Lesson 1: Overview1 Raising a Thinking Child Teaching Young Children How to Resolve Everyday...

Lesson 1: Overview 1

Raising a Thinking Child

Teaching Young Children How toResolve Everyday Conflicts and

Get Along with Others


What do you want for your child?


I Can Problem Solve (ICPS)


Goal of ICPS

• To teach children thinking skills that can be used to help resolve or prevent “people” problems.


Focus of ICPS

• Teaches children how to think, not what to think

• Guides children in thinking for themselves

• Teaches children how to evaluate their own ideas

• Encourages children to come up with solutions to problems on their own


Benefits for Children

Builds self-confidence and listening skills

Encourages thinking about new and different solutions to problems

Helps children to “get along” better with their classmates or siblings

ability to wait ability to cope with frustration

impulsivity social withdrawal


Tips

•Write just like a movie script.

•Write what you say or do—then write what your child says or does.

•If this problem has never happened with your child, just make up what you and your child might do if a problem like this one did occur.


Key Components of ICPS

• Vocabulary Words

• Feelings—most important question in dialoguing: “How do you feel when…?”

• Alternatives—coming up with solutions: “Can you think of something different to do when…?”

• Consequences—develop empathy through awareness of other’s feelings: “What might happen if…?”, “Is _____ a good idea or not a good idea?”


Vocabulary Words for This Week

Is/Is Not And/Or Same/Different

Some/All Before/After Now/Later


What is dialoguing?

• Parent guides the child in applying ICPS concepts to solve a real-life problem.

• Helps children try again if their first attempt to solve a problem fails

• Helps them learn to cope with frustration when they don’t get what they want immediately


Basic Principles of ICPS Dialoguing

• Child and parent must identify the real problem.

• Each must understand and deal with the problem.

• Once the real problem is identified, the parent must not change it to meet his/her own needs.

• The child, not the parent, must solve the problem.

• The focus is on how the child thinks, not what he/she thinks.


When Not to Dialogue

It is not possible or even necessary to dialogue every problem.• Always remove

children from harm.• Sometimes a crying

child just needs to cry or an angry child just needs to be angry.


Tuesday Night Live


Vocabulary Words for This Week

Is/Is Not And/Or Same/Different

Some/All Before/After Now/Later


Homework

• Handouts (pages 10-15)

• Book of the Week: My Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss


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