RED FLAGS TO

NARCISSISTICPERSONALITY

DISORDER (NPD)

COMPILED BY JENI MAWTER

How does a relationship that

feels so right …

… go so wrong?

NPD WARNING SIGNSIGNORE AT YOUR PERIL

NPDS ARE LOOKING FOR ENABLERS WHO GIVE ‘NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY’ ATTENTION +

EMPATHY + ADULATION

YOU ARE SELECTED BY HOW YOU RESPOND TO THE NPDS FOCUS

YOU BECOME THE TARGET FOR LOVE ‘BOMBING’

AN INTENSE FOCUS IS ON YOU

IT FEELS LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN ‘CHOSEN’

YOU ARE SPECIAL

NPDS ARE OFTEN CHARISMATIC

BUT…

NPD INTEREST IN YOU IS A PRETENSE

YOUR ENCOUNTER WILL BE LIKE AN INTERVIEW, NOT A CONVERSATION

NPDS ‘BANK’ OR STORE YOUR EMOTIONS, THOUGHTS AND EXPERIENCES

(EXPOSED WEAKNESSES WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU LATER)

THEIR LOVE IS ALL-CONSUMING

THIS FEELS PERFECT …

UNTIL …

NPDS HAVE AN INFLATED SENSE OF ‘SELF’ SUPERIORITY

THEY EXPECT, AND DEMAND, TO BE WORSHIPPED

THEY HAVE A STRONG SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT

NPDS ARE NEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS OR WORDSTHEY BLAME THE WORLD AND OTHERS

ABUSE STARTS WITHOCCASIONAL SUBTLE PUTDOWNS

EMPATHY IS FEIGNED

WITHOUT AN AUDIENCENPDS HAVE NO EMPATHY

NPDS WEAR TWO FACES

FRIENDLY IN PUBLIC

BACKSTABBING IN PRIVATE

NPDS ARE THEMASTERS OF CAMOUFLAGE

LOVE BOMBING CONTINUES

YOU DROWN IN THIS SEA OF LOVE

BUT… DEVALUING BEGINS

(USUALLY IN PRIVATE)

WHEN WORDS CONTRADICT BEHAVIOUR YOU FEEL CONFUSED

TO THE WORLD

THIS PERSON IS PERFECT

TO THE NPD, YOU ARE NOT PERFECT

YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO AN OPINION

IT’S “MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY”

YOUR VALUE COMES FROM HOW YOU RESPOND TO THE NPD – NOT FROM

WHO YOU ARE

YOU BECOME ISOLATEDLOSE FAMILY, FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES

AND COMMUNITY

ATTEMPTS TO ASSERT YOURSELF LEAD TO ‘NARCISSISTIC RAGE’

YET YOU FEEL SORRY FOR THE NPD

YOUR ROLE IS TO PLEASE THEM

NPDS ARE HYPERSENSITIVE AND PERCEIVE CRITICISM

WHEN NONE IS INTENDED

NARCISSISTIC RAGE ESCALATES (ONLY IN PRIVATE)

MANIPULATION TACTICS USED TO CONTROL YOU

GASLIGHTING DENIAL LYING EXCUSES

I never said that.

You’re imagining things.

You’re crazy.

That never happened.

Can’t you take a joke?

COMMONLY HEARD …

MUCH OF WHAT IS SAID IS A LIE

AS A NPD VICTIM YOU NO LONGER TRUST YOUR OWN

PERCEPTION, MEMORY, OR JUDGEMENT

BLAMING: NPDS ARENEVER RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS

“IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT”

YOU ARE IN A CYCLE OF VALUE AND DISCARD

YOU KEEP TRYING TO RETURN TO YOUR OLD RELATIONSHIP

YET YOU OFTEN WONDER…

YOUR BOUNDARIES WILL NOT BERESPECTED

YOU’RE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

ENABLERS DO NOT BELIEVE YOUTHEY PROTECT THE NPD

YOU ARE SILENCED

SILENCED

YOUR ABUSER WON’T LET YOU GOTHEY CRY CROCODILE TEARS

WELCOME TO THE CYCLE OF ABUSE

NO, YOU’RE NOT CRAZY!!!

THIS WHOLE SITUATION IS CRAZY MAKING

YOU’VE BEEN ‘NARCISSISED’

AND YOU NEVER KNEW …

UNTIL NOW

FINALLY THE PIECES FIT TOGETHER!

NO MORE RED FLAG CONFUSION

HOW DID SOMETHING

THAT FELT SO RIGHT …

GO SO WRONG?!

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