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True or False?
The breadth of information you self disclose
is related to the person with whom you are
talking.
The depth of information you self disclose is
related to the reason you are disclosing and
the level of intimacy in the relationship.
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Relationships
STAGES
Initiating
Experimenting
Intensifying Integrating
Bonding
Differentiating
Circumscribing Stagnating
Avoiding
Terminating
Are always changing
Movement is always to
a new place
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REVIEWREVIEWREVIEWREVIEW
How do listening skills relate to healthyrelationships?
What can happen when there aredifferences in communication styles and
listening styles in relationships?
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Four Personal Listening Styles
CONTENT ORIENTED: Focus on issues and
arguments
PEOPLE ORIENTED: Focus on feelings and
emotions
ACTION ORIENTED: Impatient and often
finish speakers thoughts tend to second
guess TIME ORIENTED: Prefer bulleted talking
points quickly and briefly.
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FAULTY LISTENING
Yes you can go to the
concert, but I want you
to call me when you get
there, andI
want you totake out the trash
before you go, and you
need to be home before
11:00 p.m.
I dont think youunderstand what Im
saying.
I heard you.
I heard you say that you
want me home by 11:00
p.m. I heard what you said.
Here we go again with
the trash!
Uh huh.
I heard exactly what
you said.
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LISTENING
What do good listeners look like?
Verbally
Nonverbally
Listening is not a natural process. Listening requires effort (active not passive)
All listeners do not receive the samemessage.
We hear uniquely different messages
Physiological factors, social roles, culturalbackground, personal interests, and needs.
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Listening Stages
Attending Mindfulness.
Understanding/Interpreting
Responding
Remembering
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Male and female intimacy styles
Cultural influences on intimacy
INTIMACYINTIMACYIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
INTIMACYINTIMACYIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSIN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
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Intimacy
Physical intimacy
Intellectual exchanges
Emotional disclosure
Shared activities
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Characteristics of Self-Disclosure
Influenced by Culture
Usually occurs in dyads
Usually symmetrical
Occurs incrementally
FEW transactions involve high levels of self-
disclosure
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Reasons for Self-Disclosure
Catharsis
Self-Clarification
Self-Validation
Reciprocity
Impression management
Relationship maintenance and enhancement
Control
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Alternatives to Self-Disclosure
Lies
White Lies
Equivocation
Hinting
Face Saving
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Perspectives & Tensions
Connection
Predictability
Openness
Autonomy
Novelty
Privacy
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Guidelines for Appropriate Self-
Disclosure Is the other person important to you?
Is the risk of disclosing reasonable?
Are the amount and type of disclosure
appropriate?
Is the disclosure relevant to the situation at
hand?
Is the disclosure reciprocated? Will the effect be constructive?
Is the the self-disclosure clear and
understandable?
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MetacommunicationMessages (usually relational) that refer to
other messages: communication about
communication.
CHARACTERISTICS OFCHARACTERISTICS OFINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
CHARACTERISTICS OFCHARACTERISTICS OFINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
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SELFSELF--DISCLOSURE INDISCLOSURE ININTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
SELFSELF--DISCLOSURE INDISCLOSURE ININTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSINTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
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A HelicalModel ofRelationalCycles(figure 6-3)
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CLASS ACTIVITIES:CLASS ACTIVITIES:
SelfSelf--DisclosureDisclosureJohari WindowJohari Window
CLASS ACTIVITIES:CLASS ACTIVITIES:
SelfSelf--DisclosureDisclosureJohari WindowJohari Window