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The best-selling book on Intervention
Love First, by Jeff Jay and Debra Jay, 2d edition, Hazelden, 2008
lovefirst.net
❖Professional Interventionists
❖Books, videos, articles
❖Intervention checklist
❖Treatment resources
❖Much more
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The brain confabulates. It associates diverse sensations, defies contradictions, and creates coherence. It even seeks explanations for its own unfathomable behavior.
-Dr. Gerald M. EdelmanAuthor, “Wider Than the Sky”
Intervention
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Normal 3-D Brain SPECT Images
Top- downsurface view
Front-on surface view
Sidesurface view
Undersidesurface view
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
Intervention
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Alcohol – 17 years ofheavy weekend use
Top-down surface view
Underside surface view
Front-onsurface view
Side surface view
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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Healthy Brain
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
Intervention
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Twenty-two years of daily drinking.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
Intervention
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Cocaine Methamphetamine
Twenty-four year old. Using two years frequently.
Twenty-eight year old. Eight year heavy use.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
brain scans
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Marijuana Opiates
Eighteen year old.Using 3 years.Four times week.
Forty year old. Methadone 7 years.Previously, heroin 10 years.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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Before & After Recovery
Top down surface view during substance abuse.
Same view after one year alcohol and drug free.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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decreased attention span, distractibility, impaired short-term memory, mood control problems, decreased social skills, decreased control of behavior, apathy, decreased verbal expression, poor impulse control, difficulty acting in a thoughtful manner
Decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex.
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Research shows that drug addiction is associated with altered cortical activity and decision making that appears to overvalue reward, undervalue risk, and fail to learn from repeated errors.
Nora D. Volkow, M.D.NIDA Director2003
Intervention
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The Three Most Damaging Myths
Action-stoppers
Thinking about our words
Intervention
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You can’t help an addictunless he wants help
Intervention
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If you can’t help an addict until he wants help,
what will get him to want help?
Intervention
A question that changes everything.
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Treatment won’t workif she doesn’t want it
Intervention
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It’s not how you get into treatment that counts,
it’s what happens once you’re there.
Intervention
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An Addict Must Hit Bottomtaking along even the smallest children
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Taking Action: The Spiritual Implication
Intervention
Building blocks to intervention
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Intervention: key concepts
The intervention team
Planning, training and rehearsal sessions
Intervention letters
Anticipating objections
Bottom lines
The launching pad
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Building the TeamHow do we know there’s a problem here?
Find the positives: “He likes teaching people how to...”
Don’t criticize, teach. “Money is the fuel of addiction.”
Who has leverage? How can it be used most subtly?
Who has influence? “I just want my son back.”
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Writing Letterstools that go beyond intervention
Intervention
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1. Identification
Name the relationship
Introduce the power of the relationship
Remove objections before they arise
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2. Love
Longest part of the letter
Detailed reasons why we love and care about this person
Memorable times and experiences
Pride and gratitude
Like a eulogy...with an inside joke
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3. ReframingThe disease
Not a matter of willpower or character
Requires professional treatment
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4. FactsBrief, specific and first hand
No judgmental language
The facts Ma’am, just the facts
Poignant
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5. CommitmentPersonal commitment to stand by them
Any help that is appropriate
Remembering the past
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6. AskA direct and personal request
Today...now is the moment
Don’t leave room for delay
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7. AffirmationEnd on a positive note
Show faith in the addict to follow through
A purpose for living
Inclusive -- we’re a family.
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Brainstorming Objectionsthe escape routes
Intervention
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Common ObjectionsWork
Childcare
Practical considerations: the dog, bills, home care
Big events: graduation, wedding, vacation
Disease objections
“I can do it on my own.”
“I don’t have a problem.
“I’ll see a psychiatrist.”
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Bottom Linesno longer helping the addiction
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Addiction can no longer trump the welfare of the family.
These are the ways I will take care of myself.
Intervention
Twelve steps for families.
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“Annie,
We are all committed to you and your health. Each of us would like to share with you the decisions we’ve made. We will not do anything to help you stay sick, but we will do all we can to help you get well. The addiction hurts us, too, so until you get into recovery we must take care of ourselves, and we want to tell you how we plan to do this....”
Intervention
We love you too much.
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TipsTrust the process
Stay calm: don’t take the bait
Magician not allowed
2 reasons for NO
Reach for the heart
Spiritual exercise
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Ongoing spiritual power
Letters to primary counselor
Break denial in group therapy
Powerful tool against AMAs (along with bottom lines)
The intervention team present in treatment
If there is a tragedy...
Using the Letters &Bottom Lines
Intervention
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Family Recoveryit’s not a spectator sport
Intervention
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Keeping up the momentum
The team has work to do
Al-Anon, Naranon, Family Program
Relapse Plan with treatment team
Everyone is in compliance
We all recover together
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A Personal Story of Intervention
you have a disease and it’s not your fault
Intervention
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The best-selling book on Intervention
Love First, by Jeff Jay and Debra Jay, 2d edition, Hazelden, 2008
lovefirst.net
❖Professional Interventionists
❖Books, videos, articles
❖Intervention checklist
❖Treatment resources
❖Much more