Presenter: Vicki Chandler, M. Ed.

Portland, Oregon/Seattle, WA Convention October 7–8, 2010

Oregon Convention CenterPortland, OR

Who’s in Control? Behavior

Management

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Bible Verses About How to Behave: For Young Children Verse(s) Concept/Rule

In General Matthew 22:37 & 39 Love God and love others. Galatians 5:22-23 Fruit of the Spirit:

love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control

Hebrews 12:11 Discipline is no fun, but it will make you right with God. Hebrews 13:17 Obey leaders joyfully (obey leaders…and do it with joy). Romans 13:3 You won’t be afraid of who’s in charge if you do what is right. 1 Thess. 5:22 Stay away from anything that looks wrong (appearances of evil).

About Tattling

1 Thess. 4:11 Mind your own business (no tattling). James 4:11-12 James 5:9

Don’t tell on others because there is only one judge – God.

Romans 14:13 Don’t judge others. About Anger Proverbs 16:32 Whoever is slow to anger is better than strong people.

James 1:19 Be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Ephesians 4:26 Be angry, but don’t sin. (When you get angry, stop before doing something

wrong; give the Holy Spirit a chance to help you do what is right.) Proverbs 14:29 If you have great understanding, you won’t get angry so fast.

About Enemies

Matthew 5:44 Pray for your enemies. Matthew 6:12 & 14 Forgive your enemies. Ephesians 4:32 Forgive others just like Christ forgave you. Psalm 18:3 Call on the Lord and be saved from enemies. Psalm 56:3 “When I’m afraid, I will trust in Thee.”

About Evil Psalm 97:10 Hate evil if you love the Lord. Proverbs 14:16 A wise man turns away from evil (flee temptation). Proverbs 11:27 If you look for evil, it will come to you.

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Activity: Bible Verse Match-upBible Verse Match Up

About Tattling

About Anger

About Enemies

About Evil

About Talking

About Struggling to do What is Right

About Others

About Obeying

In General Other

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Behavior Management…. is one vehicle we can use to bring a student to a saving knowledge Christ, or to improve his/her walk with the Lord. involves teaching biblical truths, accountability Involves the reminder: What happens to a person after they die?

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Behavior Management…. Jesus is our example. The Bible is our guide book. Love is the context. God provides wisdom. Addressing misbehavior involves addressing areas of sin, addressing the root of sin/the treasures that have become idols, etc. 5

Behavior Management….

Who decides what’s right and wrong?

The commands are clearly laid out by Jesus – love God and love others.

The Bible is full of guidelines regarding behavior. 6

Jonah:

time out

Rewards for walking according to His ways

Teaching

by example

Consequences and punishments

Repetition &

Practice

Biblical Examples

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What is ‘Appropriate Behavior?’Appropriate behavior has no chance of physically hurting oneself or another person.Appropriate behavior has no chance of psychologically hurting oneself or another person.Appropriate behavior has no chance of destroying property or involving theft.Appropriate behavior has no chance of interrupting the program.Appropriate behavior does not involve profanity, cursing, or improper non-verbal communication.Appropriate behavior does not involve bullying or intimidation of another person.Appropriate behavior has no chance of causing the group or any individual to do any or all of the above. 8

Whole-Class Strategies For Students Who Are

Hyperactive

Program: ‘How Does

Your Engine Run?’http://www.alertprogram.com/

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ExcitedVery Happy

Nervous

Annoyed

Scared

WorriedAnxious

Nervous

Running

Angry

RecessHigh Engine Level

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Low Engine Level

Sleeping

Sick

SleepingStudent!

TiredExhausted

Bored

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‘Just Right’ Engine Level

Happy

Paying AttentionListening

Thinking

ThinkingContent

Painting

Working

Walking

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Use literature to teach behaviors.

Great books to read late spring13

Music as a behavior management tool

Songs can be used to teach specific skills (e. g., waiting patiently).

Music can be used to calm students.

1 Samuel 16: 14-18, 21-23

“…David would take a harp and play it with his hand. Then Saul would become

refreshed and well, and the distressing spirit would depart

from him.”

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Container Theme

Reminder to focus onwhat’s inside

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God’s heart

“And above all things have fervent love for one another,

for ‘love will covers a multitude of sins.’”

1 Peter 4:8

Love covers all. 16

One size doesn’t fit all.

Individualize 17

Students have Different Learning Styles

Book:The Way They Learn:

How To Discover and Teach

to Your Child's StrengthsBy Cynthia Tobias

http://www.applest.com/18

Safe Fun 19

Powerful Solutions are: New Different Creative

Think outside the box.

Be creative.

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Fresh perspective21

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Some Things Children Treasure

attention, control, to be first, self, things, play

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What I did wrong (confession)

Why it was wrong according to scripture (consideration)

What was my motivation? (What was the treasure of my heart?)

How I felt after I did what was wrong: (What were the consequences?)

What I need to do to fix it (commitment)

The correct thing to do next time is (change)

Reflection: For Self-Correction

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Reflection: For Self-CorrectionName: Date:

What I did wrong (confession):

Why it was wrong (consideration):

How I felt after I did what was wrong: (What were the consequences?)

What I need to do to fix it (commitment):

 The correct thing to do is (change):

 What I will do to keep from doing the wrong thing and to do the right thing:

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Reflection: For Self-Correction Name: Date:

What I did wrong (confession):

Why it was wrong - according to scripture (consideration):

How I felt after I did what was wrong: (What were the consequences?)

What I need to do to fix it (commitment):

The correct thing to do is (change):

What I will do to keep from doing the wrong thing and to do the right thing: (How can I get the treasure I desire from God?)

What was my motivation? (What was the treasure of my heart?) Take time to r eflect on your answer . Possible choices to consider: -to get attention -to have classmates like me -to be the one in charge (power/control) -to get good grades -to get out of work (comfort) -pride (so that others would notice me) -to let others know I'm smart -for others to see how attractive I am -pleasure (skip doing work so I can have fun) -to protect myself (keep people from finding out I struggle) -self-centered thinking (I didn't get my own way…I get to do what I want other places…No one asked me if I wanted to do it…)

Reflection: For Self-Correction

Form with sample

treasures/idols

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Your Christian School: A Culture of Grace? – a CD

This Slide is not on your CD.

Related Resource:

http://www.paultrippministries.org/store

Dr. Paul Tripp’s

Empty containerThe Empty Tomb

He’s still on the throne!

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Rules which areObservable and Measurable

Rules: Developed

with Students

Rules: Posted

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Christ’s love and mercy

DemonstrateTool #1

“And I will give you shepherds

according to My heart, who will feed you with

knowledge and understanding.”Jeremiah 3:15

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Set up for success.

Consider

student’s possible stressors

antecedent – behavior - consequence

Tool #2

Tool #3

Tool #4

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Provide clear messages.

Set up for success.

Challenge beliefs.

Failure is not an option.

Be a broken record.

Features:

Tool #5

‘Valentine’ method

http://www.michael-valentine.com/outline.html 32

Cognitive Approach

Tool #6

Teach skills.

Provide positive practice.

Features:

Procedural knowledge

requires practice.

Perfect practice makes perfect.

Can involve individual conferences

Can set up whole-class strategies33

Looks Like Sounds LikeA T-Chart is useful for

explicit teaching.

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Another Example of A Whole Class Strategy:

Tool #6 Cognitive Approach

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Explicitly Teach Social Skills

Excellent Resource for Whole-Class Interventions

Cognitive ApproachTool #6

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Skillstreaming:List of Social Skills

to Teach

Tool #6 Cognitive Approach

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Skillstreaming:List of More

Social Skills to Teach

Cognitive Approach

Tool #6

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Explicitly teach How to read subtle cues.

Note: This slide is not on the session presentation on your CD.

Cognitive ApproachTool #6

‘Read the Teacher’

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Tool #6 ‘Read the Teacher’

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Tool #7

Behavior Modification

Rewards .don’t have to be monetary

Should be what students otherwise couldn’t get 40

Tool #7

Behavior Modification

Praise

.can be public or private

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Powerful Practice: Catch students while doing what’s correct/expected.

Tool #7

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Tool #8

Nonverbal Techniques

proximity control

hand signals

facial expressions

“pregnant pauses”

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Tool #9

Reality Therapy

Similar to the premise outlined in the book

Activating the Desire to Learn

CommonFeatures:

Accept responsibility.

Make a plan for improvement.

Logical consequences VS coercion

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Tool #10

Last Resort: Negative

Consequences/Punishment

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Thanks for your time.

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Tell a Friend This is what I

plan to do differently…

Reflections About: ‘Who’s in Control?’

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