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Understanding self and others
The self
Answers the question ‘who am I?’ Meanings attached to a person by self and
others that are based on personal characteristics and on people’s social roles and membership in various groups
Person can have multiple selves stemming from a variety of identities (Self-pluralism)
Ideal/possible self
The self
Product ofWhat you areWhat society expects you to beWhat experiences you have and how you deal
with them
Self-presentation/impression management: Revealing yourself to others Self-consciousness – the process of knowing
oneself Self monitoring - what do you present and why Presenting your true self - makes one
vulnerable, so we prefer to act according to social expectations, wear masks and remain enigmas Assumption of maturity and sensitivity Of course, sometimes even we do not know our true
selves (cf self-consciousness)
Johari window
The most useful model to describe the process of human interaction, more specifically of giving and receiving feedback
Model depicts communication windows through which feedback is given and received
Through feedback and disclosure, you can reveal more about yourself to others and learn more about yourself from others
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Known by self
Unknown by self
Ask
open/free/public arenaarea
blindarea
unknownarea
hidden/facadearea
Others’ observation
Known by others
Unknown by others
Tell
Johari window model
Self- disclosure/exposure SharedDiscovery
Feedback
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Principles of change in the Johari window A change in one quadrant affects other
quadrants It takes energy to hide/deny/be blind to
behaviour that is involved in interaction Trust increases awareness Forced awareness is undesirable and
usually ineffective The smaller the open area, the poorer the
communication
Interpersonal learning means a change has taken place so the Q1 is larger and one or more of the other quadrants also has grown smaller.
Working with others is facilitated by a large enough area of free activity. An increased Q1 means more of the resources and skills in the relationships can be applied to a task.
There is universal curiosity about the Unknown area, but is held in check by custom, social training and diverse fears.
Sensitivity means appreciating the covert aspect of behaviour, in quadrant 2, 3 and 4, and respecting the desire of others to keep them so.
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Under Condition of Self Disclosure
Under Condition of Feedback
Under Condition of Self Disclosure and Feedback
http://saweb.weber.edu/elibrary/StructuredExperience/PDF/P-FB/P-FB-1.pdf
Open
Hidden
Blind
Unknown
Initial phase of group interaction
Later phase of group interaction
Open
Hidden
Blind
Unknown
Feedback Purpose of feedback
Helps us see ourselves as others see usOthers learn how we see them In so doing, it helps us move towards our
goals Presupposes a caring, trusting
environment Which reduces defensivenessWhich maximises personal growth
The desire for feedback is often off-set by the fear of asking for such information
The appropriate way
Feedback should be given such that the person receiving it Hears it in the most objective, least distorted way
possible Understands it Retains the choice of using/not using it
People need to be trained to give feedback Should be given such that the recipient preserves
his/her self-esteem
Indirect versus direct expression of feelings Indirect is safer because it is ambiguous and offers an
escape from commitment and rejection
Description versus interpretation of behaviour Description focuses on observable aspects whereas
interpretation involves attributing intention and could be wrong
Non-evaluative versus evaluative feedback Non-evaluative looks at behaviour rather than
personal worth and refrains from value-judgments
Specific versus general feedback Specific gives you an opportunity to know what to
change
Freedom of choice to change versus pressure to changeFreedom of choice to change means that the
decision to act on the feedback is voluntary rather than imposed
Immediate versus delayed timing Immediate feedback is most effective since
memory is vivid External versus group feedback
Contingent on circumstances Solicited versus imposed feedback
Solicited is more useful since recipient is open
Modifiable versus unmodifiable behaviour Conscious desire to change is critical
Motivation to help versus motivation to hurtDisplacement and projection precipitate harm
and conflict Data-based versus impressionistic Positive and negative versus completely
negative Suggestive versus prescriptive Constructive versus destructive
Receiving feedback
Elicit versus wait Listening and self-analysis versus denial
and rationalisation Clarifying versus assuming
References
Assigned course readings http://www.noogenesis.com/game_theory/
johari/johari_window.html for Johari window
Benefits of knowing oneself
Self-awareness promotes personal growth, which in turn enhances overall functioning (including work performance)
Self-consciousness: The process of knowing oneself Existentialist orientation coupled with
personal courage and conviction Conducive socio-cultural environment Living comfortably with complexity and
contradiction Willingness and ability to change Time and energy for introspection
Open/Public Blind Spot
Hidden/Facade Area Unknown
Known To Self
Known To Others
Unknown To Others
Unknown To Self
The open-receptive person has a large public area, reflecting someone who is open about him/herself and receptive to feedback from others. This is the person who has a clear self-image and enough confidence in who he/she is to be visible to others. If in a management role, the open-receptive person has employees who tend to feel respected and encouraged to grow.
Johari Window: The Open-Receptive Person
Johari Window: The Pumper
Open/Public Blind Spot
Hidden/Facade Area Unknown
Known To Self
Known To Others
Unknown To Others
Unknown To Self
The pumper has a large hidden area, reflecting someone who keeps information with him/herself. This is a person who is always asking for information and giving little in return – the game player. If the pumper is in a management role, employees tend to feel defensive with and resentful of this individual.
Johari Window: The Blabbermouth
Open/
PublicBlind Spot
Hidden/
Facade Area
Unknown
Known To Self
Known To Others
Unknown To Others
Unknown To Self
The blabbermouth has a large blind area, reflecting someone who talks a lot but does not listen too well. This is the person who is pre-occupied with him/herself and doesn't know when to keep quiet. If the blabbermouth is in a management role, employees tend to get annoyed with this person and eventually will either actively or passively learn to shut him/her up.
Johari Window: The Hermit
Open/
PublicBlind Spot
Hidden/Facade
AreaUnknown
Known To Self
Known To Others
Unknown To Others
Unknown To Self
The hermit has a large unknown area, reflecting a lack of self-knowledge and understanding. This is a person you can’t figure out. The hermit’s behaviour tends to be unpredictable and security-oriented. If in a management role, employees tend to feel insecure and confused about expectations.