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Transcript of Conflict resolution
Skill #1
Think Win-Win If you care about what they want, you’ll get a lot
more of what you want COMPROMISE!
What’s a Win for you? What’s a win for them?
Skill #2
Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood Listen first, then talk Our tendency: talk first, then pretend to listen
Act like a mirror It reflects It doesn’t argue back Repeat in your own words what the other person is saying and feeling
“So, you’re saying that…” “You feel _______ about ________.”
Synergize Action Plan
1. Define the problem or opportunity2. Seek first to understand the ideas of
others3. Seek to be understood by sharing
your ideas4. Brainstorm: Create new options and
ideas5. Find the best solution
Let’s Practice
You want to go out on Saturday night with your friends, but your parents want you to stay home with the family because you have been out the last 3 weekends in a row, and your grandparents are there from out of town to visit.
Disarming the other person
DROP YOUR SWORD! Apologize Bite your tongue Seek first to understand by repeating in
your own words what they are saying and feeling
Two Classic Blunders
Getting in the last word Sometimes its best to leave the situation for a little
bit and return once you have your emotions in check “I hate you”
Can’t take it back Most of the time you regret saying it afterwards, but
you never regret NOT saying it
Conflict Resolution at School
Bullying: STOP IT on the spot! It starts with YOU
Intervene immediately. It is ok to get another adult to help Be more than a bystander
Don’t give bullying an audience Help them get away Tell a trusted adult Be their friend Set a good example
Understand
Understand the problems or needs that caused the conflict
See the two sides or viewpoints
See the whole problem and how their behavior
contributed to it Think of possible
consequences if the conflict continues
Reflect
What did I learn from this situation?Could I have handled it in a better way?What would I do differently next time?