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“Life is short, but there is always time enough for courtesy.” Ralph Waldo Emerson, poet 03 POLISH YOUR SKILLS Q I want to know about the etiquette of giving return gifts – after a birthday, marriage or house warming. Are there some dos and don’ts to be followed? – Manner Wise Teen A. Hi, it’s good that you are asking about this often ignored topic. Return gifts, by definition, are gifts you give as a souvenir at the end of any party. As always, there are some guidelines on this gesture too. Check these tips. DOS Think before you give. Ask yourself would the recipient really enjoy this gift or are you just giving due to formality? Whatever be the reason, once decided, try to make the gift personal. Choose gifts of value. Recycling old gifts to clear clutter in your home is not the best thing to do. Wrap the gift nicely just as you would any other gift. Just because it happens to be a return gift does not make it any less special than usual gifts. DON’TS Don’t re-gift handmade items given to you by your other friends or rela- tives. It’s a mean thing to do. Don’t give something that is torn, chipped or discoloured even a bit – it’s clearly disrespectful. And never give used gifts even if you think they are good and useful. BY TEAM NIE Expert SPEAK TABLE MANNERS Forks can be intimidating if you don’t know which one is meant for what purpose? Worry not, here’s your guide to fork-land. Check it out MIND YOUR MANNERS A child’s classroom is the first experience of the real world and it’s a learning ground for good manners. Here are 8 etiquette rules you must develop to succeed in school and later in life too S chool years are a training period for integration in the society. Under- standing good be- haviour and inculcating those manners and values will take students far in life, even after school life is over. These are some rules you must know and follow during your school life. It will teach you etiquette and also build your character by making you a responsible individual. Acknowledge others It’s basic. Saying a simple “Hi”, “Hello, how are you,” makes people around you (classmates, teach- ers, school helpers) feel that you value them. Acknowledging others also begins conversations and helps build and maintain relationships. Introductions are important How you introduce yourself, along with your tone of voice, smile, eye-contact and handshake is crucial in creating positive first impressions. Have the confidence to introduce yourself to other school mates, teachers and also children as well as teachers from other schools in inter- school competitions and events. Adhere to classroom rules Focus on studying (even if it’s hard to do) while in class. You can do all the talking and chit-chat dur- ing lunch break and after school is over. Also, don’t sneak and eat when the lecture is on – it’s disrespectful to your teachers. Deal with rejection in positive ways Life is sometimes easy, sometimes harsh. You got to take both in your stride. There will be times when you won’t get that coveted trophy in a high- school debate or an invite to the head boy/girl’s birthday party. Don’t let these rejections inter- fere with your dreams, and take it as a part of life. Be gracious in rejections and smile through it; these experiences will teach you a lot and make you a better person. Develop patience and politeness Patience is a virtue and developing this ability can help you overcome anger, pre- vent conflicts and un- necessary confrontations. Remember, patience is always rewarded even if it takes time. Politeness is a mark of good behaviour and it helps get you respect, so, make sure words like ‘please’, ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’ are a part of your daily vocabulary. Respect school property Students are accountable for keeping the school furniture in good condition. Don’t ever scribble on desks or use chairs, tables and other school furniture carelessly. Also, borrow stationery from classmates if required, but never take it out from his/her desk or bag thinking it’s a small thing. It doesn’t matter if what you are taking is small or big. Getting consent from the owner to borrow their stuff is basic manners and is ethical as well. Being punctual is crucial Punctuality is essential and it is something that will be appreciat- ed at all stages of your life – at every age. Don’t delay your homework and projects and use your time wisely to learn your lessons as well as life skills. Now, this doesn’t mean that you cannot have fun with friends in school. Just keep it balanced. Stay organised There is a saying that when your book shelves and bag is organised, so are your thoughts. Clutter in general cre- ates clutter and confusion in mind and leads to stress. So, keep your school bag clean and in good order. Ditto for your study area. Being organised also means scheduling your study and leisure hours which can keep your study and extra-curricular activities’ perform- ance in top gear. Compiled by Pallavi Shankar Fruit Fork Fruit forks are widely used in Europe than any other country. This is a short fork and could be used to either cut larger pieces of fruits or to spear smaller ones. Yes, a table fork can also do this job, but in a formal set-up, the use of fruit fork for serving fruits is a good idea. Y ou are standing in a packed metro and a stranger collides with you. Do you wait for them to apologise or are you the first one to say “sorry”? Do you apologise for making a completely reasonable request to a classmate or while asking for another glass of water in a restaurant? If you can identi- fy yourself in these scenarios, there’s some news for you. Too much ‘sorry’ affects your confidence According to research, the word ‘sorry’ is probably the most overused word amongst the Brits. When you overuse the word ‘sorry’, it devalues when you genuinely mean it and downplays your achieve- ments. If you seek forgive- ness for speak- ing up in a meeting or brushing past someone, it can negatively impact how you are per- ceived by others. How can you avoid over- doing sorry? Follow these tips to manage and over- come the ‘sorry syndrome’: REPLACE SORRY WITH “ARE YOU OK”?: If you feel you have hit someone accidentally while walking and you aren’t sure if it was your mistake, ask the person, “Are you ok?” instead of saying sorry. This will pre- vent you from spending any time obsessing over whether you did anything wrong. Secondly, showing concern shows positivity and a re- sponsible attitude. PAUSE BEFORE APOLOGISING: Whenever you feel the urge to say sorry, take a brief pause and go through the situation again. Ask yourself if you are apologising due to the self-im- posed guilt or whether you are actually at fault. TNN Table Fork They are what we use on a daily basis for our main dishes like rice and rice- based dishes, pasta, meat, vegetables and so on. Salad Fork Recognised by its often- reinforced centre tines, the four-pronged fork has an extra-wide left tine that can be used as a cutting edge for veg- etables like iceberg let- tuce, spinach and even fruits like avocado. THUMB RULE Forks go to the left of the dinner plate in the order of use, with only one exception – the oyster fork DID YOU KNOW? Spain and Italy (in the 16th century) were the first countries to adopt the fork as a utensil to be used at the table to eat with rather than just a serving utensil Dinner Fork The longest fork in a set of tableware, this one has four tines of equal length and is used for the main course. The heavy lifter of the fork world, it has no outstanding fea- tures, except its size. Oyster Fork This one is narrow with three tines and is used to pick shrimps or eat seafood like lobsters, prawns and the like. This is the only fork that is kept on the right side of the plate. Ice-cream Fork Did the name take you by surprise ? It actually exists. The fork has three short tines with a bowl shape in order to break the ice-cream and then scoop it. Although a stan- dard dessert spoon would be more easier to use, an ice-cream fork makes for better presentation. Do you have ‘Sorry’ syndrome? INTROSPECTION THE BOTTOM LINE From stepping on some- one’s foot to hurting someone’s feelings, a timely apology can save relationships. Ultimately, it is important to know where to draw the line. Photo: Getty Images Photo: Getty Images Dessert Fork Slightly smaller than the salad fork, it’s also called a pastry fork or pie fork. This fork may have three or four tines, with a flattened edge; it allows the user to hold a plate in the left hand and cut through pastry/cake with the left edge. The dessert fork may be placed above the dinner plate, or it may be brought to the table when dessert is served. MUST SEE ■ TREK – SPY ON THE WILDEBEEST, ANI- MAL PLANET, 3.00 PM: Remote spycams follow a baby wildebeest and a young zebra as they face some of nature's most gruelling physical challenges during the year-long journey. ■ RIVER MONSTERS, DISCOVERY CHAN- NEL, 5.00 PM: A honeymoon bride is dragged to her death in the Amazon River in Colombia. Jeremy Wade travels to the site to try and find out about the culprit. ■ BEST OF BEAR GRYLLS, DISCOVERY SCI- ENCE, 7.00 PM: Hollywood superstar Michael B Jordan embarks on a 48- hour adventure in Wales with Bear Grylls that includes a daring drop into the ocean and trekking through Cwmorthin Quarry. ■ PEOPLE OF THE RIVER GANGES, HISTO- RY TV18, 8.00 PM: The film-makers take a look at how the mighty Ganges river physically and spiritually sup- ports millions and is worshipped dur- ing the Kumbh Mela in Prayagraj. 1862: The Madras High Court was inaugurated. 1881: Alexander Fleming, Scottish bacteriologist (invented penicillin), was born in Lochfield, Scotland. 1906: Chitta Ranjan Das and other Congress leaders published the newspaper Vande Mataram. 1925: Surendranath Banerji – one of the founders of Modern India passed away. 1945: Atomic bomb was dropped on Hiroshima by the US B-29 Superfortress "Enola Gay". 1990: The UN Security Council ordered a worldwide trade embargo with Iraq. The embargo was to pun- ish Iraq for invading Kuwait. 1991: Tim Berners-Lee released files describing his idea for the World Wide Web. WWW debuted as a publicly available service on the Internet. 2012: The Mars rover Curiosity land- ed on the floor of Gale Crater. 2018: Facebook, Apple, YouTube and Spotify removed conspiracy theorist Alex Jones from their platforms. THIS DAY THAT YEAR TELEVISION ■ ONCE UPON A TIME IN VENICE, &FLIX, 2.55 PM: When a group of drug dealers capture Steve's dog, he tries to rescue it. Before returning to his loyal companion, Spyder, the leader, arranges for Steve to complete a few difficult tasks. ■ AVENGERS: INFINITY WAR, STAR MOVIES, 5.45 PM: The Avengers must stop Thanos, a mad Titan, and his army from getting their hands on all the in- finity stones. However, the mad Titan is prepared to go to any lengths to carry out his insane plan. ■ THE KARATE KID (2010), HBO, 6.20 PM: Dre – a young boy – finds himself bul- lied by Cheng, a rebellious kung fu prodigy at his school. However, things change after he befriends Mr Han, a maintenance man, who happens to be a kung fu expert. ■ THE ANGRY BIRDS MOVIE, MOVIES NOW, 9.00 PM: Red, Chuck and Bomb have always been the outcasts within a com- munity of flightless birds on an island. But when mysterious green pigs in- trude the island, it is up to them to figure out the reason. MOVIES ON TV MUST DO AUGUST 06, 2019
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“Life is short, but there is always time enough for courtesy.” Ralph Waldo Emerson, poet 03POLISH YOUR SKILLS
Q I want to know about the etiquette of giving return gifts –
after a birthday, marriage or housewarming. Are there some dos anddon’ts to be followed? – Manner Wise Teen
A. Hi, it’s good that you are askingabout this often ignored topic. Returngifts, by definition, are gifts you give asa souvenir at the end of any party. Asalways, there are some guidelines onthis gesture too. Check these tips.
DOS Think before you give. Ask yourselfwould the recipient really enjoy this giftor are you just giving due to formality?Whatever be the reason, once decided,try to make the gift personal. Choose gifts of value. Recycling oldgifts to clear clutter in your home is notthe best thing to do.
Wrap the giftnicely just as youwould any othergift. Just becauseit happens to be areturn gift doesnot make it anyless special thanusual gifts.
DON’TS Don’t re-gift handmade items givento you by your other friends or rela-tives. It’s a mean thing to do. Don’t give something that is torn,chipped or discoloured even a bit – it’sclearly disrespectful. And never give used gifts even if youthink they are good and useful.
BY TEAM NIE
ExpertSPEAK
TABLE MANNERSForks can be intimidating if you don’t
know which one is meant for whatpurpose? Worry not, here’s yourguide to fork-land. Check it out
MIND YOUR MANNERS
A child’s classroomis the firstexperience of thereal world and it’s alearning ground forgood manners. Hereare 8 etiquetterules you mustdevelop to succeedin school and laterin life too
School years are atraining period forintegration in thesociety. Under-standing good be-
haviour and inculcatingthose manners and valueswill take students far inlife, even after school lifeis over. These are somerules you must know andfollow during yourschool life. It will teachyou etiquette and also buildyour character by makingyou a responsible individual.
Acknowledge othersIt’s basic. Saying a simple “Hi”, “Hello, how areyou,” makes people around you (classmates, teach-ers, school helpers) feel that you value them. Acknowledging others also begins conversationsand helps build and maintain relationships.
Introductions are importantHow you introduce yourself, along with your toneof voice, smile, eye-contact and handshake iscrucial in creating positive first impressions.Have the confidence to introduce yourself to other school mates, teachers and also childrenas well as teachers from other schools in inter-school competitions and events.
Adhere to classroom rulesFocus on studying (even if it’s hard to do) while inclass. You can do all the talking and chit-chat dur-ing lunch break and after school is over. Also, don’tsneak and eat when the lecture is on – it’s disrespectful to your teachers.
Deal with rejection in positive waysLife is sometimes easy,sometimes harsh. You gotto take both in yourstride. There will be timeswhen you won’t get thatcoveted trophy in a high-school debate or an invite to the head boy/girl’sbirthday party. Don’t let these rejections inter-fere with your dreams, and take it as a part oflife. Be gracious in rejections and smile throughit; these experiences will teach you a lot and makeyou a better person.
Develop patience andpolitenessPatience is a virtueand developing thisability can help youovercome anger, pre-vent conflicts and un-necessary confrontations.Remember, patience is always rewarded even ifit takes time. Politeness is a mark of good behaviour and it helps get you respect, so, makesure words like ‘please’, ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’are a part of your daily vocabulary.
Respect school property
Students are accountable for keeping theschool furniture in good condition. Don’t everscribble on desks or use chairs, tables andother school furniture carelessly. Also, borrowstationery from classmates if required, butnever take it out from his/her desk or bagthinking it’s a small thing. It doesn’t matter ifwhat you are taking is small or big. Gettingconsent from the owner to borrow their stuff isbasic manners and is ethical as well.
Being punctual is crucial
Punctuality is essential and it issomething that will be appreciat-
ed at all stages of your life – atevery age. Don’t delay yourhomework and projects and use
your time wisely to learn yourlessons as well as life skills.
Now, this doesn’t mean thatyou cannot have fun with friends in
school. Just keep it balanced.
Stay organised There is a saying that when your bookshelves and bag is organised, so areyour thoughts. Clutter in general cre-ates clutter and confusion in mind andleads to stress. So, keep your school bagclean and in good order. Ditto for your
study area. Beingorganised alsomeans scheduling
your study andleisure hours
which can keepyour study and
extra-curricularactivities’ perform-
ance in top gear.
Compiled by Pallavi Shankar
Fruit ForkFruit forks are widelyused in Europe than anyother country. This is ashort fork and could beused to either cut largerpieces of fruits or tospear smaller ones. Yes,a table fork can also dothis job, but in a formalset-up, the use of fruitfork for serving fruits isa good idea.
You are standing in apacked metro and astranger collides withyou. Do you wait for
them to apologise or are youthe first one to say “sorry”? Doyou apologise for making acompletely reasonable requestto a classmate or while askingfor another glass of water in arestaurant? If you can identi-fy yourself in these scenarios,there’s some news for you.
Too much ‘sorry’affects your confidenceAccording to research, the word‘sorry’ is probably the mostoverused word amongst theBrits. When you overuse theword ‘sorry’, it devalues when
you genuinelymean it andd o w n p l a y syour achieve-ments. If youseek forgive-ness for speak-ing up in ameeting orbrushing pastsomeone, it can
negatively impacthow you are per-ceived by others.
How can youavoid over-doing sorry?Follow these tips tomanage and over-
come the ‘sorry syndrome’:REPLACE SORRY WITH “AREYOU OK”?: If you feel you havehit someone accidentally whilewalking and you aren’t sure ifit was your mistake, ask theperson, “Are you ok?” insteadof saying sorry. This will pre-vent you from spending anytime obsessing over whetheryou did anything wrong. Secondly, showing concernshows positivity and a re-sponsible attitude. PAUSE BEFORE APOLOGISING:Whenever you feel the urge tosay sorry, take a brief pauseand go through the situationagain. Ask yourself if you areapologising due to the self-im-posed guilt or whether you areactually at fault. TNN
Table ForkThey are what we use ona daily basis for our maindishes like rice and rice-based dishes, pasta, meat,vegetables and so on.
Salad Fork Recognised by its often-reinforced centre tines,the four-pronged forkhas an extra-wide lefttine that can be used asa cutting edge for veg-etables like iceberg let-tuce, spinach and evenfruits like avocado.
THUMB RULEForks go to the left ofthe dinner plate in theorder of use, with onlyone exception – theoyster fork DID YOU KNOW?
Spain and Italy (in the16th century) were thefirst countries to adoptthe fork as a utensil tobe used at the table toeat with rather thanjust a serving utensil
Dinner Fork The longest fork in aset of tableware, thisone has four tines ofequal length and isused for the maincourse. The heavy lifterof the fork world, it hasno outstanding fea-tures, except its size.
Oyster ForkThis one is narrow with threetines and is used to pickshrimps or eat seafood like lobsters, prawns and the like.This is the only fork that is kepton the right side of the plate.
Ice-cream ForkDid the name take you bysurprise ? It actuallyexists. The fork has threeshort tines with a bowlshape in order to breakthe ice-cream and thenscoop it. Although a stan-dard dessert spoon wouldbe more easier to use, anice-cream fork makes forbetter presentation.
Do you have ‘Sorry’ syndrome?INTROSPECTION
THE BOTTOM LINEFrom stepping on some-one’s foot to hurtingsomeone’s feelings, atimely apology can saverelationships. Ultimately,it is important to knowwhere to draw the line.
Photo: Getty Images
Photo: Getty Images
Dessert Fork Slightly smaller than the salad fork,it’s also called a pastry fork or piefork. This fork may have three or fourtines, with a flattened edge; it allowsthe user to hold a plate in the lefthand and cut through pastry/cake withthe left edge. The dessert fork may beplaced above the dinner plate, or itmay be brought to the table whendessert is served.
MUST SEE
■ TREK – SPY ON THE WILDEBEEST, ANI-MAL PLANET, 3.00 PM: Remote spycamsfollow a baby wildebeest and a youngzebra as they face some of nature'smost gruelling physical challengesduring the year-long journey.
■ RIVER MONSTERS, DISCOVERY CHAN-NEL, 5.00 PM: A honeymoon bride isdragged to her death in the AmazonRiver in Colombia. Jeremy Wade travels to the site to try and find outabout the culprit.
■ BEST OF BEAR GRYLLS, DISCOVERY SCI-ENCE, 7.00 PM: Hollywood superstarMichael B Jordan embarks on a 48-hour adventure in Wales with BearGrylls that includes a daring drop intothe ocean and trekking through Cwmorthin Quarry.
■ PEOPLE OF THE RIVER GANGES, HISTO-RY TV18, 8.00 PM: The film-makers takea look at how the mighty Ganges river physically and spiritually sup-ports millions and is worshipped dur-ing the Kumbh Mela in Prayagraj.
1862: The Madras High Court wasinaugurated.
1881: Alexander Fleming, Scottishbacteriologist (invented penicillin),was born in Lochfield, Scotland.
1906: Chitta Ranjan Das and otherCongress leaders published thenewspaper Vande Mataram.
1925: Surendranath Banerji – one ofthe founders of Modern India passed away.
1945: Atomic bomb was dropped onHiroshima by the US B-29Superfortress "Enola Gay".
1990: The UN Security Councilordered a worldwide trade embargowith Iraq. The embargo was to pun-ish Iraq for invading Kuwait.
1991: Tim Berners-Lee released filesdescribing his idea for the WorldWide Web. WWW debuted as a publicly available service on theInternet.
2012: The Mars rover Curiosity land-ed on the floor of Gale Crater.
2018: Facebook, Apple, YouTube andSpotify removed conspiracy theoristAlex Jones from their platforms.
THIS DAY THAT YEARTELEVISION
■ ONCE UPON A TIME IN VENICE, &FLIX,2.55 PM: When a group of drug dealers capture Steve's dog, he tries torescue it. Before returning to his loyal companion, Spyder, the leader,arranges for Steve to complete a fewdifficult tasks.
■ AVENGERS: INFINITY WAR, STAR MOVIES,5.45 PM: The Avengers must stopThanos, a mad Titan, and his armyfrom getting their hands on all the in-finity stones. However, the mad Titanis prepared to go to any lengths to carry out his insane plan.
■ THE KARATE KID (2010), HBO, 6.20 PM:Dre – a young boy – finds himself bul-lied by Cheng, a rebellious kung fuprodigy at his school. However, thingschange after he befriends Mr Han, amaintenance man, who happens to bea kung fu expert.
■ THE ANGRY BIRDS MOVIE, MOVIES NOW,9.00 PM: Red, Chuck and Bomb havealways been the outcasts within a com-munity of flightless birds on an island.But when mysterious green pigs in-trude the island, it is up to them to figure out the reason.
MOVIES ON TV
MUST DOAUGUST06, 2019
