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Healthy Self

Lesson 1

Self Esteem

Starter – Self Esteem Quiz

FALSE 1. A person has high self-esteem if they are always concerned about what other people think of them.

TRUE 2. Self-esteem means being proud of who and what you are.

TRUE 3. A person that cares about being healthy and living a long life has high self-esteem.

TRUE 4. Self-esteem means doing things that make other people happy no matter how it makes you feel.

FALSE 5. A person with high self-esteem can not think of any good qualities or traits that they have.


TRUE 6. A person with low self-esteem has a difficult time being happy for others when they succeed.

TRUE 7. A person with low self-esteem will take risks without fear of the consequences.

TRUE 8. A person with high self-esteem can accept and learn from helpful criticism from others.

TRUE 9. A person with low self-esteem feels good after making fun of others.

TRUE 10. A person with low self-esteem often puts themselves down.


TRUE 11. A person with high self-esteem has no trouble voicing their opinion around others

FALSE 12. A person with low self-esteem enjoys new experiences.

FALSE 13. A person with low self-esteem is stupid.

FALSE 14. High self-esteem means being conceited or having a "big head".

TRUE 15. Self-esteem means feeling good about yourself.

What Makes You - YOU

• The early teen years are a time to learn more about how you are.

• You discover:– Your new physical and

mental abilities

– The kinds of people you like to be with

– Activities you enjoy

– What is really important to you


• Your personality is the unique combination of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that makes you different from everyone else.


• Your personality helps determine how you react:

– To problems

– New situations

– Emotions

• For example –

– How would you react to losing your starting spot on the basketball team?

– How would you react moving to a new school?

– How would you react falling up the stairs and everyone seeing this happen?

Assignment 1: Group Activity

• On assignment 1 write down:– Three true things about

yourself– On thing that is not true

• Example: Coach Reimann– I have a passport, but

haven’t used it– I play the bagpipes– I’ve always had short hair– All of my siblings names

start with the same letter

• Each person will read their truths and lies to the group in any order

• The rest of the group is going to try and decide what are the truths and which statement is the lie

Group Activity – Wrap Up

• What did you learn about different people in your group?

• Were you able to see their different personalities?

Self-Concept

• Your self concept is the view you have of yourself.

• People who have a positive self-concept usually focus on their strong qualities.

Self-Concept

• Some teens and adults tend to focus on their weaknesses rather than on their strengths.

• People who focus more on their weaknesses can develop a negative self-concept.

The Stonecutter Story

• A stonecutter was chipping away at the face of a mountain.

• Clink, clink, clink

• The sun was hot, and the stonecutter was tired.

• “The life of a stonecutter is hard and miserable,” he said.

• “How I wish I as a great and powerful emperor!”


• No sooner said than done, the stonecutter found himself transformed into an emperor.

• He was dressed from head to toe in silks and brocades, riding a carriage of pure gold.

• But wait. He was hot inside all those clothes.

• The sun was beating down on him.


• “So,” said the stonecutter, “the life of an emperor is not much better than the life of a stonecutter.”

• “I wish…. I wish….

• I wish to be more powerful…

• I wish to be the SUN!”


• In a flash, his wish was granted.

• He was the great sun in the heavens, the most powerful of all.

• But wait.

• Something was covering him up.

• Something was more powerful even than the sun.

• It was a cloud.




• I wish to be a cloud!”

• In an instant, his wish was granted.

• He was a great billowing cloud in the sky, most powerful of all!


• But wait.

• Something was making him move.

• Something was pushing him across the sky.

• Something was even more powerful than the cloud.

• It was the wind!




• I wish to be the WIND!”

• And he became the wind.

• Joyfully he raced across the sky, swooped down to the earth to bend the trees, and stir up the waves in the ocean.


• But wait.

• Wham!

• Something made him stop.

• He couldn’t move.

• Something was even more powerful than the wind.

• It was a mountain.




• I wish to be the MOUNTAIN!”

• And he became the mountain-tall, old, and mighty.

• “nothing is more powerful than I,” he thought.


• But wait.

• What was that noise?

• Is was a hammer of a stonecutter, chipping away at the mountain.

• The stonecutter was even more powerful than the mountain.




• I wish to be the STONECUTTER!”

Self-Concept

• Sometimes our self-concept is changed by what we see others doing.

• Remember….

Self-Concept

• “Do what you can with what you have where you are.” (Theodore

Roosevelt)

• “Too many people overvalue what they are NOT and undervalue what they ARE.”(Malcom S. Forbes)

Assignment 2

• Make a list of ten positive words/ statements that best describe you.

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Assignment 2 Continued

• Evaluate:

– Go back to your list and decide what part of health your response focused on.• Tall = physical

• Responsible = Mental

• Strong willed = Emotional

• Loyal = Social

Assignment 2 Continued

• Are you focusing too much on one part of health?

• Remember that there needs to be a balance throughout all 4 parts of health.

Self-Esteem

• Your self-esteem is the way you feel about yourself, or how you value yourself.

• It is closely related to your self-concept.

• The difference is:

– Self-Concept = how you see yourself

– Self-Esteem = how you feel about yourself

Assignment 3

• Take the following questionnaire to determine your overall self-esteem

• Check all the statements that apply to you.

• Be honest with yourself – again this is only for you.

Assignment 3 – Questionnaire

1. I generally feel anxious in new social situations where I may not know what is expected of me.

2. I find it difficult to hear criticism about myself

3. I fear being made to look like a fool.

4. I tend to magnify my mistakes and minimize my successes

5. I am very critical of myself and others

6. I have periods in which I feel divested and/or depressed

7. When someone mistreats me I think that I must have done something to deserve it

8. I have difficulty knowing who to trust and when to trust.

9. I often feel like I don’t know the right things to do or say.

10. I am very concerned about my appearance

Assignment

11.I am easily embarrassed

12.I often get defensive and strike back when I perceive I am being criticized

13.I tend to let fear and anxiety control many of my decisions

14.I tend to think negatively much of the time.

15.I often procrastinate and leave things to the last minute

16.I try to avoid conflict and confrontation

17.I often compare myself to others

18.I frequently think negative thoughts about myself and others

19.I often refrain from sharing my opinions, my ideas, and my feelings in groups

20.I sometimes lie when I feel that the truth would result in criticism or rejection

Assignment 21. I often feel that others mistreat me and or take advantage of me

22. I fear making a mistake which other might see

23. I am fearful that I will say or do something that will make me look stupid or incompetent

24. I do not set goals for the future

25. I have been told I’m too sensitive

26. I am easily discouraged

27. I am not very aware of my feelings

28. I think that life is harder for me than for most other people

29. I tend to be a perfectionist, needing to look perfect and to do things perfectly

30. I feel too embarrassed to eat out alone or to attend movies and other activities by myself

Assignment - ResultsPoints Self Esteem Effects on overall Health

0-7 Above

Average

Makes healthy choices

Rarely feels depressed or down

Well-liked by peers

Achieves goals

8-15 Average Have areas that need work but overall feels good about self the

majority of the time

Needs to work on sitting and achieving new goals

Needs to focus on positive attributes and not weaknesses

16-23 Below Average Choices might lead to health concerns

Feels depressed and down much of the time

Might feel uncomfortable or inadequate with peers

Grades and performances decline

24-30 Severely Below

Average

Should seek help from parents, teachers, and close friends to help

build confidence and point out positive attributes

Must start to find the positives in life and self

Positive Self-Esteem• Click on the picture to watch this video of Susan

Boyle

• Notice her self-concept and self-esteem

Positive Self-Esteem Helps You:

• Believe that you are an OK person and that other people like you.

• Feel relaxed inside.

• Feel confident that you will be able to achieve things in life that you want.

• Feel that it is worth trying to do things well.

• Believe you have the ability to achieve what you want.

Positive Self-Esteem Helps You:

• Feel proud, satisfied and happy when you achieve the things you set out to do.

• Know you can make things happen in your life.

• Be able to think of creative ways to get around things that get in your way

• Notice and enjoy your successes.

Star Belly Sneetches

• Click on the link picture to the right to start the video about the Star Belly Sneetches

• Think about:

– Why didn’t they have self esteem

– How did they change their self esteem

Improving Your Self-Esteem

• Stop comparing yourself to others

• Try something new

• Smile

• Do the RIGHT THING every time.

• Replace perfectionism

Improving Your Self-Esteem

• Be your own “BFF”

• Find something special in each day

• Be kinder to others

• Focus on personal accomplishments

• Get support you need to succeed

Quick Check

1. Your _____ is the unique combination of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that makes you different from everyone else.

2. Your self-concept is how you feel about yourself. True / False

3. List three ways that you can improve your self-esteem.

a)b)c)

Quick Check

1. Your PERSONALITY is the unique combination of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that makes you different from everyone else.

2. Your self-concept is how you feel about yourself. FALSE

3. List three ways that you can improve your self-esteem.

a)b)c)

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