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VERBAL ABUSE
AND
THE NARCISSIST
Communication Tactics
Designed to Make You Crazy!!!
Compiled by Jeni Mawter
www.jenimawter.com
The Extreme Narcissist
People with Narcissistic Personality
Disorders have an inflated sense of
their own importance, a strong
sense of entitlement, a deep need
for admiration, yet a lack of
empathy for others.
They use verbal abuse for
power and control.
What is Verbal Abuse?
Verbal abuse occurs
when someone uses
language, either spoken
or written, to cause
harm to an individual.
http://littlekidsgrow.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/WORDS-Hurt-rant.jpg
Verbal Abuse Definition by Dr Marie Hartwell-Walker
Verbal abuse takes many forms: from
loud rants to quiet comments; from
obvious put-downs to not-so-obvious
remarks that undermine the partner.
What all the methods have in common
is the need to control, to be superior, to
avoid taking personal responsibility,
and to mask or deny failures.http://psychcentral.com/lib/signs-you-are-verbally-abused-part-i/00015267
Verbal Abuse has long-term effects
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Verbal Abusers Target their Victimhttp://www.hoagames.com/thumbs/creative-kill-chamber-
2.jpg
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“How do I
verbally abuse
you?”
Let me count the ways …
Shut Down
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Talk down or Patronize
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Put Downs
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Wear down by going on and on …
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Pretend not to hear
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Pretend to Not Understand
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and-you-are-completely-and-totally-wasting-my-time-i-got-shit-to-do-today/
Name-
Calling
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com/f1/3fb781abbf23f13b31bc7d0cd7ddc6/
The-words-that-hurt.jpg
Labels
• Neurotic
• Hysterical
• Highly strung
• Dysfunctional
• Hypersensitive
• Hypochondriac
• Crazy
• Psycho
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Keep changing the topic
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Gaslighting
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ec0.pinimg.com/originals/db/a3/e7/dba3e7b4b2d9c5df940ce35f72
a8412e.jpg
Projection
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Accusing
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Constant Blaming
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Blocking
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Not Paying Attention
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Irrational Thinking
http://www.lolriot.com/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense-011/
Constant Criticizing
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Exaggerating
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else.jpg
Twisting what I say …
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Unjust Criticism
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Abuse
Disguised
as a Joke
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Denial
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Silent Treatment
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Non-existence
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Disinterest
http://www.fugly.com/media/IMAGES/Random/cat-boring-face.jpg
The ‘non’ answer
‘Who?’
‘I’m talking to you.
‘Hi, how are you?’
‘You.’
‘What are you doing?’
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Unavailability
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Excuses
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Slander
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h503/narcissistic%2Bmothers%2Bsmear%2Bcampaign%2Bgossip%2Bslander%2Blies%2Bvideo%2Bby%2Bgail%2Bm
eyers.jpg
Pathological Lying
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Lies of Omission
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Withhold – expressions of …
• Love
• Admiration
• Gratitude
• Forgiveness
• Empathy
• Endearment
• Respect
• Validationhttp://dianekress.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/withhold-
information.jpg?w=640
Angry Outbursts / Rage
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e3564981bfc3352d1dc928fdc3e07b27-d3fr192.jpg
Provocation
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Continual humiliation,
criticism and negative
comments eventually play
with your head.
Long-term Verbal Abuse can
break people emotionally and
mentally, make them unsure of
themselves, unable to recognize
their true value and unable to
trust anyone or anything.
You feel like
you’re going
crazy!!!
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You lose your sense of ‘Self’
Sticks and stones can
break my bones and
verbal abuse can
steal my soul
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About Jeni MawterJeni Mawter is an
Australian writer who first
encountered Narcissistic
Personality Disorder
whilst researching for her
young adult multi-text
novel, Kiss Kill.
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PIAD
CNYKiss+Kill www.jenimawter.com
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