Now That You’ve Said

“I Do!”South Sound Church of

Christ Marriage Workshop?

Future Sessions

1. What Is Marriage?2. Uniqueness and Acceptance in Marriage3. Expectations in Marriage4. Fulfilling Intimacy Needs in Marriage5. Roles Responsibilities and Decision Making6. Communication in Marriage7. Dealing with Conflict in Marriage8. Sex in Marriage

REVIEWHomework Last Week

Homework

SimilaritiesHow are my spouse and I similar?

Differences

How can our differences or

similarities compliment or

help your marriage?

EffectHow are my spouse and I different?

EXPECTATIONS IN MARRIAGE

What Did You Expect?Every person who marries

enters the relationship with certain expectations. These

expectations come from many sources, including parents, society, books,

leaders, and our own ideas…

What Did You Expect Cont.What did you expect?Q. How were your expectations fulfilled?Q. What expectations did you have that have been unfulfilled?

Three Stages of Marriage

• On Cloud 9• Perfect• Just right• Forever• Infatuated• Charmed• Ecstacy• Preoccupied• We’ve

arrived

• Upset• Terrible• Absolutely

wrong• I quit• Hurt• Put Down• Irritated• We’ll never

make it

• Grounded• I need you• Let’s work it

out• I’ll help you• Encourage• Whole• Refreshed• Confortable• Together we

can make it.

Enchantment Disenchantment

Maturity

The fact is, marriage is full of twists and turns, sometimes we experience U-turns and even temporary road blocks. In marriage we, acquire and we lose, we give and we receive,

we hold on and we let go. A loving, committed relationship helps us

weather all of these moves.

Dealing With the Unexpected

Our lives are filled with unexpected situations & transitions.

Transition is defined as a process of change. A period of our lives where we

move from a place of certainty to a period of uncertainty.

These periods of uncertainty can affect the health of our marriages.

School Age

College

Working & Single

Married

Children

Major financial difficulty

Losing a jobMajor illness or

death in the familyGoing into business

for yourselfRaising Teenagers

Dealing With Transition

MovingA PromotionThe Birth of

twinsHaving a baby

after many years

Scriptures to Consider

2 Corinthians 12:9…But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is

made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more

gladly about my weaknesses.

James 1:2-4Consider it pure joy, my brothers,

whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of

your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so

that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

For Discussion

We all experience disappointments because some of our expectations, hopes, and dreams are not fulfilled. Q. What can you do to work through life’s disappointments together as a team?

Q. How will your relationship with God enable you to deal with unrealized expectations.

For Homework

Review Expectations Worksheet (Handout)