Table of Contents

1) Conquer Membership Resources

2) The Conquer Journey

3) Conquer Phone Calls

4) Conquer Support Group (Secret Facebook Group)

5) Conquer Video Library

6) “Facebook Lives” and Webinars

7) Additional Courses/Coaching

8) Bonus Materials

9) “Conquer-Speak” - Dictionary of Frequently Used Terms

10) Contacts/Important Information

11) Rules of Conduct, Terms of Use, and Privacy Policy

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Conquer Handbook

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Conquer Journey

leslievernick.com/conquer

Sign In and Click the Conquer Journey

Button at the Top of the Page

Conquer Phone Calls

(712) 432-0075, Then 932799 #

If You Are International, Please Use a Skype Number to Call In

Conquer Video Library leslievernick.com/conquer

Sign In and Click the Video Library Button

Bonus Materials leslievernick.com/conquer

Sign In and Click the Bonus Materials Button

Other Benefits

Discounts, Advanced Notices, and Priority Registration for Special Events and Classes

Private Resources (Available at an Additional Fee)

Public Resources

Webinars

• Requires signup in advance to par-ticipate “live” and to receive a re-play via email when complete.

• Registration via email invite or

link from special event

Public Website • Blog (leslievernick.com/blog)

• Newsletter

• Listing of Leslie Vernick trained coaches

Facebook Live Leslie Vernick—Enriching Rela-tionships that Matter Most

• Participate “Live” at designated time.

• Replay is available on the page afterwards.

Courses/Coaching

• Not part of your Conquer membership

• Offered at various times during the year

• Limited Class Size

• Conquer members receive advanced notice of upcoming classes, priority registration, and discount pricing

NOTICE: Leslie’s Public Resources are Available Free of Charge, but Comments Made on

Facebook “Lives,” Webinars, and the Public Website are NOT PRIVATE.

Secret Facebook Page “Conquer Support Group”

Once in Facebook, Type “Conquer Support Group”

In the Search Bar

The Conquer Journey

• A collection of video teaching modules that Leslie has put together with input from Conquer members

• Provides you with a basic understanding of the issues and concepts that are present in a destructive marriage and gives you tools to navigate your situation while working to become the woman God created you to be.

• You’ll address the most urgent issues first. • You’ll develop a basic understanding of many important

concepts. This will give you a foundation to build upon when you advance to the next set of materials.

• It’s designed to be completed in the order it’s presented.

• It’s helpful to make a binder with tabs for each module. (Download the handouts and transcripts to your computer and print them off for your binder...just be sure to delete the History and Download in the Download Folder from your comput-er and Browser if others may have access to your device.)

• You will only have access to these materials while you are a member of Conquer, so it is wise to obtain the value of the ma-

terials (for your personal use only) while they are available to you. • The program allows you to mark videos and modules as completed, but it does not keep your exact place marked when

you return to continue working. You can resume at the module you left off on by clicking on the appropriate colored square (Module Button) on the left.

What is it? Why Complete It?

Helpful Information

Conquer Phone Calls

Call In Number: 712-432-0075

Access Code: 932799#

(If you are International, Please use a Skype number to call in.)

• Call in a few minutes before the designated time.

• All callers start out “unmuted” prior to the start of the call; there will be background conversations on the line.

• Leslie will mute callers and record the call upon starting.

• If you have a question, wait for Leslie to invite you to press *6. She will give instructions about this on the call.

• The last 4 digits of your phone # are announced when it’s your turn to ask your question.

• Please introduce yourself and state your question FIRST. Leslie will ask for extra background information if needed.

Monday AM Call

1:00-2:30pm (EST)

(Usually the 2nd Monday of the Month)

Monday PM CALL

7:00-9:00pm (EST)

Usually the Last Monday of the Month

Call In Numbers

• Usually available within 24hrs,

• You can download the latest call (along with replays for all calls ever recorded by Conquer).

• Access it via the Member’s Site. Just sign in and click “Monthly Call Information,” then click the button labeled “To Listen to Past Recordings.”

Call Replays

Call Etiquette

Call Schedule

• The current call schedule is available on the member-ship website (leslievernick.com/conquer).

• Log-in and select “Monthly Call Information” to see the dates and times.

• The Call schedule is also available on the Conquer Support Group Facebook page on the left under “Events”

• Reminders for upcoming calls are also on the Conquer Support Group Facebook page, to the right of the feed on a desktop. (See below)

Conquer Support Group (Secret Facebook Group)

Check out what you may have missed by Clicking on “Announcements” to the left of the Facebook Feed.

Search for a topic, a key word, or yours or another member’s post! Enter the infor-mation in the small search bar on the left (circled). This will search only within the Conquer Support Group Facebook page.

(Click the 3 Dots)

Search Function

Need to make a break for a new paragraph?

Just hold down the shift key when you press enter.

Don’t Miss Out!

Find valuable resources stored in the Conquer Support Group Facebook page under “Files.” (See circled area above...at top of feed for phones)

Resources Include:

**Conquer Prayer Request List

**Map to Locate other Members/alumni (ZeeMaps) and instructions for the use of the app on desktop and phone.

**Additional Facebook Help - Create a fake account - Tighten your Facebook security - Hide Conquer posts in your newsfeed

**How to show “Inactive” on FB Messenger

Files

Edit Your Post

• Sign into the Conquer Membership site at leslievernick.com/conquer

• Press the button at the top to start the Con-quer Journey.

• To create a fake account, see the section to the right titled Files, under “Additional Facebook Help”

Want to Join?

Conquer Video Library leslievernick.com/conquer

Two New Videos Each Month

Videos Available by Release Date

Over 85 Teaching Videos Available Only for Conquer Members - and Growing!

Create A File On Your Computer

You only have access to these materials while you are a Conquer Mem-ber. Take advantage of this resource (for your own personal use) by downloading your materials as you go.

Create a folder on your computer so you can easily find the materials. You Could label it “Conquer”, but if you are concerned about others discovering the information stored here, you can label it with a ran-dom (uninteresting) name that would only mean something to you.

Download Files

You will need the latest version of Adobe Reader installed on your computer in order to read some of the PDF documents. Use the link below to obtain you don’t already have it installed.

https://get.adobe.com/reader/

• Click on the document/audio link (the resource title typical-ly). Note: Some files may simply open in your browser. If you want to avoid the file opening, just Right-click (or click-and-hold for Mac users)

• Select Save Target/Link As… and choose Save File… and browse to your “Conquer” folder on your computer hard drive to save the file.

Conquer Safety Warning!

If you download anything from Conquer (or anywhere else) be sure to delete the history from your device and from your browser if you are

concerned that its discovery by others might be harmful to you. Also, delete items from your Downloads Folder after you have saved them to

one of your files This also applies to your browsing History when you visit websites that would invite problems if discovered by others.

Videos Available by Title

Facebook “Lives” and Webinars

• This is a Public Event

• This is Leslie’s Facebook Fan Page

• Type in Leslie Vernick—Enriching Relationships that Matter Most

• Viewers comment “live” on the presentation

• Comments are seen by the Public (it is NOT part of Conquer)

Facebook Live Leslie Vernick—Enriching Relationships That Matter Most

• Conquer Members receive advanced notifications for Webinars.

• This is a Public Event for Registered Attendees only.

• You MUST Register in Advance for the Event to participate.

• Link to Webinar is sent to you by email in advance.

• Viewers comment “live” on the presentation .

• Comments are seen by the Public (it is NOT part of Conquer).

• A Replay will be emailed to you ONLY If you registered.

Webinars

Email to Join Webinar

Leslie’s Facebook Fan Page

Additional Courses/Coaching Available at an Additional Cost

Conquer Members Receive Advanced Notice, Priority Registration and Discounted Pricing

Introduction to CORE Strength (Spring/Fall)

Empowered to Change 6-month Group Coaching (Once a Year in January)

Moving Beyond People Pleasing (Summer)

Walking in CORE Strength 3-Month Group Coaching (Spring/Summer)

3-Month 1-on-1 Coaching With a Trained Leslie Vernick Team Coach (Ongoing with Application)

6-Month 1-on-1 Coaching With a trained Leslie Vernick Team Coach (Ongoing with Application)

• The Body Keeps the Score (Revised)

• Boundaries in Marriage

• Breaking Night

• The Entitlement Cure

• Identity Crisis • Jesus the King • Mindset • Necessary Endings • The Soul of Shame • The Thin Book of Trust • New Titles Added Occasionally

Bonus Materials Login to leslievernick.com/conquer, Then Click on the Bonus Materials Button

Book Reviews

• Risk of Danger

• Understanding Money

• The Emotionally Destructive Relationship Pt.1

• The Emotionally Destructive Relationship Pt.2

• Am I Really That Bad?

• What Happens When I Don’t Get What I Want?

• Why Can’t She Just Leave the Past in the Past?

• Interview with Dave Carter

• Don’t Let Depression Get the Best of You

• Conquer Conference 2016—Selected Recordings

Videos

• Who Wins? - the Final Say

• Why We Should Forgive but not Forget

• The Deceitfulness of Self-Hatred

• Sometimes You Have to Stop Being a Servant

• The Church Response to the Emotionally Destructive Marriage

• Is Emotional Abuse Grounds for a Separation?

• Are You Being Sexually Abused in Your Marriage

• Is Marriage Supposed to be for Better or Worse?

• Character Disorders

• How do You Know Someone is Truly Sorry?

• Five (5) Ways to Stop Discouragement From Getting the

Best of You

• Is Marital Indifference Emotionally Abusive?

• Three Reasons Why We Should Not Forget the Past

• Starting Over: How to Rebuild Your Finances After Escaping

a Financially Abusive Relationship

Articles

“Conquer-Speak” - Dictionary of Frequently Used Terms

ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder (Asperger’s)

BHAG Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal (subject of a video in the Conquer Video Library)

BIFF Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm (a type of response to utilize in order to detach in CORE

BPD Borderline Personality Disorder

C Counselor

CORE Referring to CORE Strength, a manner of being and Acting like the woman God called you and created you to be; Emotionally and relationally healthy

D Daughter

D Day The day a divorce becomes final

DCF Department of Children and Families

DD Dear daughter

DMDD Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (a mental dis order n young people characterized by irritability/ anger and outbursts )disproportionate to the situation

DV Domestic Violence

DVA Domestic Violence Advocate (counselor)

EDM Emotionally Destructive Marriage

EMDR Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

FIL Father-in-law

GAL Guardian ad litem (a person the court appoints to investigate what solutions would be in the “best interests of a child”)

H Husband

IA Intimacy Anorexia (a term used by Dr. Doug Weiss to describe those who are unable to connect emotionally)

JADE Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain (things NOT to do when interacting with a destructive person; your truth is your truth)

MIL Mother-in-law

NPD Narcissistic Personality Disorder

ODD Oppositional Defiant Disorder

OP Order of Protection

PD Police Department

PO Protective Order

PPO Personal Protection Order

QDRO Qualified Domestic Relations Order (a court order used as a part of property division for retirement and pension plans.)

RO Restraining Order

S Son

SAH Stay-at-home

SAHM Stay-at-home-mom

STBX Soon-to-be-Ex

WOOP Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan (part of a four-step mental strategy for realizing and achieving your wishes or goals)

Contacts/Important Information

Who To Contact for Help with Conquer Questions/Issues

assistant@leslievernick.com

Websites and URL’s

Members’ Website: leslievernick.com/conquer

Leslie’s Public Site: leslievernick.com

FB Fan Page: Leslie Vernick—Enriching Relationships that Matter Most

How to Submit a Question or Topic for a

Conquer Video or Phone Call

Email Leslie at leslievernick.com if:

• You are in a time zone that makes it impractical to join our Conquer Calls

• You have a suggestion for an upcoming topic for a Conquer Video

NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: 1-800-799-SAFE

1-800-799-7233

Rules of Conduct/Terms of Use/Privacy Policy

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Conquer Membership

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Conquer Support Group (Facebook Group)

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