What's It Like, Being a Female from The Middle East?
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In the year 2045, I imagine, and secretly hope, somebody will ask me the following question:
In 2013, what was it like for a Middle Eastern girl to move away from her home country and choose
education and career over starting a family?
Answer:
In 2013, the Lebanese parliament consisted of 128 members, only 4 of whom were women. Ironically, in
2013, Lebanon was also the pioneer in women’s rights in the Arab world. At that time, religion played a
significant role in Middle Eastern politics, and both played a monumental role in shaping my country’s
culture. Even though Lebanon had a 40% Christian population, the influence from nearby Muslim
countries was strong in many aspects. Their unrest meant our unrest, and this continuous political
turbulence Lebanon had been going through for years gave way to chaos and corruption, both of which
left very little room to address women’s rights and aspirations. There were very few women
empowerment programs in the community, government funded or otherwise, and when women made
it into the workforce, they were generally underpaid.
While it may seem that religion was the biggest barrier, the truth is, the perception of women’s rights
and roles in society was not a function of religion, but more a function of a family’s educational
background and social status. For my family and I, the decision for me to move away was a natural one
that they encouraged. I was fortunate enough to be born into a very educated family; my father held a
PhD, and my mother, before me, was one of the first women in her village to spark controversy by
leaving her country in pursuit of higher education. The importance of such a move was a core belief in
my family, but unfortunately, society did not hold the same views at all.
Even though there was nothing in the law prohibiting women from work or discriminating against them
in the workforce, cultural influences were much stronger than the law. As a Middle Eastern female,whether or not you were encouraged to be educated, society expected you to get married and start a
family as soon as you can. As a result, many fathers did not invest much in their daughter’s education
because they believed that ultimately, she will be married, and her education would not be needed.
Back then, men were expected to be the sole breadwinners of the family, and most of the time, when a
woman worked, it was seen as a sign that her husband could not adequately provide for her; very
belittling if you happened to be a man. And if you happened to be a woman who chose the career path,
you may not have received the support you needed from your husband or your community. Husbands
did not contribute to housework or child care, because it was also viewed by society in a very
demeaning light. For all these reasons, the women who chose to work had to work twice as hard to
prove their competencies and eventually get adequately compensated.
When I left my country at age 23 to pursue an MBA, most of the girls I went to high school with were
already married, some with children. Many had college degrees, but they did not work, and in our
community, this was more or less the norm. As a professionally oriented female, it was very difficult to
explain to my community why I wanted another degree, and even more difficult to explain why I did not
have the desire to get married. It was also challenging for my family, who were scrutinized for allowing
their daughter to be so far away from the restraints of her society. It was tough for me, or any woman
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like me, to make that decision, simply because I felt that I was deviating from the norm, and my society
did not encourage deviation. Much of it came down to choice, and if you chose to do it, you had to be
strong enough to defend it, resilient enough to follow through with it, and committed enough to be able
to prove yourself as both a manager and a mother.
I hope this will help you appreciate the world you now live in, and understand how our Middle Easternsociety, as well as our workforce composition, have changed since then. What you take for granted
today was not an easy option for many people back in 2013, and I was lucky enough to have it and take
advantage of it when few else did.