How to be a How to be a Discipleship Training Discipleship Training Small Group LeaderSmall Group Leader

~~TEAM Discipleship & Leader TEAM Discipleship & Leader

Development SeminarDevelopment Seminar

Discipleship Small Discipleship Small Group Dynamics & the Group Dynamics & the

Leader’s RoleLeader’s Role

Session OneSession One

Four Quaker Questions + Four Quaker Questions + OneOne

At age seven where were you living and At age seven where were you living and how many were in your household?how many were in your household?

At age seven what do you remember At age seven what do you remember about your house and neighborhood?about your house and neighborhood?

At age seven what was the center of At age seven what was the center of warmth in your life (person, place, warmth in your life (person, place, thing…)?thing…)?

When did God become more than a When did God become more than a name to you?name to you?

What do you think of when you hear the What do you think of when you hear the word “discipline”?word “discipline”?

There is no instant godliness.

Discipline is the key to spiritual maturity.

“ . . .train (discipline) yourself to be godly.”

I Timothy 4:7

(Bible) (Training) (Holy Spirit) Revealed Truth + Discipline Obedience + The Power of God’s Spirit

= Change & Growth & Maturity & Godliness

Spiritual DisciplinesSpiritual Disciplines InnerInner

– MeditatioMeditationn

– PrayerPrayer– FastingFasting– StudyStudy

OuterOuter– SimplicitySimplicity– SolitudeSolitude– SubmissionSubmission– ServiceService

CorporateCorporate– ConfessionConfession– WorshipWorship– GuidanceGuidance– CelebratioCelebratio

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Why Small Groups?

Life is meant to be shared. Jesus Life is meant to be shared. Jesus ministered in the context of a small ministered in the context of a small group of disciples. He could have group of disciples. He could have

chosen more, but chosen more, but smaller is bettersmaller is better. . He knew twelve is about the He knew twelve is about the

maximum size you can have in a maximum size you can have in a small group if everyone is to small group if everyone is to

participate. God had made an participate. God had made an incredible promise about small incredible promise about small

groups of believers:groups of believers:

““For where two or three have For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I gathered together in My name, I

am there in their midst.” Matthew am there in their midst.” Matthew 18:20 (NASB)18:20 (NASB)

In real fellowship people In real fellowship people experience authenticity. It is experience authenticity. It is

only as we become open about only as we become open about our lives that we experience real our lives that we experience real

fellowship. The Bible says: fellowship. The Bible says:

““If we live in the light, as God is in If we live in the light, as God is in the light, we can share fellowship the light, we can share fellowship with each other… If we say we with each other… If we say we

have no sin, we are fooling have no sin, we are fooling ourselves.” 1 John 1:7-8 (NCV)ourselves.” 1 John 1:7-8 (NCV)

The world thinks intimacy occurs The world thinks intimacy occurs in the dark, but God says it in the dark, but God says it

happens in the light. Darkness is happens in the light. Darkness is used to hide our hurts, faults, used to hide our hurts, faults,

fears, failures, and flaws. But in fears, failures, and flaws. But in the light, we bring them all out the light, we bring them all out

into the open and admit who we into the open and admit who we really are. The Bible says:really are. The Bible says:

““Make this your common practice: Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and you can live together whole and

healed.” James 5:16a (Msg)healed.” James 5:16a (Msg)

In real fellowship people In real fellowship people experience mutuality. Mutuality experience mutuality. Mutuality is the art of giving and receiving. is the art of giving and receiving. It’s depending on each other. It’s depending on each other.

The Bible says: The Bible says:

““The way God designed our bodies The way God designed our bodies is a model for understanding our is a model for understanding our lives together as a church: every lives together as a church: every part dependent on every other part dependent on every other

part.” 1 Corinthians 12:25 (Msg)part.” 1 Corinthians 12:25 (Msg)

Mutuality is the heart of Mutuality is the heart of fellowship: building reciprocal fellowship: building reciprocal

relationships, sharing relationships, sharing responsibilities, and helping each responsibilities, and helping each

other. Paul said: other. Paul said:

““I want us to help each other with I want us to help each other with the faith we have. Your faith will the faith we have. Your faith will help me, and my faith will help help me, and my faith will help

you.” Romans 1:12 (NCV)you.” Romans 1:12 (NCV)

All of us are more consistent in our All of us are more consistent in our faith when others walk with us and faith when others walk with us and

encourage us. The Bible encourage us. The Bible commands mutual accountability, commands mutual accountability, mutual encouragement, mutual mutual encouragement, mutual serving, and mutual honoring. serving, and mutual honoring.

Over fifty times in the New Over fifty times in the New Testament we are commanded to Testament we are commanded to do different tasks to “one another” do different tasks to “one another” and “each other.” The Bible says: and “each other.” The Bible says:

““Make every effort to do what leads to Make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.” peace and to mutual edification.”

Romans 14:19 (NIV)Romans 14:19 (NIV)

You are not responsible You are not responsible for for everyone in the body of Christ, everyone in the body of Christ,

but you are responsible but you are responsible to to them. them. God expects you to do whatever God expects you to do whatever

you can to help them. you can to help them.

People will remember . . .People will remember . . . 10% of what they read10% of what they read 20% of what they hear20% of what they hear 30% of what they see30% of what they see 50% of what they see & hear50% of what they see & hear 70% of what they discuss with others70% of what they discuss with others 80% of what they experience 80% of what they experience

personallypersonally 95% of what they teach to others95% of what they teach to others

Specific Kind of GroupSpecific Kind of Group

Process-orientedProcess-oriented– Focus: spiritual and social Focus: spiritual and social

relationshipsrelationships of the members of the members DiscipleshipDiscipleship

– Primary activity: to make mature, Primary activity: to make mature, Christian disciples through high-Christian disciples through high-commitment and commitment and accountabilityaccountability

“Off To A Rocky Start”

Leading Discussions

DT Leader DT Leader Qualifications &Small Qualifications &Small

Group Life StagesGroup Life Stages

Session TwoSession Two

Is “discipline” a word that Is “discipline” a word that characterizes your Christian characterizes your Christian walk? If not, do you want it to walk? If not, do you want it to be?be?

Have you ever discipled a Have you ever discipled a believer in Christ, placing them believer in Christ, placing them firmly on the path of spiritual firmly on the path of spiritual growth? If not, would you like growth? If not, would you like to?to?

Children of a

Lesser God

Qualifications for Qualifications for DisciplersDisciplers

You must be a Christian living in You must be a Christian living in a vital and dynamic relationship a vital and dynamic relationship with Jesus Christ.with Jesus Christ.

Your spiritual gifts should Your spiritual gifts should include teaching or encouraging include teaching or encouraging (exhorting). Pastoring is also (exhorting). Pastoring is also acceptable.acceptable.

Qualifications for Qualifications for DisciplersDisciplers

You must have completed at least You must have completed at least one level of DT higher than the one level of DT higher than the one you will be teaching.one you will be teaching.

You must be committed to the life You must be committed to the life and growth of your home corps.and growth of your home corps.

You should attend a training You should attend a training session for disciplers.session for disciplers.

Qualifications for Qualifications for DisciplersDisciplers

You must be willing to be You must be willing to be accountable to the corps officer or accountable to the corps officer or lay leader in charge of DT in your lay leader in charge of DT in your corps. This includes a willingness to corps. This includes a willingness to be receptive to constructive be receptive to constructive suggestions and evaluation of your suggestions and evaluation of your classes by the program director and classes by the program director and disciples who complete the class.disciples who complete the class.

Qualifications for Qualifications for DisciplersDisciplers

You should maintain the same You should maintain the same disciplines you are teaching disciplines you are teaching disciples to observe (e.g. Quiet disciples to observe (e.g. Quiet Time, Scripture memory, Bible Time, Scripture memory, Bible study, etc.).study, etc.).

You must love people and You must love people and earnestly desire their growth and earnestly desire their growth and maturity in Jesus Christ.maturity in Jesus Christ.

• Extrovertive• Outgoing• Optimistic• Involved

• Extrovertive• Outgoing• Optimistic• Involved

• Introvertive• Reserved• Realistic• Withdrawn

• Introvertive• Reserved• Realistic• Withdrawn

Active TypesActive Types

Passive TypesPassive Types

• Plans• Programs• Projects• Process

• Plans• Programs• Projects• Process

• Caring• Sharing• Relationships• Emotions

• Caring• Sharing• Relationships• Emotions

Task-Oriented TypesTask-Oriented Types People-Oriented TypesPeople-Oriented Types

High-TechHigh-Tech

Form & FunctionForm & Function

High-TouchHigh-Touch

Feeling & FellowshipFeeling & Fellowship

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Active TypesActive Types

Passive TypesPassive Types

Task-Oriented

Types

Task-Oriented

Types

People-Oriented Types

People-Oriented Types

““D” Type - D” Type - CHALLENGECHALLENGEDescriptive words:Descriptive words: DominantDominant DecisiveDecisive DirectDirect Demanding Demanding DisciplinedDisciplined

Responds to a leader Responds to a leader who:who:

Provides direct answersProvides direct answers Sticks to businessSticks to business Stresses goalsStresses goals Provides pressureProvides pressure Allows freedom for Allows freedom for

personal accomplishmentpersonal accomplishment

Environment Needs:Environment Needs: FreedomFreedom AuthorityAuthority Varied activitiesVaried activities Difficult assignmentsDifficult assignments Opportunity for Opportunity for

advancementadvancementNeeds to Learn That:Needs to Learn That: People are importantPeople are important Relaxation is not a Relaxation is not a

crimecrime Some controls are Some controls are

neededneeded Everyone has a bossEveryone has a boss Verbalizing conclusions Verbalizing conclusions

help people understandhelp people understand

““I” Type - I” Type - RECOGNITIONRECOGNITION

Descriptive words:Descriptive words: ImpressiveImpressive InducingInducing InspiringInspiring Interested in people Interested in people InfluencingInfluencing

Responds to a leader Responds to a leader who:who:

Is a democratic managerIs a democratic manager Provides social Provides social

involvement outside of involvement outside of workwork

Provides recognitionProvides recognition Offers incentive for risk-Offers incentive for risk-

takingtaking Is also an “I”Is also an “I”

Environment Needs:Environment Needs: PrestigePrestige Friendly relationshipsFriendly relationships Opportunity to influence Opportunity to influence Opportunity to inspireOpportunity to inspire Chance to verbalize ideasChance to verbalize ideas

Needs to Learn That:Needs to Learn That: Time must be managedTime must be managed There can be too much There can be too much

optimismoptimism Details are importantDetails are important Humility is a virtueHumility is a virtue Not EVERYONE has to be Not EVERYONE has to be

a friend. a friend.

““S” Type - S” Type - SECURITYSECURITYDescriptive words:Descriptive words: SincereSincere SteadySteady StableStable Security-oriented Security-oriented SensitiveSensitiveResponds to a leader who:Responds to a leader who: Is relaxed and amiableIs relaxed and amiable Allows time to adjust Allows time to adjust

plansplans Serves as a friend, gives Serves as a friend, gives

personal supportpersonal support Allows people to work at Allows people to work at

their own pacetheir own pace Answers the “how” ?sAnswers the “how” ?s

Environment Needs:Environment Needs: An area of specializationAn area of specialization Identification with a groupIdentification with a group Established work patternsEstablished work patterns Stability of situationStability of situation Consistent familiar Consistent familiar

environmentenvironmentNeeds to Learn That:Needs to Learn That: ““S” can also stand for S” can also stand for

“sucker” “sucker” It is possible to say “NO”!!It is possible to say “NO”!! Change provides Change provides

opportunityopportunity Friendship isn’t everythingFriendship isn’t everything Discipline is goodDiscipline is good

““C” Type - C” Type - QUALITYQUALITYDescriptive words:Descriptive words: CalculatingCalculating ConservativeConservative CautiousCautious Competent Competent CompliantCompliant

Responds to a leader who:Responds to a leader who: Provides reassuranceProvides reassurance Maintains a supportive Maintains a supportive

environmentenvironment Provides an “open-door” Provides an “open-door”

policypolicy Defines concise, detailed Defines concise, detailed

standardsstandards Is happy to answer questionsIs happy to answer questions

Environment Needs:Environment Needs: Clearly defined tasksClearly defined tasks Sufficient time & resourcesSufficient time & resources ExplanationsExplanations Team participationTeam participation Limited risksLimited risks

Needs to Learn That:Needs to Learn That: Total support is not always Total support is not always

necessarynecessary Thorough explanation is not Thorough explanation is not

always possiblealways possible Deadlines must be setDeadlines must be set Self’s standards are higher Self’s standards are higher

than mostthan most

ActivityActivity

Mark a “C” by those roles which Mark a “C” by those roles which you think will be you think will be challengingchallenging for for youyou

Mark a “N” by those roles which Mark a “N” by those roles which you think will come more you think will come more naturallynaturally to you to you

Do they correspond with your Do they correspond with your personality assessment?personality assessment?

“For in Him all the fullness of Deity dwells in bodily

form, and in Him you have been made complete. . .”

Colossians 2:9-10 (NASB)

Small Group Life StagesSmall Group Life Stages

CovenantingCovenanting

AffirmingAffirming

CelebratinCelebratingg

Implementing DT in Your Implementing DT in Your CorpsCorps

Corps Officer approvalCorps Officer approval Discipleship Training FormatDiscipleship Training Format Leadership Team StructureLeadership Team Structure Pulpit SupportPulpit Support Pastoral LetterPastoral Letter Sing-up DeadlineSing-up Deadline Information SessionInformation Session Group SizeGroup Size Social Events & GraduationsSocial Events & Graduations

Ins & Outs of DT MaterialIns & Outs of DT Material

AttendanceAttendance Scripture MemorizationScripture Memorization Prayer PartnersPrayer Partners Accountability LogsAccountability Logs Bible StudyBible Study

AttendanceAttendance

Accountability LogAccountability Log

Hebrews 12:1-2 (NRSV)Hebrews 12:1-2 (NRSV)““Therefore, since we are surrounded by so Therefore, since we are surrounded by so

great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight and the sin that aside every weight and the sin that clings so closely, and let us run with clings so closely, and let us run with

perserverance the race that is set before perserverance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus the pioneer and us, looking to Jesus the pioneer and

perfecter of our faith, who for the sake perfecter of our faith, who for the sake of the joy that was set before him of the joy that was set before him endured the cross, disregarding its endured the cross, disregarding its

shame, and has taken his seat at the shame, and has taken his seat at the right hand of the throne of God.”right hand of the throne of God.”

Hebrews 12:3 (NRSV)Hebrews 12:3 (NRSV)

““Consider him who endured such Consider him who endured such hostility against himself from hostility against himself from sinners, so that you may not sinners, so that you may not

grow weary or loose heart.”grow weary or loose heart.”

Positives & Positives & NegativesNegatives

Exercised 3 timesExercised 3 times QT is 15 – 30 min.QT is 15 – 30 min. Day 2-4,6 are goodDay 2-4,6 are good Good question at Good question at

bottombottom Reads at least 1 Reads at least 1

chapter per daychapter per day Learning theme Learning theme

about loving his co-about loving his co-workersworkers

Didn’t memorize Didn’t memorize ScriptureScripture

Only 10 min. on Day Only 10 min. on Day 44

Day 4 is all emotion, Day 4 is all emotion, no connection to no connection to the passagethe passage

Day 7 is all Day 7 is all summary, no summary, no applicationapplication

Bible StudyBible Study

Sample ClassSample Class Discipler hands back Accountability Discipler hands back Accountability

Logs from previous weekLogs from previous week Sharing, Prayer Requests, Praises Sharing, Prayer Requests, Praises

(25)(25) Teaching & Discussion (30)Teaching & Discussion (30) Prayer Partners – Recitation of Prayer Partners – Recitation of

memory verses (5)memory verses (5) Disciples hand in their Accountability Disciples hand in their Accountability

LogsLogs

Operation BrainstormOperation Brainstorm Who are possible people to approach Who are possible people to approach

for being in the first DT group with for being in the first DT group with you in your corps? (Think about you in your corps? (Think about people who would be potential people who would be potential leaders for other DT groups.)leaders for other DT groups.)

Who might lead the first group?Who might lead the first group? Who are possible people who would Who are possible people who would

want to be discipled under you?want to be discipled under you?