Dear, dear Chaverim, My favorite High Holy Day Story – A Talmud student goes rushing by just before Rosh Hashanah. He bumps into his rabbi who demands to know where he is going in such a hurry. “I’m going to help lead a small High Holiday service, and so I need to go back to

study the machzor, the prayer book for the High Holy Days". The Rabbi smiled, but then advised, “The Machzor has been the same since you’ve been born. Go home and study yourself.” And so we do take time during these Days of Awe to examine ourselves, but in a broader sense, it is also a good time to examine our lives and see how we fit into them. The same is true of CBI. It is important to study who we are. As I’ve said before, we are clearly a unique enterprise in the midst of a beautiful area – we are a center of the relationship of the Jewish People in our community to its God; we are a center of our people for its learning and its history; we are a center of our people for its holidays and its celebrations; we are a center of our people for it to mourn its sorrows and to share its pain and provide consolation to its members, and we are a center of our people to celebrate its joys and for us to live fully and fulfill our dreams together. Clearly this is a time of great change. We are a strong synagogue thanks to the leadership of Lois Green and Fran Semaya and the many leaders who have served before them and with them. Our congregation’s leadership structure has been significantly clarified and streamlined as a result of the reorganization developed by Al Zager and his team. We have lost the talents of Rabbi Sultar, but Cantor Goldberg has filled in admirably, and we look forward to a strong, moving and fulfilling High Holy Day Season. We have learned a lot. Our communication has already been improved, and we are going to do more. After the High Holy Days, we are planning a survey of our congregants, and a Congregational “Town Hall Meeting” to discuss where we are and for us to work together toward a strong and stable future. We have created a strategic planning team that will seek to develop approaches for our future. We are emphasizing the role of the committees in advancing their areas of expertise and are developing a continuing leadership development program that will engage members in leadership at an earlier stage so that many more of us will be connected and more sophisticated as we participate in our Jewish experience. And, of course, the newly instituted SHMA school program is just approaching its second year, and it will clearly experience a year of growth as well. And now we get back to studying ourselves. More and more we use the term “kehillah,” holy community, to refer to our congregations. Judaism is more than simply a way to pray. It is really a way to connect our everyday lives to that “still small voice” that makes us inimitably human. There are many ways for us to do this, through the traditional Jewish searching for knowledge and truth and justice and beauty; and also in our very human search for meaning and connection with our fellows.

Cong rega t i on  B ’na i   I s r ae l   “B r i ng i ng  God  and   t he  Commun i t y  Toge the r ”  

Congregat ion  B ’na i   I s rae l  

Connection September 2015/Elul 5775/Tishri 5776 

Volume 94 • Issue 9 Published Monthly

171 Ridge Road Rumson, NJ 07760

Phone: 732-842-1800 Fax: 732-842-7269

www.cbirumson.org

S e r v i c e s Thursday Minyan 8:00 am

Friday 7:30 pm Saturday 9:30 am

Inside This Issue

Cantor’s Note p3

Sukkah Building 9/11 Museum Trip

Birthright Israel Ezra Luncheon

Library Book Club p4

Mimi Friedman's 90th Birthday Celebration Speech

p5

Meet our New Members Community Outreach

p6

High Holy Days p7 - p13

Simchat Torah Celebration Book review

p13

Sisterhood News Library Book Club

p14

Cemetery Fund Letter CBI Cemetery Update

p15

Todah Rabbah p16

President’s Message

President's Message continued on Page 4

Congregation B’nai Israel of Greater Red Bank 171 Ridge Road, Rumson, NJ 07760

732-842-1800 FAX: 732-842-7269

WEBSITE: WWW.CBIRUMSON.ORG

Cantor and Director of Education, Cantor Dov Goldberg, x202

Rabbi Emeritus, Jack M. Rosoff, D.D., x217

Cantor Emerita, Marla J. Barugel

President - Joel Weissglass

Operations VP - Dr. Eric Menell

Education VP - Ellen Levine

Financial VP - Dr. Andrew Burstiner

Secretary - Lynn Einbinder

Treasurer - Iris Michaelson

Executive Director, Emilie Kovit-Meyer, x203

Gan Yeladim Early Childhood Director, Suzanne Wycoff, x209 Youth Program Coordinator, Susan Alderson, x210

Main Office Monday - Thursday 8:30 am - 4:30 pm

Friday 8:30 am - 2:00 pm

Accounting Monday - Wednesday 8:30 am - 4:30 pm

Alice MacPhee, x 211

Please Note

Because of the HIPAA laws, we are not informed by the hospital when a congregant has been hospitalized. If you or someone you know from the congregation is ill or in the hospital, please notify:

Cantor Dov Goldberg, 732-842-1800, x202 or email: cantorgoldberg@cbirumson.org

Rabbi Emeritus, Jack M. Rosoff, D.D., 732-842-1800, x217  

  

Mi she‐berach   (Prayer for the Sick)  

Anyone wishing a mi she-berach to be acknowledged should call the office and give the person's Hebrew name whenever possible. Mi she-berachs will be acknowledged for 4 Shabbats. If you need the mi she-berach to be continued, please call the office at 732-842-1800 to request this.

 

 USCJ News 

Check out the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism’s website, www.uscj.org. It’s loaded with wonderful articles and information, a great resource site.

Mazal Tov CBI extends its warmest wishes to:

Charles Norman, upon reaching 20 years of employment at CBI! Thanks so much for all your great work!

Helaine & Warren Tockerman, on the birth of their 5th grandchild, Ashton Tockerman Welsh,

son of Julie & Scott Welsh and brother of Aaron & Levi.

Aaron & Marge Rassas, whose daughter Lori Rassas, published her second book,

"The Perpetual Paycheck", a career/job search book, and a big thank you to Marge Rassas,

for donating a copy of this book to the CBI Library.

Dr. Harry & Bozzi Swartz, William & Frances Statter, and Eugene & Gloria Landy, who are in the book

"Legendary Locals of Rumson" by Robert H. Van Anda. A big thank you to Bozzi Swartz,

for donating a copy of this book to the CBI Library.

Joe Shaiman & Nancy Perez, who were married on Sunday, August 30.

Fran and Rich Semaya, on the marriage of their son Scott to Danielle Reiss.

If you have a simcha or good news to share,

please let the office know so that we can wish you Mazal Tov in our bulletin.

Condolences We regret with sorrow the passing of CBI Member:

Miriam Horowitz, wife of Irving Horowitz

We extend heartfelt condolences to: Paul & Vicki Bernstein,

on the death of his father, Dr. Irving Bernstein.

Rob & Pat Fire, on the loss of his brother, Richard Fire

Thank You to Mimi Friedman and David Silberstein,

for their help with the High Holy Day Mailing and Tickets.

to Ellen Levine & Mimi Friedman, for cleaning & purging our classroom closets and offices

to Loren Lewin & Iris Michaelson,

for their many years of proofreading our CBI Bulletin "Connections".

to Shirley Adler, Barbara Fleischer, Gloria Landy, Helene Matorin and Suzanne Ruda, who generously donated their time

to polish our silver for the High Holy Days

Thank you email from Fraidy Reiss (July 26)

Dear Emilie and Yona,

I am overwhelmed by the generosity of the CBI congregants, who donated a car trunk full of clothing, accessories, toys and other items for a mother and child in need. I plan to bring the donated items to the mother and child this week, and I can't wait to see their reaction.

Thank you, both, for organizing this clothing drive, and please send my sincere thanks to the congregants. With warm gratitude, Fraidy

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There is a well-known Hebrew saying that Kol Hatchalot Kashot, all beginnings are hard. Of course, that doesn’t mean that all beginnings have to be bad. Most of us are aware from personal experience, if not also from psychological studies, that some of the most wonderful beginnings can be challenging and full of stress; getting married, moving into a new home, having a child, starting a new job, etc. But, whether anticipated with excitement or with dread, and whether expected or not, most true beginnings are difficult. With Rosh Hashanah nearly upon us, it’s almost unavoidable to think about beginnings; after all, by definition it is the beginning of the new Jewish year. The question for each of us is whether we’re prepared to take on a new challenge. Most of us have rather busy and complicated lives, which makes us all the less likely to want to take on something which may be difficult, even if we know that the end result will be meaningful. So, this question can be expressed a little differently. Will this new year truly be a new beginning Jewishly?

Sure a new school year will be commencing for many of us, either directly or indirectly. Sure, a new NFL season will have recently begun. Sure a multitude of events and activities will be gearing up for a new season. But, just because something has been on hiatus for a little while doesn’t necessarily mean that when it starts up again that it’s really something new. Ultimately we have to ask ourselves whether we really intend to make the effort to infuse any of these “new” things with some Jewishness. Pretty much every aspect of our lives can be touched by Jewish values if we want them to. When I sit in a science class, if I marvel at the wonder of God’s creation as expressed through biology, chemistry, or physics, that’s imbuing science with Jewishness. If I watch a football game and become annoyed with excessive “trash talk” by players because it conflicts with Jewish values regarding how we should treat one another, that’s experiencing sports through our Jewishness. If I go to a play or the opera and wonder what the Torah has to teach about the kinds of situations being depicted, that’s bringing Jewishness into my enjoyment of performing arts. And if I donate time or resources to a good cause and see that as an expression of tzedakah (charity) or gemilut chasadim (acts of lovingkindness) then regardless of who the recipient is, it’s a Jewish act. But, for most of us seeing, and experiencing the everyday through the lens of Jewish tradition and its teachings is not automatic. It is a habit that has to be cultivated with some effort before it becomes second nature. Creating new patterns of how we think and act is a beginning, which is hard. Over the High Holidays I’ll be dedicating my 5 sermons to the topic of “Roadblocks on the Path to Deeper Jewishness.” Each sermon will explore a different challenge to enhancing our own Judaism and consider how we can tackle the difficulties of making new Jewish beginnings. Here’s what I’ll be talking about at each of the services: First Evening of Rosh Hashanah It looks a little worn. (Contemporary Values vs. Jewish Tradition) First Day of Rosh Hashanah It’s just not my thing. (Personal enjoyment confronts Traditional expectations) Second Day of Rosh Hashanah Is ignorance bliss? (What we know and what we wish we knew) Yom Kippur Kol Nidrei Evening I want to have it all? (Juggling Judaism and our busy lives) Yom Kippur Day Can you take it with you? (Living in the moment vs. Leaving a legacy)

If we think of Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkot, and Shemini Atzeret/Simchat Torah as the High Holiday season, then the highlight of the pre-season is Selichot. This is a late Saturday night service of penitential prayers that is held shortly before Rosh Hashanah and designed to help us prepare to take advantage spiritually of the meaning and rituals of the services and traditions of Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, and the other Fall holidays. It has become traditional in many congregations to have a program and refreshments prior to the relatively brief Selichot service. This year Selichot falls on Saturday night, September 5 and our program is entitled “The Truman Show” and Our Own Human Show. We’ll watch the popular 1998 Jim Carrey movie and then just before beginning the Selichot service chat about how some of its themes may help us prepare to enter into the mood and message of the High Holidays.

We all know that Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are intended to help us usher in the new year with some sincere reflection about our own lives. Who are we as Jews and as human beings, and how can we become more of who we think we should be? But, the reality is that in most years it’s just too hard to really make a new beginning. Maybe this year, together as a Jewish community, we can explore some ways to help each other truly make the new beginnings we want for ourselves and our families. Shanah Tovah u’Metukah – wishing you a good and sweet new year!

Cantor Dov Goldberg

  Cantor's Note

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First day of SHMA is Wednesday, September 9 for Grades 2 - 6. First Day of SHMA for Grades K - 7th is Sunday, September 20.

Parent Orientation 9:15am on Sunday, September 20. Hebrew High starts on Sunday, September 27.

First Day of SHMA PK is Sunday, September 27.

President's Message continued from Front Cover

So, I would ask you to consider a new High Holy Day exercise. Take a couple of minutes alone to look at yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself what you dream would make you more human. Then take another minute to consider how that dream could be focused through the Jewish tradition, and be assured it probably has been done before.

And finally, before you allow yourself to be trapped again by the demands and habits of the mundane, go to the ”Community” tab (in Hebrew, by the way, that’s “kehillah”) of our website, find the committee that you could join to follow your dream, and sign up. If there isn’t one, email me and we’ll do all we can to start one. Last year, Lois Green reminded us of Theodore Hertz’s insight “if you will it, it is not a dream.“ But Michael Oren reminded us of the recognition of William Butler Yeats, that “in dreams begin responsibility.” In this case let us assume the responsibility to fulfill those dreams.

And so, from my family to yours, may I send our best wishes for a sweet and sustaining High Holy Day season. May this be a year of joy and growth for all of us, and when we study ourselves next year, may we have a bit more reason to smile.

L’shana tovah,

Joel Weissglass CBI President president@cbirumson.org

The Sukkah must go up! Sunday, September 20 at 9am

All volunteers are welcome (and needed!) RSVP to Andrew.meyer@cbirumson.com

or Andrew.weitzner@cbirumson.com

Discussion led by Dr. Andrew Meyer

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MIMI FRIEDMAN On the Occasion of her 90th Birthday

(Mimi’s speech from her birthday Kiddush, July 11, 2015) On July 7, 1925, a daughter was born to Michael and Malvina Silberstein. They named her Miriam after her maternal grandmother but somehow, and I don’t know when, Mimi was the name everyone used as far back as I can remember. My sister, Dorothy, was born in 1923 and my brother, David, was born in 1927 and that completed our family. My father and mother had started their own business in 1920 and they were successful and we had a very nice lifestyle. Then the Depression came along and we experienced dramatic changes but we all adjusted and life went on for our family.

Most of you know or have read about the few Jewish families that lived in the Red Bank area. You could count them on two hands. Our family lived in Fair Haven and we had five other Jewish families that also lived there. The rest of the Jewish families lived and owned businesses on Broad Street and Shrewsbury Avenue in Red Bank.

The closest synagogue would have been in Long Branch and that was too far away for these families so they gathered together and decided to create their own place of worship in Red Bank. First, the women wanted a Hebrew School for their children and then they decided to actually organize a synagogue to meet all of their needs.

My father was the second President of that group. He did not come from an observant Jewish home, but he felt the need to be a part of a Jewish group in his new community. In fact, at the age of 78 he was called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah, 65 years late, but Rabbi Rosoff said, “It is never too late”, and so on New Year’s Day over one hundred people attended this highlight in my father’s life.

At the age of five, I started attending Sunday School. We studied the history of the Jewish people but not Hebrew. Only the boys were trained to read and then it was to prepare for their Bar Mitzvahs. This training was never presented to the girls.

Life moved along and it was when I met and married Harry that I really began to understand about keeping a kosher home and observing all of the Holidays. He came from an ultra-Orthodox home and although I had no knowledge of how to do it, I tried to keep Kosher. He was great and overlooked my errors like putting milk in chocolate pudding and then serving it with a meat meal- I learned quickly that was a No-No!

Our daughter, Barbara, was born in 1949 and Roberta came along in 1952 and that was really the beginning of my Jewish education. I joined the Sisterhood (which was then “The Ladies Hebrew Society”) and was appointed "Refreshment Chairman" (that was my first step) setting tables for dessert and purchasing the food. Barbara and Roberta would come along to meetings with me and their first job was folding napkins for the meetings. I did move on to become the Sisterhood Vice-President and that was the top of my elected positions.

About that time, the Secretary to the Religious School Principal resigned and I got very involved in that job. I spent hours in the basement of the synagogue on Riverside Avenue running a mimeograph machine and a Ditto machine for the Principal, Julia Segal. In addition, I became the Editor of the synagogue newsletter and worked with Bill Howitt (the Printer) to see to the completion of that task every month.

I am not sure how this happened, but Harry and I both became Corresponding Secretaries at the same time-he for the Congregation and me for the Sisterhood. We had an Addressograph machine in our home and between the two of us, we put out hundreds of mailings every year.

As we outgrew the Riverside Avenue synagogue, plans were begun to build a new building, first in Red Bank, and then moved to Rumson because we needed a larger piece of property. A professional fund-raiser was engaged and I was involved in working with him creating lists for phone calls and home visits to fund this huge undertaking. The funds were found and the property secured and in May, 1958 we held an Open House for the community to visit our new synagogue. I chaired the committee to welcome our guests on Sunday and we toured them through the building explaining the use for each area. We greatly underestimated the number of people who would come and as a result, the punch and cookies were soon depleted. I told my committee to start to add water to the Punch to stretch it and by end of the day, there was not much flavor left in that bowl, mostly just water.

I think my days as a volunteer were soon coming to an end when it was suggested that I apply for the job of Bookkeeper and Secretary in our new office. Prior to that, all of the office work was done in private homes and now it could be consolidated in one place and people were then hired for many positions. I am not a Bookkeeper but I did end up assisting the Bookkeeper on a part-time basis. The need for more clerical help in the office grew as the membership increased and I was employed full-time and did secretarial work involving the administration of the synagogue and the High School working with Rabbi Rosoff for many years in that area. Then some members felt the need for an addition to the building and once again a professional fund-raiser was engaged and I worked with him to raise money. When we moved to Rumson, a gentleman who was called “Mr. Synagogue” over many years, Harry Feldt, became the Office Manager or “Executive Director” and he was in the office for everyday management, in fact our Gym is named in his honor. When he retired the Trustees engaged other Directors but they either went on to other positions or were not rehired. The day came when the current President, Sydney Kramer, and the outgoing President, Murray Guth, invited me to lunch. They asked me to take the position of Office Manager, and after much thought and deliberation with my husband, I said, “OK”. I worked in that position for five Presidents, until I retired in 1985. It’s hard to believe that was 30 years ago, the age of my grandson, George, because when he was born I said, “Enough of working, I am going to go and play with my grandchildren!”

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But, I was not really finished yet. I returned to work as a volunteer and now I am back to stuffing envelopes and helping to get out mail whenever the Office needs extra help. In addition, I am still working on the reserved seats for the High Holy Days and also planning programs and involved with Ezra during the year. My time in the synagogue has been such an important part of my life-my friends-my social life here-celebrating all of the holidays with what has become my second family.

It’s customary to connect the portion of the week with the history of my story so I read and reread the portion and can only connect my life at B’nai Israel with the portion that reads: “Phineus, son of Eleazar, son of Aaron the Priest, came before the Lord and was praised for his loyalty. He was appointed among others to take his people into the promised land.”

And so, B’nai Israel also had visionaries. They saw the need and had justification for moving their people, not out from the desert, but from Red Bank to Rumson, their promised land.

In addition, in that portion, G-d made a decision that if there were not sons, then the women would also be able to inherit their father’s estate. And so, the women of B’nai Israel were allowed to take off their aprons, leave their kitchen duties behind and move on to become chairpeople of important committees and even to attain the rank of President of the Congregation.

When G-d selected his army to march forward, he chose those who had proven themselves capable to lead the people. And so, B’nai Israel was also fortunate to have leaders with active and fresh minds who could handle the responsibilities that lay before them. They are the people who will help to guarantee the future of our synagogue.

In closing, let me thank everyone who helped me prepare for this morning, and let me thank everyone for coming from far-away places to celebrate with me my 90 years of living a beautiful and happy life. Shabbat Shalom.

The Holidays are right around the corner. This Sukkot the Community Outreach Committee is planning a community Sukkah Tour event. We are looking for CBI members to host a wine and cheese, cookies and juice sukkah visit at their homes during the upcoming holiday of Sukkot.

Do you own a Sukkah and don't have time to put it up? We have the solution.. We have partnered with our USY Students to help you erect the Sukkahs. Just let us know when you want it up and we will get the USY Sukkah Building Team over to help you erect your Sukkah. If you don't have a Sukkah, reach out to us and we can get you in touch with companies that sell them, so that you can participate in our activity and fulfill the mitzvah of building a sukkah. If you wish to participate in the tours or you are willing to be a host, please register with Eve Brownstein at Evebrownstein@gmail.com or Nancy Postelnek at Pharmqueen@aol.com. If we have sufficient participation, we will arrange for trolley (or other) transportation from CBI.

Stay tuned for more information and remember to purchase your Lulav and Etrog from the synagogue to be ready to take it and yourself on tour around the neighborhood to visit community sukkahs: Lulav and Etrog orders need to be received no later than Rosh Hashanah. Standard Set: $32 Children Set: $28 Each set includes the Etrog, Lulav, Myrtles, Willows & a Lulav Bag. To purchase a set, please email emilie.kovit-meyer@cbirumson.org or call 732-842-1800 x203.

Meet Our New Members 

This past year Congregation B’nai Israel has added quite a number of new member families to our congregation. Each month our Bulletin will feature some new faces that you will want to meet and greet.

Jessica and David Angstreich and their two sons, Jordan, 9 and Jared, 7 joined B’nai Israel in 2014. However, they have been at CBI since 2007. Jordan and Jared both attended our Ima and Me program, then progressed to our Gan, and spent their summers at Camp Keshet. They are now students in our Hebrew School and both attend the Deane Porter School in Rumson. Jessica and David both grew up in Cherry Hill, New Jersey. David’s family was active at M’Kor Shalom synagogue where his mother was synagogue President for many years and he was Bar Mitzvah there. Today he works in the Financial field in New York City. David is a graduate of Lehigh University, Pennsylania and Jessica is a graduate of Rowan College, New Jersey. The family enjoys our Friday night Family Shabbat dinners and says that B’nai Israel has always been very welcoming to them. The boys have made many friends here as have Jessica and David. Jordan is presently in his first year of sleep - away camp and Jared is spending his summer at day camp. They are all looking forward to attending school in the Fall and in spending the High Holy Days at Congregation B’nai Israel with all of us. .

Community Outreach Committee ‐ Sukkah Tour Event 

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Mimi Friedman continued from Page 5

High Holy Day Flowers We thank the following families

who have generously donated flowers for Services:

ROSH HASHANAH

Wishing everyone a healthy, happy, blessed New Year.

Harold and Adelaide Komar

Wishing everyone in the Congregation a healthy and blessed New Year.

L'Chaim to Life. Dr. Harry & Bozzi Swartz

YOM KIPPUR "In the book of life, blessing, peace and good sustenance, may we all be remembered and

sealed before Thee, we and all Thy people, the house of Israel, for a happy life and for peace."

(From Neila Service) Eugene and Gloria Landy & Family

SUKKOT

Wishing everyone in the Congregation a Happy Sukkot

Ofelia Schwarz & Family

Selichot/Saturday, September 5 7:45 PM Havdalah Selichot Movie: “The Truman Show” followed by discussion 9:30 PM Refreshments 10:00 PM Selichot Service

Erev Rosh Hashanah/Sunday, September 13 7:00 PM Sanctuary Service

Rosh Hashanah Day 1/Monday, September 14 9:00 AM Sanctuary Service 10:15 AM-12:30 PM Junior Congregation & Children’s Services 5:30 PM Tashlich - Riverside Park, Rumson 7:00 PM Mincha & Ma’ariv

Rosh Hashanah/Day 2 /Tuesday, September 15 9:00 AM Sanctuary Service 10:15 AM - 12:30 PM Junior Congregation & Children’s Services

Cemetery Services/Sunday, September 20 1:00 PM Congregation B’nai Israel Cemetery

Erev Yom Kippur/Kol Nidre /Tuesday, September 22

6:00 PM Mincha Service in Chapel 6:15 PM (sharp) Kol Nidre - Sanctuary Service

Yom Kippur /Wednesday, September 23 9:00 AM Sanctuary Service 10:45 AM - 1:00 PM Junior Congregation & Children’s Services 12:00 PM Sanctuary Yizkor Service (approximately) 4:45 PM Community Yizkor Service in Chapel 5:15 PM Mincha & Neilah 7:34 PM Sounding of Shofar followed by Congregational Break-fast

Erev Sukkot/Sunday, September 27 No services held at CBI

Sukkot/Monday, September 28

9:30 AM Service

Erev Shemini Atzeret/Simchat Torah /Sunday, October 4

5:15 PM Dinner 6:00 PM Service

Shemini Atzeret/Simchat Torah/Monday, October 5 9:30 AM Service (includes Yizkor)

High Holy Day Service Schedule 2015 / 5776

CANDLE LIGHTING TIMES Candles can be lit earlier if you are attending services

6:50 pm - Erev Rosh Hashanah

7:48 pm - Erev 2nd day Rosh Hashanah

6:35 pm - Kol Nidre

6:27 pm - Erev Sukkot

6:15 pm - Erev Shemini Atzeret/Simchat Torah

(Yizkor candles should be lit first)

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Tashlich Monday, September 14

5:30pm at Riverside Park, Riverside Drive, Rumson

Yom Kippur Wednesday, September 23 Come to hear the Shofar blown

at 7:34 pm on the night of Yom Kippur & then join us in the Social Hall for a Congregational Break-Fast.

Please RSVP to the office no later than Friday, 9/18

to give us time to buy enough food!

The following blessings are recited Monday and Wednesday nights (September 13 & 14).

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Following the Kiddush, HaMotzi is recited over the challot

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Cantor Goldberg will join those who come to honor and remember their loved ones at Congregation B'nai Israel's Cemetery,

Sunday, September 20, 2015 at 1:00 pm.

BREAK - FAST REMINDER We invite you to break the fast with clergy and fellow congregants at the conclusion of Yom Kippur. Please let us the office know by Friday, September 18, if you plan to join us.

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Etrogim Sets for Sukkot

Orders need to be received no later than Rosh Hashanah.

Standard Set: $32 Children Set: $28

Each set includes the Etrog, Lulav, Myrtles, Willows & a Lulav Bag.

Contact Emilie at emilie.kovit-meyer@cbirumson.org to order.

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SIMCHAT TORAH

Simchat Torah, the Rejoicing with the Torah, is the culmination of

Sukkot. Basically, it is a great celebration involving the entire

community, young and old! All the Torah scrolls are taken out and

carried around the synagogue in a series of seven processions-

Hakafot-accompanied by singing. Every adult has a chance to

embrace and carry the Torah. This is also a special holiday for the

children, who are blessed by the Rabbi under a large Tallit and

celebrate by singing special songs in honor of the Torah. When the

seven circuits are completed, all but one of the Torah scrolls are

returned to the Ark. The last section of Deuteronomy is then read

out of the remaining Torah. This is the only time the Torah is read in

the synagogue at night.

On the following morning the Hakafot (processions) are repeated.

After the circuits, three Torah scrolls are left out of the Ark. From the

first scroll, the last portion of the Torah is read, Deuteronomy 33-34.

It is customary for everyone in the congregation to be called up for

an aliyah. The fifth aliyah is traditionally given to all children as a

group. This is called Kol ha-Noarim - All the children. A large tallit is

spread over the Torah. The person who is called for the last aliyah

of this section is called Hatan Torah, the Groom of the Torah - a

special honor, as that person’s aliyah completes the Torah reading

cycle for the year. After this, the second Torah replaces the first and

Genesis 1:1 – 2:3 is read. This aliyah is called Hatan Bereshit-the

Groom of the Beginning. From the third scroll Numbers 29:35-30:4 is read. The special Haftorah for this day, from the Book of Joshua,

symbolizes the continuity of the Jewish people and its leadership after the death of Moses. The Torah readings also allude to this

continuity: after chanting the final verses of the Torah, we return to the beginning and read the first verses of Bereshit, thus beginning our

cycle anew. (Reference: The Jewish Catalogue.)

 

BOOK REVIEW

The CBI Library Committee will present a review of a suggested book each month in hopes that it will interest our congregants in utilizing the many books and CD's that are available to all. This month's book ,The Golem and The Jinnie, was reviewed by our committee member, Susan Glynn.

The Golem and The Jinnie by Helene Wicker

This is a novel that transports us from the modern world of the contemporary novel we are used to reading to the realm of fantasy.

Though the novel takes place in early 20th century America, mostly on the Lower East Side of Manhattan, its characters are a female golem fashioned only recently by an old Eastern European magician, and an ancient Jinnie from Arabia released from centuries of captivity with no memory of how he has come to America.

The newly formed female Golem, (could she be Israel?) and the ancient Jinni (Arabia?) have an interesting and adventurous relationship that takes some unexpected turns.

All in all, this is a strange, but intriguing treatment of some phantasmagoric themes. In light of the recent studies of the Zohar that many of our congregants pursued with the Rabbi, the book takes on even more significance for those with an interest in mysticism. Susan Glynn

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Sisterhood News 

First meeting of Sisterhood done! Thanks to all who braved the heat to stop by, plus the who have shown their support by asking to volunteer and participate in future events. As we start off a new year, we are focused on building close friendships among our members and to "connect, commit and care." Our group will strive to:

Connect: connecting Jewish women of all ages and generations Commit: committing to CBI, our children and our future Care: caring for our Jewish community at large

I am thrilled to announce that Anne Zack will continue as Treasurer. Danielle Goldberg will be running the Judaica Shop, which stocks a full variety of Judaica and gift items available for purchase. You won’t want to miss the big SALE in the fall with big discounts on Jewish merchandise! Bonnie Cooper will be leading the Holidays in the Classroom program to assist the Cantor and our Hebrew School teachers with bringing Jewish holidays to our children. Debbie Menkowitz will be our first Gan liaison to spread the word of Sisterhood to our Gan families. Harriet Straus will be leading the effort to assemble and deliver “Welcome Baskets” to new CBI families.

Our social calendar is filling up, so please mark your calendars for upcoming Sisterhood events:

Sunday, October 4th - Simchat Torah celebration and family dinner

Thursday, November 12th - Paint & Sip at Pinot's Palette in Red Bank (Chaired by Melanie Brown)

December 2nd through 6th - Book fair co-sponsored by Sisterhood and the Gan (Chaired by Saguit Saad)

Sunday, December 6th - Chanukah Festival & Dinner (Co-sponsored with Membership Committee)

Thursday, January 28th - Pledge Event (Chaired by Tootsie Olan, Gayle Stamer & Stacey Klinge)

Saturday, February 20th - Family Movie Night & Cocktail Party (Chaired by Melissa Marcus & Jessica Angstreich)

We are also looking for a "new name" for our group - any suggestions or ideas? Let me know!

If you would like to volunteer for Sisterhood events and programs, or to be included in future emails, please contact me at staceyklinge@gmail.com.

Connect. Commit. Care.

Stacey Klinge Sisterhood President Staceyklinge@gmail.com.

Sisterhood Judaica Gift Shop

Our fabulous and well-stocked Sisterhood Judaica Shop, located in the Sanctuary Lobby, will be open on Sundays, 9 AM to 11:30 AM, whenever Religious School is in session. The Shop is also open by appointment. Sisterhood carries a complete line of Judaica, including wedding and Bar/Bat Mitzvah gifts, tallitot, mezuzah cases and scrolls, toys, tzedakah boxes, candlesticks, home and holiday gifts, and much more. If you don’t find that special tallis or one-of-a-kind Shabbat or holiday item on the shelves, let us know and we can work with you to find what you're looking for and place a special order. Coming soon is a full assortment of items to get you ready for Chanukah, including menorahs, candles, wrapping paper and ribbons, dreidels and both milk chocolate and pareve dark chocolate gelt (nut-free)! For more information, or to schedule an appointment, contact Danielle Goldberg at dlromanoff@gmail.com or (207) 408 - 5732 or Emilie in the Main Office.

Congregation B’nai Israel Library Book Club Lynn Einbinder, Chairperson

On the evening of July 22, 2015, one dozen interesting and interested bibliophiles gathered together at CBI to discuss the book, Act One,

by Moss Hart. During a lively discussion that was ably led by the founder of the Club, Susan Glynn, every one of those present joined in

the conversation about the biography of Moss Hart, the famed Tony-award winning playwright whose works include “You Can’t Take it

With You”, “The Man Who Came to Dinner”, “A Star is Born” and “Gentlemen’s Agreement” to name but a few. Hart was a Jewish boy who

was born in the Bronx, NY and ascended to the pinnacle of theater heights in the 1930’s, 40’s and 50’s. Following the discussion,

refreshments were served. Due to its success, a second session will be held on September 30 to discuss the book "Ally". Those who wish

to join are invited to look for further information on page 4 of this bulletin. Kudos to Susan!

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High Holy Day Cemetery Fund Letter  September, 2015

Dear Friend:

"Honor thy Father and thy Mother" is an old Hebrew teaching. It holds true during and after their lives. It sets the example for generation after generation to follow.

The High Holy Days are approaching and many of you will be honoring your loved ones with visits to their place of rest.

The Congregation does not conduct any type of fund raising for the upkeep of the B'nai Israel Cemetery. It is solely dependent on voluntary contributions. These funds are essential in order to maintain the grounds and expand the beautification program.

Due to the increased costs of labor and materials, it is necessary to ask for your generous cooperation in our appeal for funds for the cemetery.

With best wishes for a good year, I remain.

Sincerely, Jeffrey Becker Chairman, Cemetery Committee Please return to: Congregation B'nai Israel 171 Ridge Road Rumson, NJ 07760 Enclosed please find my check in the amount of $_______ contribution to the Cemetery Fund for maintenance and beautification. Name Address

City State Zip

Update about the CBI Cemetery 

Many of you may not be aware that the congregation has a cemetery. It is located in Tinton Falls on West Riverdale Ave. The size of the cemetery is approx 4.5 acres., 3 acres of which are being used and 1.5 acres that need to be cleared for future use.

Jeff Becker and the Cemetery committee are working on a 1-2 year plan to expand the cemetery into the unused sections and beautify it so future generations will have a place for their loved ones. Recently we hired someone to computerize all the cemetery records in the synagogue’s database.

The fee structure for the cemetery is as follows: Current members in good standing have the opportunity to purchase a grave on a sliding scale based on length of membership. Pricing starts out at $2,500 plus the current grave fee (currently $1,180*) with less than one year of membership and bottoms out after 5 years of membership to only the current grave fee*. Associate members have a similar pricing schedule. Anyone who was a member before 1998 and remains in good standing for 25 years is entitled to a free grave.

In addition to the above fees, a maintenance fee and a monument bond is assessed to every grave. The maintenance fee of $1,050 is used for the beautification and maintenance of the cemetery. A monument bond of $800 is required but is refundable within one year after burial once the family installs a monument. The bond is to cover the cost if the congregation has to install a monument if the family did not. The congregation is not a monument company. We will not purchase or install a monument on behalf of the family unless the family does not install one. Believe it or not there have been several graves over the years with no stone. The grave maintenance fee stated above does not cover the maintenance of the monument. We do have a monument company that goes through the cemetery from time to time to repair sunken or damaged stones, however if you feel you need a repair done in a much more timely manner we recommend that you contact a monument company directly.

This has been a brief outline of how the CBI Cemetery operates. If you have any further questions or have interest in reserving a (non-specific) grave, please email or call the main office or contact Jeff Becker at beckerjeff77@gmail.com.

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Todah Rabah! We gratefully acknowledge the following contributions. Abram & Helen Green Fund Speedy Recovery to Lois Green Janet & Richard Kramer Rob Fire Lois & Len Green In Honor of Arleen & Bud Natelson's Anniversary Lois & Len Green In Memory of Richard Fire Lois & Len Green Rassas Fund In Memory of Molly Rassas Janet & Richard Kramer Speedy Recovery to Aaron Rassas Lois & Len Green

David Schwarz Fund In Memory of David Schwarz Ofelia Schwarz Ann & Henry & Stephanie Swirsky Victoria Gurwitz Isolina Karpel & Family Adult Education Fund In Memory of Martin Warshauer Yona & Herb Shulman

Cemetery Fund In Memory of Ira Jacobs Irene Jacobs & Family Kathleen Benowitz Samuel Benowitz Beverly Kramer Erica Rosenthal Herbert M. Rosenthal Manfred Rosenthal Frieda Furman Irene Jacobs Joseph Lashovitz Bill & Ann Beth Lashovitz Harry Roizinblit Rachel Green Dr. Donald Littman Annellen Guth Anna Farber Irv & Sharon Alter CBI Playground In Honor of Peter & Ellen Koenigsberg grandson, Micah Yona & Herb Shulman Education-Gan Yeladim In Memory of Karen Rasbruch The Alter Family

Education-Religious School In Memory of Ida Schwartz Murray Schwartz Arlene Dubrovsky In Honor of Arleen & Bud Natelson's Anniversary Dave & Sybil Scheinhartz Ezra Fund In Memory of Victor Plotkin Muriel Plotkin The Gelband Family Isak Diamond Marge & Aaron Rassas Rose Schpoont Fay Cooperhouse Leonard Pamm Charlotte Rodetsky William Friedman Mimi Friedman In Honor of Mimi Friedman's 90th Birthday Al & Robin Zager Janet & Richard Kramer Yona & Herb Shulman Helene Matorin Dave & Sybil Scheinhartz Mildred Howitt Pat Mieth General Fund Speedy recovery to Lois Green Jodi Woolley Amy & Lester Mallet In Honor of Mimi Friedman's 90th Birthday Joel Whitman Harriet & Steve Straus Sharon & Irv Alter Karen & Art Becker Adele Becker Robin Zager leading Shiva Minyan Services Jerry & Audrey Harnik Erika Postelnek's College Graduation Art & Karen Becker & Family Danielle & Scott Semaya's Marriage Mindy & Stephen Hoffman In Memory of Richard Fire Karen & Arthur Becker Martin Warshauer Jodi Woolley Lisa Schwab Robin & Howard File Estelle Bach Seena & Russ Goldman From Fran & Rich Semaya

Israel Scholarship Fund In Memory of Sidney Shein Hartley Shein Jennie Shein Jeffries & Rona Shein In Honor of Mimi Friedman's 90th Birthday Ellen Wagner Zatcoff Rachel's engagement to Eric Leist Arlene Zimmel Kitchen Fund In Honor of Mimi Friedman's 90th Birthday Arleen & Bud Natelson Hy & Rhoda Schulman Nelly & Moshe Segal Library Fund In Honor of Mimi Friedman's 90th Birthday Dr. Harry & Bozzi Swartz Mildred Howitt Adelaide Komar's Birthday Mildred Howitt From Lynn & Jay Einbinder Machor In Memory of Leon M. Rosen Barbara & Edward Rosen & Family Music Fund In Memory of Richard Fire Yona & Herb Shulman Sylvia Schulman Arlyne LeSchack In Honor of Jodi Woolley leading Shiva Minyan Services Jerry & Audrey Harnik Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund In Memory of Virginia Goldstein David Goldstein Gene & Judie Rothenberg Doris Kohl Harry Korn Ruth & Larry Korn Louis Miller Lenore Miller Meyer Reiner Art & Fran Reiner Martin Adler Sidney Woolf Shirley Adler Edith Schlussler Henry Schlussler In Honor of Rabbi Sultar Bruce & Nora Warshauer

CBI CONNECTION ‐ September 2015  Page 16 

Todah Rabbah continued on p17

Memorial Plaques Reminder that Memorial Plaques

are available for purchase. Contact the Pat Mieth at 732-842-1800, x206

if interested:

Memorial Plaque - $500 Tree of Life Leaf - $200

Tree of Life Stone - $2,000

We gratefully acknowledge the following Torah and Haftarah readers who participated in the Congregation B’nai Israel Shabbat Services

in June and July 2015.

PLEASE NOTE

Beginning with our October Issue, the CBI Bulletin will automatically be emailed to you, if we have your email address, so that we can save postage and printing costs.

If you have an email but prefer to have it mailed to you please

let the office know ASAP.

Yahrzeit Reminder Check with the office if you are unsure whether we have a record of all the yarhrzeits you want the synagogue to acknowledge. We will need the deceased’s name and English date and time of death.

Torah & Haftarah Chanting Sign‐up  

Congregation B'nai Israel is fortunate to have volunteers to assist with Torah & Haftarah chanting. If you'd like to be a part of that we have the following tool to help you sign up easily.

The link below takes you to a list of all of the upcoming Shabbat dates, along with a list of the specific Torah & Haftarah readings (including chapter & verses) for each Shabbat. The list will always cover the upcoming 3 months or so. Click on the link to peruse which readings are open in the upcoming weeks. Find the weeks you're available and the portion lengths that are comfortable for you. Then just follow the simple process to sign up. And you can even use your smartphone! http://www.signupgenius.com/go/10c0845a9a923abfd0-torah

Torah & Haftarah chanting has never been easier...or at least signing up for it!

If you wish to honor a congregant’s special event, e.g. birthday, anniversary, or graduation-what better way than to celebrate the Simcha

with a Friday night Oneg or Saturday Kiddush! Contact Director, Emilie Kovit-Meyer for further information.

732-842-1800 x203

JUNE Lynn Einbinder

Cantor Dov Goldberg Rebecca Goldzweig

Gloria Landy Iris Michaelson

Paul Millman Bill Pollack

Dr. Moshe Segal Fran Semaya Rich Semaya

Dr. Yona Shulman Steve Siers

Candace Simon Linda Weissglass

Jodi Woolley

Todah Rabbah continued from p16

Todah Rabah! We gratefully acknowledge the following contributions. Tzedakah - Community of Caring In Memory of Richard Fire Dave & Sybil Scheinhartz In Honor of Mimi Friedman's 90th Birthday Ofelia Schwarz Dr. Chafkin's Retirement Bud & Arleen Natelson

Staff Appreciation Fund In Memory of Jacques Weiss Mindy & Stephen Hoffman Yahrzeit In Memory of Minnie Zimmel Arlene Zimmel Abraham Knobel Claire Keitelman

To Make a Donation (Tribute)

Traditionally, many congregants like to make tribute gifts in honor of or in memory of a loved one or

to mark a special event.

The minimum donation is $18, which includes recognition in our

synagogue newsletter and a tribute card to the recipient.

If you do not wish to send a tribute card, the minimum

donation is $15 and is published in newsletter.

To make a donation go to www.cbirumson.org.

JULY Susan Alderson Cynthia Barabas Rebecca Barabas

Cantor Dov Goldberg Adam Harris

Iris Michaelson Bill Pollack

Dr. Moshe Segal Fran Semaya Joel Whitman Robin Zager

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High Holy Day Schedule  Page 7 

IMPORTANT: Please note Kol Nidre time on your ticket should read 6:15pm sharp, not 6:30pm.

Selichot

Saturday, September 5 The Truman Show

and Our Own Human Show 7:45pm Havdalah Selichot Program

9:30pm Refreshments 10:00pm Selichot Service

Cemetery Services Sunday, September 20

1:00 PM CBI Cemetery

September 2015 Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat

    1 10am ‐ Noon Library Open  10:30am Sicha: Study Group 10:30am Adult Education                   Meeting 

2 10am ‐ Noon Bridge 7:00pm Finance Meeting 8pm Men's Basketball 8pm House Committee           Meeting 

3 8am Minyan/Breakfast 10am ‐ Noon  Library Open 7pm Gan parent Meeting 7:15pm Board of Education 

4 7:30pm Kabbalat Shabbat 

5 Selichot 9:30am Shabbat Service  

SEE HIGH HOLY DAY SCHEDULE PAGE 7 

 Ki Tavo 

6 8am CBI Men's Basketball  

7 Labor Day Building Closed   

8 9am Gan Yeladim Meet & Greet 10am ‐ Noon Library Open  10:30am Sicha: Study Group  

9 Gan Yeladim 1st Day 10am ‐ Noon Bridge 3:30 Welcome New             Librarian 4pm SHMA (gr 2 ‐ 6)  7:30pm Minyan  followed by Ritual Committee   8pm Men's Basketball 

10 8am Minyan/Breakfast 10am ‐ Noon  Library Open  

11  7:30pm Kabbalat Shabbat   

12 9:30am Shabbat Service 

    

Nitzavim 

13 Erev Rosh Hashanah    8am CBI Men's Basketball No SHMA SEE HIGH HOLY DAY SCHEDULE PAGE 7   

14 Rosh Hashanah Main Office Closed Gan Yeladim Closed SEE HIGH HOLY DAY SCHEDULE PAGE 7 

15 Rosh Hashanah Main Office Closed Gan Yeladim Closed SEE HIGH HOLY DAY SCHEDULE PAGE 7   

16 9:30am Library               Committee Mtg 10am ‐ Noon Bridge 4pm SHMA (Grade  2 ‐ 6)  4pm Library Open 8pm Men's Basketball 

 

17 8am Minyan/Breakfast 10am ‐Noon  Library Open     

18 7:30pm Kabbalat Shabbat  

19 9:30am Shabbat Service 

   

Vayelech 

20 8am CBI Men's Basketball 9am  SHMA K‐7 9:15am Parent Orientation 1pm Cemetery Service          at CBI Cemetery   

21    

22 Erev Yom Kippur 10am ‐ Noon Library Open  10:30am Sicha: Study Group Main Office Closes at Noon   

23 Yom Kippur Main Office Closed Gan Yeladim Closed SHMA Closed SEE HIGH HOLY DAY SCHEDULE PAGE 7 

24 8am Minyan/Breakfast 10am ‐ Noon  Library Open 

25 7:30pm Kabbalat Shabbat   

  

26 9:30am Shabbat Service 

    

Ha'azinu 

27 8am CBI Men's Basketball 9am SHMA PK 9am  SHMA K‐7 10:40am SHMA HS 

28 Sukkot Main Office Closed Gan Yeladim Closed SEE HIGH HOLY DAY SCHEDULE PAGE 7   

29 

10am ‐ Noon Library Open  10:30am Sicha: Study Group 

30 

10am ‐ Noon Bridge 4pm SHMA (gr 2 ‐ 6)  4pm Library Open 7:30pm Library Book Club 8pm Men's Basketball 

        

 

6:43 pm

6:53pm

7:05pm

6:31 pm