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CONFLICT AND CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Rick Henke Manager Twelve25 Youth Enterprise Centre
City of Salisbury
Rotarian, Past President and Assistant Governor GP4 Rotary Club of Salisbury
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Have you thought about conflict today?
Conflict occurs everywhere
in our homes,
in our communities,
between neighbors
on the sports field
on Facebook
between friends
between states,
between countries, and
in the workplace Name some
So what is conflict?
There are many definitions but the one I like is
Conflict is any situation in which your concerns or
desires differ from those of the other person
Team exercise
In your teams brainstorm answers to the following four big questions (15 minutes of music)
Why does war begin? (in big picture terms)
Why does conflict stop?
Where do we learn (and from whom) about conflict resolution?
Is conflict a genetic and / or learned response?
Quote
Forgiveness is not an occasional act,
it is a constant attitude
Martin Luther-King
Healthy vs Damaging
HEALTHY CONFLICT DAMAGING CONFLICT
Disagreements that are communicated in a supportive environment that foster the generation of new ideas or ways to problem solve.
Tension that increases awareness or sheds light on a growing problem.
Name Calling. Personal Attacks. Silent and Withdrawn,
afraid to speak up Cliques, gossip and
rumors. Lack of Mutual Respect Physical violence War.
Quote
“Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and
deepening it.
That factor is attitude”
- William James
Values
Something in which you have belief
Something that helps guide your life decision making
Values are a product of your environment
Values walk
Three broad reasons for conflict
Personal or relational conflicts are usually about identity or self-image, or important aspects of a relationship such as loyalty, breach of confidence, perceived betrayal or lack of respect. Impacted by a persons values.
Instrumental conflicts are about goals, structures, procedures and means: something fairly tangible and structural within the organisation or for an individual.
Conflicts of interest concern the ways in which the means of achieving goals are distributed, such as time, money, space and staff. They may also be about factors related to these, such as relative importance, or knowledge and expertise.
So lets take our knowledge forward
Sometimes our ego or perception of self worth cause conflict
Play video VLC
Conflict resolution style
Play video VLC
Play video MP4
Whats your normal style? (B&S test)
Methods of resolving
Compete / fight – unilateral decision making (ie military command)
Collaborate – team input (ie work team)
Compromise – looking for that win : win mid-point
Denial / Avoiding – making a decision to take no action
Smooth over / Accommodating – allowing the other side to take a win. (ie Mum)
Where do we learn (and from whom) about conflict
resolution?
Conflict resolution is a learned skill
Family
Schools
Community
Your family example?
Personal reflection 10mins
Think of a recent conflict you have been involved in.
(Family, Facebook, Work, etc)
What was the conflict?
What was the underlying cause of the conflict?
Was this a new conflict or something ongoing?
Which style did you use to respond? How did others respond?
Write your answers down
Active listening Role play
Scenario :
Bill and Ben have been working together for 4 years in a bakery.
Over that time Bill has been doing the financial accounts and Ben has been the ‘ideas man’ focusing on doing the work.
They have just received an unexpected refund of $20,000 to the business, Bill wants to use it to pay off all the debt but Ben thinks it’s a massive opportunity to try and grow the business with a new coffee shop.
What to do with the $20,000 has become a major source of conflict.
Active Listening – High EQ
Keys to active listening:-
• Listen politely
• Ask questions for clarification
• Repeat what was said in your own words
• Summarise
• Acknowledge speakers point of view and feelings
• Positive Non-verbals
Practice
Working through conflict - strategies
• Role of the third person
• Speakers stick
• Seating - circle.
6 Steps to conflict resolution
1. Clarify what the disagreement is about
2. Establish a common goal
3. Discuss ways that could be used to meet the common goal
4. Determine barriers
5. Agree on best way to resolve conflict
6. Acknowledge and record the agreed solution and determine responsibilities
Thoughts from the experts – on ted.com
Lets go to the balcony
Play video MP4
Reference http://www.ted.com/talks/william_ury?language=en
Thank you Presentation is available at
What does Rotary do around preventing conflict and creating
peace?