Living Authentically: transparency , humility, authenticity
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Living Authentically: transparency, humility, authenticity
Dr. Karen A. DowlingIndiana Wesleyan UniversityJune 2014
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HumilityCan be viewed as low-regard, meekness, permissiveness in essence a weakness -by those adhering to a strong leader paradigm
Leadership for teacher leaders (ethics paradigm)Leadership characteristics (strong leader paradigm)DecisivePowerfulMasculineDrivenSelf-assuredFearlessRisk-takingCompetitive
The for humilityRemain humbleCoach by questioningTruly care about team members as peopleTake the moral groundBecome a consensus builder
Humility leads to strength and not to weakness: It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes and to make amends for them. John J. McCloy
If ethics is the study of values and customs of a particular person or group, then leadership ethics is the study of the values and customs of those who lead or seek to lead.
Humility is a primary ethical consideration.Humility is not thinking less of yourself, its thinking of yourself less -C. S. Lewis
5 Ways To Teach Humility
1. Build Confidence: Often what passes for arrogance is actually fear. Some leaders attempt to humble other leaders or put them in their place through public criticism or embarrassment. This tactic actually has the opposite impact. We need teacher leaders who are confident enough to not need to talk about it.
5 Ways To Teach Humility2. Teach the Art of Great Questions: Teach the art of provocative questions. Teach the power of pause. Ask your own questions what does your team think about this idea? Who did you involve in this decision?
Questions that Intimidate and DisengageWhat do I have to do to get you to. Why did you do that? Did I ask you to do that? Is that really working? What is your experience in this area? Who gave you the authority to make that decision? Is that your final decision? Are you sure about that? What makes you think that will work? 3. Get Them Out of Their Comfort Zone: Give them a stretch assignment or project in an area they know nothing about. Nothing is more humbling than being clueless. Put them in arenas where they must rely on their team or peers to be successful.
4. Give them tools to manage their blind spots: Do a 360 assessment. Give them a coach. Encourage your team to surface and work through their own conflicts.
5. Model itBe a servant leaderAdmit when you are wrongCoach privatelyRecognize, honor and reward humble behaviors on teams, as ironic as this sounds. Minimize desire for folks to toot their own horn by tooting it for them.Reject special treatment, even when its convenient. Live by the same rules and standards you expect your team to uphold.
Humility is how we express our delight how we appreciate the simple pleasures and great joys. And equally, humility is how we open to lifes inconveniences and devastating tragedies. When we are humble, no experience is beneath us, no colleague is unworthy, no moment does not merit our full attention. Because we are humble, we do not pick and choose savoring only the tasty parts of life and leaving the rest for others. We are wiling to experience the entire situation directly and work with every detail. ~ Michael Carroll on the talent of humility
Leading peers: pride, purpose, positive, persistence
Pride, while understandably difficult to recognize, has presented the biggest hurdle. Get a bunch of highly motivated and charged individuals to attack a problem and you are bound to have people that think their way of doing things is the best and only way.Stay tied to the mission, vision and purpose. When you can stay focused on the core objective, it closes off some of the paths for ideas that do not apply to what is being accomplished. Foster positive conflict. Positive conflict is one of the greatest tools for overcoming a wide range of problems in a team. If everyone is on-board with this, the group as a whole will accept all ideas, but as a whole will choose the ones that will work best for the objective at hand. Accountability in a team means you do what you committed to doing. And everyone must hold everyone accountable for their commitments. If one is committed to doing something, then one should do everything they can to complete it or should give advance notice and ask for help. A leader needs to be confident enough to confront others that are not fulfilling their commitments. This might be better done publicly or privately depending on the circumstance. Also as the leader, you best be completing your assignments, if you want others to complete theirs.
What the world needs now is more geniuses with humility, there are so few of us left.
The first step is admitting that youre struggling with pride.9 Ways Confident Leaders Express HumilityUnderstand they dont have all the answers and search for more Attract those who will tell the truth and be able to hear them Reflect on their own leadership and seek out change as needed Read about other approaches and adjust Seek out mentors from all levels Share more about themselves and create connections Seek to learn about the people they work with and see them as people Try out new behaviors and ask for feedback Take stands against the politically correct choiceTransparent leaders are authentic and deliver their brand of honesty with respect and concern for others. There are no hidden agendas. Information is shared openly, yet appropriately.
Transparency Check1- weak 5-strong
1. Consistent in demonstrating who you truly are in work and home life.2. Easily build connections, rapport, or relationships.3. Able to keep confidentiality.4. Can communicate bad news as easily as good news.5. Know how to start conversations with others and get others to talk.6. Can share opinions freely and keep emotions in check.7. Have asked for others feedback on your performance.8. Have engaged in self-reflection; self-motivated to examine own performance.9. Are willing to admit to your mistakes.10. Affirm others even when you disagree.
Be transparent byBeing congruent between inner and outer self. No pretense. Pretending to be someone or something you are not will ultimately take its toll; both on you, those around you, and the bottom line of your organization. Make a conscious examination of your values, vision, mission and purpose, then align those elements with your daily life both at work and at home. Creating meaningful connections with team members. You can fake genuine consideration, but not for long. Dont force an unnatural or uncomfortable bond with team members, but do go out of your way to get to know each person on a real level. What is important to them? How do their skills and values compliment your team?
Being sincere in word and deed. It is usually not appropriate to divulge all information without discernment. You dont need to tell everyone everything, but never lie. Try phrases like, Im not at liberty to discuss that, but what I can tell you is People will respect both your candor and discretion with privileged information.
Communicating both good and bad news. Just like you, your team needs as many facts as they can muster to make intelligent decisions, opinions, and commitments. Dont sugarcoat bad news to make it sound better, and dont downplay or omit good news. Just tell the truth simply, and with a touch of compassion when necessary.Revealing personal information within the context of work. Transparency is all about mindful revelation, so take advantage of opportunities to appropriately expose yourself once in a while. Meaningful connections are built on mutual respect and communication. So dont just stockpile information about the people around you, share things about yourself to increase your own vulnerability and stake in the relationship.
Responsibly sharing true opinions and emotions. As stated above, never lie, but be responsible in the manner in which you share with others. For example, express your concern or disappointment, but without contempt. Explain your reasoning for a decision, but not at the cost of someones dignity.
Asking for feedback about their own performance. Dont lie to your team, and take steps to ensure you arent lying to yourself. Ask those who you respect, and prepare yourself to accept their feedback with an open and gracious mind. While it takes courage to face criticism, appreciate the bravery it takes others (especially those whose jobs, positions, and wages depend on your view of them) to be frank with you.Owning up to mistakes. Its not just team members; everyone appreciates someone who can admit a mistake. The act of owning up to a wrong turn or bungled attempt demonstrates humility and a genuine desire to do the right thing. Bonus: the more your team members see you modeling this skill (although hopefully not TOO often), the more likely they will be to return the favor.
Lencioni (2002) and Marcum & Smith (2007) Humility is an appropriate self-awareness that avoids thinking too highly of ourselves, blended with a healthy self-respect that avoids thinking too little of ourselvesallowing us to realistically assess our own accomplishments while continuing the pursuit of our own personal development. Proper humility stems from the worldview and core values genesis of leadership
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