Seven Habits for success Seven teaches the habits that can make us more effective at whatever we...

Seven Habits for success

Seven teaches the habits that can make us more effective at whatever we choose.

One of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves is, "What single thing could you do this week that would make the most difference?" It tends to bring us back to what's truly important in our lives and opens up new doors for us to step through.

Day 3

• Quiz on School and Who’s Who at GHS• Quick Write• Book Distribution• Work Sheets

Quick Write

Define success. What does it mean to you to be successful? How will you know when you reach success? Who is your role model for building a successful life?

• SuccessTo laugh often and much;to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others;to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.This is to have succeeded.

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I

dreamed of changing the world;

As I grew older and wiser I realized the world would not

change.

And I decided to shorten my sights somewhat and change

only my country.But it too seemed immovable.

As I entered my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I

sought to changeonly my family, those closest to me, but alas they would have

none of it.

And now here I lie on my death bed and

realize (perhaps for the first time) that if

only I’d changed myself first,.

then by example I may have influenced my family and with

their encouragementand support I may have bettered

my country, and who knows I may have changed the world

(Anglican Bishop).

Opposites

• Love• Peace• Success• Security • Humble • Kindness• Honest• Valuable• Patient

• Hate• War• Bankruptcy• Insecurity• Arrogant• Mean• Dishonest• Cheap• Impatient

Discuss

• What are the differences between the two sides of the paper?

• How do these qualities play out in our lives? • Which side of the paper are you going to

choose to live?

The Seven Habits

1. Be Proactive2. Begin with the end in mind3. First things First4. Think Win/Win5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood6. Synergize7. Sharpen the Saw

Day 4

By the end of class, the following should be in your folder ready to grade.Paradigm and Principal Worksheet“Where I’m From” poemPersonal Metaphors

Day 5• Be Phenomenal• Complete Reading of Part I• Choose three quotes from the text.

Incorporating all three, write about what you learned in these pages. (5-7 sentence paragraph).

Day 6

• Paradigms and Principles pp 11-29

Day 7

• Paradigms and Principles

ParadigmsPerceptions about the way things are

The way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference or belief

Paradigm Shifts

Read pgs 11-12 Top 10 All Time Stupid Quotes

When this happens you get the “rest of the story” so ALL the information puts everything in perspective.

People have paradigms about themselves, other people and about life in general

Paradigms of Self

Does your self-paradigm help you or hurt you?– Low perception of self puts limitations on

ourselves

– Good self perception-helps bring out the best

Paradigms of Others

Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do

Paradigms of Life

Friend centered Stuff centered Boyfriend/Girlfriend centered School centered Parent centered

Paradigms of Life con’t

Work centered Enemy centered Hero centered Self centered Sport/Hobby centered


Friend centered-your whole life revolves around them now, but….things change

Stuff centered-possessions are great to have but not a good way to judge ourselves or others based on what they have or don’t have


School-centered-get too obsessed with grades and don’t enjoy other aspects of school

Sport/hobby centered-so focused on the activity that if the activity is gone, they have nothing else


Boyfriend/girlfriend centered- stop doing things with other friends then boy/girl is gone who is left?

Work centered-workaholic might be a sign of wanting more stuff

Self-centered-thinking the world revolves around you and you become oblivious of others

Principle-CenteredThe Real Thing

What is a principle?

A basic truth or assumption A rule or standard that people live by Moral or ethical standards

If you live by them, you will excel and if you break them you will fail

Examples of Principles

Honesty Respect Love Integrity Responsibility Loyalty Moderation And many more

Principles Never Fail

If you apply your principles to the paradigms we talked about last class, you will always have basic tools to help you with any paradigm problem

Boyfriend/girlfriend paradigm– Loyalty or give example

School paradigm– Moderation or give example

Example of Breaking Principles and Fail

Calling in sick to work when not sick

Breaking a traffic law and getting caught

Others

Examples of Principles That Help You Excel

You find an IPOD in the cafeteria on the floor You don’t know who it belongs to, so you can

pocket it or give it to an adult in charge. You choose to give it to an adult and a

student comes back looking for it-the teacher tells him who turned it in and he thanks you by buying you something in the snack bar

Examples of Principles That Help You Fail

You find an IPOD in the cafeteria on the floor You don’t know who it belongs to, so you can

pocket it or give it to an adult in charge. You decide to keep it. Finders keepers,

losers weepers. Your friends ask you when you got a new IPOD and you tell them you found in the cafeteria. This info gets back to administration and you get caught.

Day 6

• Journal #1• Read “The Personal Bank Account” pp. 31-46• Identifying roles in life (handout)• Creating and mission statement (handout)

Day 8

• The following must be in your folder• Homework from Monday 1-9 only• Paradigm and Principles worksheet 1• Paradigm and Principles worksheet 2• Bee Movie Worksheet

Money SkillsGet your computer from the cart.Login using your school login.Open Internet ExlorerGo to www.moneyskill.orgUse your moneyskill loginComplete the first 2 modules. These will count as test grades.When you finish, complete your Bee Movie packet.

Personal Bank Account

You can make deposits and withdrawals into your account by the things you think, say and do.

Benefits of a full bank account

Feel good about yourself Improve your self-esteem Improve your self-confidence

Deposits

You can add to your bank account by:

– Following through on a commitment made to yourself– Doing small acts of kindness– Don’t be so hard on yourself– Be honest– Renew yourself

– Tap into your talents

Withdrawals

You will make withdrawals when you– Breaking a promise to yourself– Ignoring someone who needs help– Beating yourself up– Are dishonest– Burn the candle at both ends, don’t renew– Ignore your talents

Negatives of an empty bank account

Feel bad about yourself Don’t trust yourself Low self-esteem Low self-confidence

How to Build a Bank Account

There are small and large deposits that you can make– List promises that people make to themselves– Do small acts of kindness– Be gentle with yourself– Be honest– Renew yourself– Tap into your talents

Remember it is PERSONAL

Each person does not hold the same items at the same value

For example, one person may hold different promises to oneself as different values.– Promise to get to bed on time vs promise to get

my homework done the night before

Examples of Deposits

Keep promise to Yourself– Promise to exercise 3x/wk for 30 minutes

Do Small Acts of Kindness– Help Mom carry groceries in from car without

being asked

Be Nice to Yourself– Be able to laugh at yourself in an embarrassing

situation

Examples of Deposits

Be Honest– Try to tell your parents the WHOLE story without

leaving parts out so that you get caught in a lie

Renew Yourself– Take time each day to re-group and relax

Tap into Your Talents– Use your hidden talent for good. If you love to

bake, make cookies for a bake sale for charity

Homework

Do one random act of kindness today. Random means that it can be towards anyone, but they can’t know you did it. For example:

Buy someone you don’t know a treat. Take out the trash without being asked. Stop and help someone in the hallway. Anything that will make someone else smile.

Journal #2

Write one paragraph explaining your random act of kindness. How did it make you feel? How do you thing the other person felt?

Effective students

•Are responsible for their own learning•Understand their strengths and weaknesses •Organize their study tasks and materials•Develop good study habits

–(and minimize bad habits)

•Do dull tasks when you are tired•Remember to DIN (do it now)•Make lists of study tasks•Set task limits as well as time limits•Remember, life happens

“Without goals, and plans to reach them, you are like a

ship that has set sail with no destination.”

-- Fitzhugh Dodson

http://www.youjustgetme.com/

Mission Statement

• Consider your personal mission statement as something to DISCOVER, rather than something to DEFINE. A personal mission statement is not something you write overnight. It takes thoughtful introspection, careful analysis, deep soul searching and sometimes several drafts to produce a final sense of purpose.

First step: Identify your roles in life.

• Complete the handout on roles.

Ask yourself a series of questions to help you gather information about your values and priorities.What are my greatest strengths?

• What strengths have others who know me well noticed in me? • What do I deeply enjoy doing? • What qualities do I most admire in others? • Who has been one of the most influential people in my life? • Which qualities do I most admire in that person? • What have been my happiest moments in life? Why? • If I had unlimited time and money, what would I do? • When I look at my work life, what activities do I consider of greatest

worth? • When I look at my personal life, what activities do I consider of greatest

worth? • What are my important roles in life? • What are the most important lifetime goals I want to fulfill in each role? • What results am I currently getting in my life that I don’t like? • What would I really like to be and to do in my life? • What are the most important principles upon which my being and doing

are based?

Day 11

• Writing a mission/vision statement• Finish reading “Personal Bank Account”

Why are we doing this?

• Video • Video

Wealth • Security

Loving relationship Recognition or fame

Free time Respect to others

• Happiness Family

Spiritual fulfillment Friendships

• Good health Integrity

• Freedom Learning/knowledge

The next step is to take some time and write down your values. Once you’ve completed your list, identify the top five. Here are some examples to get you started:

What is a Vision/Mission Statement• A good definition for a Mission Statement is a sentence or short

paragraph which is written by a person and reflects their objectives, identity, values and principle aims

• A good definition for Vision Statements is a sentence or short paragraph providing a broad, aspirational image of the future.

• A Vision is defined as 'An Image of the future we seek to create'. • A Mission is defined as 'Purpose, reason for being'. Defined simply

"Who we are and what we do". • Many people combine both their present accomplishments, which

would typically be found in a Mission statement, together with their future aspirations in just one statement. A hybrid version of both a Personal Mission and Personal Vision statement.

• There are no rules, the choice is down to you - decide what you are trying to achieve and who will be reading your personal vision statement.

Writing the Statement

• Personal Vision Statement

Day 13

• Introduce Habit 1• Class Discussion• Group Work• Reading Assignment

1. Be proactive Proactive people understand that they are

responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don't blame others for

their own actions or feelings.

“You have control over three things: what you think, what you

say, and how you behave. To make a change in your life, you

must recognize these gifts are the most powerful tools you possess in shaping for form of your life.”

--Sonya Friedman

Are you proactive or reactive?

There are two types of people in the world - the proactive and the reactive, those who take responsibility for their lives and those who blame; those who make it happen and those who get happened to. We can’t control everything that happens in life; we do have one thing we can control: how we respond to what happens to us.

LanguageReactive•I’ll try•That’s just the way I am•There’s nothing I can do•I can’t•You ruined my day

Proactive•I’ll do it•I can do better than that•I choose to•There’s got to be a better way•I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me

Scenario #1-- How will you proactively respond to this situation?

• Your boss is talking to another employee when you come in to punch your time card. You have reason to believe they are talking about you. This makes you feel uncomfortable and mad.

Choices?

• 1.

• 2.

• 3.

Scenario #2-- How will you proactively respond to this

situation?• A close friend gets to go on a senior

trip, all expenses paid. You are jealous they do not have to pay a dime. You do not think they deserve to have their parents pay for everything. You consider not going because you have to pay for part of your trip and do not think it is fair.

Choices?

• 1.

• 2.

• 3.


• At work, you developed a new way to organize the filing system that makes it easier for the office staff to find documents. Your supervisor takes all the credit.

Choices?

• 1.

• 2.

• 3.


• You are a nurse. The patient you are working with is ungrateful, rude, is always finding fault in everything you do, and makes your life miserable.

Choices?

• 1.

• 2.

• 3.

Group activity

• You will work with a group to answer the following questions. Read each question. Discuss it in your group. Write down your thoughts in your own words. No one should have the exact same answer for any question.

Day 14

• Habit 1• Victimitis page 52• Circle of control

Habit 1

Habit 1: Be Proactive explains that while you are pausing, you can use four human tools to help you decide what to do. These tools are: Self-awareness: I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions.Conscience: I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong.Imagination: I can envision new possibilities.Willpower: I have the power to choose.

Habit 1

• Sometimes life moves so fast that you instantly react to everything out of sheer habit. If you can learn to “just push pause,” get control, and think about how you want to respond, you’ll make smarter decisions.

Circle of Control

Day 15

Complete habit #1 packetMake sure mission statement is complete and in folder.Make sure reactive/proactive quiz is in folder. Please go in and put # beside p/r statement.

Day 16

• Guidance Presentation• Quiz will follow• How to get straight A’s.

Day 17

• Login to computer• Login to www.moneyskill.org• Complete pretest and Module 1.

Habit #2Begin with the

End in MindBased on the work Stephen Covey

2. Begin with the end in mind

Control your own destiny, or someone else will.

Habit 2 Quotes

• “If you don’t know where you are going, than you probably won’t end up there.” ~Forrest Gump

• “No one can go back and make a brand-new start, my friend; but anyone can start from here and make a brand-new end.” ~Dan Zadra

Same Old...Same old…

"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten."

Think ahead

• Daily you will face question about issues that will affect your future beginning right now.

• Decide now how you will respond to these questions before you face them, that way you know what to do when the time arrives.

• Habit 2 is based on the principle that all things are created twice:

• a mental or first creation• a physical or second creation • Most endeavors that fail, fail with the first

creation.

I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am

an important part of my classroom. I look for ways to

be a good citizen.

Journal Entry or

Discussion Starter:How does saying “no”

sometimes help you with “beginning with the end in mind”? What things do you have to say no to?

Journal Entry or

Discussion Starter:

What is “the end” for you? What do you hope

to be doing ten years from now? Twenty?

Make a list of things you want to do in your life.

Before you figure out the “end”, you have to

take a look at who YOU are!

Draw a picture of something that represents you. It

could be an animal, plant, machine, a food, etc.

Explain why you chose what you did.

Day 22

• Read the information on Mission Statements on pages 81-83. 1 2 3

• If you have not completed the Pretest for MoneySkills it must be completed today.

• If you have, you need to begin Mission Statement Presentations. Follow the directions on the handout. This will be finished on Friday.

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Day 23

• Journal• Maslow’s Heirarcy• Partner Work

In ten years a newspaper decides to do a story about YOU! They interview four people about you. These could be

friends or family. What would you want them to say about you?

Maslow’s Heiracy• Belonging: To be accepted by or identify with a group

(formal or informal); to fit in. • Esteem: To have the respect of your peers or

community; to be recognized for what you have done. • Safety: Having what you need to stay alive today. • Security: Protecting what you need to stay alive

tomorrow. • Self-Actualization: Fully becoming who you really want

to be; achieving the lifestyle and identity you had always envisioned.

Which is most important?

• Review the list and definitions you just made.• Number them in order of importance.

• When a decision has been reached, place it on the pyramid.

Partner Work

• With your partner, read each scenario on the handout and determine with level of Maslow’s Hierarchy the individual is dealing with.

• Video

Day 24

• Quiz• Smart Goals

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a

goal, not to people or things.”

--Albert Einstein

How good are you at beginning with the end in

mind?

I always keep

the end in mind.

I only think about today.

Why did you rate yourself

this way?

5 Keys to Goal Setting

• Count the Cost• Put it in Pen• Just Do It• Use Momentous Moments• Rope Up

Count the Cost

• Set a goal.• What will it require? List the steps.• What are the benefits? Are they worth it?• Only make a commitment you are willing to

keep.

Put it Pen

• A goal not written is only a wish.• Post them where you can see them often.

Just Do It

• Fully commit to your goals.• When will you work on them, how, where?• “There is no try, only do or do not.” --Yoda

Use Momentous Moments

• A new school year• A new year• A new day• A new job• A life changing event• Stick to your goals, even when you no

longer feel like it.

Rope Up

• Borrow strength from others.• Tell people about your goals.

Don’t Be Afraid to Fall

What do you want?…

From your careerFrom your family lifeFrom your social lifeWhat you want to beWhat you want to doValues and principles which guide what

you are and do

Goals should be

“SMART”: • Specific, • Measurable, • Attainable, • Realistic and • Timely

Secrets for Achieving Your Goals

• •Be flexible•Constantly Evaluate Your Progress

–Sometimes our plans change; sometimes we get sick. Be prepared to reassess and revise your goal if necessary.

•Never Lose Sight of Your Goal–review your goals every morning when you get up

and every night before you go to bed.

•Don’t Procrastinate–Procrastination is a “silent killer”.–Understand that the only way to achieve your

goals is to take action!


• A goal can not contradict any of your other goals.–For example, you can't buy a $750,000 house if your income goal is only $50,000 per year. This is called non-integrated thinking and will sabotage all of the hard work you put into your goals. Non-integrated thinking can also hamper your everyday thoughts as well.


• Write your goal in the positive instead of the negative.

–Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind. Part of the reason why we write down and examine our goals is to create a set of instructions for our subconscious mind to carry out.


•Write your goal out in complete detail. –Instead of writing "A new home,"

write "A 4,000 square foot contemporary with 4 bedrooms and 3 baths and a view of the mountain on 20 acres of land.


•By all means, make sure your goal is high enough. –Shoot for the moon, if you miss

you'll still be in the stars. •Put A Date On It -Determine when you

want the goal to be completed.

The Benefits of Goal Setting

•You will notice an increase in your energy level as you begin to live your life with passion –the passion that having a meaningful goal will give you.

•You will be in control of your life and the direction you are heading. Your life does not have to be determined by fate alone. With goals, you create your destiny.

•Goals give you a purpose in life. A reason to get up early and go to bed late.

Why?

• 1. You are at a critical crossroad in life---the paths you choose now can affect you forever.

• 2. If you don’t decide for yourself—someone will do it for you!

Things to watch out for:

• Negative Labels---Labels are an ugly form of prejudice. If you have been falsely labeled don’t start living someone else’s vision of you.

• “It’s all over” Syndrome—Don’t let your past mistakes take over your life.

• Wrong Wall---Make sure you are going in the right direction. Is the life I’m living now taking me where I want to go?

Journal #2

• Keeping in mind what we covered today, write your goals following the SMART guidelines.

September 23

Cyber Center•Complete Module 1 in MoneySkill•Put finishing touches on Powerpoint

September 25-26

• Complete all the following work. Place in your work folder.

3. Put first things first 106-128

Define what it is that really matters in your life, then spend your time on those important things. Rather

than spreading our time thinly across too many activities, concentrate on doing a few things well.”

Journal

• Think about your 8th grade year. Did you earn the grades you could have? Why/Why not? You have started over now in high school. What have you done to be successful here?

Will Power/Won’t Power-

• Will Power---the strength to say yes to your most important things

• Won’t Power---the strength to say now to less important things and peer pressure

The Time Quadrants

URGENT -ICrisesPressing ProblemsDeadline-driven projects

URGENT-IIIInterruptions, some callsMail, some reportsSome meetingsProximate, pressing mattersPopular activities

NOT URGENT -IVTrivia, busy workSome mailSome phone callsTime wastersPleasant activities

NOT URGENT -IIPrevention, proactive activitiesRelationship buildingRecognizing new opportunitiesPlanning; recreation

Important

Not Important

Take control of your day•Use small bits of time you usually waste•Maximize good quality time•Use dead time for little tasks•Don’t waste time in indecision •Manage interruptions•Pay attention to your work space•Ensure your techniques and systems are

efficient

Pack More into your life

• Know your roles in life• Practice Discipline• Plan Weekly/Adapt Daily

What are your roles?

I am a:PersonWife Sister (In Law)Mother AuntGrandmother Daughter (In Law)TeacherFriendEmployee

How to plan!

• Identify your big rocks. Think about what you want to accomplish for

the upcoming week. What is most important? These are you big

rocks. They are like mini-goals tied to your long term goals.

They should cover all of your roles.

Identify Time Wasters

•Human nature–disorganization, can’t say no,procrastination,

task blurring, conflicting demands, indecision•Environmental factors

–telephone, email, visitors, paperwork, inefficient meetings

•Poor management skills–inability to set priorities, set goals or delegate.

Block out time

• Learn to use a planner to stay organized.• Block out time weekly for the most important

things you need to do (big rocks).• Let other things that aren’t as important fill in.

Adapt Daily

• Things happen that get in the way!• Make time for yourself each day to exercise,

read, socialize, etc.

Comfort Zone

• Things I enjoy doing.• Relaxation• Freedom from risks• Things I’m accumstomed to• Safety and Security• Ease

Courage Zone

• Things I’m afraid of• Things I’ve never tried• Hard moments• Unexplored territory• Things that are difficult• Opportunity• Bravery

Fear: Your Worst Enemy

• It’s not the mountain we must conquer, but ourselves.

• Fear is the worst emotion.• Fear holds you back from doing what you

really want to do.• Don’t let your fears make your decisions.

Pick yourself up

• Winning is nothing more than picking yourself up each time you fall.

• We should worry less about failing and more about the chances we miss when we don’t try.

Overcome Peer Pressure

Any day of the weekI would choose to be outWith others And in touchWith myself…Than to be in with others And out of touchWith myself.

Journal

What is keeping you from achieving your goals?

Relationship Bank Accounts

• Much like a traditional bank account, a relationship bank account grows with every transaction. The only difference is that a relationship bank account does not use money, but actions instead.

What is it?

• The relationship bank account (RBA )is a representation

• It demonstrates the amount of trust and confidence you have in your relationships

• Like a bank checking account– Make deposits to improve the relationship– Take withdrawals and weaken it

Types

• Relationship bank accounts are based on social interactions with people who are important to you. This includes your spouse, children, siblings, parents, friends or close business associates

What are its characteristics?

• An RBA exists with everyone you meet– Can open a positive account– Can begin with a negative balance

• You can never close an RBA– Pick up after a lot of time– Hold grudges

• An RBA requires continuous deposits to stay positive

Deposits

• Deposits are made with positive interactions that you have with people. For example, if you give your spouse a back rub or words of encouragement, it is considered a deposit into your relationship account.

What are deposits?

• Keeping promises• Doing small acts of kindness• Being loyal• Listening• Saying you’re sorry• Setting clear expectations

Withdrawals

• Withdrawals are made when people act negatively towards you, like acting in a way that is irritating or rude to someone you are close to.

What are withdrawals?

• Breaking promises• Keeping to yourself• Gossiping and breaking confidences• Not listening• Being arrogant• Setting false expectations

Decisions

• Making a deposit is like investing in a relationship. If there are more withdrawals than deposits, it may indicate that the relationship is not likely to continue.

- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

“Life’s most urgent question

is: What are you doing for

others?”

What is the most powerful deposit someone has made into your RBA?

What is the most hurtful withdrawal someone has taken

from your RBA?

How are your relationships?

• If you had to rate how well you’re doing in your most important relationships…

Lousy Excellent

Friends? 1 2 3 4 5

Siblings? 1 2 3 4 5

Parents? 1 2 3 4 5

Teachers? 1 2 3 4 5

How to have good relationships?• One deposit at a time• Build a rich relationship or repair a broken one• There is no quick fix

Growth

• It is important to realise that everyone has relationship bank accounts, whether or not the terminology is used. You should be aware of them and think about the transactions that you make to help your relationships grow.

A personal challenge…

• Pick one important relationship in your life that is damaged; it could be with a sibling or friend. Commit yourself to repairing and rebuilding that relationship one deposit at a time.

• Be patient, stick with it!• Could take months and the other

person may be suspicious.• It’ll be worth it!

How to begin to build?

• Keep promises– Tell your parents where you’ll be and be there– Before giving commitments, make sure you can

follow through• Do small acts of kindness

– Thank someone you’ve been wanting to• Be loyal

– Refrain from gossip, come up with a plan– Go the whole day only saying positive things

about others

More confidence builders…

• Listen– Talk less, listen more– Take the time to listen to a family member’s

stories

• Say you’re sorry– Write a note of apology to someone you hurt

• Set clear expectations– Create a plan to get on the same page with

someone who is expecting something else from you

• Here are five deposits that seem to work well with parents. Of course, with every deposit, there’s an opposing withdrawal.

• Deposits Withdrawals• Understand what’s important to them Assume you know• Tell the truth Lie and cover up• Sense the need and do it Wait until you’re told• Remember the little things Forget the little things• Open up Close yourself off• Use the most important words Avoid the most important words

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Building Relationships

• Today we are going to work on building the relationships within the class by developing and implementing a decorating plan for outside the classroom. The theme for Homecoming is WATCH OUT CHIEFS, TIME IS ON OUR SIDE. Begin thinking about how we could decorate. Write down your ideas in a bulleted list and be prepared to share.

October 11, 2013• Login to your computer as YOU. • Login into money skills---your password has

been changed to your computer login.• If that doesn’t work, then switch user but leave

your login active and login to your computer as kaperritt/Aug42012

• Login to moneyskill with your login• Complete Module 2 and 3 on Money Skills• Go to H: drive/Assignments and work on

personality profile. Print results to Room 109.

October 7

• Make sure relationship packet is in folder.• Make sure 20 questions assignment is in

folder.• Work on spirit wall.

October 8, 2013• Guest SpeakerMake sure you’ve completed the following and

placed in folder. Progress Reports on Friday.• 20 Questions• Character, Friendship, Loyalty• Money Skills Module 2• Monster’s Inc.• Relationship Bank Account

4. Think win-winKnow that there is enough to go around. Life isn't a zero-sum game where the only

way I can win is if someone else loses. Have what Covey calls an Abundance Mentality.

Seek solutions that benefit all parties. If you can't find such a solution, don't make an

agreement.

The Win/Win process has four steps.

• 1. See the problem from the other point of view, in terms of the needs and concerns of the other party.

• 2. Identify the key issues and concerns (not positions) involved.

• 3. Determine what results would make a fully acceptable solution.

• 4. Identify new options to achieve those results.

• Win/Win - Mutually beneficial and co-operative. All parties come out on top

• Win/Lose - "If I win, you lose." • Lose/Win - "If I lose, you win." This can lead to an eventual

breakdown in relationships as resentment builds up.• Lose/Lose - This happens when two Win/Lose people clash, it

leads to a stubborn impasse as they try to beat each other at all costs.

• Win - Don't really want anyone to lose they just want everyone to come out on top. It's an "every man for himself" mentality.

October 15, 2013

• Journal• Conflict

JournalDescribe a time in the past when you have learned a life lesson from a mistake you made. Examples may relate to friends/relationships with others, preparing/executing a school project, or others •How did you feel at the time? •What were the consequences of that mistake? Looking back, what lessons did you learn from that mistake? •If you had the opportunity to change the situation, would you? Why or why not?

What's the point ? A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three traits:•Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments• Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others• Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone

Conflict

• Opposition• a clash of opposing ideas• disagreement• fight or battle• contention, hostility

Cause of Conflict

• Opposing viewpoints or opinions

• Emotions

• Selfishness• Miscommunication or

misunderstandings• Assumptions

Opposing Viewpoints

What do you see?

spots or dalmatian.

What do you see…

• A man or two people kissing ?

What do you see….• A woman or man playing a sax?

What do you see….

• A rabbit or a duck?

Strategies to Get Past Paradigms (Perceptions)

• Avoid Assumptions • Validation• Listen • Problem Solving Skills • Tell Your Story

Connect all the lines with 1 continuous line in only 4 strokes. You

cannot lift your pencils the paper.

Strategies to Resolve Conflicts

• Assume you do not have all the answers.

• Ask questions to understand the other person(s).

• Be prepared to compromise or make a deal.

• Postpone. • Enforce. • Compromise. • Explore.

Win-Lose Attitude

• Using other people• Trying to get ahead at the expense of

someone else• Spreading rumors or putting someone down• Always insisting on your own way• Become jealous when good things happened

for others

Lose-Win

• Weak• Easily stepped on• Give in all the time• Letting people have their way all the time• Setting low expectations for yourself

Lose-Lose

• Seeking revenge• Obsession• Co-dependence• Possessiveness

Win-Win

• Win the private victory first• Avoid competing and comparing• Look for ways for all to win

October 16, 2013

• Finish Handouts for Habit 4• Begin Video• Answer video questions

October 17

• Finish Movie• Insure that the following are in folder.1.Movie sheet2.Habit 4 parts 1 and 23.Relationship Bank Packet from last week.

October 18th• Login to your computer as YOU. • Login into Moneyskill---with your first name.• Your password on Moneyskill has been changed

to your computer login.• If that doesn’t work, then switch user but leave

your login active and login to your computer as kaperritt/aug42012

• Login to Moneyskill again with your login• Complete Module 3, 4, and 5 on Money Skills

The Tumor Twins

Competing and ComparingThese two habits can slowly eat you away from

the inside. It’s impossible to think Win Win with them around.

Competing

• Can be healthy when it drives us to improve, to reach, and to stretch.

• Healthy when you compete against yourself or when it challenges to read and stretch.

• Unhealthy when you tie your self worth into winning or use it to place yourself above another person.

Comparing

• We are all on different developmental timetables---socially, mentally, and physically.

• Each person has his own course, separated from other courses by a tall wall. Your course has customized obstacles, just for you.

• Don’t build your life based on how you stack up to someone else.

How to deal with others

• Sometimes, no matter how you try, you won’t be able to find a Win-Win solution. That’s when you move to No Deal! For example, if you and friend can’t agree on where to go one night, split up and get together another night.

October 21

• Preview Questions• The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch• Postview Questions

October 22

Today we will complete some tasks that guidance needs for your IGP.

Please follow instructions carefully, and if you have any questions, ask.

Get your computer and login. I will then explain the tasks.

Go to https://sccis.intocareers.org/materials/portal/home.html Login: georgetownhs Password: georgetownhs Click on MyPortfolio Fill out all information Use your firstname2109 as your user name (if it is already taken, raise your hand) Use your lastname 2109 as your password (if it is already taken, raise your hand) Click submit Click on Assessments Complete the following:

1. What are my interests: Career Cluster Assessment (48)

Print your results to Room109. Save your results. 2. What skills and work values are important to me?: Select Skills

Print your results to Room109. Save your results. 3. What lifestyle can I afford?: Reality Check

Print your results to Room109. Save your results.

October 29

InformationHandoutMovie

Facts• A 2007 report by the South Carolina Council on

Homelessness found that on any given night, there were 6,759 homeless people in South Carolina – nearly 20% of whom were children. Considering the fact that Georgetown has just under 7,000 residents, the enormity of the problem becomes easier to grasp. The Council also found that over the course of a year, SC has more than 17,000 documented cases of homelessness – undocumented cases may increase this number significantly.

Journal

If you could change your relationship with one person, who would it be? What would be different?

Liz Murray

• Video 1• Video 2• Video 3

October 31, 2013

• Group WorkWith your group, finish the rest of the packet:• Living the Bottom Line• Finding the Bottom Line• Easy Pay for Two• A Better Bottom LineIndividual Work• Summing Up

November 1

• Money Skill module 6,7,8Make sure the following are ready to be graded.• SCOIS information/I know guidance took

some.• college virtual tour/Respect Responsibility

packet• Homeless Packet

5. Seek first to understand, then to be

understood

Listen empathically (getting inside the other person's frame of reference so you listen with one purpose: understanding) until you truly understand the other person's position. Then work on ensuring that you

clearly communicate your thoughts and ideas.

Active Listeneing

• Pay attention to how the father listens.VideoNow, get out a sheet of paper, and prepare to

take some notes:Part 1Part 2Part 3

Learn to Listen

You have two ears and one mouth! You should listen twice as much as you talk.

Poor Listening Skills

• Spacing out: Pretend Listening• Selective Listening• Word Listening• Self-Centered Listening• Judging

Genuine Listening

• Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears.• Listen for what they are not saying.• Stand in their shoes• Practice Mirroring

Seeking to be understood

• Ask yourself if what you have to say will benefit the other person or yourself.

• Send I messages instead of you messages.Instead of “You have a bad temper”“I’m concerned that you have a temper

problem.”

Listening and Understanding

• In your communications, be sure you know the other person's point of view before you start expounding your own ideas.”

• •Use the “10 Second”rule• •It saves time -if you understand an

other’s frame of reference, then you can more effectively communicate

Journal

You are told that you would be doing the same job every day of the year for the rest of yourlife. Identify three benefits and three drawbacks to the situation.

At the bottom of the page list current jobs for which you would be able to meet the minimum requirements.

November 8

• Login to your computer.• Login to Money Skill• Complete Modules 9, 10, 11 before the end of

class.• If you were absent last Friday, complet 6, 7,

and 8. You must do 9-11 at home before next Friday.

Bonus Activity: Holiday Cards for Soldiers on deployment

• Choose a Card from the selection.• Write a short note to a soldier serving our

country.• Use:Your NameC/O Kathi Perritt’s class2500 Anthuan Maybank Blvd.Georgetown, SC 29440

6. Synergize“Alone we can do so little;

Together we can do so much.” (Helen Keller)

CAN YOU RELATE? T/F1. I demand perfection from myself and everyone around me.2. I am surprised when others don’t like me or my ideas:3. People continually make promises to me without following

through4. I don’t have many friends whom I really like or trust5. I get tired of all this political correctness. I don’t have to like

everyone6. I don’t appreciate other people’s opinions of me7. I don’t like change8. I work better alone than in groups9. I tend to be more negative than positive10. I’m afraid people will find out that I’m not what I appear to be

• If the majority of your answers are true, it’s time to turn off the negativity and rid yourself of your limited beliefs. In order to know yourself, you have to understand the lives and actions of others. Be a student of human nature and appreciate what everyone can bring to the party. If the majority of your answers are false, you’re comfortable with yourself and how you relate to people of all kinds. You’re a student of life and know learning from others helps you in your own life.

Have you ever seen a flock of geese, flying in V formation?

By flying in a V they can go 71% farther .

If the leader gets tired he can move back in the V .

Geese back in the V will honk to encourage the ones in front.

When Geese get out of the V they feel the wind, and go back into the V.

Synergy• “The essences of synergy is to value differences—to

respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses.”

• --Stephen R. Covey

•Everyone has something to contribute•Different viewpoints can coalesce into better solutions•Respect differences -“if we were all the same, then some of us would be unnecessary!”

Which fruit is most important?

Diversity!

What is Diversity?

YOU!

Culture/Heritage Family Likes/Dislikes

Attitude Religion Talents Beliefs Friends Choices

Experiences Knowledge

WHY IS DIVERSITY IMPORTANT?

*3tablespoons margarine or butter*1package (10 oz.) regular marshmallows *6cups KELLOGG'S® RICE KRISPIES® cereal

How do you handle diversity?

• Shunning

• Tolerating

• Celebrating!

Learning from others

Everything that irritates us about others can lead to an understanding of ourselves. People who upset us the most are often our best teachers! When you understand and are comfortable with yourself, it becomes easier to open yourself to the ideas of others. Always put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Many of the “truths” you cling to are simply a result of one point of view-yours.

GROUND RULES FOR SYNERGIZING

•Mental Preparation•Prepare to find a solution that is better than what either

person presently has in mind.•Develop a win-win mentality. Believe that all parties involved

will gain more insight, enthusiasm, learning, and growth by working together.

•Keep minds, hearts, and expressions open to new possibilities.

•Recognize others’ differing opinions, viewpoints, and perspectives as helpful when seeking solutions. Valuing the differences lets people discover things together that they would much less likely

How to Synergize : ACTION PLAN

? DEFINE THE PROBLEM / OPPORTUNITY

← THEIR WAY (Seek to understand others)

→ YOUR WAY (Seek to share your ideas)

BRAINSTORM (Create new ideas)

↑ HIGHWAY (Seek to understand others)

Synergy is Synergy is not

• Celebrating differences

• Teamwork• Open-mindedness• Finding new and

better ways

• Tolerating difference• Working

independently• Thinking you are

always right• Compromise

“Animal school”Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do

something heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all animals took all the subjects.

In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best overall and winning valedictorian.

What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others?•What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary?•How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? (Carnegie)

December 3• Find your seat.• Begin working on the crossword puzzle. I will

hand out completed Chapter 6 guide, and you may use it if you turned it in.

• You have 15 minutes to complete the crossword puzzle. Turn it in.

• Following directions activity.• Following directions partner activity.

Action Plan for Synergy

• Define the problem or opportunity.• Their Way: Seek to understand other’s ideas.• My Way: Share your ideas with others.• Brainstorm: Create new options and ideas.• High Way: Find the best solution.

Synergy

• You work in a bakery. A customer calls fifteen minutes before she is coming in to pick up the birthday cake she ordered that morning. The cake was to be decorated for her husband’s 40th birthday, which is tonight. You find the cake has not been made. What options

• does the bakery staff have to solve this problem?

Teamwork: Types of members

• Plodders: sure and steady---stick to a job until its done

• Followers: supportive to leaders, if they hear a great idea they can run with it

• Innovators: the creative idea people, they offer sparks

• Show Offs: fun to work with, good presenters• Harmonizers: provide unity and support, encourage

cooperation

Synergy

• Team work• Support

Tuesday-Friday

You must complete the following: 1. Brochure 2. Resume 3. Cover Letter 4. Money Skills Module 9-12

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

What are the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens?

• Habit 1: Be Proactive.

– Take responsibility for your life.

• Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind.

– Define your mission and goals in life.

• Habit 3: Put First Things First.

– Prioritize, and do the most important things

first.

• Habit 4: Think Win-Win.

– Have an everyone-can-win attitude.

• Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be

Understood.

– Listen to people sincerely.

• Habit 6: Synergize.

– Work together to achieve more.

• Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw.

– Renew yourself regularly.

Saw Away

Imagine that you go for a walk in the forest and you see a guy furiously sawing away at a tree.

“What are you doing?”, you ask.“I’m sawing down a tree,” comes the curt reply.“How long have you been at it?”“Four hours so far, but I am really making

progress.” he says, as sweat drips off of his chin.“Your saw looks really dull.” you say. “Why don’t

you take a break and sharpen it?”“I can’t, you idiot, I am too busy sawing.”

Four Dimensions of Renewal

• Physical - Body

• Mental - Mind

• Social - Heart

• Spiritual - Soul

Sharpen the Saw - Body

• Care for your body– You are what you eat– Use it or lose it– All about how you feel– Quit whenever you

want– The refusal skill

Ruun Forrest Ruuuuun…

• Think of the movie Forrest Gump. It’s the story of a naive young man from Alabama with a good heart who keeps stumbling upon success despite himself. At one point in the movie, Forrest is frustrated and confused about his life. So what does he do? He starts running. After running back and forth from one coast to the other two and a half times, Forrest feels better and is finally able to sort his life out.

Use it or Lose it.

• We all feel confused, depressed or apathetic at times.

• It is at these times where perhaps the best thing we can do for ourselves is do what Forrest did: exercise ourselves better.

It’s About How You Feel,Not How You Look

• Be careful not to get too obsessed with appearances.

• Unfortunately, our society has become one that is hung up on “looks”.

Real Life or Art?

• Many years ago, beauty queen and actress Michelle Pfeiffer was featured on the front of Esquire Magazine with the caption “What Michelle Pfeiffer needs…is absolutely nothing.”

• She actually needed more help than meets they eye, as author Allen Litchfield revealed in Sharing Light in the Wilderness:

But another magazine, Harper’s, offered proof in it’s edition the following month that

even the “beautiful people” need a little help. Harper’s had obtained the photo retoucher’s bill for Pfeiffer’s picture on the Esquire cover. They charged $1,525 to render the following services: “Clean up complexion, soften smile lines, trim chin, soften line under earlobe, add hair, add more forehead to create better line,

and soften neck muscles.”

Drugs and Your Body

• Up with Hope, Down with Dope!!

• “I can quit whenever I want”…then why don’t you?

• Drugs are expensive and they ruin your mind and body and possibly your entire future.

Sharpen the Saw - Mind

• Care for your brain– Sharpen your mind– Find your niche– School in way of

education– Post high school– Mental barriers– You gotta wanna

Socrates…(He’s great with kids)

There was once a young man who came to Socrates, the wise Greek Philosopher, and said “I want to know everything you know.”

“If this is your desire,” Socrates said, “then follow me to the river.” Full of curiosity, the young man followed Socrates to the nearby river. As they sat on the bank, Socrates said, “Take a close look at the river and tell me what you see.”

“I don’t see anything,” said the young man.

“Look closer,” replied Socrates.

As the man peered over the bank and leaned closer to the water, Socrates grabbed the man’s head and shoved it under the water. The man’s arms flailed wildly as he attempted to escape, but Socrates’ strong grip kept him submerged. About the time the man was about to drown, Socrates pulled him out of the river and laid him on the bank.

Socrates…

Coughing, the man gasped, “Are you crazy, old man? What are you trying to do, kill me?”

“When I was holding you under the river, what did you want more than anything else?” asked Socrates.

“I wanted to breathe! I wanted air!” he replied.“Don’t ever make the mistake of thinking wisdom comes so easily, my

young friend,” said Socrates, “When you want to learn as badly as you wanted air just now, come back to me again.”

SO WHAT’S THE MORAL OF THE STORY?Nothing comes in life easy. You have to pay the price!

Write it down, underline it, memorize it.There is no such thing as a free lunch!

Be a Smarty Pants

• Surveys indicate that the television is on in most homes thirty- five to forty hours per week. (But I thought “Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader” was educational…)

• Reading good literature on a regular basis is a good way to renew your mind.

• Keeping a journal of our thoughts, experiences, and insights is also beneficial.

Sharpen the Saw – Heart

• Care for your heart– Relationships– Laugh or you’ll cry

Take Care of your “Heart”

• This area of our lives is primarily developed in our relationships with others.

• We can help script others as principle-centered, value-based, independent, worthwhile individuals.

Laughing and Crying (or both)

• Have you ever laughed so hard that you could barely breathe? How did you feel when you finally stopped laughing?

• Have you ever had a really bad day and you go home and just cry for a few minutes? How do you feel when you are done?

• Was there ever a time where you laughed so hard that you started crying?

Sharpen the Saw - Soul

• Care for your soul– Back to nature– Teen’s best friend– Spiritual diet– Disturbing my sleep– Fried frogs– Get real

Your Soul and Spirit

• The spiritual dimension is your core, your center, your commitment to your value system.

• Spiritual renewal is a Quadrant II investment of time that we really can't afford to neglect.

• A personal mission statement enables us to have an understanding of our purpose which we can review frequently.

Balance

• Know your goals for the roles that you play in life (student, daughter, son, employee, boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, etc.)

• Be sure to take time out for yourself and do something relaxing or that you enjoy.

• You must take time to rejuvenate if you want to be effective in all areas of your life.

Keep Hope Alive

Hope is a thing with feathers

Hope is a thing with feather

That perches in the soul

And sings a tune without the words

And never stops at all.

I’ve heard it in the strangest lands

And on the strangest seas

But never in extremity

Its ask a crumb of me.

Hope

So be sure when you step

Step with care and great tact

And remember that life’s

A great Balancing Act.

And will you succeed?

(98 and ¾ percent guaranteed)

Kid, you’ll move mountains

~Dr. Seuss

Self-Renewal

• The self-renewal process must include balanced renewal in all four dimensions of our lives.

Synergy in Renewal

• Renewal in any dimension increases our ability to live at least one of the Seven Habits.

• Improvement in one habit synergistically increases our ability to live the rest.

OBSTACLES

• What obstacles do you think that you will face or are facing that may hinder you from “Sharpening Your Saw?”

7 Habits Review…

What are the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens?

• Habit 1: Be Proactive.

– Take responsibility for your life.

• Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind.

– Define your mission and goals in life.

• Habit 3: Put First Things First.

– Prioritize, and do the most important things

first.

• Habit 4: Think Win-Win.

– Have an everyone-can-win attitude.

• Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be

Understood.

– Listen to people sincerely.

• Habit 6: Synergize.

– Work together to achieve more.

• Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw.

– Renew yourself regularly.

The End

“You can’t make footprints in the sands of time by sitting on your butt, And who wants to leave butt prints in the sands of time?”

Dr. Randy Pausch

http://www.cmu.edu/randyslecture/

Final Writing Assignment

• Write a five page essay explaining how you can apply the seven habits to improve your life or how you use them already.

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