Self Awareness

We are all individuals……

Each individual brings something to the party

But you may not always appreciate what other people bring and they might not appreciate what

you bring!

How do you behave and what effect does that have on others?

How do we interpret How do we interpret others?others?

How do others interpret How do others interpret us?us?

How do we interpret others How do we interpret others interpretations of us?interpretations of us?

Behaviour• Your feelings towards others are based on the

way you see them behave

• Others feelings towards you are based on the way they see you behave

• The way you (and they) behave on one occasion will influence future behaviour between you

• Use what you know about yourself to adapt your behaviour appropriately

How you see yourself How others might see you

Quiet and reserved

Private

Thoughtful

Organised

Withdrawn

Inaccessible

‘not joining in’

Rigid

Friendly

Lively

Chatty

Flexible

Superficial

Intrusive

‘in your face’

Disorganised

How you see yourself How others see you

Visionary

Analytical

Strategic

Task-focussed

Vague

Insensitive

Unrealistic

Cold

Attentive to detail

Compassionate

Caring

Realistic

Nit picking

Overly emotional

Too involved

Negative

An Introduction toMyers Briggs Personality Type

Indicator

MBTI

MBTI describes

your preferred style of behaviour it does not

dictate your preferred style of behaviour

Dichotomies• Extroversion and Introversion

– Where do you prefer to focus your attention?

– Where do you get your energy

• Sensing and iNtuition

– How do you prefer to take in and process information

• Thinking and Feeling

– What influences your decision making

• Judging and Perceiving

– How do you order your life?

• E finds I withdrawn, inaccessible and private but Is think they are reflective with a depth of understanding

• I finds E superficial and intrusive but Es think they are sociable and quick to take action

• E - ‘Let’s talk this over’• I - ‘I need to think about this’

• T finds F illogical and over emotional but Fs think they are in touch with their feelings

• F finds T critical, cold and insensitive but Ts think they are tough and able to weigh up the cost/benefit

• T - ‘Is this logical/lets get the job done’• F - ‘Will anyone be hurt/is everyone happy?’

• S finds N vague, impractical and difficult to follow but Ns think they are visionary, full of radical ideas

• N finds S nitpicking and pessimistic but Ss think they are realistic and attentive to detail

• S - ‘Just the details facts please’• N - ‘Ah I can see it ALL now’

• J finds P disorganised and irresponsible but Ps think they are adaptable and good at information gathering

• P finds J rigid and inflexible but Js think they are organised and good at bringing things to closure

• J - ‘Just do something’• P - ‘ Let’s wait and see’

MBTI Intuitive Preference‘N’

• Take in information by seeing the big picture, focusing on the relationships and connections between facts… want to grasp patterns and especially attuned to seeing new possibilities.

MBTI Sensing Preference‘S’

• Like to take in information that is real and tangible – what is actually happening… Observant about the detail, factual and concrete especially attuned to practical realities.

Decision MakingT and F

• Analytical Empathetic• Cause and effect reasoning Guided by personal values• Use logic Consider impact on others• Objective truth Harmony • Reasonable Compassionate• Tough minded Tender hearted• Fair Fair

– Everyone treated equally - Everyone treated as an individual

MBTI Problem Solving

• Sensing: Rely too much on previous experience

• Intuition: Overexcited by new theory

• Thinking: Logic at the expense of people

• Feeling: Place empathy before hard but logical decisions

Risks of type preference:

STAble to describe detail

NFVisual images

SFLists their feelings

NTTry to figure it out

Taking in

Information

S

Interpretation

N

Applying Logic

T

Applying Values Impact on others

F

Look at the following picture –what instantly comes to mind

ST (Describe Detail)

Jars

Pumpkins

Lavender

Baskets

People

NF (Visual Images)

Autumn Harvest

Local produce

SF (List feelings)

Chilly

Friendly

Chatty

Scented

NT (Try it figure it out)

Market – probably French

ST (Describe Detail)

Wet rainy night

Christmas shopping

Street lights

NF (Visual Images)

Miserable

Dark

Cold

SF (List Feelings)

Feeling excited

Warm Feeling

Mulled Wine

NT (Try to figure it out)

London or Paris?

Coming home – the lights are just coming on

ST (Describe detail)

Messy

Pictures of Instruments

NF (visual images)

Summer evenings

Freedom of movement

Jazz

SF (List Feelings)

Fluid

Joyful

Colourful

Calm

NT (Try to figure it out)

Very abstract

What does this mean for you in the context of your work?

• Think about the following

- what gives you a ‘buzz’- what sort of ‘jobs’ would you rather not do- what is it about others that frustrates you- what might others find frustrating about you- any behaviour that would indicate to others that you are feeling stressed- any area of behaviour that you would like to

develop

How you see yourself How others see you

Quiet and reserved

Private

Thoughtful

Organised

Withdrawn

Inaccessible

‘not joining in’

Rigid

Friendly

Lively

Chatty

Flexible

Superficial

Intrusive

‘in your face’

Disorganised

IJ

EP

How you see yourself How others see you

Visionary

Analytical

Strategic

Task-focussed

Vague

Insensitive

Unrealistic

Cold

Attentive to detail

Compassionate

Caring

Realistic

Nit picking

Overly emotional

Too involved

Negative

NT

SF

In conclusion…………

• “Now that I know why some people irritate me … I somehow find them slightly less irritating!”