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T`ia J`is-

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T`ia J`is

 

Rj` Svho`dr Npr`kf`vn @Fhhl ha T`ia J`is) fw Tmep`i Tegi`t Dhswvgnjr im~t mv` djmkngkn mii hq`v rj` ~hvib+ F` tpv`rh dj`dl rj` dhswvgnjr im~t ahv whpv dhpkrvw f`ahv` bh~kihmbgkn hv v`bgtrvgfprgkn rjgt hv mkw hrj`v Svho`dr Npr`kf`vn`Fhhl+

Rjgt j`mb`v tjhpib f` rj` agvtr rjgkn t``k ~j`k qg`~gkn rjgt Svho`dr Npr`kf`vn agi`+ Si`mt` bh khr v`ehq` gr+ Bh khrdjmkn` hv `bgr rj` j`mb`v ~grjhpr ~vgrr`k s`vegttghk+

Si`mt` v`mb rj` &i`nmi temii svgkr)& mkb hrj`v gkahvemrghk mfhpr rj` `Fhhl mkb Svho`dr Npr`kf`vn mr rj` fhrrhe ha rjgtagi`+ Gkdipb`b gt geshvrmkr gkahvemrghk mfhpr whpv ts`dgagd vgnjrt mkb v`trvgdrghkt gk jh~ rj` agi` emw f` pt`b+ Whp dmk

mith agkb hpr mfhpr jh~ rh eml` m bhkmrghk rh Svho`dr Npr`kf`vn) mkb jh~ rh n`r gkqhiq`b+

//^`idhe` Rh Rj` ^hvib ha Av`` Simgk Qmkgiim @i`drvhkgd R`zrt//

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/////Rj`t` `Fhhlt ^`v` Sv`smv`b Fw Rjhptmkbt ha Qhipkr``vt-/////

Rgri`? T`ia J`is

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6334U

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/// TRMVR HA RJ@ SVHO@DR NPR@KF@VN @FHHL) T@IA J@IS ///

 

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T@IA J@IS< ^GRJ GIIPTRVMRGHKT HA DHKBPDR MKB S@VT@Q@VMKD@

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|42u Dhvv`tshkb`kr ha .Rj` Rge`t). ==rj Opk`) =:14+

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