Respectful Relationships:

A study about Balance

Year 8 PDHPEUnit 2

Are YOU Balanced?1. Activity - • Stand on your right foot..• Hold out your right arm, in front of your body. Lay

a text-book flat in the palm of your right hand..• Hold out your left arm, away from your body.

Hang your school bag from your left wrist..• Balance a ruler on your head..• Rest a glue stick on top of your right foot..• Catch a ball that is gently thrown to you.. 2. Rearrange yourself and all the objects so it is

easier for you to balance.

What Is balance?

Complete ‘Balance’ worksheet in your booklet.

Day and Night

Click on the picture to play clip.

Answer the questions in your booklet.

Discuss answers as a class.

Key Terms

• Relationships • Communication• Family• Responsibility• Supportive• Negative

• Negotiate• Assertive• Respect• Discuss• Interact• Positive

Copy the words into your book and use a dictionary to find a definition for each.For homework, write a different sentence containing each word.

Different Relationships

• Everyone has relationships in their lives. • A relationship can be defined as having an

involvement with another person.• Relationships with your parents, family, friends,

teachers and coaches are important in childhood and adolescence. Each of these people will play a different role in your life, and are significant for different reasons. You will find that some of your relationships are great, some can be hard work, and others are not healthy for you.

• Relationships can be quite complex. They may seem okay one day, but can change when other people or factors are added. Due to this complexity, relationships need work. There are always two sides to each relationship, and will not function if one person does all the taking and the other does all the giving. Relationships may require you to make sacrifices.

Complete the ‘Relationships’ worksheet in your booklet.

Activities1. Complete the ‘Family’ worksheet

in your booklet by answering all the questions.

2. On the whiteboard or on a piece of butcher’s paper, each person in the class takes a turn to draw and label their family they live with.

Read the ‘SnapSHOT’ box on p.53 of Active Outcomes 1 and answer the questions to go with it.

THINK, PAIR, SHARETHINK - Read the information under ‘Making Friends’ on

p.53-54 of Active Outcomes 1.PAIR - Answer Question 2 with a partner.

SHARE – find another pair and discuss your answers with them to see if there is anything you have missed.

Complete the ‘Friends and Peers’ worksheet in your booklet.

Positive Relationships

Brainstorm answers to the following questions -• What do you think makes a relationship good?• What could make a relationship bad?• How would you like to be treated in a

relationship?• How do you treat others?

Relationship Rights Relationship Responsibilities

To be treated with respect and dignity To treat others with respect and dignity

To say ‘no’ or change your mind and say ‘no’ To respect the person’s decision to say ‘no’

To have an opinion To listen to others and respect their opinion

To be heard when you want to talk about issues in the relationship

To discuss issues that bother you in the relationship

To feel safe in relationships and community To keep yourself safe and take action for the safety of others

Complete the ‘Positive Relationships’ worksheet in your booklet.

Use the information below to complete the table on the worksheet.

Power In Relationships

• Power is the ability to do something or make something happen.

• Power can also be the ability to make another person do something.

• Everyone has power, but it’s how we use our power that is important.

• What are some reasons different people have more power?

(eg – because they are bigger and stronger)

- Builds healthy and caring

relationships

- Creates safe communities where

people are respected

- Destroys relationships

- Creates communities that are

based on fear and threats

Positive Use of Power

Negative Use of Power

The Balance of Power• In positive, healthy relationships, there is a

balance of power.• This means that both people are free to be

themselves and are about to express their feelings and thoughts without being scared of what the other person will say or do.

• Why is this important?

Some Positive Ways To Use Power..

• Working cooperatively with others.• Using your knowledge to help others.• Negotiating and resolving conflicts effectively.• Accessing support and knowing where to get

help for a particular problem.• Considering the needs and abilities of others.• Speaking up for someone who is less able to

do so.

Abusive Relationships

• When the power is unbalanced in a relationship, it can become an unhealthy and abusive relationship.

• Abusive relationships occur when someone uses the power they have over another person to cause harm.

• This harm can be physical, emotional, psychological, sexual or due to neglect.

Use the information on the following slides to complete the worksheet ‘Types of Abuse’ in your booklet.

Emotional Abuse• Relationships can be emotionally abusive if one

person uses their power to try to control their partner. Some examples include:

- Trying to control who you can and cannot see- Trying to control what you wear- Showing extreme jealousy and being possessive- Not wanting you to have other friends- Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up with

them or if you don’t do what they want.- Blackmailing or making you feel guilty for things you

haven’t done.

Physical Abuse

• This involves on person using their strength or power to physically hurt someone. It is the most common form of abuse. For example –

- Hitting - Slapping- Kicking - Pushing- Choking - Using a weapon- Smashing things- Driving a car in a dangerous manner to scare

you

Sexual Abuse• Sexual abuse occurs when a person uses their

power to involve another person in sexual activity against their wishes.

• Child sexual abuse occurs when a young person is involved.

• It is important to remember that it is NEVER the child or young person’s fault.

Neglect

• Neglect occurs when the needs of a child or young person are not being met.

• This includes physical needs, psychological needs and medical needs.

• Children and young people need to be provided with food, a warm and safe place to sleep, clothing.

• It is also important that they have the love and positive attention they need.

• When children are sick, they need to be taken to the doctor so they can get better.

What if You or Someone You Know is Experiencing Abuse?

• If this happens, or you feel uncomfortable about any situation, you need to TELL SOMEONE ABOUT IT.

• If the first person you tell doesn’t do anything, keep telling until someone helps you.

• KIDS HELPLINE is one place you can go to for advice.

• Tell a trusted adult, such as a parent or teacher.• Tell a friend, who can help you tell an adult.

Communication• Communication is the exchange of information and

meaning between people.• It is a two-way process that involves speaking,

listening and responding to the signals given.• Communication is the ability to get a message across.

Activity 1• In groups of 5 or 6, stand in a circle facing the

centre.• Each person should join hands with someone in

the circle. You cannot join hands with the person next to you and you cannot join both hands with the same person.

• Try and untangle the group into a circle without letting go of anyone’s hands.

• Do this twice – DO NOT SPEAK ON THE FIRST ATTEMPT.

Activity 2• Chinese Whispers

Activity 3• Find a partner and have a conversation with them

about what they did on the weekend.1. Sit back to back for the conversation.2. Face each other, but use body language that

shows you aren’t interested and do not respond.3. Have a normal, two-way conversation, and sho

interest in what the other person has to say.

Activity 4

• Decipher the following texts – • Hi HRU doiN? Wauu2 2nyt? We're ll gunA d

mvs f u wn2 cum. Wb n il giv u d deets.

• WUD on d w/e? My team hs 2 play @ 12, u shld cum dnw n woch bCuz itl b an XcitN gm.

Copy the following questions into your book and answer them.

• Activity 1 – how did your group communicate when they could not speak to each other.

• Activity 2 – What happened with the message by the time it reached the last person?

• Activity 3 – What happened when you had to have a conversation back-to-back?

• Activity 3 – How did you feel when the other person was acting like they did not care what you were saying?

• Activity 4 – Did you understand what the text messages were saying? Do you think everyone would be able to understand? Do you think your grandparents would understand?

Barriers To Effective Communication• There are many reasons why it might be hard for us

to talk about things with other people, including – - Emotions – still being upset or angry about what you want to talk about.- Personality – you might be shy.- Poor listening – if you or the other person doesn’t

want to listen.- Poor understanding – if you aren’t sure of how you

are feeling.- Conflicting messages – if the person is saying one

thing, but their body language is different.

Some Tips For Communicating Effectively

• Take the time to organise your thoughts and understand how you are feeling before you say anything.

• Write down your thoughts so you remember what you want to say.

• Seeking advice from a trusted friend or adult.• Try not to talk about it when you are still angry

or upset – wait until you have calmed down.

Assertiveness• Assertiveness involves clearly and confidently

stating an opinion or request while listening to, and respecting, the feelings of others.

• Being assertive does not mean being aggressive (shouting, hitting or insults) as this abuses the rights of others.

• Being assertive is not being passive, where the speaker does not express their needs. This results in a loss of self-respect and respect in others

• Assertive communicators are more likely to get what they want, whilst still having happy, healthy relationships.

How To Be Assertive• Speak in a firm voice, but don’t be angry.• Express your true feelings.• Look at the other person while you speak to

them.• Do not be threatening, be calm.• Stay in control of yourself.

• Make sure you allow the other person to do the same.

Complete the ‘Why Do You Need To Be Assertive?’ worksheet in your booklet.

Complete the ‘Assertiveness’ questionnaire.

Resolving Conflict

• These skills that you have learnt – being able to Communicate Effectively and how to be Assertive are helpful when you have to deal with conflicts.

• These skills are known as Conflict Resolution Skills.

Conflict In Relationships

• Conflicts happen when different people, or groups of people have different ideas or opinions. It is another word for having a ‘disagreement’.

• Can you think of any other words that mean the same thing?

• Conflict Resolution involves an effort from all people involved to fix a problem in a constructive manner.

Complete the ‘Conflict in Relationships’ worksheet in your booklet.

Conflict Resolution Skills1. Focus on the problem not the person.2. Understand that the other person could see the

problem differently to you.3. Try to use ‘I’ statements –

I think..I feel..I want..

4. Listen to the other person’s feelings, thoughts and wants.

5. Look for a solution that will satisfy everyone involved.6. Understand that this could mean you have to make a

compromise.

Dealing with Parent Conflict• In groups of 3-4, choose one scenario below and

use your conflict resolution skills to think of possible outcomes. Have one positive and one negative ending.

a) Your parents won’t let you go to your friends party on Saturday night because no adults will be attending the party.

b) You want to go to the movies after late night shopping, which means you won’t get home until midnight. Your parents say you are not allowed because you have to go to school the next day.

Dealing with Peer Conflict• In groups of 3-4, choose one scenario below and use

your conflict resolution skills to think of possible outcomes. Have one positive and one negative ending.

a) Your group of friends has decided to go to the movies, but are trying to hide it from you. You are upset about it. How do you talk to them, without starting a fight.

b) Someone you are friends with has written something offensive about you on FaceBook. What would you say to them about it?

c) You and your partner have been fighting recently about other people you hang out with. How do you tell your partner about this without fighting about it?

ROLE PLAYS

In your groups, act out one of your chosen scenarios.Act out a positive and negative ending.