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Empowering Your Child
PresentersRalph Whalen & Parents
November 10, 2009
Welcome
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Intro
Theory & Class
Parent Q: What good messages..
Messages kids receive
What parents can do
Reasonable Expectations
When to be concerned
HandoutsNext SeminarsEvaluation
Meeting Overview
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GoalsConnect with others.
Learn one idea about emotional health that will help you in your family.
Learn from each other.
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Conflict within yourself
Pumsy, the puppet
Change the way you feel by changing the way you think
Guidance Topic
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Something Bad HappensTo You
Feel Rotten(mud mind)
Is This What Happens?
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Something Good HappensTo You
Feel Good
Is This What Happens?
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Action HappensTO You
ABC Theory of Emotional Health
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BeliefMud MindThinking
Action HappensTO You
ABC Theory of Emotional Health
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BeliefMud MindThinking
Action HappensTO You
ConsequenceFeel Bad(In Mud Mind)
ABC Theory of Emotional Health
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BeliefMud MindThinking
Action HappensTO You
ConsequenceFeel Bad,In Mud Mind
Action By You
(Unhealthy)
ABC Theory of Emotional Health
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Action HappensTO You
Belief:Clear Mind Thinking
ABC Theory of Emotional Health
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Action HappensTO You
Belief:Clear Mind Thinking
ConsequenceFeel Good(In Clear Mind)
ABC Theory of Emotional Health
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Action HappensTO You
Belief:Clear Mind Thinking
ConsequenceFeel Good,In Clear Mind
Action By
You (Healthy)
ABC Theory of Emotional Health
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Belief:Clear Mind Thinking
ConsequenceFeel Bad,(In Mud Mind)
Solution: Change Your Thinking
BeliefMud MindThinking
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Belief:Clear Mind Thinking
ConsequenceFeel Bad,(In Mud Mind)
Solution: Change Your Thinking
BeliefMud MindThinking
Choose Diff
erent M
essage
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Table Discussion QuestionIntroduce yourself
What messages have you or your child received that helped shape a positive self esteem?
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Pumsy MessagesNegative Messages Positive
I am no good. VS I am capable. I can’t stand it. VS I can handle it.
I must be perfect. VS It’s Ok to make mistakes.
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How Do Kids Get Messages?Said to them
Said to others
Observe
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Where Do Kids Get Messages?Parents
Siblings
Relatives
Other adults
Other kids
Media
Need to protect younger children from damaging messages.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U
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What Else Can You Do?Model
Believe in child
Connect Child
Provide opportunities to contribute
Praise effectively
Say “No”
Correct Correctly
Provide Hope
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Discussion Question?What are unreasonable expectations for this age group?
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Reasonable ExpectationsNo too low
Not too high
Stairs method
Effort, not just outcome
Accept limitations
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Partner QuestionWhen do children get in their mud minds?
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Emotional Outburst: What To DoListen
Identify the feeling
Help problem solve
Use Clear Mind
Have faith in your child
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When To Be ConcernedAvoids tasks or Quits
Makes excuses, cheats or lies
Change in behaviorschool performancerelationshipssleep patterns
Inability to concentrate
Emotionally unstable
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Q & A
Handouts
Next Seminar: Wed, Dec 3“Responsibility: Give It To Get It”
Evaluation
Final Steps
ThankYou