Habit 3 and 4
Put First Things First
Think Win-Win
Not enough time to get it all done!
Habit 2 – you decided what was most
important to you, what should be first
Habit 3 – helps you plan on how to put those
things first
– Will power- the strength to say yes to your most
important things
– Won’t power- the strength to say no to less
important things and to peer pressure
Packing More into Your Life
When you pack for a trip, if you are more
organized then you can fit more into your
suitcase
To get more organized in your life to fit more
in, you can use the Time Quadrant Model
which divides things into important and
urgent categories
What is Important?/What is Urgent?
Important - Activities that contribute to your
mission and goals
– Tests, exercise, relationships, work, projects
Urgent-Pressing things, in-your-face-things,
activities that demand immediate attention
– Phone calls, interruptions, a test tomorrow, car
breaks down
There are 4 Time Quadrants
Important and Urgent
The “Procrastinator” – Exam Tomorrow
– Friend gets Injured
– Late for Work
– Project Due Today
Urgent and Not Important
The “Yes-Man” – Unimportant phone calls
– Interruptions
– Other people’s small problems
– Peer pressure
Important and Not Urgent
The “Prioritizer” – Planning/Goal setting
– Essay due in a week
– Exercise
– Relationships
– Relaxation
Not Urgent and Not Important
The “Slacker” – Too much TV
– Endless phone calls
– Too much computer games
– Mall marathons
– Time wasters
Quadrant 1 – The Procrastinator
There will always be Q1 things that we can’t control
– Last minute meeting
– Illness
By putting things off, like volunteering until the last
couple of weeks, people become a “stress case”
Spending too much of your time here causes
– Stress and anxiety
– Burnout
– Mediocre performance
Quadrant 3 – The Yes-Man
People who spend a lot of time in this quadrant
attend to matters that are urgent and may seem
important, but are not. For example, a ringing phone.
This quadrant is also full of things that are important
to other people, but are not important to you
Results of spending too much time here
– Being a people pleaser
– Lack of discipline
– Feeling like a doormat for others to wipe their feet on
Quadrant 4-The Slacker
This is the category of waste and excess. There is
nothing here that is urgent or important
What appears to be relaxation or renewal turns into
wasted time
The results of Q4 are
– Lack of responsibility
– Guilt
– Flakiness
Quadrant 2- The Prioritizer
The quadrant of excellence
The place where you want to spend the most time
This person plans ahead for doing first things first
Results of spending time here are
– Control of your life
– Balance
– High performance
Where do you spend most of your time?
We all spend time in all the quadrants, but
the goal should be to increase the time spent
in Q2
Shrink Q1 by procrastinating less
Say no to Q3 activities
Cut down on Q4, slacker activities
Habit 3- Two Parts
Time Management
– Learning to put first things first
– Prioritize items to fulfill mission and meet goals
Learn to overcome fear and peer pressure
– It takes courage and guts to stay true to your
first things like your values and standards
The Comfort Zone
Relaxation
Freedom from risk
Things you are used to doing
Things you enjoy doing
The Courage Zone
Things you have never tried before
Hard moments
Opportunity
Bravery
Risk
Why Enter the Courage Zone?
Adventure, risk and challenge is included
Everything that makes you feel
uncomfortable is here
A place for opportunity
Because you miss 100% of the shots you
never take
Never Let Fears Make Your Decisions
Many people let fear make their decisions
They don’t try anything new for fear of failure
There may be teams you never tried out for,
clubs you never joined, someone you never
spoke to for fear of being uncomfortable
Don’t let fear make your decisions, you make
your decisions!
Baby Steps
Set a goal to use a planner.
Identify your biggest time-wasters.
If you are a “pleaser” try saying no for a day
when you know it’s the right thing to do.
Don’t procrastinate.
Make time on your schedule for your big
rocks.
Don’t give into peer pressure
Habit 4 Think Win-Win
Attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind
that says I can win and so can you.
No one is superior and no one is inferior
Win – Win is not
– Win-Lose
– Lose-Win
– Lose-Lose
Win-Lose
Totem Pole-getting to the top
Win-Lose is competitive
Examples of Win-Lose
– Using other people for your own gain
– Trying to get ahead at the expense of another
– Spreading rumors
– Always insisting you get your own way
– Becoming jealous/envious when something good happens
to someone else
Lose- Win
These people avoid confrontation so they
take the blame to keep the peace
It’s the doormat syndrome
Giving into peer pressure
Set low expectations and compromise your
standards
Lose-Lose
The downward spiral
Revenge is lose-lose
I don’t care what happens to me as long as
_________ doesn’t do well
Win-Win
The All You Can Eat Buffet
There is plenty of success to go around
Examples of win-win – Your best friend got accepted at the college you
wanted to get into. You didn’t make it. You are happy for your friend.
– You want to go out to dinner, your friend wants to see a movie. You get takeout and rent a movie for home.
Win-Win
It is contagious
Sometimes though not everyone thinks win-
win or you won’t be able to find a win-win
solution. Then you need to decide not to
play or to walk away.
Increase how much you think win-win
because it will make you feel great!
Video Clip
Baby Steps
Pinpoint the area of your life where you most
struggle with comparisons. Perhaps it’s with
clothes, physical features, friends or talents.
Show sportsmanship.
Form a study group before a test so
everyone can help each other do better.
Next time someone close to you succeeds,
be genuinely happy for them instead of
feeling threatened.
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