make enough juice once they cook.)3 cups chopped onions1 cup chopped green bell pepper1/4 cup lemon juice6 tablespoons distilled white vinegar4 teaspoons dried leaf oregano3/4 tablespoon saltDash of garlic powder

Clean and coarsely chop the fresh hot peppers, if using. Setaside. (Save some of the seeds depending on how hot youwant the salsa to be.) Coarsely chop the tomatoes. In a largepot, combine the hot peppers and tomatoes with theremaining ingredients. Bring to a boil, cover, lower heat andsimmer 5 minutes. If you want the salsa “hotter,” add some ofthe saved hot jalapeno pepper seeds to the mixture.

Working with one jar at a time, ladle in salsa, leaving 1/4 inchspace from the top of the jar. Wipe rim of jar clean with adamp cloth, and attach lid following manufacturer’sdirections. Place filled jar in canner. Repeat with remainingjars. Process in a boiling water bath 45 minutes. Yields 8 pints.

Note: Refer to the foodnetwork.com for specific instructionson canning; search for “how to preserve.” [TCW]

Victoria Moreland is a freelance writer who constantlyfound herself hungry while working on this feature. She’slooking forward to the bounty of tomatoes in her gardenand all the fresh salsa she can eat.

Shop, Don’t ChopNo time to make your own? According to Epicurious.com, these chunky-style salsas fared the best on taste tests:

Gringo Mountain Gringo Salsa

Tostitos Chunky Salsa

Pace Chunky Salsa

Frontera Chunky Tomato Salsa

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here’s an old adage, “It’s a man’s world,” but we beg todiffer. From a grimy street corner to a smiling child to the curve

of metal and concrete high in a Carolina blue sky, we believe that theidea of “woman” radiates within the tiniest of details. It is this quality

that makes our city — and world — a better place. The levity and passionand utter strength that is femininity can be found everywhere. You onlyneed know where to look.

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Angels: The epitome of eternal, gracious femininity.

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Faith and the Firebird.

There’s a “Queen” in all of us.

For the beauty of the earth.

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Green beans equal grandma.

For the beauty of the earth.

Girl power.

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HealthFlashW H A T Y O U N E E D T O K N O W T O S T A Y F I T A N D W E L L

COMPILED BY DANA DURHAM

Organic Foods Are They Really Healthier?

e’ve all heard that organic fruits and vegetables aresuperior in nutrients compared to traditionally farmedfoods. In fact, there are times when I have decided not

to buy produce simply because it wasn’t organic.Apparently, any veggie is a good veggie. A 2009 analysis by the

London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine of 46 relatedstudies found that “there is no evidence of a difference innutrient quality between organically and conventionallyproduced foodstuffs.” According to Alan D. Dangour’s report in the American

Journal of Clinical Nutrition, “A small number of differences innutrient content exist between organically and conventionallyproduced foodstuffs, [but] whereas these differences in contentare biologically plausible, they are unlikely to be of public healthrelevance.”In other words, don’t put down that red pepper just because

you can’t find an organically grown one. When it comes to fruits and vegetables, not eating enough is a

bigger concern for Americans. A diet rich in fruits and vegetables— whether organically or conventionally grown — is the key togood health; it has been shown to have positive effects onobesity, heart disease, digestive health, and certain types of cancer.

New studies have discovered even greater benefits from thephytochemicals found in fruits and vegetables, suggesting theyplay a greater role in human health than previously thought.Worried about pesticides on your produce? Then give theResidue Consumption Calculator a whirl atsafefruitsandveggies.com/calculator/. The guide helpscalculate how many fruits and vegetables a person wouldhave to consume to come close to reaching a harmfulpesticide residue level. And a 2008 USDA report foundthat 98 percent of fruit and vegetable samples had nodetectable residue levels.Still worried? Take necessary precautions. Wash allproduce thoroughly to remove any residing bacteria, dirt,and pesticides. Rinse all fresh fruits and vegetables underrunning tap water, including those with skins or rindsthat aren’t consumed. Then, eat up. Your body will thankyou for it.

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Sleep Less, Eat More?Get Your Zzzzz’s Or Risk Overeating

re you sleep deprived? A recent study presented to theAmerican Heart Association suggests you might beeating more as a result.

In the study, 17 healthy men and women were split into twogroups and studied for eight nights. The control group receivedtheir normal amount of sleep; the other group was allowed onlytwo-thirds of their typical amount of shut-eye. All participantswere allowed to eat as much as they wanted during the study.Those in the sleep-deprived group slept one hour and 20

minutes less each night than those in the control group. Theyalso consumed an average of 549 additional calories per day.Both groups burned relatively the same amount of energy foractivity, proving false the idea that those who are awake longerburn more calories during the day.The study found that a lack of sleep was associated with

increased levels of leptin and decreased levels of ghrelin, both ofwhich are appetite-associated hormones. However, the changein hormones was found to be a result of overeating rather thanthe cause of overeating.“Sleep deprivation is a growing problem, with 28 percent of

adults now reporting that they get six or fewer hours of sleepper night,” says study co-author Dr. Andrew Calvin, a cardiologyfellow and assistant professor of medicine at the Mayo Clinic.The study was small, and therefore needs more research

before a cause-and-effect relationship can be proved. But just tobe safe, you might want to give your body the sleep it needs.

You Beat Cancer… Now WhatFocus On Total Health

study presented at the AmericanAssociation for Cancer Research’sannual meeting revealed that

nearly half of cancer survivors die ofsomething other than cancer. After a cancer diagnosis, patients tend

to get tunnel vision, working hard to beatthe known enemy. However, this oftenleads patients to overlook other healthproblems. As a result, researchers areurging cancer survivors to pay closerattention to all aspects of their health asthey age.

The study followed 1,800 cancersurvivors over the course of more than 18years, and found that 776 of the patientsdied. Of those, 51 percent eventually diedfrom cancer, and 49 percent died fromother conditions.“After the detection of cancer, clinicians

and cancer survivors pay less attention tothe prevention and treatment of otherdiseases and complications,” says leadresearcher Dr. Yi Ning, assistant professor inthe department of epidemiology andcommunity health at Virginia Common-wealth University in Richmond. “Weshouldn’t neglect other aspects of healthbecause we are focused on cancer andoverlook other chronic conditions.”The longer a person had survived after

the initial cancer diagnosis, the more likelythey were to die from another illness. Ofthose who died during the study periodfrom a condition other than cancer, 33percent had been diagnosed with cancerwithin the previous five years. A whop-ping 63 percent had been diagnosed 20years earlier.

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“After the detection of cancer, clinicians and cancer survivors payless attention to the preventionand treatment of other diseases.”

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HealthFlash

Attention, Rheumatoid Arthritis Patients Opt For Aggressive Treatment

pdated treatment guidelines from theAmerican College of Rheumatologysuggest that people in the early stages of

rheumatoid arthritis should receive moreaggressive treatment from the moment they areinitially diagnosed.More than 1 million Americans have

rheumatoid arthritis, a chronicdisease that causes pain andswelling in the lining of joints.Three-quarters of thosediagnosed are women. The guidelines were

published in Arthritis Care &Research, and are the result ofemerging opinions that RA-related joint damage isirreversible. Likewise, early,intensive treatment helpspreserve patients’ physicalfunction, quality of life, and abilityto work.The updated treatment

recommendations guide doctors inthe use of two main classes ofrheumatoid arthritis treatment:disease-modifying anti-rheumaticdrugs and biologic agents.“With so many new advances in

the treatment of RA since 2008, itwas important to updaterecommendations now as the fieldstrives to better control diseaseprogression and improve quality oflife,” says guidelines principalinvestigator Dr. Jasvinder Singh, anassociate professor of immunologyand rheumatology at the University of Alabama at Birmingham. “The newguidelines offer for the first time guidance on how and when to switch betweendrug classes.”

Put That Packaged Food Down!Blame Your Bad Moods On Trans Fats

eeling grouchy? It might be allthose trans fats you just ate.Trans fatty acids, found in

baked goods, fried foods, and otherprepared snacks and foods, might betied with negative and evenaggressive behavior, according to astudy by the University of California,San Diego School of Medicine.In the study, published online in

PLoS ONE, researchers found aconnection between the amount oftrans fats people consumed and theirlevels of irritability, impatience, andbelieve it or not, aggression.Researchers analyzed the diet and

behavior of 945 men and women, andconsidered other possible contri-buting factors, such as eachparticipant’s history of aggression andalcohol and tobacco use.The study explains that dietary

trans fats are “primarily products ofhydrogenation, a chemical processthat makes [unsaturated] oils solid atroom temperature.” Previous researchhas linked dietary trans fatty acids toadverse health effects on lipids (suchas cholesterol), metabolic function,insulin resistance, inflammation, andcardiac and general health.Study leader Dr. Beatrice Golomb,

an associate professor in the UC SanDiego department of medicine, saysthat higher levels of trans fatty acidsin the diet were “significantlyassociated with greater aggression.”Dr. Golomb adds, “If the association

between trans fats and aggressivebehavior proves to be causal, this addsfurther rationale to recommendationsto avoid eating trans fats, or includingthem in foods provided at institutionslike schools and prisons, since thedetrimental effects of trans fats mayextend beyond the person whoconsumes them to affect others.”

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recent study in Medicine &Science in Sports & Exercisereveals that those who are

physically active have a lower risk ofdying due to dementia. In the study, researchers assessed the

health of more than 45,000 men andnearly 15,000 women, ages 20 to 88years. The study grouped the Americansinto one of three fitness categories —low, middle, or high. After an average follow-up of 17

years, about 4,050 participants died. Ofthose deaths, 164 were attributed todementia (72 due to vascular dementia;92 due to Alzheimer’s disease). Of those 164 deaths, 123 of the

people were in the low-fitness group, 23were in the middle-fitness group, and 18persons fit in the high-fitness group.Researchers concluded that those in

the high- and medium-fitness groups hadless than half the risk of dying as thosein the low-fitness group.“These findings support physical-

activity promotion campaigns byorganizations such as the Alzheimer’sAssociation, and should encourageindividuals to be physically active,” saysstudy author Riu Liu. Liu conducted the study as part of

her dissertation at the University ofSouth Carolina, and is now apostdoctoral fellow at the U.S. NationalInstitute of Environmental HealthSciences.In the United States, deaths

associated with heart disease, breastcancer, and stroke have declined inrecent years; however, deaths related todementia and Alzheimer’s have risen 46percent between 2002 and 2006. [TCW]

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hen my motherexperiencedsudden-onset

dementia at age 63,I was unprepared for

the changes her illnesswould bring to my life. I was 40 yearsold, and when people asked if I hadchildren, I’d grown used to answering,“Yes, the fuzzy kind,” in reference to mytwo golden retrievers. I never expectedto become a parent.Until her hospitalization, my mother

had been self-sufficient: living alone,driving, managing her own finances.Unfortunately, 20 years of alcoholismhad taken its toll on her, and when shestopped eating — and kept drinking —it didn’t take long for her body to shut

down. After a three-week hospital stayin Georgia, she remained incontinent,unable to walk, and delusional. She wasunable to form new memories, and theneurologist indicated that her recoverywould be slow and incomplete.Faced with this daunting prognosis, I

admitted my mother to a skilled nursingfacility near my home in Charlotte. Ispent six hours a day with her, but it wasseldom enough. The nursing home calledevery time she fell, and every time shebecame combative or tried to escape inher wheelchair. For her protection, thestaff fitted her with a WanderGuardankle monitor that locked the exteriordoors if she got too close. Whennighttime approached and her anxietyincreased, she would often call mecrying. “I want to go home,” she’d say.“They’ve stolen my wallet, my cellphone, my keys.” I always drove over to

see her, and when she remainedinconsolable, we cried together.Over time, the situation stabilized. My

brother Everett took charge of repairingmy mother’s house in Georgia so wecould sell it. He handled the contractorsand the real estate agent, and whenever Ineeded a sympathetic ear, he listened.My husband kept me sane andorganized. And after months of physicaltherapy, my mother learned to walkagain. Only short distances, and sherequired supervision, but it was progress.Her strength and balance improved, andher hallucinations faded. Her memory, though, remained

a mess. “Oh, Tamara, look at these,” she said

one day when we were shopping in

Marshalls. “These shoes are adorable.”The black and tan saddle oxfords lookedlike something she might have worn inthe 1950s. I helped her find her size andwe put the shoes in our cart. Twentyminutes later, we were headed for thecheckout line and we passed the shoesagain. “Oh, look!” she exclaimed. “Lookhow cute these are. Do you think theyhave my size?” I opened the box we’d already

selected. “They sure do, Mom,” I said.“You picked these out a few minutesago.” She laughed, unfazed by her mistake.

“Well, I guess you know I really likethem!” she said.Not long after that, my husband and I

returned from a vacation to Ashevilleand discovered that my mother hadbeen causing trouble at the nursinghome. She’d been caught using her nail

clippers to help another patient cut offhis WanderGuard monitor. Her missingmonitor turned up in the toiletries bin inher room. I scolded her after theclippers had been taken away. “Mom,what you did was very dangerous,” I told her.She held up her leg and pointed to

the replacement monitor. “I had thisthing off for three days,” she said. “Icould go out onto the front porchanytime I wanted. It was great!” I couldn’t help it. I laughed. This was

the mother I remembered fromchildhood. The funny, resourceful momwho used to unwrap her Christmaspresents while my father was at work,then wrap them up again so that theylooked untouched.

It’s been 18 months since I broughtmy mother to Charlotte, and she remainschildlike in many ways. When I take herout, I carry a purse large enough to holdher Depend underwear. She’s easilydistracted, and I have to watch herclosely in parking lots. But I’ve dis-covered that her memory loss has anupside, too. Every Dairy Queen Blizzardthat we eat is the best one she’s evertasted. Every trip to Freedom Park is herfavorite. She has shown me both thepitfalls and the joys of parenting, and those are lessons I would havemissed. [TCW]

Tamara Titus is a recipient of theNorth Carolina Writers Fellowship infiction. She is a full-time writer andpart-time caregiver who shares hermother’s passion for dessert.

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