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The Power of Your Story

Janaki SeverySeattle, Washington

Managing DynamicsIn the beginning In the beginning

we had language and we had language and we began to share we began to share life…life…

Managing DynamicsStories Began with Stories Began with

Desires Desires to Connect…to Connect…

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What is a Story?What is a Story?Random House: meaning of “Story”

1. Written/spoken account of something that has happened. 2. Fictitious tale shorter than a novel. 3. Plot of a novel or drama

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The story was the bushman’s most sacred possession. They knew what we do not; that without a story you have not got a nation, or culture, or civilization. Without a story of your own, you haven’t got a life of your own. Laurens Van der Post

Stories are Sacred

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Human Beings Always Tell Stories

Story telling allows us….

to share our experience in narrative form to construct meaning about life challenges to build armor protecting us from adversity to express our fears, beliefs and heroism to teach values and unwritten rules to explain life and how the world works

Managing DynamicsStories are Stories are

Shaped and ConstructedShaped and Constructed

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Nature-Nurture Timing –Values Finance-Fear Health-Intelligence Gender-Siblings Looks-Popularity

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Who Told You Stories?

Family Love you and teach you their world

Friends Influence you to be in their tribe and be like them

Culture Keep your culture and history alive

School Teach how to learn and how to fit in

Religion Teach about God

Work Train us “their way”Who did you dream to be?

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How “Your” Stories Started

Imagination is Powerful…

What kind of stories did you hear?

What did you believe?

What stories became your stories?

What stories have you released?

What stories would you like to change?

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Your Stories Need a Voice

Who listened to Your Stories?

When were you heard?

How did you know they heard you?

Did they tell your stories back to you?

How did that impact your story?

What story did you bring today?

Is it time to give your story voice?

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Things that affect how we create our stories…

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Your Brain is a Your Brain is a Survival SentinelSurvival SentinelWe pay 80.000 times more attention to danger(real or imagined) and what could place us at risk than to what is good

This helps us avoid conflict and stay alive

Fear is a survival mechanismFalse Evidence Appearing Real

Evil Eye

Managing DynamicsPerceptions Create Perceptions Create

RealityReality

Billions of sensory impulses come your way every moment As you grow, you selectively filter out the vast majority of impulses and only allow a fraction into your awareness

What you allow is determined by your habitual patterns of seeing and interpreting the world

Reality is flexible. It is made of selective acts of attention and interpretation

Managing DynamicsChange Your PerceptionsChange Your Perceptions……

Your attention and interpretations create Your attention and interpretations create what you see, ultimately determining your what you see, ultimately determining your beliefsbeliefs

A belief is simply an interpretation you A belief is simply an interpretation you hold to be truehold to be true

New ideas expand awareness, enhance New ideas expand awareness, enhance life and challenge those beliefslife and challenge those beliefs

Embracing new ideas can change your Embracing new ideas can change your beliefs about yourself and as a result, beliefs about yourself and as a result, change your storychange your story

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Biology of Belief Biology of Belief by Bruce by Bruce LiptonLipton

Genes and DNA do not control our biology

DNA controlled by signals outside the cell

DNA responds to energetic messages emanating from our positive and negative thoughts.

Dr. Lipton’s profound synthesis of cell biology and quantum physics is a major breakthrough showing that our bodies can be changed as we retrain our thinking.

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1. . Brains consist of interconnected nerve and glial cells2. Brain’s change as a result of life experience2. Brains are 'plastic' and 'malleable‘ with learning3. Learning changes brain connection strength by adding or removing connections, or adding cells

Neuroplasticity(cortical remapping)

Experience changes brain structure and organization

“Neurons that fire together, wire together"/"neurons that fire apart, wire apart."

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Looking Glass SelfLooking Glass Self

We shape our sense of self by what other people see and say and we accept what they see as true and become it.

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Pygmalion Affect- Pygmalion Affect- OriginOrigin

Pygmalion, a Cypriot sculptor who falls so deeply in love with a statue he carved it comes to life.

1.Our expectations of people or events are formed

2.We communicate our expectations through cues

3.People respond to our cues, by matching their behavior to those cues

4.Our original expectation becomes true

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Pygmalion EffectPygmalion EffectThe higher the expectation the better they perform.

Those for whom others have… Poor expectations internalize their negative label Positive expectations internalize their positive label

A snobbish phonetics professor wagers he can take a flower girl and make her presentable in high society.When given information certain students had higher IQs school teachers unconsciously behave in ways that facilitate and encourage students' success

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Mirror NeuronsMirror NeuronsA mirror neuron is a neuron that fires “both when a person acts” and “when a person observes the same actions from another”.

They help us learn by observing the actions of others and practicing it in our brain…Imitating is a mirror neuron action

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Story Busting: Ways to Change Your Story

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Einstein Says…Einstein Says…The physical body, like all material objects is an illusion, and trying to manipulate it can be like grasping the shadow and missing the substance.

The unseen world is the real world, and when we are willing to explore the unseen levels of our bodies, we can tap in to the immense creative power that lies at our source.

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Live ConsciouslyLive Consciously

We must do our personal work first

We must be present and aware of our own fears, frustrations, hopes and dreams

We must make powerful choices of the stories we want to live

When we are present and intentional, and live in the now we access our power.

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Stories and YouStories and You

You have power over the stories woven into your lives: to retell them, rethink them, deconstruct them, joke about them, and change them as times change, because you can think new thoughts and create new stories

Clay Sculpture- Story Teller under Sunny Skies

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Story!!!

Old and useless stories harm your spirit

Unaddressed negativity leads to inaction

Negativity in our bodies make us sick Your body and brain are can change Decide to take a step…baby steps

work!If you keep telling the same sad small story, you will keep living the same sad small life. —Jean Houston

There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside of you. —Maya Angelou

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unlearn damaging thoughts unlearn validation from others for our worth unlearn self statements that are “not useful” unlearn actions incongruent with your preferred story

We must believe we are powerful enough to change our stories and our lives…

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Rotate The Entry Point

Give up old thinking that is not useful

Seek new information Avoid dead-end

thoughts and beliefs See information from a

new perspective Use lateral thinking

skills

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Use Lateral Thinking1. Stay flexible (reframe

words/labels)

2. Do not get hooked by old meanings/interpretations

3. Be willing to not be right

4. Be willing to restructure your thinking with new information

5. Generate unique interpretations for what you hear

6. Avoid self and other labeling

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Stuck in Your Reality? - Ask for Help !

….the belief that one’s own view of reality is the only reality is the most dangerous of all delusions.

Paul Watzlawik How Real is Real?

Find one or two persons you trust to help you Bust your Stories….

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Reframing: Change The Reframing: Change The Meaning –Change the StoryMeaning –Change the Story The meaning any story has depends on the The meaning any story has depends on the

“Frame” in which it is perceived.“Frame” in which it is perceived.

Are there “Frames” you could change to create Are there “Frames” you could change to create the stories you want?the stories you want?

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LevelsLevels Internal Reframing:Internal Reframing: What thoughts about yourself What thoughts about yourself

could you reframe in order to generate new beliefs could you reframe in order to generate new beliefs about yourself and change your story?about yourself and change your story?

External Reframing:External Reframing: What things could you say or What things could you say or do to change another’s perceptions or belief about do to change another’s perceptions or belief about you ?you ?

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StoryStory What do you want? What will you see, hear and feel when

your story is active? How does it feel when you imagine it? What attitudes preserve your story? How will you keep your story alive?

Find a partner and share your experiences referring to the specifics above.

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Creating Your Story

How to create the story you want.

a) Select a story you want to change.

b) Create a willingness and desire to change

c) Create clear affirmation statement.

d) Remember previous feelings of success.

e) Generate those feeling about the new story

F) Feel certainty about your new outcome

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Act as If….Act as If….

Whatever image you can create and embellish can become real.

Moment to moment from the time of your creation forward you must behave or “Act as if” you are already living and expressing that vision.

Deepen the vision through all of

your senses and breathe it into your reality.

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Manifesting IntentionManifesting Intention

Know the story is changing Give up designing the details Trust it is happening Create an emotional connection Feel positive emotions Believe it!

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“Try? There is no try. There is only do or not do." Yoda, in The Empire Strikes Back