The River Rushes On

The Power of the RiverMaking Connections and Change

Tom Cody, Willow Sweeney and Paul Bernabei

Top 20 Training’s Mission:

To enable people to discover their inner power to reach their potential and make a positive difference in their lives and the lives of others.

Why Are We Here?

1.To enhance the lives of children by ourunique power to make connections and

see new possibilities.2.To provide a practical tool that can be applied

in situations where change is necessary.

A Drop in the BucketMitch Barrett and Carla Gover

It’s a crazy world we live in, bad news all around.Brothers and sisters, if we’re gonna make a differenceWe’re gonna have to stand our ground.

It’s a drop in the bucket, and a bucket in the pond,And the pond fills the river, and the river rushes on.Every river swells a river, until the power can’t be stoppedAnd what becomes a mighty ocean, started as a drop.

The Frame

What We See Is What We Get

The Frame

SeeSee FeelFeel

DoDoGetGet

Making Connections

SeeSee FeelFeel

DoDoGetGet

WHAT’S BEHIND THE FRAME?

SeeSee FeelFeel

DoDoGetGet

BELIEFS

SeeSee FeelFeel

DoDoGetGet

MESSAGES

BELIEFS

Core MessagesIdentity

Worth

Purpose

Potential: a power within us

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated so it can come through us to make a positive difference

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated so it can come through us to make a positive difference in the quality of our lives, relationships and experiences

Potential: a power within us…that waits…waits…waits…to get activated so it can come through us to make a positive difference in the quality of our lives, relationships and experiences and, in doing so, make a difference in the livesof others.

Potential

TIME

POTENTIAL

Bottom 80’s

Top 20’s T

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= Think

= Learn

= Communicate

Circumference Messages in the Land of OP

Core Messages

Circumference Messages in the Land of OP

Core Messages

OPOs (Opinions)

OPEs (Expectations)

OPAs (Agendas)

Circumference Messages in the Land of OP

Core Messages

OPOs (Opinions)

OPEs (Expectations)

OPAs (Agendas)

POP (Please Other People)

Our Life Tree

I Matter I am Good Enough

I don’t Matter I am Not Good Enough

GE Messages NGE Messages

Making Change

Lanesboro Family Reunion

The Frame

SeeSee FeelFeel

DoDoGetGet

Black Hills Family Reunion

The Frame

SeeSee FeelFeel

DoDoGetGet

When not getting what’s important

1. Change Nothing

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When not getting what’s important

1. Change Nothing2. Change ‘Do’

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When not getting what’s important

1. Change Nothing2. Change ‘Do’3. Blame -Give away power -Become a victim -Stuck in yuck

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When not getting what’s important

1. Change Nothing2. Change ‘Do’3. Blame -Give away power -Become a victim -Stuck in yuck

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Change See: Get Curious -Ask: How can I see this differently?

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RIGHT VS. CURIOUS

FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-

SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-

IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE

EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-

SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-

IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE

EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

Are you sure you are seeing what you think you are seeing?

Three kinds of Right

Right = Right80

20 Right = Wrong

Right = Right +(Correct but incomplete)

4. Practice the Lesson of the Crack:Say “Maybe”

How can we see more?

1. Create a crisis2. Ask someone

else3. Change roles

• We are blind• We don’t know it• We think we’re right• We blame• We lose power• We stay stuck in yuck

• We are blind• We know it• We stay curious• We take responsibility• We maintain power• We make a difference

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The River Rushes On