Love

Logan Rants

Presents of Love

• Purgation• Perception• Praise• Patience• Perfection

Mickel, Elijah, and Cecilia Hall. "Choosing To Love: The Essentials Of Loving (Presents And Problems)." International Journal Of Reality Therapy 27.2 (2008): 30-34. Academic Search Complete. Web. 13 Aug. 2012.

Purgation

• The present of forgiveness• Forgiveness purifies factors related to negative

relationship building• Forgiveness should not be confused with

forgetfulness. Forgiving gives a person a fresh start in the relationship.


Perception

• Is the present of insight• Being able to sense at an intuitive level• Being able to tell what is going on that is not

present and act as it were physically present• Loving insight enables the ability to understand

the strengths of the significant other.


Praise

• Present of affirmation• See worth in one’s self and one’s partner• The ability to appreciate the significant others’

gifts and abilities• Constant warranted praise reaffirms the choice

to be significant to one another.


Patience

• Present of understanding• The process of filtering information and reframing

it into a clear picture.• Presence of patients allows one to manipulate

time• Patient love understands that perfect love takes

time


Perfection

• Present of wholeness• Visibly manifested in the successful loving

relationship• Refusal to accept failure, perfect love is quality

love.• Perfection is more than mental and physical but

loving as a spiritual acting.


Problems of Love

• Prejudice• Pseudo• Permissive• Pride• Possessive


Prejudice

• Consists of making judgments• Based on incomplete information• Jumping to conclusions about components in

the relationship• Manifest in a lack of discernment


Pseudo Loving

• Mistaking liking for loving• Confusing infatuation for intimacy• Misunderstanding lust for love• “I love you as long as you make me feel good.

When you make me unhappy I question my love for you.”


Permissive Loving

• Loving without structure• Boundaries are pour and relationship has few

rules• Commitment in always questioned• “Do you really love me?”• Based on fear of loss


Prideful Loving

• Selfish acts are “I” focused• Negative past experiences take precedence• Past experiences influence your behaviors• Belief that “your nothing without me”• Exemplified as a trophy possession


Possessive Loving

• Ownership of another• Placing one’s wants before others• “I can only love you after I love me”• Manifested and acted out in jealousy• Communication that this person belongs to

me


Love in the Brain

• Women in love are faster in detecting target stimuli when primed by a beloved’s name, as compared to a friend’s name

• Love is not just a static state, it is a dynamic state sustained by great energy

• Women who are passionately in love are faster detecting the target stimuli because of the mental association their brain has created

Bianchi-Demicheli, Francesco, Scott T. Grafton, and Stephanie Ortigue. "The Power Of Love On The Human Brain." Social Neuroscience 1.2 (2006): 90-103. Academic Search Complete. Web. 11 Aug. 2012.

Bibliography

• Mickel, Elijah, and Cecilia Hall. "Choosing To Love: The Essentials Of Loving (Presents And Problems)." International Journal Of Reality Therapy 27.2 (2008): 30-34. Academic Search Complete. Web. 13 Aug. 2012. This article was about the presents, and problems of love. It described how love works and doesn’t work

• Bianchi-Demicheli, Francesco, Scott T. Grafton, and Stephanie Ortigue. "The Power Of Love On The Human Brain." Social Neuroscience 1.2 (2006): 90-103. Academic Search Complete. Web. 11 Aug. 2012. This article was about experiments scientist did on women's brains in love. It described what woud happen when a women was in or out of love in her brain.

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