The Concept of Self Esteem

Excellence in Business. Excellence in People.

The Concept of Self Esteem

OPRA Consulting Group

Excellence in Business. Excellence in People.Quote: Melissa

Christino

Your true potential lies way, way down in the depths of your soul … in the pit of your stomach, past your knowledge,

beyond your nervousness, and buried under your fears and anxieties. As hidden as it may be, it is still there. I know it’s

there because I’ve felt it before, and I know it’s there in others too because I’ve seen others perform miracles. There

is a faint glow of unparalleled potential in all of us, and when we find it – it shines.


Popularisation of self-esteem


Self Esteem in Today’s Economy


Self Esteem: A DefinitionSelf esteem is the “disposition to experience oneself as being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness”.

The reputation we acquire with ourselves.

• Confidence in the efficacy of our mind, in our ability to think (Self efficacy)• Confidence in our ability to learn, make appropriate choices

and decisions, and respond effectively to change.• Experience that success, achievement and fulfilment are right

and natural for us (Self respect)


GENERAL

• Mental Health

• Quality of Relationships

• Success

• Social Effectiveness

• Happiness

ORGANISATIONAL

• Intrinsic motivation

• Work related attitudes (e.g. turnover attentions, job satisfaction, org commitment)

• Behaviours (e.g. performance, citizenship behaviour, turnover)

Excellence in Business. Excellence in People.High vs. Low Self

EsteemHigh Self Esteem

• Seeks challenge and stimulation

• Ambitious

• Strong desire to express self

• Open, honest and appropriate communications

• Form nourishing relationships

• Willingness to admit mistakes

Low Self Esteem

• Seeks the safety of familiar and undemanding

• Aspire and achieve less

• Urgent need to “prove” self

• Lack of clarity and honesty in communications

• Form destructive relationships

• Hostility, blame and defensive mind set


Branden: The Six Pillars

“Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves”

• Living Consciously

• Self Acceptance

• Self Responsibility

• Self Assertiveness

• Living Purposefully

• Personal Integrity


The Practice of Living Consciously

• Respect for facts• Being in the moment• A concern to understand the world around me• A commitment to learning• To seek clarity• Awareness of values that motivate• Distinguish between facts and feelings


The Practice of Living Consciously

Sentence Completions as a tool for raising self understanding, self esteem, and personal effectiveness

(accessing and activating hidden resources)

• If I bring 5% more awareness to my activities today …

• If I pay more attention to how I deal with people today …

• If I bring 5% more awareness to my priorities then …

• Living consciously to me means …


The Practice of Self Acceptance

Are you accepting your own greatness?If we are self-accepting we do not experience ourselves as always “on trial”.

What this leads to is non-defensiveness and willingness to hear critical feedback or different ideas without becoming hostile or adversarial.

• Willingness to own, experience, and take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions without evasion, denial or disowning.

• Giving oneself permission to think one’s thoughts, experience one’s emotions, and look at one’s actions without necessarily liking, endorsing or condoning them.

• The virtue of realism applied to self.


The Practice of Self Responsibility

• Realising that we are the authors of our choices and actions

• Each one of us is responsible for our life and well being and for attainment of our goals

• The question is not “Who’s to blame?” but always “What needs to be done?”

“I am responsible for my choices and actions. To be responsible in this context means responsible not as the recipient of moral blame or guilt, but responsible as the causal agent in my life and behaviour”


The Practice of Self AssertivenessTo live authentically, to speak

and act from innermost convictions and feelings.

“Their work is clearly a vehicle for self actualization. Their desire is to bring ‘who they

are’ into the world, into reality, which I speak of as the practice of self assertiveness”


The Practice of Living Purposefully

“It’s not that achievements prove our worth but rather

that the process of achieving is the means by

which we develop our effectiveness, our

competence at living”


The Practice of Personal Integrity

Integrity is the integration of ideals, convictions, beliefs and behaviour. When our behaviour is

congruent with our professed values, when

ideals and practice match up, we have integrity.


•Attempts to compensate for deficiencies• Conscious: A pretence at self

confidence and self respect we do not actually feel

• Unconscious: Denial and evasion of behaviour/actions

Ultimately serves to undermine self esteem

Pseudo – Self Esteem

Excellence in Business. Excellence in People.Applications

• 1 to 1 Coaching

• Leadership Development

• Team Development

• Culture Change

Excellence in Business. Excellence in People.Thinking

Points• Relationship to other models /

concepts e.g. self efficacy, strengths based coaching?• Acceptance of Self Esteem / Self

Leadership?• Application in the Workplace?• Long Term Impact?

The Concept of Self Esteem

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