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Bret L. Simmons, Ph.D. 1
Bret L Simmons, Ph.D.Assistant Professor of
Management, UNRwww.bretlsimmons.com
www.slideshare.net/bretlsimmons
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What are we going to do today?
• Turn ALL cell phones OFF• Relax!• Keep an open mind• Ask questions• Interact with me and your
colleagues
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Agenda
•Breaks 1.5 to 2 hours•Lunch 11:30
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Creative Tension
Goal/Ideal“the way things could be”
Current State“the way things are”
Gap Delay
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Topics Today
• Leadership• Purpose• Change• Followership• Assertive Communication
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Leadership• What makes a good leader?
• What makes a good follower?
• Is there a crisis in leadership today? If so, what is it?
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Management vs. Leadership
ManagersDo things right
Masters of existing routinesEfficiency
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Management vs. Leadership
LeadersDo the right thingVision and judgment
Effectiveness
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Leadership vs. Management
To do the right thing, a leader needs to understand what it takes to do things right
(Bob Sutton)
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Action Memo
• Leadership is an everyday way of acting and thinking that has little to do with a title or formal position in an organization.
• Recognize the opportunities for leadership all around you and act like a leader to influence others and bring about changes for a better future.
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Leadership
An influence relationship among leaders and followers who intend real changes that reflect their shared purpose.
(Daft, 2002)
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Exercise: Purpose
What is your organization’s mission?
What is your organization’s vision?
WHY do you do these things?
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Purpose: The Missing Factor
Mission – who, when, how we will get there
Vision – where we are goingValues – rules of
engagement and norms of behavior
Purpose – why we do what we do
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Examples of Purpose
University of Texas Austin:
To transform lives for the benefit of society
Mary Kay Cosmetics:
Enhancing the lives of women around the world
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Purpose
• Never changes• Short and easy for all to remember• Serve as a guide for everyone’s
daily behavior• When reasonable people disagree
on the “right thing to do”, purpose should be the guiding principle
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Followers and leaders both orbit around the purpose, followers do not orbit around the leader. But if the purpose is not clear and motivating, leaders and followers can only pursue their perceived self-interest, not their common interest.
Purpose
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Leadership and Change
• Change requires leadership
• Leadership necessitates change
• Successful leadership requires continuous personal changeBret L. Simmons, Ph.D. 17
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Sacred Cows
• The barriers to change that everybody knows about but that nobody talks about. They are the policies and procedures that have outlived their usefulness – but that no one dares touch
• What are the biggest sacred cows in your organization?
• What is it that keeps people from leading these sacred cows to pasture? What are the barriers to change in your organization?
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Driving out fear during hard times
• Prediction: Give people as much information as possible about what will happen to them and when it will happen
• Understanding: Give people detailed information about why actions, especially actions that upset and harm them, were taken
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• Control: Give people as much influence as possible over what happens, when things happen, and the way things happen to them; let them make as many decisions about their own fate as possible
• Compassion: Convey sympathy and concern for the disruption, emotional distress, and financial burdens that people face
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Driving out fear during hard times
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Exercise: Fear
• How pervasive is the climate of fear in your organization and how damaging are the effects?
• Why does the climate of fear exist? What is driving and sustaining fear?
• What can you do about it?
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How to spot an asshole (Sutton, 2007)
1. After talking to the alleged asshole, does the ‘target” feel oppressed, humiliated, de-energized, or belittled by the person? In particular, does the target feel worse about him or herself?
2. Does the alleged asshole aim his or her venom at people who are less powerful rather than at those people who are more powerful? (Kiss up, kick down)
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Sutton’s “Things I believe” (some)
• Getting a little power can turn you into an insensitive, self-centered jerk
• Avoid pompous jerks whenever possible. They not only can make you feel bad about yourself, chances are you will eventually start acting like them
• The best test of a person’s character is how he or she treats those with less power
• The best single question for testing an organization’s character is: What happens when people make mistakes?
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Leadership: once again• Do the right thing• An influence relationship among leaders and followers who intend real changes that reflect their shared purpose.
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Exercise
• Individually, then in groups:–What is the biggest opportunity for
improvement that you see in your organization?
–What is your suggestion to your chief for how to address that opportunity?
• Pick a leader to role play with me
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•Leaders usually lead as they are led.
•You will probably lead the way that you follow.
What do you think?
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Effective Followers
Effective followers are active, responsible, autonomous in their behavior, and critical in thinking without being disrespectful (?) or insubordinate (?).
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Effective Followers
• Practice self-management and self-responsibility. Do not require close supervision.
• Other-centered, committed to the organization and its purpose. Not self-centered or self-aggrandizing.
• Invest in competence and professionalism (they assume the responsibility to develop themselves)
• Courageous, honest, credible
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Effective Followers
As a follower, you are responsible for your behavior, not the reaction of your leaders and peers. Do the right thing.
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Effective Followers
What about loyalty?
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Loyalty
Both leaders and followers are entering into a contract to pursue the common purpose within the context of their values. The loyalty of each is to the purpose and to helping each other stay true to that purpose.
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At its best, leadership is shared among leaders and followers, with everyone fully engaged and accepting higher levels of responsibility and accountability to each other (Daft, 2002)
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Courageous Followership
• Courage: The ability to step forward through fear– Accepting responsibility– Nonconformity– Push beyond your comfort zone– Ask for what you want and say what you think– Fight for what you believe
• Whether leading or following, strive to encourage, not discourage those around you
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Courage of the follower
An individual who is not afraid to speak and act on the truth as she perceives it, despite external inequities, is a force to be reckoned with.
Because courage implies risk, you should develop contingency plans
“Courage muscle” develops to the degree that we exercise it.
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Courageous Followership
Effective followership requires the courage (Chaleff, 1998): To assume responsibility To serve To challenge To participate in transformation To take moral action, and possibly even
leave Effective leadership requires the courage to
listen to followers
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Courage to assume responsibility
(look inside yourself first)
• Assume responsibility for themselves and the organization
• Do not hold a paternalistic image of the leader or the organization
• Initiate values-based, purposeful action to improve processes
• The “authority” to initiate comes from the courageous follower’s understanding and ownership of the common purpose, and from the needs of those the organization serves.
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• “By assuming responsibility for our organization and its activities, we can develop a true partnership with our leader and sense of community with our group. This is how we maximize our own contribution to the common purpose. Assuming responsibility requires courage because we then become responsible for the outcomes – we can’t lay the blame for our action or inaction elsewhere. But before we can assume responsibility for the organization, we must assume responsibility for ourselves”
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Unless and until you assume full
responsibility for yourself, you force others to assume responsibility for
you
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Courage to assume responsibility for yourself
• Interdependent relationships: when every one assumes responsibility for themselves
• Dependent relationships: follower does not assumer responsibility for himself or the leader does not acknowledge the follower’s responsible behavior
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• Do your people come to you with complaints or suggestions that they then expect you to resolve?
• Or do your people come to you with suggestions for improvement that they are willing to take some leadership in implementing?
Courage to assume responsibility for yourself
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Exercise
• Is your relationship with your supervisor dependent or interdependent? Why?
• Are your relationships with your followers mostly dependent or interdependent? Why?
• What could you do to improve?
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Followership style• Partner: high support, high challenge
– Risk taker, purpose driven, holds self and others accountable, confronts sensitive issues, peer relations with authority
• Implementer: high support, low challenge– Dependable, supportive, defender, team
oriented, compliant, respectful of authority• Individualist: low support, high challenge
– Confrontational, self-assured, independent thinker, self-marginalizing, unintimidated by authority
• Resource: low support, low challenge– Present, uncommitted, executes minimum
requirements, makes complaints to third parties, avoids the attention of authority.
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Rhetoric of Partnership
• Partner followers don’t “dump” on leaders– “This sucks (and so do you) and YOU
need to fix it. What’s wrong with you?”• Partner followers challenge the leader,
but also try to share responsibility with the leader for correcting the situation– “This does not seem to be working and I
think we can do better. Have you considered these alternatives/options? Here is what I would be willing to do to help.”
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Paradox of Partnership
• The only way to develop your partnership skills is to practice them, and you may not be (probably won’t be) invited to be a partner.
• Your responsibility to practice partnership is independent of your invitation to do so.
• You won’t encourage partnership as a leader unless you have practiced partnership as a follower.
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Exercise
• When was the last time your challenged your supervisor’s behavior or policies? Why did you do it? What were the results?
• Do you have any partner followers? Share a specific example with the group. – If you don’t have any partner followers, why
not? Discuss the implications with your group
– If you do have partners, why do they behave like that? Again, what are the implications of having these folks?
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Improving the Process
• Stop thinking its not your problem. Realize it is your responsibility.
• Courageous followers don’t just tell the leader “something should be done about this,” adding to the burden of leadership, but present ideas for improving the process that the leader can consider and they offer to help with the implementation.
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Eliciting Feedback
•Focus on performance and behavior – things that you can control and change
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Courage to Serve the Purposeful Leader (Look outside yourself)
• Assume new or additional responsibilities to unburden the leader and serve the organization
• Stand up for the leader and the tough decisions a leader must make for the org. to achieve its purpose
• Are as passionate as the leader in pursuing the common purpose
• Stay alert for areas in which their strengths complement the leader’s and assert themselves in these areas.
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Courage to Serve the Purposeful Leader
• Show care and concern for the leader. Find ways to meet her expectations and reduce her stress levels.
• Defending the leader (inside the organization)– Encourage yourself and others to be
constructive– Focus on the leader’s strengths
• Defending a leader publicly (outside the organization) – Don’t expect perfection– Expect leaders to live up to their publicly
stated values
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Courage to Serve the Purposeful Leader
• Avoiding insularity–Lose perspective and fresh ideas–Takes courage to welcome others, who may dilute our power, into the inner circle
–Diversity is a primary source of the balance needed to use power wisely.
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Courage to challenge (the leader that has wandered
off purpose)• Give voice to the discomfort they feel when the
behaviors or policies of the leader or group conflict with their sense of what is right with respect to the purpose
• Willing to stand up, stand out, to risk rejection, to initiate conflict in order to examine the actions of the leader and group when appropriate
• Willing to deal with the emotions their challenge evokes in the leader and group
• Value organizational harmony, but not at the expense of the common purpose and their integrity
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Courage to Challenge
• Conditioned for others to be responsible for our behavior but we are not held responsible for theirs.
• Immature leaders surround themselves with followers that kowtow to them.
• Skillful followers confront a leader in a way that simultaneously respects the accomplished adult, preserves the adult’s self-esteem, and challenges the immature behavior.
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Courage to Challenge
• Should be willing to challenge a leader’s behavior and policies – behavior is the most difficult
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Assertive Communication
• The ability to communicate clearly and directly what you need or want from another person in a way that does not deny or infringe upon the other’s rights.
• Use I-statements rather than you-statements; produce dialogue rather than defensiveness.
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Assertive vs. Aggressive
Assertive Aggressive
Verbal Statement of wants. Honest statement of feelings. Direct statements which say what you mean. I statements.
“Loaded” words. Accusations. Subjective terms. “You” statements that blame or label
Nonverbal general demeanor
Attentive listening. Generally assured manner, communicating caring support.
Exaggerated show of strength. Flippant, sarcastic style.Air of superiority.
Voice Firm, warm, well modulated, relaxed Tensed, shrill, loud, shaky; cold, demanding; superior, authoritarian
Eyes Open, frank, direct. Eye contact, but not glaring or staring
Expressionless, narrowed, cold, glaring; not really “seeing” others
Stance and posture
Well balanced, straight on, open, erect, relaxed
Hands on hips, arms crossed, feet apart. Stiff, rigid, rude.
Hands Relaxed motions Clenched. Abrupt gestures, fingerpointing, fist pounding.
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I-statements: Three components
1. A specific and nonblaming description of the behavior exhibited by the other person
2. The concrete effects of that behavior
3. The speaker’s feelings about the behavior
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I-statement examples
Behavior Effects Feelings
When you come late to our meetings
We have to use valuable time bringing you up-to-date, and others end up doing your share of the work
And I resent that
When you interrupt me I lose my train of thought and don’t get to make my point
And that makes me angry
When you don’t complete your team assignments
It disrupts the team’s ability to complete it’s mission
And that concerns me
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Assertive communication
• In addition to using I-statements:– Empathize with the other person’s
position in the situation– Specify what changes you would like
to see in the situation or in another’s behavior, and offer to negotiate those changes with the other person
– Indicate, in a nonthreatening way, the possible consequences that will follow if change does not occur.
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Assertive Communication:
An example• “When you are late to meetings, I get
angry because I think it is wasting the time of all the other team members and we are never able to get through our agenda items. I would like you to consider finding some way of planning your schedule that lets you get to these meetings on time. That way, we can be more productive at the meetings and we can all keep to our tight schedules.”
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Challenging indirectly
• Find ways to engage rather than alarm the leader.
• Questions to shift perspective: “Is there another way we can look at this situation?”
• Anticipating questions others might ask of the leader about her policy: “How would we respond to the concern that….”
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Courage to Challenge
• Avoiding knee-jerk rejection– Don’t ask for and don’t expect an
immediate action or decision – allow time for the leader to “think about it”
– Keep the door open for the leader to reflect
• The duty to obey– If we choose to continue being a
follower of this leader and if the policies are not morally repugnant to us, we have the responsibility to implement the policies.
– We have the right to challenge policies, but do not have the right to sabotage implementation.
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Courage to Challenge
• Challenge abuse early• Challenging the use of language• Arrogance – leaders believe they are
qualitatively different from their followers
• Leaders who scream• Personal issues (e.g. infidelities,
sexual harassment, substance abuse)
• Leaders who won’t challenge their leaders
• Challenge thyself, too – BEFORE challenging the leader.
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The courage to listen to followers• Do you really want courageous followers?
– May say one thing, but behavior and polices encourage other behaviors from followers
– Acid test: do followers actually come to you with tough issues about corporate issues or your own behavior and policies?
• What messages are number twos sending?– Responsible not only for the cultural and
moral tone you set personally, but also for the tone set by those with whom you surround yourself. (example)
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Courage to Listen to Followers
• Appreciating constructive challenge more– Do you really appreciate staff who
challenge the way in which you are leading?
– Create a climate in which you hear and pay attention to tough feedback.• Examine your own beliefs about authority,
what is and is not appropriate to say to those in authority
• Reflect on your comfort with criticism
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Courage to Listen to Followers
• If you react defensively when criticized, you are unlikely to hear further about the matter or to hear further from the individual.
• A requisite of good leadership is to override naturally defensive feelings, statements, and behaviors, and display genuine interest in what sources of critical feedback are telling you.
• Demonstrate responsiveness to feedback
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Courage to Listen to Followers
• Inviting creative challenge–Proactive vs. reactive–Distinguish between challenge to your authority and challenge to your ideas
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Courage to Listen to Followers
• When leaders present their own ideas for action before giving their team a chance to generate a range of options, they inhibit further dialogue.
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A culture of communication, not complaints
• Complaints should be taken to the person or persons who need to be addressed for it to be resolved.
• Are there complaints about you that you are not hearing?
• Leaders that listen to complaints are colluding with the dysfunctional culture.
• If you listen to complaints, you are creating dependent, not interdependent relationships
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Courage to Listen to Followers
• Creating protected communication channels–Provide your staff with a low-risk
way of raising issues that concern them.
• Discernment: what is the right action?–Purpose driven vs. ego
driven–True motives: better for me, or
better for everyone
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Open Discussion
• What does your group see as the biggest “gaps” between where you are and where you need to be?
• How can you help each other “hold creative tension” as you work to close these gaps?
• Any questions of me?