Habit 3 and 4

Put First Things First

Think Win-Win

Not enough time to get it all done!

Habit 2 – you decided what was most

important to you, what should be first

Habit 3 – helps you plan on how to put those

things first

– Will power- the strength to say yes to your most

important things

– Won’t power- the strength to say no to less

important things and to peer pressure

Packing More into Your Life

When you pack for a trip, if you are more

organized then you can fit more into your

suitcase

To get more organized in your life to fit more

in, you can use the Time Quadrant Model

which divides things into important and

urgent categories

What is Important?/What is Urgent?

Important - Activities that contribute to your

mission and goals

– Tests, exercise, relationships, work, projects

Urgent-Pressing things, in-your-face-things,

activities that demand immediate attention

– Phone calls, interruptions, a test tomorrow, car

breaks down

There are 4 Time Quadrants

Important and Urgent

The “Procrastinator” – Exam Tomorrow

– Friend gets Injured

– Late for Work

– Project Due Today

Urgent and Not Important

The “Yes-Man” – Unimportant phone calls

– Interruptions

– Other people’s small problems

– Peer pressure

Important and Not Urgent

The “Prioritizer” – Planning/Goal setting

– Essay due in a week

– Exercise

– Relationships

– Relaxation

Not Urgent and Not Important

The “Slacker” – Too much TV

– Endless phone calls

– Too much computer games

– Mall marathons

– Time wasters

Quadrant 1 – The Procrastinator

There will always be Q1 things that we can’t control

– Last minute meeting

– Illness

By putting things off, like volunteering until the last

couple of weeks, people become a “stress case”

Spending too much of your time here causes

– Stress and anxiety

– Burnout

– Mediocre performance

Quadrant 3 – The Yes-Man

People who spend a lot of time in this quadrant

attend to matters that are urgent and may seem

important, but are not. For example, a ringing phone.

This quadrant is also full of things that are important

to other people, but are not important to you

Results of spending too much time here

– Being a people pleaser

– Lack of discipline

– Feeling like a doormat for others to wipe their feet on

Quadrant 4-The Slacker

This is the category of waste and excess. There is

nothing here that is urgent or important

What appears to be relaxation or renewal turns into

wasted time

The results of Q4 are

– Lack of responsibility

– Guilt

– Flakiness

Quadrant 2- The Prioritizer

The quadrant of excellence

The place where you want to spend the most time

This person plans ahead for doing first things first

Results of spending time here are

– Control of your life

– Balance

– High performance

Where do you spend most of your time?

We all spend time in all the quadrants, but

the goal should be to increase the time spent

in Q2

Shrink Q1 by procrastinating less

Say no to Q3 activities

Cut down on Q4, slacker activities

Habit 3- Two Parts

Time Management

– Learning to put first things first

– Prioritize items to fulfill mission and meet goals

Learn to overcome fear and peer pressure

– It takes courage and guts to stay true to your

first things like your values and standards

The Comfort Zone

Relaxation

Freedom from risk

Things you are used to doing

Things you enjoy doing

The Courage Zone

Things you have never tried before

Hard moments

Opportunity

Bravery

Risk

Why Enter the Courage Zone?

Adventure, risk and challenge is included

Everything that makes you feel

uncomfortable is here

A place for opportunity

Because you miss 100% of the shots you

never take

Never Let Fears Make Your Decisions

Many people let fear make their decisions

They don’t try anything new for fear of failure

There may be teams you never tried out for,

clubs you never joined, someone you never

spoke to for fear of being uncomfortable

Don’t let fear make your decisions, you make

your decisions!

Baby Steps

Set a goal to use a planner.

Identify your biggest time-wasters.

If you are a “pleaser” try saying no for a day

when you know it’s the right thing to do.

Don’t procrastinate.

Make time on your schedule for your big

rocks.

Don’t give into peer pressure

Habit 4 Think Win-Win

Attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind

that says I can win and so can you.

No one is superior and no one is inferior

Win – Win is not

– Win-Lose

– Lose-Win

– Lose-Lose

Win-Lose

Totem Pole-getting to the top

Win-Lose is competitive

Examples of Win-Lose

– Using other people for your own gain

– Trying to get ahead at the expense of another

– Spreading rumors

– Always insisting you get your own way

– Becoming jealous/envious when something good happens

to someone else

Lose- Win

These people avoid confrontation so they

take the blame to keep the peace

It’s the doormat syndrome

Giving into peer pressure

Set low expectations and compromise your

standards

Lose-Lose

The downward spiral

Revenge is lose-lose

I don’t care what happens to me as long as

_________ doesn’t do well

Win-Win

The All You Can Eat Buffet

There is plenty of success to go around

Examples of win-win – Your best friend got accepted at the college you

wanted to get into. You didn’t make it. You are happy for your friend.

– You want to go out to dinner, your friend wants to see a movie. You get takeout and rent a movie for home.

Win-Win

It is contagious

Sometimes though not everyone thinks win-

win or you won’t be able to find a win-win

solution. Then you need to decide not to

play or to walk away.

Increase how much you think win-win

because it will make you feel great!

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Baby Steps

Pinpoint the area of your life where you most

struggle with comparisons. Perhaps it’s with

clothes, physical features, friends or talents.

Show sportsmanship.

Form a study group before a test so

everyone can help each other do better.

Next time someone close to you succeeds,

be genuinely happy for them instead of

feeling threatened.