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SETTING LIMITS WITH YOUR STRONG-WILLED CHILD

ELIMINATING CONFLICT BY ESTABLISHING CLEAR, FIRM, AND RESPECTFUL BOUNDARIES

BY ROBERT J. MACKENZIE, ED.D.

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Table 1

Your Child’s Temperament Profile

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Figure 3.1

Diagram of a Punitive Interaction

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Table 2

The Autocratic or Punitive Approach

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Figure 3.2

Diagram of a Permissive Interaction

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Table 3

The Permissive Approach

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Figure 3.3

Diagram of a Mixed Interaction

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Table 4

The Democratic Approach

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Figure 3.4

Diagram of a Democratic Interaction

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Table 5

Comparison of Firm and Soft Limits

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Figure 5.1

Sherry’s Diagram

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Figure 5.2

Sherry’s Diagram: Verbal and Action Steps

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Figure 5.3

Mike’s Diagram

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Figure 5.4

Mike and Sherry’s New Diagram

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Figure 5.5

Rick’s Diagram

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Figure 5.6

Linda’s Diagram

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Figure 5.7

Rick and Linda’s New Diagram

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Figure 5.8

Connie’s Diagram

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Figure 5.9

Connie’s New Diagram

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Table 6

Positive Versus Negative Approaches to Motivation

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Appendix Table 1

Getting Started with Two-Year-Olds

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Appendix Table 2

Getting Started with Three- to Seven-Year-Olds

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Appendix Table 3.

Getting Started with Eight- to Twelve-Year-Olds