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From the editorMost grandparents play a leading

role in the lives of their grandkids. If you were as lucky as me, a trip to visit your grandparents was always a treat. My mother’s parents didn’t always live in the same city as me – at one point they were missionaries in the Philippines, and eventually they retired in sunny Waikanae. But of those times when we were together, I remember them making me feel like the most special grandchild on earth. Nana would secretly buy me ice-creams, and let me help her bake. She would let me sleep in on Saturday mornings when I stayed over, and watch cartoons in bed while she bought me lavish amounts of overly-buttered Marmite toast. Pops would take me for a ride on his motorbike, often bring me little knick-knacks and jewellery items, and give us grandkids change to go to the dairy for a 50 cent mixture – and now I’m showing my age!I always felt that there was some kind of conspiracy between us – they would let me do things that Mum wouldn’t, and I wouldn’t tell. Later on, once Pops passed away, Nana still readily welcomed me and three of my giggling teenage friends to her home in Waikanae after our first girls’ road trip. She heard once that my kitten was sick, and she paid for his little operation. And before she passed away last year, she shared with me a secret: she prayed for me and all her grandchildren every day. I was lucky. But in some cases, grandparents today have a bit more of a challenge; many of them are not just grandparents, but caregivers – either full-time or while parents work. On one hand this gives them a unique opportunity to be involved hands-on in the lives of their grandchildren. On the other hand, it can diminish the magic of this special relationship

by making it ordinary and every day.Then there are those grandparents whose grandchildren live overseas, or grandchildren whose grandparents live overseas. Globalisation means that there are more occurrences of this today than say, 20 years ago. But it also means that international communication has improved: with the advent of the Internet, a video chat between grandparents and grandchildren is just a click away. In this edition we investigate how grandparents and grandchildren relate today, with special tips on how to keep in touch, and how to nurture these precious relationships. In Kids’ View, we ask kids about their relationship with their grandparents. Of course we have all the other regular features, handy hints and giveaways. Happy springtime everyone – enjoy!

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from afar6 Digital dilemmas Internet addiction and our children7 Words of wisdom Your parenting questions answered13 Fit families Take the Family Times’ family fitness

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Grandparenting from a distance

Grandparenting certainly offers a second chance at parenting and enjoying chil-

dren, with the added bonus of extra time available as family and work demands lessen.But how can this important relationship be preserved if tens, hundreds or thousands of kilometres separate the families?Assistant editor Rachel Taniwha investigates.Families and patterns of ageing in New Zealand are changing, but grandparents continue to have a vital role in today’s families says Age Concern New Zealand chief executive Ann Martin. “We cannot underestimate the beneficial role of a grandparent in the life of their grandchild. The reward goes both ways and the bonds between grandparent and grandchild can be priceless.” The Parenting Place creative producer John Cowan says that many - although not all - grandparents have the “wonderful luxury of time to give to their grandchildren; time for stories, chats, listening, going for walks, doing activities and chores together.”Grandparents can also provide a living link to history, heritage and the wider family. Cowan says he used to say he couldn’t wait until his

own kids provided him with grandchildren, “Then I could play with them and fill them up with Coca Cola, food colouring and sugar and send them home as high as kites for their parents to try to settle down!” He believed that grandparents got to have the fun of being involved with kids without having any responsibility. “I think I was mistaken – grandparents do enjoy the fun of being involved with their mokopuna, but I have never met any who didn’t also shoulder a great sense responsibility for their welfare and safety.”

Relationships are two-way

Family Times regional writer Rosie Hill and husband Nathan live in Brighton, Dunedin, with their two children; four-year-old Leo and 11-month-old Zoey. Nathan’s parents live locally, while Rosie’s parents are based in Ross on the West Coast of the South Island. Rosie describes her mother-in-law as a “fantastically brilliant woman who often looks after the kids for us. She and my son have a particularly close relationship; they have been great mates since day one and my son loves going to “Nanny’s” to stay.”

Rosie says she knows her parents would love to be able to spend more time in person with the kids and to have a closer relationship. They visit once or twice a year, and when they come they make a big effort to have quality time with the kids - particularly Leo. Because he is older they can go on outings and adventures together. “He loves hanging out with them. My dad just does everything at his pace and follows his lead so a simple walk can take quite a long time. It is always so great to have them to stay as it really reaffirms those relationships.”Rosie says they keep in contact in numerous ways, including sending Leo letters with photos of themselves and things around their house and garden so he knows what they get up to. “This is really cool and we often send back photos and drawings that Leo has done.” They use Skype and talk on the phone as well;

this way Leo can show them new toys or things he has made. “This works really well most of the time but being four sometimes he doesn’t want to talk or is embarrassed and I worry about hurting their feelings!”Rosie’s parents agree that the role of grandparents is vitally important and a

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Grandchildren bring so much joy and happiness to the lives of grandparents. Some grandparents are fortunate enough to live in the same city as their grandchildren, but others may live in a different country or miles away.Grandparents play an important role in the lives of their grandchildren. Let them know that you love them dearly and that you will be there for them. They may open up to you and feel more comfortable talking to you about their problems. Offer advice and guidance; let them know that the conversation is between you and them. Grandchildren need to know that they can trust their grandparents.Grandchildren can teach us many things. Perhaps you have purchased a new cell phone or computer and are struggling with it. Children these days are technology savvy; let them show you how to use it. They will be so very proud that they have taught you something useful.Being a long distant grandparent will never be easy. These days, computers and cell phones bring grandchildren closer to you. Snail mail does still have its place. Emails, texts, and being able to

Skype or Google Talk are the next best thing to actually being in the same city.• Parents: make a particular time each

day when the children can contact their grandparents via Skype.

• Have the grandparents read them a story while you are busy getting din-ner or preparing for a new day.

• Once a week, at dinner time, bring your computer to the dining table. Skype or Google Talk the grandpar-ents and have a meal with them. Not only are you bringing joy to the grand-parents; it also creates a very special bond for all. The grandparents will be able to take part in family discussions.

• Make a video at least once a month for the grandparents. Put it on You Tube for the grandparents to view.

• Grandparents - make up little care packages to send to the grandchil-dren. It doesn’t have to be large; just nice little things that you see along the way.

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Tips on grandparenting from afarhuge honour for those people lucky enough to experience this. “Grandparents and grandchildren can each learn heaps from each other. While grandparents have a large amount of life experience to share with the children, they in turn enable us to return to a world of wonderment and fun. The great thing is we both have time when we are together to enjoy it all.”

Thousands of kilometres apartFamily Times media executive Naomh Cusin is based in Christchurch, New Zealand, with her Kiwi husband Chris. She was, however, born in Ireland. The couple have two children; 10-year-old Naomi and 7-year-old Joshua. The Cusin’s lived just out of Dublin until last year, with Naomh’s parents very much a part of their daily lives, caring for and supporting the children. When Chris was offered a role in IT in Christchurch the family decided to give the children the opportunity to try a different lifestyle. “The hardest part of the move is the gap that used to be filled by friends and family and particularly my parents,” says Naomh. Naomi and Joshua missed them a lot in the beginning. “The gap for my parents is also huge. When I asked them how important they thought the role of a grandparent was they said it was hugely important as the children are an extension of their family and they have been involved with them since they were born.” Naomh says it is hard to maintain the relationship, but thankfully Skype and Facebook are a great help. A weekly

Skype call allows the children to give their grandparents an update on the week’s sporting highs and lows, a piano recital and a rundown on what’s going on at school. Although the children are too young to be active on Facebook the family regularly post photos and videos of them and sends quick updates on their New Zealand lives. “It is not an easy situation but the technology that is available enables our children not only to maintain their relationship with their grandparents but to allow that relationship to continue to grow. “

The importance of communicationSocial media consultant Eva Maria says social media has a huge influence on keeping communication alive, and currently the largest growing demographic on Facebook is grandparents. She says most grandparents opt to not put anything up on their social media networks, but rather use the network to see their children and grandchildren. She suggests using common-sense when joining the ranks on the online world – not making the account publicly accessible, sharing information only with friends, and taking care with what personal information is shared, such as date of birth and location. “When you get the hang of social media over time, do post up your own thoughts and photos for your family members to see too: what you’re doing, what you look like; this is a very personal process that helps family members keep the communication going.” Summer ISSue 2011

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Understand what internet addiction isThe idea of Internet addiction actually began in 1995, when Dr. Ivan Goldberg satirically proposed it as a disorder. It is still being debated whether or not to include it as official addiction. But basically, Internet addiction disorder, or IAD, is use of the computer to the extent that is impacts daily living in a negative manner. Red flags include spending more time online than with friends and family; irritation when computer time is interrupted; excessive checking of email; school or work becomes secondary to Internet use; disregard of computer use restrictions; preference for online relationships, or moodiness and depression when the sufferer is not online. Whether or not it is a classified psychological disorder doesn’t really matter to the parent who has concerns over his child’s attachment

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Determine your child’s riskThere are certain kids who seem to be more susceptible to Internet addiction, and knowing if your child fits the profile may help you plan some early intervention strategies. Teens who have been diagnosed with such disorders as depression, ADHD, social phobia or hostility may be more inclined to use the computer compulsively. Often, kids who have feelings of loneliness or those who have been uprooted will also be included in the high-risk group for Internet overuse.

Know your plan of action Unlike drugs, smoking and alcohol, which are dangerous addictions used for self-medicating or social acceptance, using a computer isn’t inherently harmful. In fact, in many ways computer overuse is similar to over-eating. People need food to survive, yet it can become a serious problem for some. Nowadays, the vast majority of kids need to navigate the Internet for school, but they can develop quite a problem when left to their own unsupervised devices. For many kids, it isn’t a matter of just saying “no.” Just as the parent of an overeater needs to monitor and assist the child in making healthy food choices, the parent of a

problematic computer user will need to help their child make healthy decisions regarding computer use. One of the most significant factors in prevention is parental intervention. It’s up to you to set limits on computer use. Begin early, and set up rules so that your child is not spending hours at a time online. Make sure you offer interesting alternatives to video games and Internet interaction. Spend quality time with your child doing things that are creative and fun, and help your child develop a strong social network offline. You can do this by getting them involved in sports or offline group activities in which they’ve expressed an interest. Find out what their passions are aside from the Web, and help them pursue them.

Perhaps they have an interest in a musical instrument or art. Encourage them to develop their natural gifts and talents. Spend some time each month volunteering in some way that does not require working with computers. Get your child involved in your faith community though the youth programme. For physical health, get your child moving and make sure they get plenty of exercise.Showing your child that there is a big world beyond the computer and offering assistance in navigating that world will affect your ability to mitigate any brewing issues with computer addiction. It will take a little commitment on your part and you will need to become more closely involved in your child’s life, but when you consider the alternative, it’s worth the extra work.

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My house, my rulesI have a shared-care relationship of my 8-year-old son. His father has

him four days out of seven, so he seems to think his rules are what should be followed. This leads to arguments with my son re bed time, what to eat, time on computer, etc. Any advice?

Which rules should operate in a household is a diff icult issue for

parents who see eye-to-eye to sort out, let alone parents who have needed to separate and live apart. So let’s sort two options – ideal and real.The ideal option would be for you and your son’s father to sit down together and sort out the rules that should apply in both households. Your son has more than enough to deal with shifting households so frequently and he doesn’t need to live in two different cultures and time zones. I imagine that this is never going to happen though – so let’s look at a more manageable option.The reality is that most parents have very little – if any – ability to influence the household of their “ex” and have even less inclination to change the rules of their own household, so the option is to have your own

rules and to make them stick even when your child insists that he has a better time at his dad’s home.Consult friends (whose parenting you admire) as to which rules they use and open a dialogue with your 8-year-old. Rather than presenting him with bald rules for him to resist, discuss with him what are reasonable limits in terms of his health, wellbeing and capacity, to learn the following day.

Whatever you two decide, write down the agreements and, most importantly, write down a review date for three weeks away with the undertaking that you will trial them and then check how it is working for the two of you. This respectful approach should place the two of you (you and your son) on the same side.

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children to speak, and responding so that they will feel supported.Some children want to blurt out everything the moment they come home from school and others are not ready to talk until much later. I have found that the best time, with a child who is reluctant to speak after school, is at bed-time. When you tuck her in, be prepared for a chat. A good opening is “What was the hardest thing for you today?” This gives your child permission to talk about bad stuff and also implies that bad stuff is a normal part of the day and therefore can be spoken about without feeling different or ashamed.Once she does speak, your job is to listen actively in a way that allows her to keep sharing her woes. Avoid the temptation to rush to solutions – particularly the useless advice “just walk away.” Useful phrases are “that’s horrible for you,” “that sounds awful,” “how mean is that!” or “how unkind is that?” I always work on the basis that you need to do this for a fortnight (10 school days). By the end of this time, one of two things may happen: in being able to talk things through with you, you may have given your child the support and strength to handle the situation differently – or – you have a lot of factual information to go to the school and seek their help.

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Mitchell Joint, 10, year 6I’ve got a set of grandparents here (Dunedin); we go to their house every morning before school. My other grandma is in Christchurch; she often comes down and stays for a couple of weeks. We always make her bring chocolate chip cookies! We keep in touch on the phone. I call her most days to talk and see what she’s doing and if she’s ok. My grandparents are really important to me, they always support me.

Olivia Buchanan-Letts, 11, year 6I have Nana and Granddad in Dunedin and a grandma

up in Cromwell. They show me I am special to them by the things they do for me. I’m just lucky to have them-

my life would be pretty different without them. My granddad passed away- he was really nice and special to me. Grandma in Cromwell comes to visit a lot. She’s an amazing cook, especially with mince; when mum makes

the same things they don’t taste right!

Olivia Fowler, 10, year 6I’ve got a set of grandparents in Oamaru; they phone us and we always tell them if something exciting happens. They always make time for me and encourage me to do things. I have a grandmother in Fiji. I’ve only met her twice and I remember meeting her when I was three or four years old. She doesn’t have Skype and we don’t talk on the phone but I think we are going to visit her soon.

Ben Hackfath, 11, year 6My nana and papa live in Queenstown; we go to visit them a lot and they always have time for me. Papa is really good

at woodwork and we are going to make a go-cart together. I have a grandma in Sydney and she comes over two times a year. We always call her around 9pm to talk. We Skype my

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Winter issue 2011

IN CINEMAS

Win Win WinCompetitions, giveaways and vouchers

Kia Kaha ChristchurchEight-page supplement on “the new normal”

Optimum sleepMaximise your child’s learning potential

Childhood traumaHelping kids bounce back Check out our Competitions online and win! www.familytimes.com.nz

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Win one of 10 AVEENO® Baby packs!We have 10 delicious AVEENO® Baby packs worth $52 each to giveaway. Specially formulated with ACTIVE NATURALS® ingredients and paediatrician recommended, AVEENO® Baby products help nourish, soothe and protect baby’s sensitive skin. Each pack contains: Baby Soothing Relief Creamy Wash - a tear-free wash that leaves skin moisturised for 24 hours; Baby Wash and Shampoo - for gentle cleansing that rinses clean with a soft, fresh fragrance; Baby Soothing Relief Moisture Cream - for non-greasy moisturisation; and Baby Daily Lotion – an emollient rich formula that protects against andalleviates chapping and chaffing to keep your baby’s skin soft.

To be in the draw to win, enter online at www.familytimes.co.nz or write your name and ad-dress on the back of an envelope or postcard and send to: Dunedin Competition, PO Box 36 004, Christchurch to reach us by October 12th 2013, unless stated otherwise. Only one entryper household.

Just tick the things you want to win Spring 2013

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What would your dream drink bottle look like? Send us your drawing and be in to win an amazing $50 prize pack from Crayola!Three entry age groups: preschool (age 1-4), 5-8, 9-12.Create your design on an A5 sheet or download the template and entry form from www.familytimes.co.nz. Post in to PO Box 36 004, Christchurch 8146. Entries close on 13 October 2013.

Congratulations to our dream job design competition winners from our last issue. They are:

1-4 - Liam MacDonald, Age 3 - “Liam and his magic monster scaring slippers. These are Liam’s furry green slippers. They are big furry slippers that look like monsters. They are magic slippers. When he wears them they make him big, strong and scary. Liam then frightens the monsters away turining his nightmares in to happy dreams”

5-8 - Joseph Knopp, Age 7 - “This is a pieman and Hobbit slipper and it can fly because it has springs and jet packs. On the Hobbit’s door is Gandalf’s sign. Bilbo Baggins is standing outside his hobbit hole and pieman is flying in the sky. These are MY dream slippers.

9-12 - Cameron Galbraith, Age 9 - “Rocket slippers with i-pad charger”

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WIN!Toucan Can By Juliette MacIver, and illustrations by Sarah Davis

A tongue-twisting, ludicrous rhyming picture book full of escalating hilarity and off-the-wall characters. Toucan can do lots of things! Toucan dances. Toucan sings. Toucan bangs a frying pan. Can you do what Toucan can? Ages three plus, Gecko Press, www.geckopress.co.nz, paperback with flaps RRP$19.99. Hardback with jacket RRP$34.99.We have 10 of these to give away.

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PrOviderLittle Wonders

St Kilda, 146A Victoria Rd, St Kilda, Dunedin Ph: (03) 455-3337

Little Wonders Roslyn, 98 Taieri Rd,

Roslyn, DunedinPh: (03) 476-3818

www.littlewonderschildcare.co.nz

2013 and 2014 primary and intermediate school term dates

Term 4, 2013Monday 14 October to no later than Friday 20 December

Term 1, 2014Between Monday 27 January (at the earliest); and Friday 7 February (at the latest) to Thursday 17 April

Term 2, 2014Monday 5 May to Friday 4 July

Term 3, 2014Monday 21 July to Friday 26 September

2013 and 2014 secondary and composite school term dates

Term 4, 2013Monday 14 October to Friday 20 December

Term 1, 2014Between Monday 27 January (at the earliest); and Friday 7 February (at the latest) to Thursday 17 April

Term 2, 2014Monday 5 May to Friday 4 July

Term 3, 2014Monday 21 July to Friday 26 September

Remaining public holidays 201327 October Labour Day25 December Christmas Day

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“In March this year, Little Wonders St Kilda helped to celebrate the opening of Little Wonders Roslyn by attending its fantastic opening day. Since then we have enjoyed watching them grow in numbers and it has been great for our staff and families to have the choice of two Little Wonders Centres in Dunedin. We look forward to more interactions with Little Wonders Roslyn and wish you all the very best for the rest of 2013.”Little Wonders Roslyn offers a new purpose -built centre with a friendly vibrant team. It warmly welcome new families to come in to meet the teachers and view the new

centre. Roslyn has five classrooms and a cook onsite who provides the children with healthy food options. The teachers have designed specific learning programmes in a language-rich environment to meet the learning needs of children and families in the community aged from three months to five years. Little Wonders Roslyn encourages parents to share aspirations for their children so together we can care for and educate happy confident children.Little Wonders Roslyn is licensed for 100 children. Any enquiries please call Kate or Tessa on 03-476-3818 or pop in and see the team.

Little Wonders


Phone: 03-425 [email protected]

Piano, voice, guitars, bass, keyboards, drums, ukulele, music theory, songwriting and recording.

Visit our website, or call us for more info.

LIVE BUTTERFLY EXPERIENCE... INSIDE THE OTAGO MUSEUM!

419 Great King Street, Dunedin OPEN 7 DAYS 10am – 5pm www.otagomuseum.govt.nz

Calendar of Eventscool activities

Little ones get active at last year’s Stride, Ride & Slide.

Create. Record. Play. Blue Line Music Studio is a contemporary music teaching and recording studio that aims to bring out the best in young people through education in guitar, bass, drums, ukulele, piano, singing, song-writing, and recording. The experienced staff encourage creativity and knowledge of the industry through instrument lessons, specialised workshops, band development and recording programs. The studio is located at 42 Filluel Street, behind the Wall Street Mall, and features

recording suites, band practice spaces, quality gear and much more. This term Blue Line is pleased to announce The Ukulele Orchestra and The Creative Lab, an opportunity for you to take your skills and interests to the next level. Stay tuned for more information on the exciting new holiday immersion project. So come along and get your music out there! For more information or to register for workshops and lessons visit: www.bluelinemusicstudio.co.nz or email [email protected].

Blue Line Music Studio

Join us as we become brainiacs these school holidays! Sign up for Discovery Squad, every weekday during the holidays, as we go around the world from Japan to the Wild West to the tropics – or even join the circus for a day. Try not to lose your marbles with our brain-busting trail, free every day during the holidays, or venture into the Tropical Forest to discover some of the most deadly

yet devious creatures on Earth every Sunday, Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 2pm. Explore the perplexing properties of spider silk at the Investigation Station, daily at 3.30pm, and blast into Discovery World to explore all things energy in daily science shows. Check out our website for more details and bookings atwww.otagomuseum.govt.nz.

See the brilliance of brains at Otago Museum these holidays

Cycle back in time! The Amazing Oamaru Victorian Fete Street Fair Sunday 17

November. For stalls and information email [email protected].

Spring is in the air with fresh, exciting and enchanting family events all over the city.21 September Garden party and garden tour. Enjoy a variety of stalls; food, plants, raffles, and entertainment. Party, 10am-4pm, Broad Bay School, free entry. Garden tour from 11am-3pm, $15 per person. For enquiries phone 03-476-0100.Port Chalmers Seafood Festival 2013. Taste delectable seafood, plus a huge variety of food stalls, music and entertainment with a big focus on family fun. From 11am-4pm, transport options available. For tickets and details visit www.festival.portchalmers.com.

26 SeptemberDancing Like the Stars 2013 – The Final Showcase. Students from Brockville, Carisbrook Main and Carisbrook Terraces Primary Schools perform Irish, Indian and swing dance routines. From 6pm-7.30pm, Toitu Otago Settlers Museum, free.

5 and 6 OctoberDunedin Gasworks 150 Festival. Celebrate the 150th anniversary of the Dunedin Gasworks with music, dance, exhibitions and Gaslight parade. From 11am-4pm, Dunedin Gasworks Museum, 50 Braemar Street, adult $5, child $2. For event details and programme visit www.gasworks150.org.nz.

6 OctoberFamily Fun Day Duck Dive at Moana Pool. Buy a duck for $5 to win massive prizes in support of the Child Cancer Foundation. Lots of activities, and remember to bring $2 coins to buy a duck for mini races in the whirlpool. From 4pm, Moana Pool, $2 pool entry.

7-11 OctoberClown Show for Kids. Join Kaitrin McMullan

and Danny Still for a fun and joyful show. Dunedin Botanic Garden Bandstand. For dates and times visit www.dunedin.govt.nz.

10-13 OctoberSchool Holiday Carnival. Enjoy a great family day at the fair; amusement rides, games, carnival food and giant inflatables. The Oval, free entry.

13 OctoberNew Balance Hill Free Half Marathon. Challenge the family with an event that caters to all ages and abilities including a 10km run/walk and 2km run for children under 12. For full details and to register visit www.hillcity.org.nz/hillfree.

15 OctoberTall Tales and Tangos. The New Zealand Symphony Orchestra brings the tale of Peter and the Wolf (narrated by Aton Oliver) to life in a magical evening of music and dance, 6.30pm, Dunedin Town Hall. For bookings phone 0800-224-224.

20 OctoberGala Day. Fantastic all-day event to celebrate the 150th Otago Anniversary Year. Plant sale, tours and entertainment, afternoon variety show, kids’ zone and train rides. From 9am-4pm, Dunedin Botanic Garden. For full programme visit www.dunedin.govt.nz.

23 October – 4 DecemberRoyal New Zealand Ballet presents Tutus on Tour. Highlights from 60 years of ballet. Includes a new production of Peter and the Wolf, with narration by Te Radar. Tour of Heartland New Zealand. Visit www.nzballet.org.nz/tutus.

25-27 October2013 ScienceTeller Festival. What can we learn from dung beetles, frogs, asteroids and Antarctica? See the world premiere of films

by graduate students and much more. For more info visit www.scienceteller.com.

10 NovemberPortobello Paddock Pursuit. Get active at this non-competitive physical event for kids who love conquering obstacles and challenges. From 11am-2pm. Register online at www.portobelloschool.wikispaces.com.

17 November The Amazing Oamaru Victorian Fete Street Fair: a wonderful family day of music, dance, street theatre and magic. Take in the sights and sounds of an authentic Victorian Fete with market stalls, traditional craft demonstrations, penny farthings, competitions, costume display and much, much more. From 10am until 4pm.

24 NovemberStride, Ride & Slide. A super fun multisport day for big little kids aged 2 to 6-years. From 10am-1pm at Logan Park. For details and to register visit www.sportotago.co.nz.


Entertain the kids with a great range of activities for the whole family this spring.Blue Line Music StudioRegister now for brand new workshops including The Ukulele Orchestra and The Creative Lab! Visit www.bluelinemusicstudio.co.nz or email [email protected] to find out more.

Edgar CentreThe Edgar Centre is a great place for families to come and play some sport together. It’s open seven days. Phone 03-456-1200.

ChipmunksLooking after the grandchildren these holidays? Chipmunks Indoor Playground & Cafe is the place. Sit back and relax at the café while the grandchildren play. Open seven days a week from 9.30am.

Dunedin Public LibrariesSunflower Growing Competition: Come into the library over the holidays and start growing your very own sunflower! Register at any library between 28 September and 13 October.

Toitu Otago Settlers Museum Birthday party for Josephine the Fairlie Locomotive! Bouncy castle, face painting and balloon animals, a birthday cake for Josephine, and a train trail through the museum. Sunday 27 October from 10am to 4pm.

Visit Oamaru and Waitaki DistrictExperience wildlife and nature, and discover the region’s heritage. Contact Oamaru i-SITE, 1 Thames Street, Oamaru or phone 03-434-1656 for information.

Holiday SpecialsMake the most of the holidays with these super fun holiday programmes and activities for kids.

Otago MuseumSign up for Discovery Squad, every weekday during the holidays. Go around the world from Japan to the Wild West to the tropics – or even join the circus for a day! Contact 03-474-7474 for bookings.

Taieri Gorge RailwayOne of the world’s great train trips and one of Dunedin’s top attractions. Daily departures. Contact TGR on 03-477-4449 or [email protected].

Moana PoolJoin a week-long Swimsation swimming course to boost confidence and ability for pre-school and school-age children. From 7 to 11 October, one lesson per day for the whole

week. To book phone 03-471-9659 or email [email protected].

Dunedin Public Art GalleryGamer’s Delight: Experience old style arcade favourites such as Pacman, Space Invaders and Donkey Kong. Bring coin and be prepared to be challenged! From 28 September to 13 October, in association with the exhibition Among the Machines.

The Kitchen cooking classesCreating independent and confident kids and young adults in kitchens around Dunedin. Check out our birthday party options too on www.thekitchencookingclasses.co.nz.By Rosanna Hill

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We are a parent-governed not-for-profit community centre.

We proudly offer:• 100% registered teachers • Safe & educational environments• Excellent child/teacher ratios • 20 ECE hours

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Green StreetGreen Street ECE is a not-for-profit community-based centre with 20 years experience. It has two centres: House 11 (ages 0 to 5-years) and House 13 (3 to 5-years), which gives parents optimum choice. Green Street is open from 8am - 5.30pm, Monday to Friday, only closing at Christmas, and has an economical hourly flat rate, offering WINZ, 20-hour free ECE with no part charges.Green Street has a caring team of highly-qualified, trained teachers, excellent resources and learning programmes. We believe we provide a great investment in your children’s future!

Dunedin Public Libraries challenge; grow the tallest sun-fun-flower in Dunedin!

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25 NovemberScottish Highland Games. Highland games for the whole family where participation is a must! Traditional games and events for children from 12pm-5pm at Caledonian Ground, Logan Park, $10 gate charge, children under 14 free.

25-29 NovemberNurturing the Seed of Change workshop. Created for family and support persons of those with ASD; based on the 30 life concepts outlined in the book; Autism & the Seeds of Change. Arrowtown. Visit www.davisautism.com for details.

Compiled by Rosanna Hill




If you are smarter than a 10- year-old you can host a fun kid’s party without blowing the budget. I really had parties sorted when our kids were little. We packed a mean party bag, and even nailed that tricky shade of blue for the “Thomas” cake. Give us a weepy, non joiner-inner and we’d have them passing the parcel like there was no tomorrow. We coped with vomiters, non-eaters, over-eaters and allergies. And we only had to call an ambulance that one time (silly boy shouldn’t have been jumping anyway).Many kids worry that their party will “tank” or no one will show up, and parents don’t want to host a lame party. But neither do you want to go overboard.

Party tricks:For the under 10s, presentation is as important as the food itself - so decorate. It’s cheap and fun. Balloons, plates and cups at each place setting is a good start. You could add place cards, twinkle lights or named party bags if using. Expect them to sit at the table or on a rug to eat or you’ll be vacuuming sprinkles out of the carpet long after the kids have moved out. To avoid lolly overload, substitute a party bag with a single special treat like decorated cookies. Bake them on popsicle sticks. Ice and decorate, wrap in cellophane with twirly ribbons and maybe a tiny toy and let each child select one from the “bouquet”

to take home. Set a specific time for food so they don’t drift back and forward eating just the treats. Plan to serve savoury food first – sausage rolls, homemade sushi and mini pizzas or quiche are firm favourites – small food appeals to kids and you are less likely to be tossing out loads of things with one bite out of them if the portions are small. Kids will expect some treats but you can include them as prizes for games if you prefer not to have them on the table. Alternate fruit with marshmallows on skewers, make popcorn, and make mini cupcakes or jellies for something sweet. It’s a good idea to save birthday cake until just before leaving time as many kids prefer to take it home to enjoy after all the excitement. Many party games also focus on food. We changed the famous “chocolate game” from rolling a six on the dice, putting on the costume and scoffing as much chocolate with

the knife and fork before the next six is rolled, into an archaeological dig, filling the sandpit with buried plastic dinosaurs. The costume was an action man flak jacket, boots and hat and each six allowed you to dig up dinosaurs to take home until someone else in the circle

rolled a six. Try an egg and spoon race with filled water balloons, and encourage any grownups to play too; the kids love it!By Sophie Gray, Destitute Gourmet Limited, www.destitutegourmet.com.

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Chipmunks Playland and Café is Dunedin’s number one stop for children’s entertainment, with a cafe and indoor playground for children aged from 0 to 11-years-old. Sweeping tube slides, ball pits, inflatable slide and an 8 cannon ball blaster keep everyone entertained for hours. For

pre-schoolers there’s a pirate ship with a slide into a ball pit.Chipmunks is open seven days, supervises before and after school care including transport, has school holiday programmes, and is the perfect birthday party venue. Let the fun begin.

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Health, fitness and exercise are key words sitting in the recesses of every parent’s mind; especially Kiwi parents since the Ministry of Health released the following stats:

The child obesity rate in New Zealand children has increased from 8% in 2006/07, to 10% in 2011/12 (in children aged 2 to 14-years).

A further 21% of children were overweight (but not obese).The obvious conclusion is that children who are consistently more active are likely to be healthier adults. And we all know, people who don’t exercise are at risk of developing high blood pressure, osteoporosis, heart disease, and other chronic illnesses. Sounds like a prescription to get moving — now! The Family Times’ team is dedicated to offering you simple, fun, free ways to help your family start and retain exercise habits. As spring and summer are just around the corner, we want to challenge you - our avid

readers - and your children, to participate in the KiDSMARATHON programme and report back to us. KiDSMARATON was created by New Zealand Olympian Rod Dixon. He developed this unique programme to encourage children and their parents to run a full marathon (42.2 kilometres total) kilometre by kilometre over an 8 to 10-week time frame. The programme is being started in a few schools around the country, but is focused on families and their participation.It’s very simple to start. Go online to www.kidsmarathonfoundation.co.nz/teachers/training-guide/ to read about the specific details of the programme. Under the menu bars you’ll find support materials, a training programme guide and a sheet you can print off to keep track of your family’s progress. The training guide is the core resource for the Rod Dixon KiDSMARATHON programme. In the guide you’ll find general knowledge, nutritional information, warm-up routines and of course a log book for kids and teachers to follow and complete. The objective is simple. Get up and get moving! This programme is fun, inexpensive and fitness oriented to help you and your children accomplish a health goal together. Creating

family activity time is all about scheduling it together and then following through with the activities. So, let us know how it goes.

By Jennifer BeckJennifer Beck is a writer and business strategist. She has six children and starts each day off with a morning walk to balance the insanity.

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Every child wants to enjoy the freedom to move.Call NOW for your FREE Assessment and Planning for under 14 years.

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English Language Classes

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Literacy Aotearoa (Dunedin) IncCarnegie Centre,

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The Edgar Centre is a great place for families to come and play some sport together. It’s open seven days.


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What we offer• Centre based Early Intervention• A friendly and welcoming environment• Up to 3 sessions per week Group programmes which meet individual needs• Support and education for families and whanau

• Support at your childs early childhood centre• Swimming programmes and horse riding• Social activities for children and families

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Help is @ hand Sometimes you need some information or an answer to a curly question. Why not pick up the phone and call the relative support agency? You’ll find professional caring people ready to assist you.Alcohol Drug Abuse Concerned about your own or someone else’s problems with alcohol or other drugs? Call the Alcohol Drug Helpline today for free, confidential, friendly professional advice. 0800 787 797 www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz

Catholic Social ServicesParenting and family support programmes open to all, free of charge.Usual office hours with late night on Tuesdays ‘till 6.30pm by appointment. 336 Cashel Street, P O Box 4237, Christchurch. Phone: 03-379 0012

Christchurch Resettlement Services.Free social services for people from refugee and migrant backgrounds. Interpreters are provided. Phone: 03-335 0311

ToUGHLoVE Raising teenagers is difficult. Whether you just want some help to deal with a disrespectful or defiant teenager, or more serious issues, TOUGHLOVE can help. TOUGHLOVE’s aim is to enable parents and their young people to rebuild their relationships. The TOUGHLOVE programme offers on-going support, education, and techniques via structured support group meetings to help parents and caregivers gain the skills and strategies to deal with a wide range of problems associated with unacceptable or

challenging adolescent behaviour.Parent Support Groups meet weekly with parents able to join anytime. Contact TOUGHLOVE on 03-337-9452, email [email protected] or check out www.toughlove.org.nz.

Citizens Advice Bureau Christchurch area - Te Pou Whakawhirinaki o AotearoaAs we progress through the year, many families are dealing with increased financial pressures. In some cases parents may decide to separate. If you separate, you’ll need to try to agree on your children’s day-to-day care (a parenting agreement). You can get a free counselling session through the Family Court to help, if you can’t come to an agreement. If this doesn’t work, one of you can apply for a parenting order, which involves going to the Family Court and asking them to make a decision for you.Call 0800-367-222 to talk to our knowledgeable, caring team.

optimum LearningOptimum Learning provides highly effective solutions for anyone struggling with learning. Using the Davis Correction® Programmes, Optimum Learning enables individuals to enhance their gifts and overcome the challenges associated with learning differences such as dyslexia, dyspraxia, ADD/ADHD, maths, and reading/writing difficulties. Melanie Curry is a highly experienced teacher and licensed Davis facilitator who is dedicated to empowering you to achieve your goals.“Dyslexia isn’t a big problem for me now. When I was doing the course suddenly things made sense to me.” (Feedback from a Davis® student)Visit www.optimumlearning.co.nz or contact Melanie Curry at [email protected].

Conductive Education CanterburyConductive Education Canterbury is an early intervention provider catering for children from birth to six years. Its specialist staff provide programmes in group settings that aim to improve all areas; physical (gross motor and fine motor), cognitive, communication and self-help/life skills. Conductive Education focuses on the holistic needs of each child, with all developmental areas being taught at the same time rather than focusing on one particular area. For further information, Conductive Education Canterbury welcomes your call; please phone 03-372-1399.

They power our watches, hearing aids, singing greeting cards, keys and lots of

other gadgets we enjoy using. But button batteries can be deadly if swallowed. So keep them away from children and be aware that the elderly have mistaken them for pills.

What are button batteries?Button batteries are coin-sized batteries used to power calculators, hearing aids, watches, singing greeting cards, bathroom scales, and lots of other devices we use every day.They are often sold cheaply in plastic packs that contain a large number of batteries, which leave plenty of spares in the opened pack if you only need one.

Why can they be dangerous?When a button battery comes into contact with bodily fluids, it creates an electrical current. This even happens with flat or dead batteries. The current burns surrounding body tissue and can quickly and seriously damage internal organs in as little as two hours’ time.

How to use button batteries safely

• Don’t ever allow children to play with button batteries.

• Store button batteries like you would medication or matches – out of reach of children. This means either in a cabinet out of a child’s reach or in a child-proofed locked area.

• Keep spare or used batteries away from tablets and pills that elderly people may be taking. For example, make sure they change hearing aid batteries in an area completely separate from where they keep their medication.

• Change button batteries on a surface out of children’s reach. Immediately place the dead battery out of their reach.

• Make sure the battery cover on devices that use button batteries is secure so a child can’t remove it. Use duct tape if necessary.

• Seek medical attention immediately if you think someone has swallowed a but-ton battery or a child may have placed one in their nose or ear. Do not let the person eat or drink anything and do not induce vomiting.

For more information about button batteries and general product safety, visit the product safety section of the Consumer Affairs website www.consumeraffairs.govt.nz.

Watch those batteries!Sometimes you need someinformation or an answer toa curly question. Why notpick up the phone and callthe relative support agency?You’ll find professional caringpeople ready to assist you.

● Alcohol Drug AbuseConcerned about your own or someoneelse’s problems with alcohol or other drugs?Call the Alcohol Drug Helpline today for free,confidential, friendly professional advice.0800 787 797 www.alcoholdrughelp.org.nz

● Catholic Social ServicesParenting and family support programmesopen to all, free of charge. Usual office hours with late night on Tuesdays ‘till 6.30pm by appointment. 336 Cashel Street, P O Box 4237, Christchurch. Phone: 03-379 0012

● Christchurch ResettlementServices.Free social services for people from refugeeand migrant backgrounds. Interpreters areprovided. Phone: 03-335 0311

● TOUGHLOVERaising teenagers is difficult. Whether you justwant some help to deal with a disrespectfulor defiant teenager, or more serious issues,TOUGHLOVE can help. TOUGHLOVE’s aim is to enable parents and their young people to rebuild their relationships. The TOUGHLOVE programme offers ongoing support, education, and techniques via structured support group meetings to help parents and caregivers gain the skills and strategies to deal with a wide range of problems associated with unacceptable or challenging adolescent behaviour. Parent Support Groups meet weekly with parents able to join anytime. Contact TOUGHLOVE on 03-337-9452, email [email protected] or check out www. toughlove.org.nz.

● Citizens Advice BureauChristchurch area - Te PouWhakawhirinaki o AotearoaAs we progress through the year, manyfamilies are dealing with increased financialpressures. In some cases parents may decideto separate. If you separate, you’ll need to tryto agree on your children’s day-to-day care(a parenting agreement). You can get a freecounselling session through the Family Courtto help, if you can’t come to an agreement.If this doesn’t work, one of you can apply fora parenting order, which involves going tothe Family Court and asking them to make adecision for you. Call 0800-367-222 to talk to our knowledgeable, caring team.

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● Conductive EducationCanterburyConductive Education Canterbury is an early intervention provider catering for childrenfrom birth to six years. Its specialist staff provide programmes in group settings that aimto improve all areas; physical (gross motor andfine motor), cognitive, communication and selfhelp/life skills. Conductive Education focuses on the holistic needs of each child, with all developmental areas being taught at the same time rather than focusing on one particular area. For further information, Conductive Education Canterbury welcomes your call; please phone 03-372-1399.

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These changes will help reduce preventable deaths and serious injuries to children travelling in vehicles.

Your child restraint must be fitted correctly. For expert advice contact a certified Child Restraint Technician via www.nzta.govt.nz/childrestraints

As a driver you must make sure any child travelling in your vehicle is correctly secured.

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Correctly secure your child in an approved child restraint

Until their 5th birthday

until their 7th birthday

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From 1 November 2013

Correctly secure your child in an approved child restraint if one is available in the vehicle (and if not, in any child restraint or safety belt that is available)

From their 5th birthday until their 8th birthday


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The law says you must: Until 31 October 2013 From 1 November 2013

Correctly secure your child in an approved child restraint

Until their 5th birthday Until their 7th birthday

The law also says you must: Until 31 October 2013 From 1 November 2013

Correctly secure your child in an approved child restraint if one is available in the vehicle (and if not, in any child restraint or safety belt that is available)



Changes to child restraint laws may affect your family

Children aged seven will continue to be required to be secured in an approved

child restraint if one is available in the vehicle, and if not, in any child restraint or safety belt that is available.The law changes will help reduce preventable deaths and serious injuries to children travelling in vehicles.

Seats and safety belts installed in vehicles are designed and manufactured to most effectively protect an average-sized adult in the event of a crash. Children, because they are smaller and have a different body shape to adults, need additional seating equipment to keep them as safe as adults in a car.Types of child restraints include:• infant restraints for young babies (baby

capsules).• restraints for older babies, toddlers

and preschool children (car seats or car

restraints).• booster seats for preschool and school-

aged children (boosters). These position children in the seat so they can safely use the adult safety belt.

• child safety harnesses (used with or without a booster seat) for preschool and school-aged children.

Using a booster seat lifts a child to the correct height/dimensions to best fit the adult seat belt, which in turn reduces the potential trauma suffered by a child in the event of a crash.Child restraints used in New Zealand must be approved and must display standards markings to show they are approved and safe to be used. Children must be seated in a restraint that provides a suitable fit that is appropriate for their age and size. It’s a driver’s responsibility to make sure any child, under the age of 15, travelling in their

vehicle is correctly secured. So parents and caregivers should start thinking now about how they’ll meet the new requirements from 1 November. For information on approved child restraint standards and where to find expert advice from a certified child restraint technician, visit www.nzta.govt.nz/childrestraints.Advertorial

From 1 November the mandatory use of child restraints in vehicles will be extended by two years, with all children required to be correctly secured in an approved restraint until their seventh birthday (this includes booster seats).


Crissi Blair lives with her family in west Auckland and spends her time reading and writing, mostly about children’s books. Crissi organised the Storylines Festival of New Zealand Children’s Writers and Illustrators for three years and publishes the useful guide New Zealand Children’s Books in Print which is updated every year. Visit www.silvertone.co.nz for more information.

Junior Fiction Knowledge books

Goldilocks and the Three DinosaursBy Mo Willems Walker Books Hardback $28Three dinosaurs make some tempting choco-late pudding and loudly proclaim that they are going out and hope a succulent young girl doesn’t come to visit. Sure enough Gold-ilocks arrives and gobbles up the pudding, but eventually pays heed to the signs that this is not the abode of a bear family and she’d better vamoose. The illustrations are rich with clues and kids will love spot-ting the warning signs in this ironic take on the traditional tale.

The Day the Crayons QuitBy Drew Daywalt Illustrated by Oli-ver Jeffers Harper-Collins Hardback $29.99Duncan opens his crayon box to find letters from the crayons who have gone on strike, unhappy at being misused or ignored in preference for other colours – only green is happy. Each crayon has its own distinct personality conveyed in their letter (writ-ten in crayon of course) and accompanying drawing in Jeffers’ distinctive style. Duncan resolves things with a picture at the end that keeps everyone happy. Ages 4 plus.

Ben and the Icky-Ooky-Sticky-SmickBy Sally Sutton Walker Books Hardback $30Ben loves bugs, par-ticularly his favourite icky-ooky-sticky-smick, but there is chaos in the house when it goes miss-ing! Family members’ screams come from all around the house as they find a variety of bugs - all with fabulous names like the lurky-murky-dottle-spot - all of which are identified by Ben for their dif-ferent characteristics. The tongue twisting names, rich language and imagination are well matched with Venn’s contemporary stylish illustrations and varied typography.

New Zealand Girl: Rebecca and the Queen of NationsBy Deborah Burnside Puffin Paperback $15Take a trip back into our history with Rebecca (10) who travels by ship from Ireland to New Zealand. She finds her older brother, a sailor on the Queen of Nations, who finds her a job as servant to a family on the ship. The details of ship life, including storms and a difficult birth, are simply yet vividly written and will captivate a young reader from 8 to 12-years. Dinosaur Rescue: Scuto-stickysaurusBy Kyle Mewburn Illustrated by Donovan Bixley Scholastic Paperback $12 Arg, an unusually intelligent cave boy, discovers a noisy scutosaurus with branches and leaves attached by a sticky vine. Arg tries to save the scut from being killed but gets stuck himself. Thank goodness for his best mate Skeet the T-Rex who helps get them to Big Bone Lake where Arg has a clever idea to get them both unstuck. Giant helpings of gross humour, with hilarious illustrations to keep the reader laughing until the end. Ages 7 to 10-years.Flora & Ulysses: The Illuminated AdventuresBy Kate DiCamillo Illustrated by K G Campbell Candlewick Press Paperback $25 Flora (10) is a young cynic who loves comics. When a squirrel is nearly killed by a vacuum cleaner but emerges with super-strength and the ability to write poetry and fly, Flora has to protect this unusual superhero from his arch-nemesis, aided by a cast of eccentric characters who each provide their own flavour of good advice. The rich, classic, comic-influenced language is interspersed with soft pencil panels of illustrations. Ages 8 plus.

Running the Country: A Look Inside New Zealand’s GovernmentBy Maria Gill New Holland Paperback $24.99 This informative guide reveals how our government works, who is part of it, what they do and what the rules are. This is a system with a lot of history and tradition behind it, explained as simply as possible, with photographs and diagrams to help, and caricatures of some of the people involved (by a political cartoonist Malcolm Evans). There are handy internet links provided and a useful glossary and index. Ages 8 plus.Wearable Wonders By Fifi Colston Scholastic Paperback $21 If you like to make stuff from whatever you have around the house, this book has an abundance of projects for you to try. Fifi has been a long-time World of Wearable Arts competitor and is master of crafts - making useful things out of materials like egg cartons, tin foil and bubble wrap. Includes information about what sort of glue to use, and how to hold things together. Ages 9 plus.Recipes for Play: Fun ideas for small hands and big imaginationsRecipes by Rachel Sumner Photographs by Ruth Mitchener Penguin Paperback $30 A book brim-full of things to make and do with a little one. Vivid photographs capture the crafts, toys, activities and games that can be made mostly with things you will already have around the house or in the garden: simple ideas rich in colour and texture that are both easy to make and to clean up. A great resource for any parent of a young child.

Sinking By David Hill Scholastic Paperback $19.50A frightening old man stumbles out of the bushes one day when Conrad is on his way from swimming training. He’s the grandfather of the strange new girl at school, Bex. At first they don’t get on but she needs a friend – her grandfather is behaving strangely and there are rumours he is linked to a historic tragedy at the river. A dramatic story with friendship at its heart. Ages 10 to 15-years.

The Thing about LuckBy Cynthia Kadohata Simon & SchusterPaperback $21.00 One thing after another goes wrong for Summer’s family. Her parents have to go to Japan, just before wheat harvest when they earn the mortgage money. This leaves Summer (12) and her brother to go to harvest with their ailing grandparents: Jiichan driving the combine and Summer helping the demanding Obaachan cook the meals. Summer is growing up and taking on responsibility as she works out what makes everyone tick, and we also learn about Japanese and harvest cultures.

View from the 32nd FloorBy Emma Cameron Walker Books Paperback $19 William spies on the neighbouring high-rise apartments from his room on the 32nd floor. He sees a new girl there and finds a way to meet her. When they become friends they reach out to the other apartment dwellers, helping the lonely and frail ones to make friends and discover a more enjoyable life, culminating in a rooftop party for everyone. There is much list-making, planning and delicious food involved as they draw their diverse community together.

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New Zealand is a veritable paradise to explore on a road trip: the stunning scenery in Godzone makes the journey every bit as delightful as the destination.

It takes a little bit more planning if you’re taking the whole family along, but the journey can be just as much fun with just a

little forethought into keeping them occupied, and you can create family memories that will last for a lifetime. Children generally have less patience for the journey than adults, so if you want to avoid the inevitable, “are we there yet,” remember, with littlies you will need to prepare for regular snacks, and provide regular stops to stretch and make use of bathroom facilities. Then there’s entertainment. Lots of kids today take along modern technology such as iPads, portable gaming consoles or DVDs, but if you want to make the most of the time together and build family bonds, how about some good old-fashioned car games? Not only can family car games help pass the time and fill in the gaps between break stops, it can further your children’s education. Check out these fun family favourites. Chances are, your children will pass these games on to their children, and so on. Of course, the driver’s prime concern should be safe driving!

20 QuestionsWhat would a road trip be without an old fashioned game of 20 Questions? One player thinks of an animal, plant or object and the other players are given a total of 20 “yes” or “no” questions to guess the player’s item. The game usually begins by narrowing down whether the item is an animal, vegetable or mineral; for instance, you could ask “Is it an animal?” Other good questions can relate to size, such as whether the item is larger than a breadbox, or location (e.g., “Would you find it in a kitchen?”). Any of your 20 questions can be a guess. If you do not correctly identify the item after 20 questions, one free bonus guess is permitted.

Word ScrambleTo play Scramble, think of a five or six letter word, such as “punch,” and say the letters aloud in a random order, such as C-H-P-N-U. It’s fun to see how quickly–or long–it takes for your opponent to guess your word.

Spot a miniTo play this game, you get five points each time you spot a mini (or choose a different type of car) while travelling. Points are accrued over any journey, but start afresh once you’ve achieved your destination. The sighting has to be confirmed by another person in the car, and incorrect or unconfirmed sightings mean you have to deduct that number of points off your score.

Car cricketIf you’re travelling long distance off the city

streets, you might like to try car cricket. One person is “in” until they get either “run out” (by being passed by another car) or “caught out” (by someone seeing a Ford) or bowled (if a motorcycle is seen).While that person is in they score a single run each time they see a car, two runs if they see a four-wheel-drive, a boundary if they see a truck and a six for any vehicle carrying livestock. Possible variations on car cricket are endless, and if the children are young you can use colours rather than makes of car. It is usually played as two teams so that individual players who may be a bit weaker with their maths are supported by stronger team members.

Not a WordNot a word must pass your lips as you take turns telling a story using facial expression, gestures and self-made sound effects. Choose a well-known, easy story such as Snow White. The first

person to guess the story takes the next turn.

True or FalseEveryone closes their eyes except for the designated “looker” (and the driver of course!) While the looker describes what she sees i.e. passing scenery, animals, vehicles, the rest have to decide if it’s true or false. She might say “I see two cows.” There might be two cows or no cows or four cows. Every wrong guess gains one point and the player with the lowest score wins the game. *Time each turn perhaps 5 minutes each.

Eye SpyThis all-time classic is good for littlies who are just learning their letters and the sounds they make, right up to adults. One player sees an object either inside or outside of the car, and says, “I spy with my little eye, something beginning with …” and states the letter that the object begins with. Other players have to guess the object.

Keeping the family entertained when driving

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