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Involved Parent Magazine
Fall, A Harvest of Learning
Education 4 All, Inc. Fall 2014 Vol. 3, No. 2
Education 4 All’s mission is to help teens and adults be their best at home, school,
work, and in the community!
Education is a life-long process. Our customizd individual and group training
sessions provide evidence-based strategies which can easily be incorporated into
your existing personal and professional environment.
4 places are impacted most by human behavior and interaction: home, school,
work, and the community.
All teens and adults can be their best when they have the appropriate tools and
strategies to do so.
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© 2014. This magazine is produced through Education 4 All, Inc. P.O. Box
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Table of Contents
Well Done! By Dr. Carletta D. Washington Am I My Brother’s Keeper? Is My Brother My Keeper? By Dr. Shonta M. Smith Indecision By Curlie McCalla Parenting with Less Stress By Tierra Gerdine Helping Your Daughter Win the Battle against Obesity By Kem Smith Rising Above By Lydia Douglas Important Components of IEP Compliance By Esthere Scott Referring Your Child for Gifted Education By Billie Mathews The Family Kitchen By Angie Sievers Involved Parenting is Good, but There is a Limit By Charlotte Petty It’s How You Play the Game By Robert Jackson Parent Resources
Well Done!
~Dr. Carletta D.
Washington
Personal &
Professional Development
www.education4allinc.com
If done correctly, parenting can be one of
the most rewarding callings on Earth!
Granted, there is NO manual and children do
NOT come with instructions and checklists!
Nevertheless, there are several wonderful
resources that parents can turn to for
assistance when raising happy, healthy,
successful children.
1. The most important resource is the
Holy Bible. There are many scriptures that
relate to how parents are to relate to one
another and to their children. The family is
a key part of God’s Word. In fact, God
references Himself as a parent. What a
powerful example of the embodiment of
love, comfort, guidance, forgiveness,
protection, provision, consequence, and
reward…all qualities of good parenting! All
we need to do is read our Bible and pray; the
answers are right before us.
2. Another resource is our parents. Sometimes, we feel as though our parents
may have been too harsh or they did not do
as good of a job as we would have liked, so
we develop a negative regard for their
parenting style and vow to never be like our
parents. There are some extreme cases and
a few instances, where it may be best to not
emulate our parents. Then, there are other
situations in which we must consider the
circumstances surrounding our childhood,
including our parents’ background as
children. Additionally, we must consider
the parenting styles of family members from
even earlier generations.
Considering the backgrounds of parents
within previous generations of our own
family permits us to forgive our parents and
to acknowledge them for the good that they
brought into our lives, no matter the degree.
As a result, we learn how to:
commit to being better parents than
the examples within our family,
break cycles that appear rooted
within our family (i.e., abuse,
addiction, neglect, depression,
illiteracy, poverty)
3. This leads to the 3rd
point: Trusting
our own instinct. We all have an innate
sense of right and wrong. It is a very sad
commentary when parents feel they cannot
trust themselves as parents. It is okay to be
confident in your parenting style.
Ultimately, YOU are responsible for your
children’s upbringing. It is up to you to
teach your children to grow up being happy,
healthy, and successful.
There are times when you will need to stand
firm in your decisions pertaining to your
children and what you deem necessary for
their overall wellbeing. Your children and
others will need to know that you mean
business and that you have your children’s
best interest at heart. So do not waver or
second guess yourself, particularly when
there is a clear line between what is and
what is not in your children’s overall best
interest (i.e., underage drinking, gangs,
attending certain parties/concerts, dating).
The greatest indicator of a job well done
is when you see your children with their
children. When you see your grandchildren
and great grandchildren happy, healthy, and
successful! You know that your role as
parents is a job well done!
Am I My Brother’s Keeper?
Is My Brother My Keeper?
~Dr. Shonta M. Smith
www.drshontasmith.com
Have we agreed to embrace, respect, honor,
and love one another?
One Team…
One Goal…
One Band…
One Sound…
working together as a collective body doing
what is in the best interest of children!
Allies share common purposes, goals, and
objectives. As allies, we must remember
why we have been called to duty. It is our
duty to properly train and educate our
children.
As allies, we work in collaborative teams
and find common ground. That common
ground allows us to put our differences to
the side, agree to disagree, and work
towards a common goal. That goal is
simple, preparing our children to become
productive citizens who positively
contribute to society.
In order to meet this goal, we must—on a
consistent basis—do what is in the best
interest of children. Consistency is the
key. Unfortunately, we have not been
consistent and oftentimes it appears we have
no interest in consistency.
This is a new day and we need to do
things in a new way. Our children are not
the children of yesterday. They do things
differently. In case you have not been
paying attention, I ask that you begin to pay
attention. Pay attention because our
children need you. You are the Essence of
Education!
Without you—our children’s future looks
very grim. We need you to focus and
prepare our children for the future. If our
children cannot read, write, and do
arithmetic, what does the future hold? If our
children do not have basic life skills, how
can they function? If our children lack
guidance and direction, then who will lead
them?
As allies, if we are honest and up front
with ourselves in answering these
questions, we will not be impressed with
the response. If we look at the writing on
the wall, we know it is horrific. It is scary
and it causes great pain. When any of us is
in pain, we want relief. In order to relieve
that pain, we must identify the problem,
state the cause, provide a solution, and
implement a plan of action.
We have identified the problem, know the
cause, and have provided various solutions.
Now it is time for action! America, we are
experiencing an epidemic! We are failing
our children! It is imperative that we not
just say we are allies; we must truly be allies
and work together. We know what we must
do and it is time we do it! Stop talking
about it and be about it! Today is a great
day to do what is in the best interest of
children!
Indecision
~Curlie McCalla
Relationship Expert
Have you ever come to a crossroad and
didn’t know where to go or what to do? Or
maybe you looked up into the heavens and
said, “God, please help me, I’m scared.”
At some point(s) in our life, either we have
been there, are currently there, or will get
there. Regardless of where we find
ourselves, it can be frustrating, confusing,
and immobilizing. If and when you find
yourself there, I invite you to consider the
following.
First, accept the feeling. Whether that
feeling is anxiety, confusion, sadness or
anger, lean into it. This will help you be
practical about what to do next. Once you
accept the feeling, you then identify the root
cause of that feeling; however, be
completely honest with yourself. When you
come to terms with your feelings, you can
move forward in making a rational decision. Oftentimes we are indecisive because deep
down we do not want to know the answer.
This may seem odd because we say we want
to know, but we avoid the “knowing”. In
truth, we may not want to do what it takes to
get us moving. We consciously, or
unconsciously, stay stuck so we don’t have
to deal with the issues.
Some people try to “just shake the feeling”;
this won’t help us get clear, we have to
accept the feeling and dig deep inside
ourselves to get the answer. This is the time
when we need to be still and connect with
God or Spirit…whether through prayers,
meditation, or plain writing out our feelings.
Clarity will come once we are open to it.
Accepting the feeling is the precursor to
identify where that feeling is coming
from. In most cases we are hiding from
something that we don’t want to face. It
could be something or someone that we
know we need to let go. Many times it is the
fear of stepping outside of our comfort zone
and doing the things that are uncomfortable,
but necessary for our growth. The bottom
line is, it really doesn’t matter what the
reason, we have to look beyond the obstacle
and know that a decision is better than not
making one.
“If you choose to not deal with an issue,
then you give up your right of control over
the issue and it will select
the path of least resistance.”
― Susan Del Gatto
Practice making sound decisions is good for
our growth. Indecisiveness is poison to self.
This can cripple us mentally, spiritually, and
physically. Allowing indecision or
procrastination to continue to lurk in the
mind, won’t give space for new and
healthier thoughts to surface. When our
minds are nagged at and gnawed at with
energy zapping thoughts, it begins to affect
our whole being. We find we won’t pray or
meditate, which leads us into self-doubt and
self-condemnation. Our bodies start to
respond negatively with pain or discomfort
that leads us into inaction. If we want to be
in control of our future, and if we want to
enjoy life at its fullest—then, we must start
by making decisions.
Parenting with Less Stress
~Tierra Gerdine
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that
being a parent can be stressful. This is
especially true for parents who are either
working, going to school, or doing both.
This article is to help you find a way to
reduce your stress levels while still making
sure you’re being a great parent.
Step 1
Recognizing “when” you are stressed.
I typically get stressed in the evenings.
After work, my routine involves cleaning
up, cooking dinner, and picking up our
daughter. Can you think of the time of the
day that is most stressful for you? Once I
was able to figure out when I’m typically
stressed, I was able to move to the next step.
Step 2
Recognizing “what” causes your stress.
I become stressed because I know that I
have a very limited amount of time to finish
my routine before bedtime. Therefore, I
stress about time.
When I realized that time is what was
causing my stress, I began to think of all the
ways I could “buy myself more time.” I did
this by carrying a personal planner. I wrote
down everything that needed to be done
while setting only a certain amount of time
aside to do it. At times, I will even set a
reminder or alarm on my phone so that I
know the best time to complete my task.
This method of reducing my stress has truly
helped me. Additionally, as you begin to
discover more of the “what’s” behind your
stress, you’ll be able to find ways to
decrease your stress. As mentioned earlier,
this article is for helping you, as a parent,
reduce stress while still being a great parent.
What has helped me is thinking about
what I have to get done, and tailoring that
to what I know my daughter enjoys. For
example, I’m the type of person who doesn’t
like to leave dishes in the sink by the end of
the night. I make it a priority each day to
get them done. So, I found a way to wash
them with my daughter. It helps that
toddlers love soap bubbles; I use that to my
advantage. Her helping me allows us to
spend time together, get my routine done,
and reduce my stress.
For those of you who have older children,
this method may not work the same.
However, you can always tailor this method
to fit your needs. For instance, make it into
a game. Each person gets 30 seconds to see
how many dishes they can wash, and
whoever gets the most done, wins. This will
also give you the same satisfaction of
spending time with your child, completing a
task on your to-do-list, and reducing your
stress.
Overall, life is too short to be stressed all
the time. In everything you do:
smile,
laugh, and
be positive.
You will see your stress start to decrease!
Helping Your Daughter Win the
Battle against Obesity
~Kem Smith
www.kissfitnessstudio.com
www.kemsmith.com
Most parents work hard on their jobs
because they want to give their children as
many financial, physical, emotional, and
spiritual advantages as possible. They put
their babies in the best schools and surround
them by good influences. What these
hardworking parents don’t realize is that
there is something going on with girls that
teachers can’t fix, administrators can’t fix,
and parents struggle trying to get ahold of;
negative body image.
Research indicates that almost 54 percent
of American girls and women aged 12 to
23 years old are unhappy with their
bodies. As adults, we know that these girls
will blossom and grow into beautiful women
with a shape and physique of their own.
Unfortunately, body unhappiness often
means girls will shy away from the very
activities that will lead them to the bodies
they want.
Studies further indicate that 75% of girls
as young as 9 years old have dieted 2-3
times in a year. Fad diets are everywhere.
The problem with these diets is that they
work temporarily. When a person goes back
to eating normally the pounds come back
with a vengeance. How many people are
interested in seeing their daughters yo-yo
diet and join the 90% of African-American
women who are currently overweight in
America? I would venture to say no one.
Now is the best time to consider hiring a
Certified Personal Trainer Coach to walk
your daughter through a life of fitness by
helping her work through nutritional best
practices, develop lean muscle mass, and
identify the best personalized fitness
program for her.
Personal trainers who also have
experience with nutrition can help girls
work through nutritional best practices. Girls who want to lose weight will often
revert to what I call the “starvation
formula.” They chose not to eat, or eat a
bunch of salads until they lose weight.
Sometimes their diets are even more drastic
and they suffer from a broken diet.
Truthfully, most people are already
dehydrated, lack vitamins and minerals;
need more protein and essential fatty acids.
To go on a starvation diet does not help.
Personal trainers can help fix broken diets
by teaching and holding your daughters
more accountable for how they eat.
Personal trainers can help a young girl
replace fatty tissue with lean muscle
tissue. Now, every woman who I train says,
“I don’t want to look like a guy.” I have to
explain to them that they don’t have
testosterone that will make them look like a
guy and that they don’t eat or train like a
body builder. However, the more a young
lady works with a trainer, the more she will
understand the design of her body. How
lifting weights will make her stronger. How
fatty tissue is simply covering muscle that’s
already there and as she combines cardio
and weight training, those muscles will be
revealed. The result is, her jeans will fit
better. Her muscles will be more defined.
Suddenly, newfound confidence will appear
on the scene. Working with her personal
trainer role model will help her begin to
develop into the body image she hopes for
every morning when she changes clothes
repeatedly in front of the mirror. Mom’s
will be happy because there will definitely
be less laundry.
Personal trainer coaches have a knack for
developing personalized fitness and
nutritional plans. They can monitor the
results on a bi-weekly basis. Most trainers
are excellent at outcome-based decision-
making, in other words Personal trainer
coaches know what your goals are, work
with you, and hold you accountable to eating
right and exercising at the same time.
Often, I hear adults say, “I try to lose
weight, but I can never eat right and exercise
at the same time.”
A good diet + proper exercise program =
Fitness.
Remember, eating right and exercising can
be as confusing for teens as it is for adults.
For me, personally, body image has
always been a thorn in my side. I grew up
with ‘baby making hips’ and a plump
behind. It didn’t help that I had A cups
when the boys always went for D’s. Looking
back over my life, there were times when I
denied myself the opportunity to participate
in Physical Education class, sports activities,
and recreational events because I thought I
was too plump.
Our girls need to:
develop positive body images,
be able to recognize a dangerous fad
diets, and
become more comfortable in their
own skin.
Personal trainers can be hidden tools in
developing the future generation’s healthier
habits and winning the fight against obesity.
There are three reasons to get your teen
daughter a personal trainer.
First, a trainer can be a role model
for fitness.
A trainer can recommend healthy
eating strategies.
Lastly, a trainer can help teens
replace fat with lean muscle tissue.
~Kem Smith
www.kissfitnessstudio.com
www.kemsmith.com
Rising Above
~Lydia Douglas
www.booksbylydia.com
Now that the school year is underway, I
challenge all of our young people to stay
focused. In doing so, they will be able to rise
above all of their fears concerning this new
school year. Rising above our fears is not
easy all of the time. It takes work and
concentration.
There is no doubt in my mind that all of our
young people and students will succeed in
everything they commit themselves to do
and fulfill all of their dreams and goals.
However, we must encourage them to just
take one day at a time and tell themselves
that today will be better than yesterday. All
they have to do is put some action behind
their goals and dreams.
They must set some goals and principles for
themselves. For example:
Aim High: When one test is passed or
accomplished, you can always aim a little
higher and accomplish even greater things,
because you have a made up mind.
Believe in yourself: One of the greatest
examples of believing in yourself is doing
your very best and being proud of your
accomplishments. If no one else believes in
you, believe in yourself. It is amazing what
you can accomplish if only you believe in
yourself.
Use your brain: Your brain is like a
parachute; if you do not use it, it will lay
dormant, become weak, and be good for
nothing. Please use your brain to make you
a better, stronger, and more confident
person.
Are you ready to go higher? Your answer
should be yes. Remember who is number
one; it is you! So the choices and decisions
that you are about to make will affect you
first. And I know you want some good
results to follow.
Never quit: Perseverance is the key to
success. You cannot stop along the way and
get off track. That will be time wasted. The
energy that will be shown on the first day of
school should be same from the beginning,
middle, and the end.
There are going to be some hard days but
never give up. You never know what you
might miss if you quit.
Expect to win: No one can or will believe
in you more than you yourself. So always
keep a great deal of expectation to win in
your heart.
To accomplish your goals, you have to
remove doubt. And when this is done, you
will be prepared with a great level of faith
and then you will be able to move forward
and act upon whatever your heart desires.
And when that time comes in your life, you
will be able to walk through all of the doors
of opportunities that will be opened unto
you.
Also remember that education is the key to
unlock any door in any direction in which
you wish to go.
When all of these have been accomplished,
you will be ready to Rise Above any faults
and failures that may come your way!
Important Components for IEP
Compliance
~Esthere Scott, M.Ed.
School is back in session and that means
Individualized Education Plans (IEP’s) are
here as well. I want to equip parents with
information regarding the IEP process and
what to expect. You have the right to
question any of these components if you do
not understand them fully. If this occurs, the
special education teacher or school
psychologist is expected to clarify any piece
of information. Here are the important
components to the IEP process:
When? Timelines for the IEP. A meeting
to develop an IEP must be held within 30
calendar days of a determination of an
educational diagnosis. IEP services cannot
begin until 10 days after the meeting unless
you sign a Notice of Action. There can be no
undue delay in providing special education
and related services to your student. An IEP
must be in effect before special education
and related services are provided.
Required IEP Components...
• Present level of academic achievement
and functional performance — includes
how your child's disability affects his or her
involvement and progress in general
education, plus examples; the strengths of
your child; your concerns about the
education of your child; changes in the
current functioning of your child since the
initial or prior IEP; a summary of the most
recent evaluation or re-evaluation; a
summary of the results of your child's
performance on any general and district-
wide assessments.
• Measurable annual goals — academic or
functional goals are the targets toward which
your child's special education services are
directed and focus on individual
instructional areas. Goals should be
formulated as SMART goals (Specific,
measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely).
• Special education and related services — such as physical therapy, occupational
therapy, adaptive therapy, music therapy,
social work, transportation, vision/hearing
services, orientation/mobility services,
medical services for diagnostic/evaluation
purposes, parent training/counseling,
rehabilitation counseling.
• Program adaptations and modifications — statements of supplementary aids,
services, supports, and equipment.
• Dates — when services begin, duration of
services, date of the IEP meeting, a review
date if desired.
• Procedure for evaluation of the IEP —
when and how your child's performance and
the effectiveness of the plan will be
evaluated.
• Program placement recommendations — how your child will receive special
education services.
• Transition planning for students age 16
and older.
The right to a free appropriate public
education (FAPE)
• Free — at no charge to parents
• Appropriate — your child benefits from
the program
• Public — public money is used to provide
services
• Education—the right to participate in
the same curriculum as peers who are not
disabled
The right to FAPE does not include the
right to select a classroom, school or
district, a specific teacher or implementer,
or a particular methodology. It also does
not include medical treatments.
Referring Your Child for Gifted
Education
~Billie G. Mathews,
B.A., M.A., PhD (ABD)
Professional Development
Curriculum Development
505 617-0543 As a parent of a Gifted learner and a teacher
of the Gifted, I am an advocate for referral
of students for Gifted education programs.
Of particular concern is the subject of when,
how, and why a student should be referred.
“When” should a student be referred for
evaluation for Gifted education? As with
any consideration in any situation involving
a student’s learning, early intervention is
key. Gifted learners are often those students
who are finished with classwork before
other students and show advanced and/or
creative learning styles. Early identification
for Gifted learners supports student learning.
Through this support, the message we send
to students is that their learning matters.
“How” should students be referred for
evaluation for Gifted education? Gifted
education and evaluation/qualification is
defined and outlined at state and district
levels. Generally, classroom teachers refer
students for evaluation for giftedness. When
students are not referred by classroom
teachers, parents/families can discuss the
gifted qualities of their children and request
a referral. After all, parents/families, “You
are your child’s/children’s first teachers.”
Last, but not least, “why” should students
be referred for Gifted evaluation? One of
the most important reasons that students
should be referred is that the learning needs
of Gifted students cannot be adequately
addressed in regular education classrooms.
Educators with special training in the area of
Gifted education are able to effectively
address the learning needs of students who
are deemed as “gifted” through the
evaluation process. While it is important that
students participate in a variety of school
activities with peers of their age group, they
should be able to learn in a differentiated
manner based on Gifted
evaluation/qualification.
Helpful agency websites where more
information can be obtained include:
National Association for Gifted
Children (NAGC)
The National Research Center on the
Gifted and Talented (NRC/GT)
U.S. Department of Education,
Gifted
Your state department of education
websites
Together, we can work to meet the needs of
all learners.
References
National Association for Gifted
Children, NAGC, (n.d.) Retrieved from
http://www.nagc.org/
The National Research Center on the
Gifted and Talented (NRC/GT),
(n.d.).Retrieved from
http://www.gifted.uconn.edu/nrcgt/
U.S. Department of Education, (n.d.),
Subpart 6 – Gifted and Talented
Students. Retrieved from
http://www2.ed.gov/policy/elsec/leg/ese
a02/pg72.html
The Family
Kitchen
~Angie Sievers
Founder/President
The St. Louis Cooks
www.thestlouiscooks.com
Cooking in the kitchen can be fascinating
for kids. They see their parents working
hard preparing a meal: watching the steam
from a pot as it boils, checking the oven to
see if the meat is ready, chopping the
vegetables, and getting the table ready. Kids
of all ages are intrigued by what takes place
in the kitchen so why not get them involved,
even at a young age. Below are a few tips to
help you get started…
1. Most importantly, you must choose the
right time to invite them. It’s not a good
idea to enlist their help when you need to
prepare a meal very fast. Instead, involve
the kids on the weekend when there is plenty
of time or earlier in the day for younger
children.
2. Be strategic in what you decide to
prepare with the kids. For younger kids,
recipes with only four or five ingredients
would be best. A tossed salad or an easy
brownie recipe can be good starters. The
younger kids can just add the ingredients to
the bowl while the older kids can do the
measurements, add the ingredients, and stir
unassisted. One of our favorite family meals
to cook is homemade pizzas. It’s a great
meal for kids of all ages. The older kids can
spread on the sauce and maybe help with
chopping, while the younger kids can put on
the toppings and the cheese.
3. While you are in the kitchen with the
kids, always emphasize safety. Teach
them not to touch whirling mixers, hot
stovetops, or hot pans. Talk about what
kitchen tasks are just for adults. Establish
consistent kitchen rules such as washing
your hands frequently, not touching knives,
certain knobs, etc.
4. Be sure to loosen up and put on your
patient cap while the kids are in the
kitchen. Your experience will be more
enjoyable if you know and understand there
will be extra messes. Even if everything
isn’t going perfectly, keep the mood light
and fun. Guide children with the same
suggestions. If they filled the muffin cups
too high, let them try it again. Little by
little, they will be more comfortable and
master many tasks.
5. Last, but certainly not least, be sure to
praise them for their assistance in the
kitchen. Offer them first taste of what you
cooked together. Also, we get creative with
our recipes and give full credit to our little
junior chefs. For example, if Jack helped
me with a specific dish, we might call it
Jack’s Perfect Brownies, Nick’s Awesome
Salad, Melanie’s Famous Pork Chops, and
so on.
This past weekend, we decided to make our
favorite snack – white chocolate covered
strawberries and pretzels. I handle all the
prep work and melt the chocolate. The kids
take care of the fun part - dipping the
strawberries and pretzels in the chocolate.
This is a great recipe to involve the kids in
the kitchen.
http://thestlouiscooks.com/2014/09/14/white
-chocolate-strawberries-and-pretzels/
Get cooking in the kitchen
with the family! Bon Appetite!
Involved Parenting is Good, but
There is a Limit
~Charlotte Petty
Several months ago, a friend recommended
that I write on “helicopter parenting” and its
effects for this column. His question was:
“Is helicopter parenting creating a society
where narcissism is the new normal?”
The term “helicopter parent” appeared as
early as 1969 in the book Between Parent
and Teenager by Dr. Haim Ginott
according to www.wow.com. The term
refers to parents who are overly involved in
the lives of their teen and young adult
children.
Some sources credit the term to college
administrators referring to students whose
parents interfere in the normal college
processes typically done only between the
school and students. Wow.com defines it as
a parent who pays extremely close attention
to a child's experiences and problems,
particularly at educational institutions.
Journalist Rachael Rettner reports on the
impact of “Helicopter parents” in her article
titled, ‘Helicopter’ Parents Have Neurotic
Kids, Study Suggests (2010). Her article
references Neil Montgomery’s research on
this topic. Neil Montgomery, a psychologist
at Keene State College in New Hampshire
suggested that there is a trend toward over
parenting in some areas of our society. This
includes parents who are too involved even
in their children’s education from the
perspective of what happens in the
classroom.
Over parenting signs include not allowing
a child to work through some problems and
issues on their own. Madeline Levine, a
practicing psychologist in Marin County,
California and author of The Price of
Privilege: how parental pressure and
material advantage are creating a
generation of disconnected and unhappy
kids published in 2006, describes over
parenting as parents who are physically
"hyper-present" but psychologically absent.
I describe it as a parent not looking at their
child’s development and not seeing them as
an individual with specific needs relative to
their own person. Instead, responding to
their child so as to ensure there is no sign of
physical neglect and involvement; however,
not really knowing their child as an
individual.
According to results from the study, students
with helicopter parents tend to be more self-
conscious, less open to new ideas and
actions, more vulnerable, and anxious
compared to their counterparts with more
distant parents.
Signs of over involvement during the
college years might include:
calling college students to wake
them for classes daily or
contacting a student’s professor to
ask about their grades which doesn’t
allow a student to grow and learn to
face issues on their own.
At the college level, there are FERPA
laws (Family Educational Rights and
Privacy Act) which require instructors
not to discuss a student’s performance
with anyone other than that student,
unless the student has given permission
for the instructor to do so. Do some
students need laws to protect them from
over parenting?
These are just a few examples of over
parenting. Some research suggests what over
parenting is, is not clear. Other studies say,
it is one of those things that we know it
when we see it even if we can’t define it.
Research also states that students with
helicopter parents may not have some of the
aforementioned symptoms described.
As a college instructor, I believe we are
moving to more and more devices to help
with the effects of helicopter parenting. There are more methods in place to warn
students when they are doing poorly,
including individuals who will conference
with a student who is not doing well in
college. I have no problem letting a student
know when he or she is not performing and
providing extra help if necessary.
I remember in both undergraduate and
graduate school, the syllabus was a course
agreement and if it was a well-structured
syllabus, you clearly knew when you
weren’t doing well, if you missed
assignments, and your grade based on the
grades you received on assignments. It was
then the student’s responsibility to seek out
the help needed. No one took you aside in
college and told you to get it together.
Today, colleges do more hand holding than
ever.
Too often, as teens and young adults,
students are not being allowed to fail. Failing permits the opportunity to:
learn,
grow,
understand shortcomings, and
to work to fix them.
When there is no failure and
acknowledgement of failure, individuals
don’t grow. Young people need to fail,
make mistakes, and learn what adjustments
they need to make personally in order to be
successful on their own terms.
I love quotes!
Zig Ziglar who was an extremely
successful salesman, turned
motivational speaker said,
“Failure is an event, not a person.”
Life has good and bad events from which we
can learn. Teenagers and young adults must
be allowed to learn from their events and not
have someone to try and fix everything for
them. Otherwise, they risk becoming
individuals who can’t cope on their own.
It’s How You Play the Game
~Robert Jackson, Jr.
Violence off the field of sports has
been a major topic of discussion
specifically, the sport of football.
Many of you have seen the infamous
video of Baltimore Raven's
running back, physically assaulting
his wife (fiancée at the time) and
leaving her unconscious. Or
Minnesota Viking's player charged
with child abuse, as a result of whelp
marks on his child's body and later
admitting that he might have went
overboard.
Studies have shown there is a link
between aggressive behavior on the
field and the ability/inability to
transition that behavior into a calmer
demeanor in order to function in
everyday life.
Children who participate in sports are
indoctrinated with the concept that
having an aggressive attitude will
determine how successful of an
athlete they can become. From there,
the seeds of aggression have been
planted and are chronologically
nurtured through fans egging on
brutal collisions, along with sending
mixed signals such as, "Hit your
opponent hard, but don't hurt him."
As the athlete progresses towards
higher levels of competition, their
aggressive attitude continues to
manifest in a rapid manner due to
their environment being transformed
into the days of the gladiators.
The problem is some people can't
distinguish the difference between
being aggressive versus being highly
competitive. Signs of an athlete being
overly aggressive include:
wanting to win a competition
by any means necessary, even
if it involves injuring an
opponent
bending or breaking the rules to
gain an upper hand
It is important that society put sports
in its proper perspective by
encouraging athletes to just do their
best. Win, lose, or draw, it’s about
how you play the game.
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