Now That You’ve Said
“I Do!”South Sound Church of
Christ Marriage Workshop?
Future Sessions
1. What Is Marriage?2. Uniqueness and Acceptance in Marriage3. Expectations in Marriage4. Fulfilling Intimacy Needs in Marriage5. Roles Responsibilities and Decision Making6. Communication in Marriage7. Dealing with Conflict in Marriage8. Sex in Marriage
REVIEWHomework Last Week
Homework
SimilaritiesHow are my spouse and I similar?
Differences
How can our differences or
similarities compliment or
help your marriage?
EffectHow are my spouse and I different?
EXPECTATIONS IN MARRIAGE
What Did You Expect?Every person who marries
enters the relationship with certain expectations. These
expectations come from many sources, including parents, society, books,
leaders, and our own ideas…
What Did You Expect Cont.What did you expect?Q. How were your expectations fulfilled?Q. What expectations did you have that have been unfulfilled?
Three Stages of Marriage
• On Cloud 9• Perfect• Just right• Forever• Infatuated• Charmed• Ecstacy• Preoccupied• We’ve
arrived
• Upset• Terrible• Absolutely
wrong• I quit• Hurt• Put Down• Irritated• We’ll never
make it
• Grounded• I need you• Let’s work it
out• I’ll help you• Encourage• Whole• Refreshed• Confortable• Together we
can make it.
Enchantment Disenchantment
Maturity
The fact is, marriage is full of twists and turns, sometimes we experience U-turns and even temporary road blocks. In marriage we, acquire and we lose, we give and we receive,
we hold on and we let go. A loving, committed relationship helps us
weather all of these moves.
Dealing With the Unexpected
Our lives are filled with unexpected situations & transitions.
Transition is defined as a process of change. A period of our lives where we
move from a place of certainty to a period of uncertainty.
These periods of uncertainty can affect the health of our marriages.
School Age
College
Working & Single
Married
Children
Major financial difficulty
Losing a jobMajor illness or
death in the familyGoing into business
for yourselfRaising Teenagers
Dealing With Transition
MovingA PromotionThe Birth of
twinsHaving a baby
after many years
Scriptures to Consider
2 Corinthians 12:9…But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is
made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more
gladly about my weaknesses.
James 1:2-4Consider it pure joy, my brothers,
whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of
your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so
that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
For Discussion
We all experience disappointments because some of our expectations, hopes, and dreams are not fulfilled. Q. What can you do to work through life’s disappointments together as a team?
Q. How will your relationship with God enable you to deal with unrealized expectations.
For Homework
Review Expectations Worksheet (Handout)
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