How To Use Your BusinessHow To Use Your Business

To Grow and Heal Yourself To Grow and Heal Yourself

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What do What do youyou do when Life do when Life throws you in the air?throws you in the air?

At the center of At the center of every experience every experience

is YOUis YOU

Has your work ever Has your work ever challenged you? challenged you?

Freud Freud suggested that suggested that you are shaped you are shaped by your first by your first seven years seven years and then you and then you just have to just have to learn to live learn to live with itwith it

Winnicott Winnicott thought that a thought that a human is human is designed to designed to keep growing keep growing and developing and developing given the right given the right circumstances circumstances and and opportunityopportunity

Life is full of right circumstances Life is full of right circumstances

and opportunities for and opportunities for spontaneous spontaneous

healing and healing and growth growth

Those brave little flowers that push Those brave little flowers that push their way out from under a rock have their way out from under a rock have

nothing on us humansnothing on us humans

We can grow just about We can grow just about anywhere.anywhere.

We heal by doing We heal by doing something over and over something over and over

until we ‘get it’until we ‘get it’

We are drawn to our We are drawn to our partners, our homes, our partners, our homes, our

work and our work and our circumstances by the circumstances by the

things we need to heal things we need to heal and resolve.and resolve.

Why do Why do youyou do the work do the work

you do?you do?

Any group Any group setting brings setting brings up old group up old group stuff for us stuff for us because that’s because that’s where we where we learned how to learned how to behave in a behave in a group – family, group – family, school, summer school, summer camp, etc.camp, etc.

Not everyone has the Not everyone has the same reactions to things. same reactions to things.

You bring your history You bring your history into everything you do. into everything you do.

Along comes someone who Along comes someone who does something – even does something – even something small - that something small - that

touches on a packed-away touches on a packed-away wound and …wound and …

The times we have our The times we have our mostmost painful reactions and our painful reactions and our biggestbiggest difficulties are the difficulties are the

moments we are being moments we are being handed keys to the doors of handed keys to the doors of

our past woundingour past wounding

How we deal with our How we deal with our challenges can show us challenges can show us

where we tend to react from where we tend to react from the wounding of our past the wounding of our past

instead of a place of instead of a place of compassion in the present.compassion in the present.

A strong A strong emotional emotional reaction to reaction to something something usually means usually means it’s tapping on it’s tapping on some old hurt some old hurt of ours – one of ours – one we might not we might not even really be even really be aware of or aware of or remember.remember.

When we know where When we know where we’re stuck we can go we’re stuck we can go and un-stick ourselves.and un-stick ourselves.

It’s no fun to be driven by It’s no fun to be driven by your old hurts. Life is your old hurts. Life is

messy, painful, damaging, messy, painful, damaging, chaotic chaotic

and limited that way.and limited that way.

So your challenges can help So your challenges can help you uncover and defuse the you uncover and defuse the root causes of the reactions root causes of the reactions

and behaviours you wish and behaviours you wish you could change.you could change.

More success at work and More success at work and balanced living is just an balanced living is just an inevitable side-effect of inevitable side-effect of healing yourself as a person.healing yourself as a person.

Think of a recent work incident in Think of a recent work incident in which which

you felt irritated, scared, anxious, you felt irritated, scared, anxious, overwhelmed, angry…overwhelmed, angry…

What do I feel when the person/project What do I feel when the person/project does that? does that?

What about what s/he/it does is the part What about what s/he/it does is the part that that reallyreally bugs me? bugs me?

If I could give my feelings words and let If I could give my feelings words and let them speak uncensored - without judging them speak uncensored - without judging what comes out - what would be the what comes out - what would be the truth of how I feel when s/he/it does it? truth of how I feel when s/he/it does it?

Connect with the feelingsConnect with the feelings Are these feelings familiar? Have Are these feelings familiar? Have

I ever felt this way before?I ever felt this way before? Do I feel more like an adult or Do I feel more like an adult or

more like a child? more like a child? How old do I feel?How old do I feel? What memory comes up What memory comes up

with that age? What was with that age? What was

happening when I was happening when I was

that age?that age?

Now you know what you’reNow you know what you’re

dealing with.dealing with.

Be KIND to yourselfBe KIND to yourself

I wish you joy in your I wish you joy in your challenges and growth challenges and growth

from your work. from your work.

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