“Even the Lone Ranger didn’t ride alone.” All rights reserved John E. Kobara.

““Even the Even the Lone Lone RangerRanger didn’t ride didn’t ride

alone.”alone.”

All rights reserved John E. Kobara

THE NETWORKING AND MENTORINGTHE NETWORKING AND MENTORINGLIFESTYLELIFESTYLE

How Passion and AltruismCan Bring Meaning to Your Life and Your Career

John E. [email protected]

2008

John E. [email protected]

2008

The of Life

Volume and Rapidity of Change More Choice, Less Time and

Commitment Declining Social Capital

Bowling Alone Less Communication--More Interruption Transactions over Transformation

Being busy is not a career strategy How Much is Enough?

Paraplegics and lottery winners

What’s Really Important to Us?

What Do You What Do You Want?Want?Where Are You Where Are You Going?Going?


Popular andPopular and Ineffective Career StrategiesCareer Strategies

Luck will Conquer All Pre-Destined Career Divining Rod Stealth Syndrome Publisher’s Clearinghouse Federal Witness Relocation Program Wait and See


““I always wanted to be I always wanted to be SOMEBODYSOMEBODY, but I realized I , but I realized I

should have been more should have been more specific.”specific.”

Lily Tomlin


Essential Career StrategiesEssential Career StrategiesThe 8 P’s

Positive Perspective--Beyond the negative Personal Priorities—Your Goals Pursuit of Passion--Stalk your Genius Power Incompetences--Fast Failures Professional Dev.—Continuous Education Persistence with Charm Power of NOW Playing Out of Bounds


““Insanity is doing the Insanity is doing the same thing over and same thing over and over and expecting over and expecting different results.”different results.”

Tony Robbins


The RealReal You


It Begins with YouIt Begins with You You have the opportunity to become who you

are To Discover or re-discover your passions To Become deeply fulfilled

Can you visualize the possibilities? Only you can make the choice No insurmountable obstacles

Techniques alone will not be enough Are you ready? Let’s make it happen!


““Most people go to Most people go to their graves with their graves with their music still in their music still in

themthem.”.”Benjamin Disraeli


Pursuit Of PassionPursuit Of PassionWhat do you really care about?

Prioritize your passion(s) Network to find your passion(s)

Follow your curiosities—informational interviews

Network with your passion(s) Integrate your passions into your

life/career Develop skills, experiences, resume

deliverables


Guiding PrinciplesGuiding Principles

Communication

Connectivity

Community


Why Mentor and Network?Why Mentor and Network?Better Networks Create Health,Better Networks Create Health, Wealth, and Happiness Wealth, and Happiness

Because we is always stronger than me To help others and ourselves

70% of promotions/jobs Developing real relationships

To pursue our passions Define our lives by what we do

To live longer Active/diverse networks are a source of

well-being

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Mentoring and Mentoring and Networking areNetworking are Not

A Game Passing Out Business Cards Working a Room Cold Calling An Emergency Job

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Mentoring and Networking...Mentoring and Networking...Building Social CapitalBuilding Social Capital

Strengthen existing relationships and expands your circle of friends

Utilize ethical methodologies and your own sense of comfort

Establish and invests in human connections that create value for one another

Build community through mutual benefit and support


Mentoring and Networking...Mentoring and Networking...Building Social CapitalBuilding Social Capital

Is a lifestyle choice a choice that anyone can make

Is a commitment to teach and help others

Is meaningless without goals


““You attract to your You attract to your life whatever you life whatever you

give time, attention, give time, attention, and focus—positive or and focus—positive or

negative.”negative.”

Michael Losier


Mentoring/NetworkingMentoring/Networking AssumptionsAssumptions

Develop and Focus on your Goals Be Yourself, but Build Your Brand Continue Conversations Listen before You Talk Look for the Common Ground Treat Everyone as your Equal Give Without an Expectation


““The key is to keep company The key is to keep company only with people who uplift only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls you, whose presence calls

forth your best.”forth your best.”

EpictetusEpictetus


WII-FMThe Inner Radio Station

What’sInItForMe


Networking ToolsNetworking Tools

Preparation and Research Read! Be Prepared to Network

Resumes Rileyguide.comRileyguide.com

Listening and Interviewing Skills Tracking/Follow-up System

Notes E.g. Linkedin.com

Verbal Scripting-Brief Introductory Talk BIT---“Elevator speech”


Overcoming Networking Overcoming Networking Barriers Barriers Starting the conversation

What’s your BIT? Lead with your passions Let the conversation happen Be curious about others--Ask questions What are you looking for?

For yourself? On behalf of others in your network? Listen and care Continue the conversation

May I talk to you/contact you later?


MentoringMentoring LifestyleLifestyle

You will always need a mentor Mentoring is a reality check Mentoring is a two-way street

Be prepared to assist Not always a wiser/older person Find someone you trust to give you the truth

Not just encouragement Adopt a mentoring lifestyle

Mentoring moments Seek mentoring Mentor others


Developing a Total Life PlanDeveloping a Total Life PlanNot just a job, but a passion portfolio

Not dependent on your “day” job Volunteer for growth Moonlight, start-up, explore Take chances

A total portfolio will provide lopsidedness and meaning to your life


What Do You Want?


““Start by doing what’s Start by doing what’s necessary then what’s necessary then what’s

possible, and suddenly you possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”are doing the impossible.”

St Francis of AssisiSt Francis of Assisi


Action StepsAction Steps

Make the commitmentMake the commitment Focus on goals and passionsFocus on goals and passions Become well-lopsidedBecome well-lopsided Optimize current Optimize current

opportunitiesopportunities Create and enhance social Create and enhance social

capitalcapital Be positive—SMILE!Be positive—SMILE! Play out of boundsPlay out of bounds Take action steps – NOW!Take action steps – NOW!

Love What You Do to Do What You LoveLove What You Do to Do What You Love

Adopt a networking and mentoring Adopt a networking and mentoring lifestylelifestyle


No Regrets! Make service to others, your

passions, and your relationships a priority and success will follow.

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