In the past few months we have discussed Hitlamdut (learning stance), Behira Points (choice points), Anavah (humility) and

Savlanut (patience).

I asked that you try to practice these both by yourselves and with

your family.

How well do you think that this went with you and your

families? Can I do anything to help you work better with

these Middot?

Review

In the spirit of mindfulness I would like to take the next few minutes to let you talk with your partner regarding your progress and then come back to the group.

Each of you share a sentence or two regarding how you chose to manifest a middah of over the past few months. If you do not have a partner, let me know and we can find one for you.

Regarding time, I suggest that each partner take one to two minutes each and when we come back to the group the same applies.

When your family is gathered together,

say at dinner, discuss the middot of the

month and ask what they have done to

practice it.

When you meet with your partner, either on the phone or in

person, discuss events or happenings

that caused you to think of, or put into

practice, the middot.

When discussing a family problem or

talking about a decision that has to

be made; bring up the middot and see if it

applies to help with a possible solution.

Hints on how to work with the Middot

CHESEDLOVING KINDNESS

According to tradition Adonai created the world to give kindness and love to all creation.

Thus this constant outpouring of Chesed is what started and continues the world today.

As humans we too are creators and this is one of the most important ways that we imitate Adonai.

How do we create and build the world…through Chesed?

Each act of Chesed helps us to build the world.

How do you think that this works?

By Helping Others-How?

By Visiting The Sick

By Working for Social Justice

Tzedakah-How is this Chesed?

Acts of Kindness

How do you feel when you do one of these things?

Give an example of one thing that you have done to practice Chesed lately and how it

made you feel.

How do you think that practicing Chesed helps you build the world?

What have you seen the temple do to practice Chesed in the past?

Can you practice Chesed with yourself also?

During the next month please make an effort to practice Chesed and if possible

make a short list to bring to the next Va’ad on February 1st.