Body language

Body language – introduction Body language refers to various forms of nonverbal communication, wherein a person may reveal clues as to some unspoken intention or feeling through their physical behavior. These behaviors can include body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye movements. The gestures of the human body have been actively studied only since 1960 and most of the public has been aware of the existence of body language since Allan and Barbara’s book published in 1978. Today's politicians understand that politics is about image and appearance and most high-profile politicians now have personal body language consultants to help them come across as being sincere, caring and honest, especially when they're not. Body language is significant to communication and relationships. It is relevant to management and leadership in business and also in places where it can be observed by many people. It can also be relevant to some outside of the workplace. It is commonly helpful in dating, mating, in family settings, and parenting. Although body language is non-verbal or non-spoken, it can reveal much about your feelings and meaning to others and how others reveal their feelings towards you. Body language signals happen on both a conscious and unconscious level. Most of the basic gestures are the same all around the world. When people are happy they smile, when they are angry they lour their eyebrows. In almost all of the regions nodding means approval, acceptance. We are born with this gesture because it is being used by blind and deaf people. Body language can also vary depending on the culture. There are a set of universally recognized gestures but many are influenced by our social settings. For example the raised thumb means 'good' to Westerners, 'one' to Italians, 'five' to Japanese and 'up yours' to the Greeks.

Gestures – explanations

Our gestures can help us discover ourselves and people around us. To begin with even the way we sit down on a chair is a mark of our personality. When a person in front of you sits down with the upper part of the body leaned forward he fears of being rejected or censored. If that person leans backwards it means that he needs freedom or has the tendency to retreat. If he is leaned to the right it reveals his desire of being successful, of winning; if he is leaned to the left it means that his mental state is very unstable. If the person in front of us leans alternatively to the right and left he is trying to seduce you.

Furthermore the way people cross their arms and the ear to which they hold the phone can be also significant. There are two ways of crossing your arms: with the right arm dominant or with the left arm dominant. Also you can hold your phone to the right ear or to the left ear. If we combine these possibilities we have four specific types of people. The individualist (right arm dominant, left ear) – communicates to the others in order to be accepted by a group. He corresponds to the creative type. The originality of his personality sometimes marginalizes him. He is excellent in jobs on his own as a travelling agent, artist, consultant, journalist. The independent (right arm dominant, right ear) – communicates to the rest of the world or to the group in order to dominate the group. Obviously the independent is the type of the challenger. He doesn’t have problems of fitting in. He finds his place immediately as a leader of the group or a part of it. The consensual (left arm dominant, right ear) – communicates to the group in order to fit in and he accepts the rules of the group. The consensual is either idealistic or rational. He is an excellent communicator and a stabilizing element inside of the group. The dependent ( left arm dominant, left ear) – communicates to the group ir order to be taken care by it. The dependents need to be appreciated for their qualities and professional abilities. The dependent is faithful to the group. There are also dependents that can lead the group.

Also the couple typography can also reveal aspects about the male and the female that form the couple. The couple typography refers to the side left or right that you prefer while walking with your partner. If a person prefers the right side he is a “tribord”. The tribord is very romantic and in love but professionally independent. If you prefer the left side you are a “babord”. The babord is, let’s say, in charge of the relationship. He is emotionally distant but he has more authority in the couple than in the professional area. This is a paradox. The more independent you are regarding your professional activities, the more you need affection from your partner. If you are a babord your operational defense systems are situated in the left hemisphere of the brain. The left hemisphere can influence not only your right hemisphere but it can influence the entire exterior right side with the length of your hand. This area is named by Skinner the individual biosphere. You can increase your chances of winning un argument if the other person is sitting on your right side.

Finally, makeup can say a lot about the woman that wears it depending on the anatomical part that stands out. Make up has been used by women to please men or to seduce them. A face makeup can be a true geographic map. The eyelids indicate sensibility. The eyelashes indicate a changing temper. The eyebrows indicate an anxious mental climate. The cheeks indicate nostalgia after a shy adolescence. The eyes outlined with a black pencil reveals a woman absorbed by her own dreams. The lips are the symbol of seduction and if too much makeup/ lipstick is used on them it reveals sexual dissatisfaction. Also the fake mole can mean jealousy.