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Chat• Nuller17: I think Justin is dropdead gorgeous. His new track kicks ass! Danish

music sucks.• Sultan: Gross guy, but cool song ;-) … but nothing beats Barry White!• Sweetleg: As always Justin’s come up with the goods again. I look forward to

sweating on the dance floor with the girls this weekend. Hope “Shave my head” is played a load of times.

• Pearl: Chill, Sweetleg, the track is not that cool. I think Justin is too gross. What a pop gayboy.

• Guru: Agree, Pearl. Far too much bubblegum pop. What r u into?• Pearl: Hi Guru. I’m crazy about Tokio Hotel!• Guru: Yeah, they r cool. What do u like about them?• Pearl: Cool style, wicked tracks, u like them 2?• Guru: U bet. Got almost everything by them here on my computer.• Pearl: Weee … cool. My folks won’t let me keep that stuff on my computer.• Guru: Why not?• Pearl: My dad won’t have it.• Guru: What?!

Chat• Pearl: yeah, he kinda strict… • Guru: pain in the ass.• Pearl: • Guru: Is it because he doesn’t like Tokio Hotel? • Pearl: No, u moron... He just wants to have his way, always• Guru: Well, old folks can be like that. … Does he want to decide if u

can listen to Tokio Hotel?• Pearl: No, but he sure doesn’t like them• Guru: Ok, not cool :-( • Pearl: Nope • Guru: I hate it when they tell me there is something I can’t do. Then I

usually just chat, like here at MusicTalk.• Pearl: Yeah, it’s cool to yak a bit ;-)• Guru: But how can ur dad decide what u store on your computer. No

computer in ur room?

Chat• Pearl: We got two, but they r in the living room and in his office• Guru: Oops …• Pearl: Yeah• Geek: We got seven computers at home. They are all over the place …• Guru: Yeah … Hey, just went to check out ur profile. What a great

pic. ;-) U a model?• Pearl: No, but I’ve thought of becoming one• Guru: Well, u sure got the looks• Pearl: Thanx ;-)• Guru: Seriously, it’s a cool profile u made. Just can’t see what

interests u, apart from Tokio Hotel?• Pearl: Well, this and that. Movies and music• Prinzez: Remember this is a music chat. No-one else wants to join in

when u2 don’t stick to the topic. Or u can go to “free chat”!

Chat• Guru: OK. The topic is also make-out music. U got ur fave make out music?• Pearl: Well, I’ve been making out so much, I forgot to pay attention to the

music ;-)• Guru: lol … nice one. To think that u r both pretty and funny.• Pearl: Well, I’m off• Guru: Ok. See ya pretty Pearl – perhaps on the free chat• Pearl: Yeah, perhaps

What would you do now?

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Three months later …

Chat• Pearl: Done with school for now, I’m gearing up for the weekend. But what

should I do? Come on guys, gimme some ideas!• Geek: Gotta get wasted and party ;-) If you live in Sealand, there’s a party at

the “frie gymnasium” high school!• Paco: Get a grip, Geek, she is only 14 – look at her profile before u invite. We

don’t wanna hang out with kiddies who must be home in bed by 11!• Pearl: Fuck u jerks. As if I’d ever want to hang out with u guys.• Guru: Hi pretty. Yeah, u better stay off those pissheads who just wanna drink

until they puke. I mean, how much fun is it to down a cheap bag of supermarket beer, and get so pissed you throw up and shit your pants at the same time?

• Pearl: lol, nice one, Guru. U so dam funny ;-)• Paco: Fuck urselves assholes …(Paco logs off)• Guru: Now he got pissed off. Just so that u know, Pearl, not all guys r like that.

At least I’m not …• Pearl: I know that ;-)• Guru: Anyway, wassup, no plans for the weekend?

Chat• Pearl: Nah, not really. It also depends on what my folks say.• Guru: Oh well. Ur foster dad still doesn’t trust u?• Pearl: No, he such a drag – never lets me do anything!• Guru: Get into the fight now, sweetie…. U 14, soon 15. Gotta live a little.

And they r not even your real parents. Beauty queen, such a clever girl like you who just put two gross guys in their place in this chat, surely u can deal with an old man like your foster dad 2.

• Pearl: Well, it’s not that simple, and it was with ur help that those two from before just left …

• Guru: But I’ll help you out with ur foster dad too ;-)• Pearl: How?• Guru: U home alone right now?• Pearl: Yeah, why?• Guru: Then you just bug off and leave a note about getting home later. I

always do that to my folks. It’s easier to be forgiven for something they haven’t downright forbidden.

• Pearl: But how?

Chat• Guru: Well, once ur foster dad has said no, and u go anyway, u gonna be

in trouble, right? But if u don’t ask, and just go to the party, u can always say u thought this didn’t apply on Fridays, or whatever …

• Geek: That’s right. I still use that one • Guru: Yep, there you go ;-)• Pearl: Well, I dunno …• Guru: No, it might be a little tough. It’s a big deal to head for a party when

u fear ur foster dad as much as u do :-/• Pearl: Ok … perhaps I will …• Guru: R u often home alone, actually?• Pearl: Always a couple of hours in the afternoon. Why?• Guru: Oh well, nothing much. I just thought u don’t have to go there

tonite. But another day. When there is a really cool party on, or something that you wanna go to.

• Pearl: Ok• Guru: BTW, u still wanna be a model?• Pearl: Yes, why?

Chat• Guru: Friend of mine works at an advertising agency in Cph. And I know they r

looking for models. Perhaps u should send them a picture of urself?• Pearl: Sounds cool• Guru: And u know … models go to cool parties ;-)• Pearl: U say friend of urs. How old r u then?• Guru: A little older than u, but not much.• Pearl: Hey, come on... how much?• Guru: 18 – why u wanna know?• Pearl: Just thought u were younger. Now we’ve chatted a bit for some months

and... I just thought so.• Guru: Perhaps we seem the same age, because u r so mature!• Pearl: Perhaps …• Guru: I think u r, at least. And with the looks of a model!• Pearl: Thanx … where do I send the pic?• Guru: To advertising agency “Jing & Jak”. Just write att: Mikkel on the envelope.

And remember ur email or something.

Chat• Pearl: Ok• Prinzez: Come on u2, u know u can’t share out that info on this chat. Cut it

out!!!• Pearl: Chill, man.• Guru: Ok (logs off)• Prinzez: Gonna have to ban u for 2 weeks. That’ll teach u. This is no dating

agency …

What would you do now?

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Another three months later …

Chat• Pearl: I just saw and heard the latest Tokio Hotel live clip on Youtube. Wow, it

rocks …• PetraX. I hate Tokio Hotel – the lead singer is just too gross• Pearl: Well, so r u …• PetraX: U don’t know shit about that. U don’t know me …• Guru: I think they rock too …• PetraX: Shitty chat• Guru: Then go find another chat room!• PetraX: Both of u r jerks! (logs off)• Guru: Off she went … Great to hear from u again Pearl.• Pearl: Thanx …• Guru: Where u been? You left MSN for over two weeks.• Pearl: Autumn vacations just finished, and then something’s been up with the

net access. Some cables being dug up or something…• Guru: Ok, so where r u writing from now?

Chat• Pearl: From the youth club.• Guru: Ok, but u can get on MSN from the club’s computer. Actually, you can log

on to MSN from anywhere.• Pearl: I know. But haven’t got around to it. A few probs with my dad again.• Guru: Oh no. We should talk it through some time. Will u be back on MSN soon?• Pearl. Yep, should be ready tonight.• Guru: Ok. Just looked at ur pics again the other day. Dam, you look great.

Especially in bikini • Pearl: Thanx. Did you see the new Tokio Hotel clip on Youtube?• Guru: Yeah, wicked. I went to a Release Party with them not so long ago.• Pearl: Nice! *S* [smile]• Guru: Yeah – unbelievable! You’d have loved it• Pearl: U bet! How did u do that?• Guru: As u know, I work in advertising, so I know the manager a little. Got loads

of merchandise• Pearl: Merchandise?

Chat• Guru: U know, t-shirts, key hangers, CDs and all sorts of stuff• Pearl: Lucky bastard ;-) It’s cool that u work in advertising• Guru: Yep … if u r as much Tokio Hotel fan as u say then why don’t u

try to look like the lead singer?• Pearl: I’ve only dyed my hair black!• Guru: He he! I just get tanked up with them ;-)• Pearl: Sounds cool ;-)• Guru: Yeah, that was a cool nite *S* [smile]• Pearl: *NS* [naughty smile]• Guru: I’ve got some stuff left over, including a signed copy of their

latest CD. Should I send it to u?• Pearl: Weeeeeee – sure, that’d be amazing!• Guru: And Café Pust downtown is soon inviting to a Tokio Hotel Jam.

U gotta go. Just do the trick about going out without saying so.• Pearl: ?

Chat• Guru: Yeah, u know, the thing we talked about, leaving a note about getting home

later.• Pearl: Ah, that. Dunno really …• Guru: Come on. I’ll take care of u, and then u get ur merchandise• Pearl: OK. Weee … cool!• Guru: We can just agree a meeting place and time later. I know what u look like

from ur pictures …• Pearl: And I don’t know what u look like.• Guru: No, but u will• Prinzez: It’s not allowed to share personal info of that type in this chat room.

Remember, this is a music chat and not a dating agency.• Pearl: Fuck u Prinzez• Prinzez: Speak and behave properly, Pearl, or I close down ur profile! I have put u

in quarantine before• Pearl: What do u mean? It’s u who r meddling like mad, wanker• Prinzez: Well, then I’ll close down ur profile and strip u of your rights for at least

14 days. Then u can find urself a net lover somewhere else. Crazy to think that u sent pictures of urself to him. It’s ur own fault then…

Chat• Guru: Easy now, we r not net lovers• Pearl: come Guru, let’s log on to MSN and fix the details. Looking forward to

seeing u ;-)• Guru: Ok• Prinzez: Here are the chat rules for MusicTalk, which are on our main page,

and which explain why I am closing u down now, Pearl.• Rules of MusicTalk:• You must not pass on personal information on the chat• You must not be racist or discriminate• You must not have cybersex or date• You must accept and respect the moderator’s decisions• Pearl: Fuck, I’ve had enough of this place. From now on it’s just MSN!• •

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