Copyright 2009, ASK & RECEIVE, Altaffer & Radomski www.askandreceive.org

By: THOMAS ALTAFFER, L.C.S.W.

SANDRA RADOMSKI, N.D., L.C.S.W., DCEP

ALTAFFER & RADOMSKI

sk eceivee

Copyright 2009, ASK & RECEIVE, Altaffer & Radomski www.askandreceive.org

Dedication This Ask and Receive manual is dedicated to the members of our amazing Therapist Group who have inspired us. Their love, appreciation and total support has made this process possible. They have been the guinea pigs for every variation and nuance of its development.

We thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

For Tom, this group has been a dream come true.

For Sandi, the group represented a community of unconditional love and support when she most needed it.

Our love and gratitude,

Sandi & Tom

Pictured: Tara, Bonnie, Marie, Barbara, Tom, Sandi, Pam & Ellen Not pictured: Chris

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Disclaimer

This manual is presented to healthcare providers for educational and research purposes. It is not intended to replace medical care. There is no guarantee that these treatments will perform as discussed. Negative side effects of these treatments are not documented. However, there is no assurance that there will be no negative side effects for your patients. Any consequences of the use of these techniques are the responsibility of the individual. The procedures presented are not intended to diagnose, treat or prevent any disease.

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Table of Contents

Stumbling into the Light ............................................... 6

What is Ask & Receive? .............................................. 8

How Does it Work? ...................................................... 8

What is Muscle Testing ............................................. 10

Muscle Testing Instructions ....................................... 14

Working With Another Person ................................... 16

Mechanics of Self Muscle Testing.......................... 18

O-Ring Test 18

Calibration Exercise 1 ............................................ 19

Calibration Exercise 2 ............................................ 20

Calibration Exercise 3 ............................................ 22

Muscle Testing Summary ...................................... 23

Ask & Receive: The Underlying Principles ................ 24

If you aren’t your personality who are you? ........... 25

The A & R Process .................................................... 26

Using A&R to treat Physical issues ........................... 33

Using A&R to treat Neurological Issues ..................... 38

Using A&R to treat Psychological Issues. .................. 40

God is all there is. Everything else is perceptual error ........ 46

Limiting Beliefs ……………………..………………….49 Ego Development ...................................................... 51

Some Facts about Ego Development .................... 52

STAGE 1 53

STAGE 2 54

STAGE 3 54

STAGE 4 55

STAGE 5 55

STAGE 6 55

STAGE 7 55

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Table of Contents cont.

Ego Development

STAGE 8…………………………………………… 56

Concluding Thoughts ................................................. 64

Appendix A - Stages of Ego Development ..................... 66

Appendix B - A & R Process ........................................ 68

Appendix C - Learning the Lesson of Your Symptoms ... 72

Appendix D - Positive Beliefs that Encourage Freedom . 73

Appendix E - Testimonials ......................................... 74

Products and Services………………………………… 77

References……………………………………………. 80

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STUMBLING INTO THE LIGHT

Ask & Receive came into being because it was needed. It came to Sandi and myself out of an attempt to heal my terrible allergies and then as a way to help us both through some serious life stresses. Sandi and I met about three years ago when she moved into the area. We both like to think we successfully manifested the other because our unique needs, skills, and interests so complement each other. At the time we met I was struggling with severe allergies and had tried everything both medical and alternative to heal them with minimal effect. Then Sandi sprang into my life: someone who has dedicated herself to treating allergies, sensitivities, and focusing on the primary biological origins of most medical and psychological conditions. My own therapeutic focus had been on treating trauma and limiting beliefs which I saw at the heart of most psychological conditions. Without really knowing each other Sandi and I had both been on a very similar journey as we struggled to learn more to help our clients.

As with most dedicated therapists our focus has always pushed the envelope of what was considered ―responsible‖. When we began as therapists (Sandi in the 70’s and me in the 80’s) we rejected the popular focus on psychoanalytic therapies in favor of the objective precision of Behaviorism. Eventually we began to see behaviorism’s short comings especially in terms of handling systems issues and trauma, so our focus shifted to systems based therapies and we began to learn ever better ways of treating trauma. In the 90’s we were both pulled toward the emerging field of energy medicine and both of us became fascinated with its power and effectiveness.

When A&R first emerged we were struggling to treat my allergies. We had already used every possible form of allergy treatment and my nose was still running. Out of our frustration Sandi decided to ask my body (see section on muscle testing) if ―there is a part of my being that knows how to heal my allergies‖. We were both somewhat surprised to get a positive response, but we excitedly asked those parts to ―please heal them for me now‖. We were even more surprised when my stubborn sinuses began to dry up and I was able to start breathing normally.

This led to the exciting period of discovery in which we still find ourselves. We quickly discovered that this simple Ask and Receive process was

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extremely flexible. Our existential leap into the Ask & Receive procedure grew out of a combination of Tom’s Higher States Therapy along with Sandi’s Allergy Antidotes. Higher States helps to shift the client into very high levels of consciousness from which they have access to information not available in normal awareness. Allergy Antidotes uses muscle testing to find and heal the body’s defensive reaction to the environment at levels that are typically below the level of conscious awareness. Using both of these approaches we were able to more fully develop A&R as well as discover some important guiding principles of consciousness development.

As we were excitedly showing A&R to our friends and co-workers we were asked to share it with some families who had kids with autism. It was pointed out that if it worked, this technique would be perfect for this difficult population because of its ease of use and minimal dependence on language. We have been gratified to see so many families embrace the concept and use it to help their children. In return, we have been privileged to be shown a window into a profoundly different experience of reality (which we call autism) that has helped shed light on how all of us create the worlds in which we live.

We have gone on to use A&R to treat ―physical‖ issues such as allergies, sensitivities, pain, and arthritis. We have used it to treat ―neurological‖ issues such as sensory perception, autoimmune discrimination, and perceptions of threat or safety. And we have used it for ―psychological‖ issues such as trauma and limiting beliefs. A&R has taught us that we are only limited by our own imagination and willingness to surrender our pain and expectation. We do more harm by not asking for enough than by asking too much.

Ask & Receive is truly an evolution and combination of various concepts. It includes Energy Psychology protocols of holding a thought or substance in our energy field. It incorporates muscle testing as a way to identify problems & check for clearing. Higher States gives us access to answers that are otherwise unavailable, and concepts of self development of self help to utilize these techniques to effect changes in our behaviors. We can see how early problems in development of self causes more obstacles later. Getting off track at a very early age causes more disruption from reality then later trauma.

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For every part

of self with a

problem – there

is a part of

being with an

answer.

WHAT IS ASK & RECEIVE? For many people it is simplest to think of Ask & Receive as structured prayer. Virtually all spiritual traditions teach the importance of prayer and testify to its power and effectiveness. It is rare however for them to teach the actual process of prayer or to give a dynamic understanding of why and how it works. This manual will show you how to effectively use Ask & Receive to transform your life.

Higher States shows that our conscious awareness is only a small sampling of a huge number of possible awareness. They are all readily available through muscle testing or other non-conscious mind techniques.

Ask and Receive is based on the assumption that for every part of self with a problem there is a part of being with an answer. Higher States work gave us the understanding that we always have the answer. We just have to ask the right part, the right question.

HOW DOES IT WORK? In Ask & Receive we are directly asking a part of our larger Being to do the healing. Our Being refers to the expression of self which is bigger, higher, with a broader perspective. It is based on the concept that our Being is vastly greater and more powerful than we are aware. It is based on the belief that the higher, broader part of yourself always has the answer to your question. Ask & Receive looks beyond the ego or personality for the solution. ―Beyond each man in a fashion continues with him there exist a larger power which is friendly to him and to his ideals.‖ William James.

Ask & Receive is all about asking for what you want and then receiving it. 1. Identify what you want. 2. Believe it is possible to have what you want. 3. Realize you deserve to have what you want. 4. Know that there is a part of your Being that knows how to get it. It is about having your dreams come true.

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“Your Being is

vastly greater

and more

powerful than

you think.

Before jumping right into the meat of the A&R process, it is important to take a moment to acquaint you with some background on how and why the process works.

A&R is based on a fairly complex understanding of the nature of consciousness. Essentially, we are not singular personalities. Our apparent ―self‖ identity is based on an illusion composed of our attention, habit, and the human tendency to personalize experience.

Instead, we are composed of many fragments, or parts, that exist in relationship to each other within the Self. These parts exist at varying levels of complexity. Some of these parts are accessible to consciousness while others aren’t. Some of these parts have access to language while others don’t. Some of these are focused on physical functioning such as maintaining heart rate or blood pressure while others are perceptual or belief sets which structure and filter experience.

These parts exist in relationship to each other as well as in relationship with the environment. They are often not conscious and largely invisible to

the individual who continues to believe he or she is a singular personality.

These parts are often not integrated within the individual and frequently in conflict, directing thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in opposing ways. These parts can also be perceived from various perspectives that provide differing levels of complexity. Changing the perspective changes the

meaning of the perception. All this complexity results in a great deal of confusion and bad communication within the individual. This leads us to want one thing and do another, to hurt those we love and to engage in ―out-of-control‖ behavior.

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WHAT IS MUSCLE TESTING With A&R we can use a simple process called muscle testing to bypass the limitations of our conscious thought and access more of our parts, where they exist at varying levels of perception. Not only can we use it to find the parts that are not serving us, but we can also use it to find those parts of our being that know how to heal them. With A&R, healing dysfunctional parts becomes a straightforward business of detection and resolution. Beginning with what we most want, we start healing while continually looking for feedback and adding to what we are requesting.

We might start by asking to sleep better and noticing perhaps some improvement in falling asleep but still waking during the night. So then we might ask to wake less or fall back to sleep easily. Then we might notice more improvement but not on nights when we are worried about work, so we might treat for being able to sleep restfully even when worried about work.

Some issues may change immediately, while others may take many days or weeks of effort as we learn to specify what we are asking for. We become detectives of our own unconscious, always asking ourselves the question ―Why am I creating this?‖ ―What limiting belief do I have that would create this problem?‖ ―What must I believe to be true to create and maintain this issue in my life?‖

Many people don’t like to think of themselves as being this powerful, but we all create our own experience. Now at least we have a tool to start discovering how our own confusion and trauma has splintered our perception and caused so much of our suffering.

The art of muscle testing was developed by Dr. George Goodheart in the 1960's, and refined by Dr. John Diamond in the 1970's. Their discoveries are leading to profound changes in the treatment of physical and emotional disturbance. Among many other things, what they discovered is that the body reacts physically to states of congruence and incongruence. This physical reaction takes the form of a weakening of the muscles when presented with incongruent stimuli and a strengthening of the muscles when presented with congruent stimuli. While this reaction can be very subtle in some people, it appears to be a reliable effect (Energy Diagnostic

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and Treatment Methods by Dr. Fred Gallo provides an in depth summary of the experimental validation of muscle testing). Not only does this phenomenon appear to affect everyone, but it affects every muscle of the body. Therefore, the actual testing can utilize any convenient muscle in the body.

This weakening of muscles when one is not in alignment with a statement, substance or other stimuli is truly a physiological phenomenon. It was used as a way to interrogate spies during the Second World War. They were unable to have the same amount of muscle strength when telling a lie.

In muscle testing, we are assessing whether our body is congruent with the frequency of the substances or in alignment with the truth of the repeated statements. Muscle testing validity can be verified merely by noting that you have more difficulty holding a gallon jug of water when you say untrue statements.

Muscle testing validity has been scientifically studied. Dr. Daniel Monti, psychiatrist and Chairman of the department of Integrative Medicine at Jefferson Medical School in Philadelphia, PA conducted a research study in Perceptual and Motor Skills that documents the validity of results obtained through muscle testing. College students made statements of their real name or a false name (Ralph if male and Alice if female.) In addition they stated that they were an American citizen or a Russian citizen. All of the student subjects were American citizens. Each subject was muscle tested for each of the statements. It was found that they were able to withstand 17% more pressure for 57% more time when repeating true statements. Clearly the muscle testing procedure was able to distinguish true and false statements. The exciting aspect of this experiment is that the subjects were being muscle tested with a computerized dynameter which was clearly objective. The results were totally independent of a human tester pressing harder on the arm of the subject.

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TYPES OF MUSCLE TESTING Muscle testing can be done in many ways. The traditional muscle test entails the practitioner testing the Deltoid muscle of a client. In doing this the practitioner is getting information from the person’s energy system. We can also test a person who is touching someone else (usually a child, animal or sick person). In this instance the practitioner is gathering information from the other person. The person being muscle tested is the surrogate for the child or animal.

We can also muscle test ourselves. We can do this to get information for ourselves or on behalf of another.

Types of Muscle Testing

Arm – Deltoid

Arm – Deltoid for someone else – Surrogate

Self Test

Self test on behalf of other

Traditional muscle testing requires two people: one subject and one tester. The subject typically extends an arm out from his side while the tester presses down "challenging" the muscle. In doing so the tester learns to feel the difference in muscle tension between congruent and incongruent states. Most testers describe a congruent state as "strong" or "resilient", and an incongruent state as testing "weak" or "mushy". Most subjects describe that it is easy to hold their arms against pressure in the congruent state but difficult to impossible in the incongruent state.

Dr. Diamond discovered that many things can put someone in an incongruent state. Exposure to allergens or toxins for example will make

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someone test "weak". This can be true even for very subtle toxins which the person does not consciously notice such as fluorescent lighting or pesticides on an apple. Other types of congruence vs. incongruence include telling the truth vs. a lie, or thinking about a negative event or emotion vs. thinking about a loved one or positive event.

Because of its broad applicability, ease of use, and portability, muscle testing is fast becoming a preferred "projective measure" for many psychotherapists. Psychotherapy has long sought such tools. Psychoanalysis traditionally used dream interpretation and word association. Gestalt therapy used another form of dream interpretation and dissociative techniques. Hypnosis used ideomotor reflex, and the field of psychology in general developed a range of "projective" tests such as the Rorschach and Thematic Aspersion Test. The intention behind all of these techniques and tests is to tap into information that is generally out of consciousness.

Useful as all of these techniques can be to the trained practitioner, they have all been criticized as being unreliable or reflecting the prejudice or world view of the interpreter. Muscle testing is another projective test, and like the others, it has also been accused of being unreliable or too easily influenced by the wishes or expectations of the client or practitioner. In experienced hands however, it can be a very useful tool, especially when used in ways that can be independently validated. This tutorial will not only teach you the mechanics of muscle testing but, how to use A & R to quickly find and resolve your blocks to reliable testing. While the mechanics are easy to learn, refining the process and becoming adept will take time and a willingness to explore your own limiting beliefs.

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MUSCLE TESTING INSTRUCTIONS

1. Have the person being tested put arm out to side parallel to the floor with elbow straight.

2. Test on side of person with one hand on wrist and one hand on shoulder.

3. Test with 2 fingers, 2 pounds of pressure for 2 seconds.

4. Use consistent, steady pressure.

5. Have an objective attitude – keep mind clear of expectations

6. Explain this is not a fighting match – it is a way to get information that would otherwise be unavailable.

It is helpful to have a consistent method to calibrate your muscle testing. You can use the set of 4 statements below to begin you sessions. It allows you a way to identify how the person’s arm is going to react. Some people’s arms drop completely while others barely move. Because we are actually measuring a response in the person’s energy system, the arm response has nothing to do with the size, weight or sex of the person being tested.

It is also helpful for the person being tested to have a clear idea of what you are expecting of them. Everyone wants to be a good patient, a good student. Often people are confused about what they are supposed to do. These questions have clear, known answers. We can continue to work on them until you both feel comfortable with the responses.

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MUSCLE TEST CALIBRATION

Say: ―My name is (insert your name).‖ Strong Say: ―My name is Ben Franklin‖ Weak

Think: of something wonderful Strong Think: of something terrible Weak

Think: of someone you love Strong Think: of someone who upsets you Weak

Say: ―yes‖ Strong Say: ―no‖ Weak

If you are having difficulty distinguishing between the congruent and incongruent responses you can utilize the Spindle Cell Technique. It is another physiological phenomenon that pushing together the fibers of the belly of a muscle will cause weakness and pulling apart the fibers will cause strengthening.

Using your thumb and index finger you can either pull apart or push together the fibers of the anterior deltoid muscle as shown as the darkened area of the diagram.

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During the Ask & Receive procedure if you begin to get unusual muscle testing responses, merely return to the 4 questions to calibrate again.

This is the general approach to muscle testing. This will give you a positive or negative (yes / no) response for anything you wish to ask the body. As you are gaining experience with this process it is useful to work with a subject (or with Self Muscle Testing) and work through the various calibration exercises listed below.

WORKING WITH ANOTHER PERSON When testing another person it is best to first check to make sure that this person tests reliably. It is possible that because of toxins or other imbalances the person does not test as expected. Test in this order.

1) Challenge the muscle by pushing down on the arm as the person tries to resist while not focusing his mind on anything. Make sure that the arm is strong and that you calibrate for yourself what a positive response feels like. This is called testing in the ―clear‖.

2) Have the person place his other hand (from the arm which is not being tested) palm down on the top of his head. Test the arm. It should test strong. Have the person turn his hand over and put the back of his hand on top of his head. Test the arm. It should test weak.

3) Have the person state: ―I want to be happy‖ and test. It should test strong. Have the person state ―I want to be miserable‖ and test. It should test weak.

4) You can now proceed confidently with A & R.

It is important that the novice challenge his or her ability to test in ways which provide objective feedback. It should be expected that initially your accuracy will not be very high. If this happens, do not immediately blame muscle testing, instead practice, learn how to resolve the problems which come up, and treat yourself for limiting beliefs which you might subconsciously hold which affect your testing.

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Now that you have this basic understanding of Muscle Testing you may choose to continue reading about how to muscle test yourself, or skip forward to the calibration exercises. In performing the calibration exercises it may be necessary to use A & R to resolve limiting beliefs or conflicts. If this happens, feel free to skip forward to the sections on the A & R procedure.

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MECHANICS OF SELF MUSCLE TESTING As stated above, the phenomenon of muscle testing occurs in every muscle of the body, so it is only important to find a muscle which is convenient and to which you can apply a consistent, measured pressure in order to "challenge" it. For this reason there are many forms of self muscle testing. One of the easiest to learn and most reliable is called the O-ring test. Illustrations and instructions for this can be found in the table below.

O-Ring Test

1. Make a circle with the thumb and index finger of each hand in the shape of an O.

2. Interlock these two O's and hold them firmly closed.

3. Try to pull the two O's apart and take note of the amount of force needed to do this. Do this several times until you have a good sense of how much force it takes to break out. In self testing you will want to use slightly less force than it takes to break out.

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“There are

parts of my

being that

know how to

muscle test

correctly”

CALIBRATION EXERCISE 1 Once you have a good sense of how much pressure to apply, begin by asking yourself (or your subject) simple questions to which you already know the answer, then testing. For example make the statement "My name is (correct name)" and test, "My name is (incorrect name)" and test. You should notice that your fingers remain strong on the correct statement and break apart on the incorrect statement. Try this a few times and keep track of your results.

Many people initially experience trouble with this first stage of calibration. They find that they cannot discriminate the difference, or the results are reversed (holding strong on the false statement and weak on the true one). Problems in discrimination can generally be corrected by resolving limiting beliefs you hold about yourself or the process. Luckily at this stage you do not need to know specifically what they are, only that you have them. If you are experiencing problems with discrimination, focus your attention on the problem and target

it with A & R. You may need to repeat this treatment until discrimination becomes easier

If your muscle testing appears to be reversed (you consistently test strong on false statements and weak on true statements) it indicates that your system is currently under stress from toxins. You can temporarily treat yourself for this effect by focusing your attention on eliminating this problem and performing A & R (see the steps for A&R in later sections). You may need to do this several times until the problem is corrected. Check regularly to see if this problem returns. If it, does re-treat.

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As you investigate this process, test yourself in many areas of your life in which you already know the answer, such as:

Your address. "I live at 322 W. Acorn Dr." test, "I don't live at 322 W. Acorn Dr."

The State in which you live. "I live in New Jersey" test, "I don't live in New

Jersey"

The names of your children.

Anything else about which you already know the answer.

Keep track of your responses. Continue to check and treat as above until your

response rate is at or near 100%.

CALIBRATION EXERCISE 2 Now for the fun stuff. In order to be confident about your testing you now need to begin testing yourself for things about which you do not know the answer but which can be verified. This part of muscle testing can be hard to learn and may require some perseverance. To begin this process take a coin and toss it. Without looking at the coin, test whether it is heads or tails. Do this by making statements and testing them: "the coin is a heads" test, "the coin is a tails" test. Do these 10 times and write the results down on a piece of paper. If your results were random you would have approximately 5 correct and 5 incorrect tests. If you have dramatically more or less correct you can begin to suspect some influence is being reflected in your testing. Your testing will reflect either random results (4 to 6 correct), poor results (0 to 3 correct) or good results (7 to 10 correct). This test can be repeated as often as you like in order to ensure the results are reliable.

If the results you obtained were poor, remember that this is as unlikely as getting good results. You are getting a reversed test about the results of the coin flip. The reason for this is likely to be limiting beliefs you hold about your ability to muscle test or the efficacy of muscle testing. The same is true if your results appear random. There is a part of yourself which is blocking a correct reading of the coin flip.

You can treat yourself for this with A & R: Muscle test yourself on the following statements (and their opposites) in order to discover where the blocks might lie.

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Positive Statement Negative Statement

I am competent at self muscle

testing.

I am able to test for coin flips

reliably.

It is possible to know information

which is not in my conscious mind.

It is OK to know this information.

I can do this consistently and

reliably.

I will do this consistently and

reliably.

I am not competent at self muscle

testing

I am not able to test for coin flips

reliably.

It is not possible to know information

which is not in my conscious mind.

It is not OK to know this information.

I cannot do this consistently and

reliably.

I will not do this consistently and

reliably.

Whenever you test weak on the positive statement and/or strong on the negative treat yourself with A & R until you test strong on the positive statement and weak on the negative. Do this for the entire list, then do the coin flipping exercise again and write down your results. Look for change. Did it get worse, better or remain the same? If your testing is still poor to average, test the following statements:

Positive Statement Negative Statement

I want to muscle test accurately on

myself every time I test for anything.

I will be able to learn this technique.

I am smart enough to do this.

I deserve such elegant help.

Muscle testing does work.

This is an effective means of testing.

This is not too weird for me

I do not want to muscle test accurately

on myself every time I test for anything.

I will never be able to learn this

technique.

I am not smart enough to do this.

I don't deserve such elegant help.

Muscle testing does not work.

This is not an effective means of testing.

This is just too weird for me.

Whenever you test weak on the positive statement and strong on the negative treat yourself with A & R until you test strong on the positive statement and weak on the negative. Do this for the entire list, then do the coin flipping exercise again and write down your results. Look for change. Typically your testing should have improved significantly by this time so

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that you can reliably achieve 7 to 10 out of 10 correct. If not, there are likely to be even deeper blocks for which you should enlist the aid of a person who is trained in the A & R protocol.

If you are achieving 7 to 9 out of 10 correct in your muscle testing you can continue to work to improve this over time. Do this coin flipping exercise regularly and when you do not get a correct test treat yourself immediately with A & R

You now know the accuracy of your testing for coin flips. If you reliably get 7 out of 10 then your reliability is 70%. This is pretty good. There are few other projective tests which can even begin to approach such a number. The trouble is that your accuracy in testing for coins may not reflect your accuracy in testing for other information.

CALIBRATION EXERCISE 3 Muscle testing's greatest utility is in giving us information which is in our mind but not conscious. The problem is that this information is often not overtly confirmable. Our ability to derive this information with muscle testing is generally better than for information which is not in our awareness at all (such as coin toss results) but should still be calibrated for. This exercise may take some inventiveness on your part. Let’s begin by muscle testing for, and treating, possible obvious blocks.

Positive Statement Negative Statement

I am competent at self muscle testing

for unconscious issues.

I am able to test for unconscious issues

reliably.

It is possible to know information

which is not in my conscious mind.

It is OK for me to know this

information.

I can do this consistently and reliably.

I will do this consistently and reliably.

I am not competent at self muscle testing

for unconscious issues.

I am not able to test for unconscious

issues reliably.

It is not possible to know information

which is not in my conscious mind.

It is not OK for me to know this

information.

I cannot do this consistently and reliably.

I will not do this consistently and reliably.

Treat where necessary with A & R

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Now find things which are in your unconscious but not in your conscious mind and test about them. For example, "I left my keys in the living room", "I didn't". "I left my keys in the bedroom", "I didn't". Or "I put the cheese on the second shelf in the refrigerator", "I didn't". "I put the cheese on the third shelf", "I didn't". You can then go and confirm this information easily. If you are incorrect then focus on whatever might have caused the incorrect testing (you do not need to know this consciously) and treat yourself with A & R You will probably find that your testing is less accurate for factual information like where you left your keys than for emotional information like "I will feel happy when my wife comes home", "I will not".

MUSCLE TESTING SUMMARY Becoming adept at muscle testing is a long term proposition. There will probably be areas which appear to resist your ability to test. For example, I reliably get 80 to 90% accuracy in testing for coin flips, close to 100% for emotional information, but am average in testing for unconscious factual information such as where my keys are. This is because I do not yet believe that I can know this information. This is a limiting belief which I have not yet completely corrected. Remember it is only you who are limiting yourself; the limitations are not a function of the process.

I have been muscle testing people’s affirmations which are struggling to achieve, since 1990. It is almost universally true that when people are repeating an affirmation for a goal their body tests weak on it. That is because if they were congruent with the content of the statement, they would already have it. They would not be asking for it. Therefore just repeating and repeating their affirmations do nothing more than continually weaken the arm. No wonder just repeating affirmations does not usually work.

In Ask & Receive we are specifically contacting that part of our Being that is already in alignment with the affirmation and asking it to let the rest of us bring that alignment into full awareness.

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“We are

built to

look out

rather

than in.”

“Personality

is a

perceptual

error.”

ASK & RECEIVE: THE UNDERLYING PRINCIPLES

The actual technique involved in A&R is deceptively simple. The complex part is in understanding how the Self is composed. People who just jump right into A&R without this understanding are likely to become frustrated and feel unsuccessful. A&R asserts that personality is a perceptual error.

Essentially it does not exist, we only think it does. Personality is composed of beliefs we hold about ourselves that form a filter between us and reality. This filter can be useful or not depending on how we choose to use it but it is not in itself real. Changing the beliefs changes the filter which changes the perception. These beliefs are always limiting because they are filtering out most information and selectively focusing on perceptions which fit the filter. Because we tend not to question

our filters (because they are largely invisible to us) we identify with our beliefs and perceptions turning them into personality.

Everything that happens to us is a function of how our beliefs are filtering our experience. Our perception is that problems or negative conditions arise outside of ourselves and then impact us. The result is that we react

in ways that are opposite to what is useful. We defend, contract, fight and oppose, which produces similar reactions in others around us. Once we understand that our limited beliefs and perceptions are at fault we can begin to take effective actions that won’t produce these negative reactions. We can release our limiting beliefs and open to experience.

When you watch little children play one might do or say something to ―make‖ another angry. That child will then cry, yell, hit, or run

away which will ―make‖ the other child upset. Each child will believe that he is the victim of the other. Their perceptions are telling them different information about the same events.

As we mature our ability to adopt broader perspectives, that include others and systems, can develop but they are still fundamentally limited by our perceptual apparatus. We are built to look out rather than in.

Once we understand that virtually all experience is the product of our perceptions, we discover its inherent power. Rather than trying

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unsuccessfully to control experience we can turn our attention to our own perceptions and beliefs. If you aren’t happy, what beliefs and perceptions are creating this reality for you?

IF YOU AREN’T YOUR PERSONALITY WHO ARE YOU? We are so much larger than we think we are. Our limited perceptions have reduced our sense of self to a bunch of limiting beliefs. In truth all of us are unlimited by anything outside of ourselves. God (however you define Him) is not separate from us. We all have power, knowledge and perceptions that are not limited by our bodies, our senses or our beliefs. All we need to gain access to these parts of self is openness and a willingness to ask. There are parts of your being that already know why you are unhappy and they even know how to fix it. There are parts of your being that know why your joints hurt or why you can’t seem to get ahead. These parts are available to you right now all you have to do is ask. They are willing to start healing you right now all you have to do is be willing to receive.

As an aid in asking and receiving we like to use muscle testing as an added indication that these parts of our ―out of conscious‖ awareness are responding to our intention but if you are not yet comfortable with muscle testing the process can be done with nothing more complicated than a felt sense.

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THE A & R PROCESS

Think of something you want: less pain, more money, relief from anxiety, anger or sadness. Most of us are much more aware of what we don’t want than what we do. We don’t want to be broke, we don’t want pain, we don’t want fear or sadness. While we can ask for freedom from what we don’t want, healing is much more effective if we ask for what we do want – clearly and specifically. In fact, specificity is tremendously important because of how we have fragmented our ―self‖. The pain in your knee, the anxiety in your belly, may have many different specific causes and so may quire several A & R ―treatments‖ before they are fully healed. The good news is that your conscious mind generally does not need to know what beliefs or perceptions are causing the problem. Other parts of your being already know what are causing it. We will discuss this in more detail later but for now let’s just try it.

Step 1: Begin with a negative perception you can measure – a feeling of anxiousness in your gut or a pain in your knee. Allow your awareness to tune into it. If you are using muscle testing, test while the attention is on the limitation. You should get a weak response because the thing you are focusing on is non-congruent. If the limitation is a belief rather than a feeling, make the statement: ―There are parts of my being that already know how to ______ with grace and ease.‖ Again, this test should be weak because if it knew how it would have done so already. If you test strong, consider a different conceptualization of the presenting problem. If it knows how to heal then does that part not want to heal? Does it believe you don’t deserve to heal? Consider what could be maintaining the problem and test for it, then treat those statements which give you a weak test.

Step 2: Now make the statement ―Those parts of my being are willing to inform the rest of me now.‖ Attend to the response. If you are comfortable with muscle testing, test to see if you get a positive response. Otherwise simply pay attention to your ―felt sense‖ of whether the statement feels true or not.

Step 3: Make the statement ―My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.‖ And attend to the response. It is not enough just to ask, we

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The more

we do the

more we

discover

needs

treatment.

We have

to be

willing

to

receive

.

have to be willing to receive. As you gain experience with A&R you will be surprised at how we limit what we will allow ourselves to receive due to limiting beliefs about deserving.

If the response is positive, continue, if it is negative (weak) check again for limiting beliefs as in the last step. Treat any limiting belief fully before returning and checking again for a positive response.

Step 4: Make the statement ―Information transfer is now complete.‖ And attend to the response. Negative (weak)

responses here indicate that the healing will require more time to complete. It is possible for healing to require minutes, hours, days or even weeks or months. If you choose you can test for how long the healing will take to complete using muscle testing. Simply state ―this healing will take more than 5 minutes to complete‖, and test. If weak this indicates that the treatment will take less than 5 minutes. If strong, test for larger amounts of time: 10 minutes, 1 hour, 1 day.

Once testing indicates that the healing is complete retest for what you have requested (e.g. ―the sadness in my heart is healing now‖). You should receive a positive (strong) response. If the response is negative (weak) re-treat until you receive a strong (positive) response.

With practice this treatment gets easier and faster. The more you do this the fewer limiting beliefs arise which need treatment (because they have already been treated). Learning self muscle testing speeds this process up

even more and allows you to treat for virtually anything that comes to mind.

It is a good thing that this process can be so rapid because the more we do the more we discover needs treatment. Virtually anything is possible with curiosity, ingenuity and persistence, but certain problems will likely require considerable time and effort to resolve completely. For example, this process is being used to help children with autism with some of their fundamental biological and neurological problems. Effecting the body at this level is often complex and can’t be done by simply asking ―There

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is part of my being that knows how to heal autism‖. Instead, it is necessary to find specific sensitivities, traumas, phobias and limiting beliefs. Once you feel comfortable with the process of A&R, it is time to consider where to look for answers to deep problems

The steps:

PRE TEST

a. “My body knows how to ___ (state what you want)” or b. Touch place of problem

Test: If strong, you are in congruence with statement. If weak, do A&R Step 1.

1. “There are parts of my being that already know how to ______

with grace and ease.”

Test: If strong, go to 2. If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

2. “Those parts of my being are willing to inform the rest of me

now.” Test: If strong, go to 3.

If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

3. “My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.” Test: If strong, go to 4.

If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

4. “Information transfer is now complete.” Test: If strong, go to Post-Test.

If weak, investigate time to completion. POST TEST

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a. “My body knows how to (state what you want).” or b. Touch the place of the problem.

Test: If strong, you are complete. If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

PURPOSE OF STATEMENT ASK & RECEIVE STATEMENT

Contacting parts of my Being that knows the answer

A. There are parts of my Being that already know how to _____________________.

Ask the parts of Being to help

B. Those parts of my Being are willing to inform the rest of me now.

Confirm willingness to receive answer

C. My body, mind & spirit are receiving this information.

Confirm receiving information

D. Information transfer is complete.

BLOCKING TRAUMAS OR BELIEFS

If weak, ask

A. There is a Trauma blocking this treatment. If strong, muscle test for age of trauma and treat using A&R for no longer needing to be traumatized for this event.

B. There is a Limiting Belief blocking this treatment.

If strong, muscle test for

1. It is SAFE for me to ______________.

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Check

for what

belief is

interfering.

2. It is POSSIBLE for me to __________.

3. I DESERVE to __________________.

If weak, treat using A&R.

LIMITING BELIEF BLOCKING TREATMENT It is rare to get a negative response to this statement. There are always

parts of your being that know how to heal your relationship with what is. However it is possible to believe that your being doesn’t know, can’t know, or doesn’t deserve to know that simply asking is even possible. Because our beliefs determine our perceptions, if we do get a negative response we need to check for what belief might be interfering. We check for the truth of the beliefs in the same way we do the original statements either with muscle testing or using felt sense.

State:

1. ―It is safe for me to heal ___.‖ 2. ―I deserve to heal ____.‖ 3. ―It is possible for my being to know ____.‖

(See the section on limiting beliefs for more possible limiting/blocking beliefs)

If you discover that you have a limiting belief either about this technique or about yourself in relation to healing, complete treatment on that belief first before treating the original problem.

For example, if you were originally attempting to treat yourself for sadness in your heart and you test weak to the statement ―there are parts of my being that know how to release the sadness in my heart‖, test for limiting beliefs. If you test weak when you make the statement ―I deserve to heal the sadness in my heart‖, treat for that first. Treat for ―there are parts of my

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being that know I deserve to heal the sadness in my heart‖. Continue through the steps treating for deserving or safety first then go back and treat for the sadness directly.

Most of the time when you test for ―there are parts of my being that know how to heal ___ with comfort and ease‖ you will get a strong (positive) response. In that case, go to step 3.

TRAUMA BLOCKING TREATMENT It is also possible that a trauma is blocking the treatment. To assess this, merely state ―there is a trauma blocking this treatment‖. If strong, muscle test to discover the age at the time of the trauma. Following a discussion, the person can usually identify a situation that may be sabotaging them. Now do Ask & Receive to heal that trauma.

FINDING THE TRAUMA THAT IS BLOCKING TREATMENT

State affirmation – Muscle test

Touch Emotional Points on forehead – Muscle test

If there is a change in muscle test, there is an emotional involvement.

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Muscle test for age of the emotional situation.

ASK & RECEIVE TREATMENT FOR TRAUMA

For example, you might use one of the following for the pre-test affirmation.

I no longer need to be traumatized as I was when __________. It is over, I survived and I can relax now.

I am OK with ___________. It’s over, I survived, and I can relax now.

If these statements are weak, do Ask & Receive.

Step 1: There are parts of my Being that know how to no longer be traumatized (sad, angry, afraid) like I was when _________________.

Step 2: Make the statement ―Those parts of my being are willing to do so now.‖ And attend to the response. If it is positive, continue, if it is negative (weak) check again for limiting beliefs as in the last step. Treat any limiting belief fully before returning and checking again for a positive response.

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USING A&R TO TREAT PHYSICAL ISSUES

Physical issues are always primary when addressing any condition, even those which appear psychological. Our bodies are the primary filter between us and our environment. For example autoimmune problems are always an expression of a misperception by the body. The body perceives a threat where one shouldn’t exist and either overreacts, attacking itself, or under reacts and fails to protect the body’s health. The body can perceive anything as a threat, even water or the body itself. The result is a battle between different parts of the body which can become disease. We think of this battle as existing between ourselves and the environment. I used to feel attacked every spring when the pollen count was high and my allergies flared. The environment though is relatively neutral; it is our body’s response to it that causes the greatest trouble.

Just as psychological problems typically have biological bases, the reverse is also true. The dysfunction which causes conflict at the physical level within the body has its mirror on the neurological and psychological levels. In essence our entire system responds at every level to a dysfunctional relationship to our environment. This is good news because there is so much evidence of our fundamental dysfunction. We can find it by checking for allergies or sensitivities on the part of the body. We can find it by noticing what environmental or psychological triggers seem to disrupt our sense of happiness or focus. We just have to know how to start asking.

Allergies are all about fear. The immune system is trying to protect you but it becomes overzealous in its reaction. An Allergy is a mistake of the immune system caused by trauma.

In the same way, we act on limiting beliefs that are caused by trauma. Trauma create filters that affect our view of the world. All new sensory input comes through these filters, and these sensory filters distort our perception.

Allergies are produced by trauma even if genetics set the stage. Dr. Francis S. Collins, Director, National Institute of Health states that ―All

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illnesses have some hereditary contribution. Genetics loads the gun and the environment pulls the trigger.‖

Trauma causes the immune system to create smaller holes in the filters in order to reject more and more substances out of a fear reaction. Trauma triggers the body to react defensively to substances that had been previously associated with danger, upset, fear or other crisis. However, those substances were only suffering ―guilt by association‖ while there is nothing inherently dangerous about them.

There are many effective allergy/sensitivity treatments that have already been developed. Sandi Radomski is an expert in using these techniques, and offers treatment and training as well as instruction manuals for those who wish a more complete understanding than is possible here.

Most allergy treatment is based on muscle testing as a means of finding substances that are congruent or incongruent with the body’s energy system. Typically this is done while the patient is holding a piece of the substance, vial of the substance or at least thinking about the substance to be treated. Where these therapies differ is in the technique of treatment in which the limitation is resolved. Most of these techniques involve clearing disruptions on the body’s energy meridians in a variety of ways.

A&R simplifies this process by isolating the offending substance in ways similar to older techniques, but then simply asking ―there are parts of my being that know how to heal my allergy to ___ with grace and ease (step 2 of A&R).‖ In our experience it is rare to get a negative response to this statement. Then simply completing the A&R process can have the effect of resolving that specific sensitivity. Of course there can be many different sensitivities and it is often useful to move through a whole protocol to find and heal as many as possible.

For more information about this please see Allergy Antidotes Basic Manual, 2004 by Sandi Radomski. ( http://www.allergyantidotes.com)

Another way to find and treat allergies is by what they are communicating. Any imbalance that we hold communicates itself through us. This is a

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more systemic way of thinking about health in general in which we ask ourselves the question ―what must I believe for this to be true of me. ―

Everything in your life, either good or bad is largely a product of your perceptual filters. We don’t see this in ourselves but we often see it in others, because our own filters are largely invisible to us.

The form that follows is designed to help isolate the feelings and beliefs which may be driving your symptoms. It helps to focus your attention away from the symptom as something discreet and external, and toward what it might be expressing about your beliefs about yourself and the world around you. It is often these beliefs that need to be healed before a full resolution of symptoms can occur.

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LEARNING THE LESSON OF YOUR SYMPTOMS

1) Problem: Thing you want/don’t want in your life:

______________________________________.

2) List consequences of having/not having thing in your life. Make sure to

list both feelings and beliefs.

3) For each feeling/belief in step 2, make a global statement

(identity/spiritual) that makes sense of and contains this feeling/belief.

I don’t want my Asthma

Hard to breathe in.

Fear and anxiety about the future.

I have trouble receiving.

I am limited.

I am afraid of the future.

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What must

I believe

for this to

be true of

me?

WHAT TO ASK FOR You are looking at your life and asking ―what must I believe to have created this?‖ For example, if you are having financial difficulties, we look at what beliefs would support that situation. Perhaps, you don’t believe you deserve money, it is not safe to have money, you will be unloved or not spiritual if you have money or you will not have any time for fun if you have money. The list is endless and specific to each individual.

As you complete the worksheet you will discover that you must have all sorts of conflicting and even crazy beliefs such as ―I need to sacrifice for others to be ok‖. If this happens to you don’t criticize yourself. We each have many different parts of self which often hold strange and conflicting beliefs. If you find one you might be curious to think what in my life led me to hold this belief? Consider if it is even your belief or if you ―inherited‖ it from family members. Once you have considered all this let it go with A&R. ―There are parts of my being that know how to release my belief that___ with grace and ease…‖

If you have a physical problem or a life event as a focus you will have feedback about your success in healing as the issue resolves itself. This can be almost instantaneous or can happen slowly as you resolve its components piece by piece.

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USING A&R TO TREAT NEUROLOGICAL ISSUES

Our neurology is invisible to us as well as to everyone else. When I see blue am I seeing the same thing you are? Because our neurology is invisible we naturally assume that ours is the same as everyone else’s. This leads to no end of trouble and miscommunication. Our neurology is our window on the world and as our neurology changes our world appears to change. As we discussed in the earlier section, what we experience is perhaps the best indicator of what filters we are using to view the world. These filters typically take the form of limiting beliefs about ourselves and/or the universe in general.

Another more fundamental aspect of our neurology effects even our perception. For example people who recover from depression often find that the world becomes brighter and their bodies lighter. People with autism often experience certain sounds, textures or sights to be greatly amplified or dimmed when compared to non-autistic people. People with trauma often experience a heightened alertness to threat or an inability to calm down. Anxiety, depression, rage and other emotional disorders can usefully be seen as neurological/perceptual ―settings‖ problems.

As we discussed in the previous section on physical issues, trauma causes a change in the filtering of sensory input. This change in filtering of data input then creates a more rigid perceptual system. Author of The Female Brain, Luann Bizendive, MD neuropsychiatrist at the University of California, San Francisco, states that ―at least half of your personality comes from your gene pool. Life experiences shape the other half. If you acquire some idea about yourself – that idea will have impact on your brain circuitry and get built into how you think about yourself. Our human brains love to categorize and label – the pretty one, the smart one, the problem child. Then you grow accustomed to the label and often re-create that identity because it feels familiar.‖ In this way, we begin to rigidly see the world in relation to our limiting beliefs. We only ―see‖ things that confirm our beliefs.

Someone who has been bitten by a dog may perceive all dogs as having bigger teeth, a more ferocious bark and appear closer and larger. Trauma has molded our perceptions of the world. What we are looking for is a way to reset the perceptual filters to a more appropriate level.

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When deciding to treat for these ―settings‖ issues it is important to keep in mind that they exist at a middle level of generality in the self system. They are more complex than allergies or sensitivities but generally less complex than (though they may reflect) limiting beliefs. Therefore it is often necessary to treat these issues with some persistence. For example if after some treatment the world seems brighter, or you feel calmer, notice how long this change lasts then ask yourself the question ―Have things shifted back or have I gotten used to the new level of experiencing?‖ If it feels as though your perception has shifted back and you know the trigger, treat yourself for that. If you can’t find a trigger which causes you to relapse just treat for the original issue until you notice a positive shift again. See Appendix C for a list of self esteem issues which are often intimately related to perception.

You can also attack the situation directly with muscle testing as a tool. Ask yourself questions like:

“I am safe and secure at all times.”

“I am loved by those around me.”

“I invite joy into my life at all times.”

“I am filled with happiness and gratitude.”

“Money and recognition just comes to me without effort.”

As you practice with statements like this don’t give up if you don’t notice quick dramatic shifts. You may need to penetrate more deeply into specific limiting beliefs and unpack specifically what is keeping you stuck. Please use the worksheet in Appendix B as an aid in this.

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USING A&R TO TREAT PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES. As you read this manual you may notice that when you are treating allergies or pain you might be treating neurological settings or psychological beliefs. When you are treating neurological settings you may be treating either allergies or psychological beliefs. The same is true when treating psychological issues—you may also be treating biological effects or neurological settings. Problems are held holographically within the body. Non-congruity is held at all levels of our being but expressed metaphorically through specific symptoms at the different levels.

By psychological issues, we don’t mean treating personality. Personality doesn’t exist. But what does exist are limiting beliefs, dissociation and trauma. In fact, these three terms all apply to the same phenomenon. We splinter our self in order to make sense of our world and block out fear and negative thoughts and emotions. By the time we are adults we have created a cosmos of parts which we have stored carefully so that we are not constantly troubled by our ideas of limitation. This process which is called dissociation is constantly breaking down triggering negative thoughts and feelings, but we continue to try. This activity takes enormous amounts of time and energy but most of us don’t know what else to do. Trauma and dissociation are treatable once we understand what to do: We need to bring healing to limiting belief/negative feeling which is being dissociated. You know what I am talking about. Think about loosing your money and feel the pang in your gut. That is where you store your fear of loss of money or power. Think about the last time you fought with a loved one and feel the heaviness in your heart. That is where you store whatever limiting belief and negative feeling you have about your loved one. We are all full of them and they live in our bodies and minds. We spend our lives trying to avoid triggering them and we constantly fail. When we fail we blame ourselves, the other person or the situation for our reaction, blaming externals only makes us helpless to truly heal ourselves since the limitation lives within us.

―There are parts of my being that know how to heal the sadness in my heart‖, ―There are parts of my being that know how to heal the fear I feel in my stomach when I drive over a bridge.‖ Find the limitation and ask for healing. Then notice if it all goes away or if there is some left. If you find more ask for that to be healed. Ask, ask, ask and receive.

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Ask, ask,

ask and

receive.

As you free yourself from the fragmentation of self you will experience a return of your vital energy and a natural expansion of your perception and understanding. People will think that your personality is changing. Since we now know that personality does not exist, what is happening?

As you resolve dissociation and trauma your ego begins expanding, developing an ever increasing ability to comprehend complexity and making the hero’s journey from duality to unity. As discussed below, the ego is not a personality. It is a window on experience which involves all of your biology, neurology and psychology.

USES OF ASK & RECEIVE

We have used Ask & Receive for a variety of physical and emotional issues.

Physical Neurological Emotional

Neck Pain Sensitivity to sound Fears

Knee Pain Sensitivity to tactile sensation Fear of bugs

Headaches Emotional Regulation Anxiety

Sinus Infections Visual Perception Regulation Guilt

Allergies to Foods Anger

Allergies to Animals Grief

Ask & Receive can be used to attain goals in many areas of our life. One way to proceed is to identify what we want in each of the following categories:

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POSITIVE DESIRES

1. Health _____________________________________________________

2. Relationships _____________________________________________________

3. Family _____________________________________________________

4. Finances _____________________________________________________

5. Work/ Career _____________________________________________________

6. Recreation / Relaxation____________________________________________

7. Spiritual _____________________________________________________

Once a person identifies his or her desires in each of these areas, Ask & Receive can be used to create resonance with it. Muscle testing will give us access to any traumas or limiting beliefs that are blocking alignment. These traumas or limiting beliefs should be treated with Ask & Receive before attempting to treat the original affirmation.

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For example, a person’s goal may be to have vibrant health.

Muscle test – I have vibrant health

If weak, you will continue with Ask & Receive treatment.

If any of the Ask & Receive statements are weak, check for a trauma or limiting belief that is blocking treatment.

1. There are parts of my Being that know how to _____________________.

2. Those parts of my Being are willing to inform the rest of me now.

3. My body, mind & spirit are receiving this information.

4. Information transfer is now complete.

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TRAUMA BLOCKING TREATMENT

If a trauma is blocking the treatment, it needs to be cleared prior to working on the original statement. This procedure is used when any of the Ask & Receive statements have a weak muscle test. You simply have the person say:

― A trauma is blocking this treatment.‖ If muscle test gives a yes response you will then muscle test to identify the age of the trauma. You can then ask for specific time periods such as:

Conception Birth 1st Trimester Birth to 10 2nd Trimester 10 - 20 3rd Trimester 20 - 30, etc.

When a time period is identified, muscle test for the specific year. Then discuss what was going on during that time period. It is usually easy to identify a specific trauma that corresponded with that time period. I am constantly amazed with how relevant these traumas are to the issue being treated. My hypothesis is that this trauma set up a specific pattern of responding to the future situations in one’s life. For example, a trauma might have provoked fear that later inhibits a person’s willingness to take risks. That trauma needs to be defused in order to allow the person to move forward in her life.

Perhaps the person had the cord around her neck or was stuck in the birth canal. If so, aliveness would be associated with trauma & might be frightening to the person.

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LIMITING BELIEF BLOCKING TREATMENT

If any of the Ask & Receive statements get a weak muscle test check whether a limiting belief is blocking the treatment. The most common limiting beliefs are; safety, deserving, possibility.

Muscle test for: It is safe to be vibrantly healthy. I deserve to be vibrantly healthy. It is possible for me to be vibrantly healthy.

In this process, deeper unconscious themes are discovered and healed easily & gently.

The Ask & Receive can continue throughout affirmations for all areas of one’s life. External, material or physical results occur as well as basic attitudinal and unconscious changes. We hypothesize that repeated Ask & Receive treatment results in one’s ―perceptual‖ filters become more allowing of new information. We can ―see‖ more of true reality. We can grasp more complexity.

CLINICAL USES OF ASK & RECEIVE

While merely repeating the statements in the Ask & Receive process can be effective, the true art and elegance of Ask & Receive is evidenced through the use of muscle testing. Muscle testing allows for rapid, gentle unfolding of deeper and deeper levels of limiting beliefs and traumas that are blocking development. Muscle testing allows one to quickly flow through numerous statements quickly checking alignment. If we are not in resonance with a desired goal, we are much less likely to be able to achieve it. Once resonant with a goal or wanted belief (strong muscle test), we are more likely to gravitate to behaviors that support that goal.

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GOD IS ALL THERE IS. EVERYTHING ELSE IS PERCEPTUAL ERROR.

So if we are not our personalities who are we? In fact, we are both more and less than most of us know. When we think of ourselves at all we think in terms of our psychology or our beliefs about ourselves. When we look in the mirror we notice if we look good or bad, we worry about what others think of us or how we are compared to our peers. This takes most of our attention. After psychology, we attend to our neurology, whether we are smart, or happy or anxious. Often this blends closely with psychology but it feels more objective, less something that we can choose. Most people’s understanding of depression is at this level: a physical basis but also shaped through life experience and perception. After neurology, we consider our biology. Most of us really don’t think much about our biology unless we are sick or disabled. For most of us our biological nature is invisible behind our psychology and neurology. Most of us accept that we are biological organisms but really don’t consider what this means unless we experience some loss of physical function.

If our biology is hard to see, our spirit is invisible. Some people ―believe‖ that they have a Spirit but virtually none of us consider themselves as spirit. As such spirit is completely hidden behind the other three layers, leaving most rational, scientific people to reject the concept entirely.

Old

Pyramid

of Self

The Self as Spirit The Self is an unbounded field of

experiencing.

In order to act upon the world we have

created arbitrary divisions within this

field and attached our spirit energy to

them.

◦ Identification

◦ Trauma

◦ Needs

New

Pyramid

of Self

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In fact, who we really are is a being composed of spirit or energy, however you define it, in the same way that everything else in the universe is. We are fundamentally not separate from what is. We are part of a dynamic flow of consciousness and creation which is beyond time and space but which arises in everything. For those readers who resist this conceptualization, you are in good company. The authors both began their professional lives as behaviorists with little interest in anything that could not be quantified. Eventually though, we both had to admit that no other conceptualization makes sense. It is certainly possible to become adept at A&R without an appreciation of our spirit nature, but as you deepen your understanding don’t be surprised to see yourself releasing your preconceived notions of the individual as a biopsychosocial construct and begin to see us all as part of a larger whole.

Self as Neurology • Perception is dependent on the filtering out of 90% of

stimuli.

• Filtering and organizing stimuli allows us to attach

meaning to it.

• No two people have the same perceptions but

because we don’t know another’s perspective we assume

it to be the same as ours.

• Most problems exist either as a problem of filtering,

organizing, or associating meaning.

Spirit is what we are but it takes physical form through the body’s biological mechanisms. More than just our cells, nerves, bones and organs, our biological nature is who we are. Our biology largely determines our perceptual and motor mechanisms, our level of energy, our basic emotional states and our basic relationship to the environment. These biological components are then assembled and integrated through our neurology in order to derive meaning and function within our perceived

The Self as Biology The ways we experience ourselves are the

results of complex biochemical processes.

These processes are hierarchical, extending

from the sub molecular through to the level

of the organism.

These processes respond to environmental

stimuli.

States are biologically driven and

environmentally triggered.

◦ They are complex biological

process existing at the level of

the organism.

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environment. Our neurology is responsible for refining the functions of our biology and more fully defining the boundaries between ourselves and our environment. It is in our neurology that we also begin to make further subdivisions between parts of self. This process of subdivision is often related to physical and emotional trauma, social learning and perceptual distortion. The parts of self which are thus constructed become the building blocks of our psychology.

Psychology is the least reliable of the building blocks of self. It is composed of the filtering of spirit through our biology and neurology. What is left is prone to error and filters out at least 90 percent of all perceptual information. What gives psychology form is our awareness or attention which allows us to selectively attend to aspects within our environment as well as in our larger self. The fact that much of our daily experience is triggered by our environment or the result of habit is lost on our attention which builds an idea of a singular self despite all the evidence to the contrary.

Because we are built to look outside of ourselves rather than within, and to prioritize psychology over the other building blocks of self, we perceive personality everywhere. From other people, to animals to cars and computers, we perceive personality as the driving force behind behavior. If my car breaks down I believe it did so on purpose. If your child misbehaves I believe it is because he is rude or bad. If you do poorly on a test I think you must be stupid. Psychology and personality become ways of objectifying both ourselves and others.

Self as Psychology This is where problems

appear to exist because of

problems of perception.

The “Self” is a perceptual

mistake arising from an

over identification with

attention and the body.

“Personality” can’t be

changed at this level

because the most problems

exist at lower levels.

Most of what we perceive

as personality is only a

function of attention and

habit.

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Our

Limiting

Beliefs

Filter Our

Perception

of the

World.

As people

develop they

become more

effective less

controlled by

external forces

& happier.

LIMITING BELIEFS-

Our early biological insults cause us to develop filters that affect our sensory perception.

The damage done from trauma influences our self concept and sense of self. The limiting beliefs hidden behind this objectification become embedded within our sense of self, influencing our developing neurology and resulting in selective perception. This selective perception results in our perceiving confirming responses and ignoring conflicting responses, which serves to further reinforce the limiting beliefs. For example, if I think I am unattractive I am likely to pay more attention to people who comment negatively on my dress or my looks, while I discount or simply don’t hear people who comment positively.

All of us hold hosts of these limiting beliefs. With our focus on psychology these limiting beliefs are what we perceive as who we are. Because we adopt most of these beliefs in childhood, we become used to them and they become invisible to us. We no longer even recognize these beliefs as our own, but instead we act in ways to either fight against the belief or confirm it. The problem is that neither fighting nor confirming does anything toward eliminating the belief. This is an area where A&R can be

very useful.

Our limiting beliefs are what run our lives. That is why the phrase ―tell me your life and I will know your beliefs‖ is so true. Basically we are saying, ―what must one believe to have created these outcomes.‖ ― What are you resonating with that have attracted you to these life circumstances?‖

If you become aware of a limiting belief that you hold, A&R can be used to treat it quickly and easily. If you find yourself occasionally saying ―I am such an idiot‖ or ―I look hideous‖ then consider that you have at

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least a part of yourself that holds the belief. Don’t argue with it, treat it. Check: ―there are parts of my being that know how to heal my belief that I am an idiot‖. Or, ―there are parts of my being that know that I am attractive to others‖.

We hold many limiting beliefs, even contradictory ones like ―I am helpless‖ and ―I am responsible for what other people do.‖ As we begin to use A&R to treat these beliefs our perspectives begin to change and we begin to notice that our environment no longer confirms our limiting beliefs in the way it once did. Our energy begins to rise and we notice ourselves being different. This rising awareness is another function of A&R, allowing us to achieve larger, more complex perspectives on ourselves and the world around us. As we let go of our limiting beliefs and the fears associated with them we are free to evolve.

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EGO DEVELOPMENT

The Ego as it is understood in A&R is a spiritual / biological / neurological / psychological construct. It represents the perspective of consciousness assumed by an individual. There are many different theories of ego development, often reducing it to stages of gradually increasing complexity. As such, Ego is not synonymous with personality and is not a direct reflection of intelligence, experience or spirituality. We like to think of ego in functional terms. It is our window on experience and as such it affects all of who we are. As people develop typically they become more effective, less controlled by external forces and happier. Much of what psychologists define as psychological disorders actually have to do with problems in ego development in which a person (usually as a result of trauma) becomes fixated at one of the earlier stages. This fixation can cause devastating problems for the individual as well as for those who care for them.

In A&R we consider shifts in ego development as the result of treating traumas and limiting beliefs to be an important intended side effect. It is only through developing the ego into the higher stages that A&R becomes fully comprehensible.

We won’t spend a great deal of time discussing ego development here, but a cursory understanding can be very helpful to understanding how and why we perceive the worlds we do. If you wish more information on ego development, please consult the references at the end of this book.

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SOME FACTS ABOUT EGO DEVELOPMENT

Everyone needs to find some way to understand the world around them. In general this understanding begins simply and then gradually becomes more and more complex. These different egoic perspectives are not real in an ultimate sense but each has a functional reality because they define our perception.

We say they are not real because they each offer only a small window on reality. They are also not real because each of us have the capacity of perceiving from lower or higher perspectives at any time through a change in perception. The fact that most of us maintain a relatively fixed egoic perspective is not due to ability but to attention, habit and limiting beliefs. We will now discuss in general terms how arising ego development effects our perceptions and experience of reality.

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STAGES OF EGO DEVELOPMENT

STAGE ONE

The first stage of ego is ―No Self‖. Think of a new born infant who is still unaware of figure and ground. It has no attention because it is in experience. There is yet no perceiver. It is engaged in relationship with its environment. It has sense perceptions but is unable to intend action or thought. It has no attention but a rudimentary awareness and sensing. While most of us move quickly through this stage and retain little memory of it, many people with autism become fixated here and some have later gone on to describe this experience. They describe it as a wonderful free experience of interconnection and boundarylessness.

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STAGE 2 Most infants quickly shift from here to the 2nd stage, that of All Self. All Self begins with the emergence of the perceiver. Instead of being in experience with no separation between self and other, perception begins with this separation. Figure and ground, in and out come into being. Attention begins with the abilty to selectively focus awareness. Identification with the body begins.

The All Self stage is marked with recognition of duality. Good/bad, hot/cold, etc. In this stage there are no shades of gray, no continuums. A child in this stage either loves something or hates it. It is called All Self because the child is not able to perceive anything other than self. Thoughts, objects, and people are all self referential. In other words a person is good if he does something the child likes and bad if he does something the child dislikes. People, chairs and toys are owned and valued depending on their perceived function or utility not because they exist apriori.

Early in this stage language is unnecessary because the child can’t grasp the purpose of communicating since no one else exists. The children don’t feel responsible for their negative reactions because they don’t understand that others can have feelings. Because they are at such a simplistic perspective, they are forced to try to understand all social behavior as a complex of rules that seem to exist for no greater purpose. The beginning of this stage is marked by people with autism and those nearing the end of it by people with personality disorders. Normal children typically move through this stage between 6 mos. to 3 years.

STAGE 3

The 3rd stage is marked by the gradual development of a concept of other and the eventual ability to maintain a simultaneous sense of self and other (often called 1st and 2nd person awareness). This ability to hold a sense of self and other in awareness simultaneously allows for the arising of compassion, and relationship which is not available in the lower stages. No longer needing lists of rules to understand social convention, these children can intuit correct social behavior in a dynamic fashion. Most children have attained this stage by the time they start school, however many on the autism spectrum (including ADHD and ADD) remain in stage 2 well into school.

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STAGE 4

The discovery of other allows for the arising of relationship. Stage 4 is marked by the ability to observe one’s own behavior and make changes. This awareness is also called ―Witness position‖ or 3rd person awareness. This ability to observe self is critical to emerging rational thought and planning.

STAGE 5

Stage 5 is reached once the person is able to apply this 3rd person awareness across time into the past and future. This allows for functional learning and planning. It is the highest conventional stage and the goal of most contemporary societies.

STAGE 6

Stage 6 begins when the person starts to see the limitations of the stage 5 logic. In stage 5 the world is still extremely mechanistic with firm assumed boundaries between the observer and the observed. Stage 6 is marked by more relativistic understandings, that the observer has an influence on the observed. This is a dynamic stage with a shift from a completely external focus to a more internal one. It is in this stage and beyond that A&R begins to make sense as the person learns to shift from external control to internal understanding.

STAGE 7

Stage 7 is marked by the emergence of the Nth perspective. This is a non-ego based perspective or understanding. The person becomes capable of observing his or her own construct and discriminating his or her own ego. At this stage boundaries between all things begin to break down as the person understands that the sense of self is essentially arbitrary. The dualistic nature which is so obvious in the earlier stages slide into continuums and even continuums of continuums as all things become relative. People at this stage are very free from the struggles of the earlier stages, focusing largely on helping the planet and healing themselves of left over trauma and limitations from their transition through the earlier stages.

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STAGE 8

Stage 8 is the Unitive stage in which the person is able to return to the experience of being in reality without ego. This stage is also called enlightenment in some traditions. The person is ego informed but no longer controlled by egoic perceptions. In many ways it is a return to the expression of Being encountered in stage 1 but now it is informed by the other perspectives, becoming a means to great personal freedom.

The importance of these stages to A&R is two fold. First, the stages allow us to see how the level of a person’s ego development informs their biology, neurology and psychology to produce the life experience they receive. Second it allows us to better understand where A&R fits in the general evolution of self. The purpose of A&R is to help with both of these areas. The action of using A&R has the effect of improving communication between different parts, forcing us to realize that our being is much larger and more powerful than we ever thought, that our ego is illusory and pain producing, and that by treating traumas and limiting beliefs, our ties to earlier stages is loosened. We are freed to move forward in our development.

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USING ASK & RECEIVE WITH OTHER PSYCHOLOGY

TECHNIQUES Ask & Receive grew out of Tom and Sandi’s many years of experience with various Energy Psychology techniques. We use Ask & Receive primarily as a stand alone technique. However, the steps of Ask & Receive can also be combined with other Energy Psychology protocols.

For those of you unfamiliar with Energy Psychology, you can go to the web site for the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology www.energypsych.org/ for more information.

ASK & RECEIVE WITH EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE (EFT)

The following protocol was developed by Ellen Fisher, C.Ht, CMT. It uses the steps and statements of Ask & Receive along with tapping on the acupuncture points used in EFT. Many people enjoy the additional physical input into the process.

If you are unfamiliar with EFT, go to Gary Craig’s website www.emofree.com for more information

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ASK & RECEIVE WITH EFT

1. (Tap side of hand, karate chop point, and say phrase 3 times) There is a part of my being that knows how to ________.

2. (Tap inside of eyebrow points, 2 hands) That part knows how to do this with ease & grace.

3. (Tap side of eyes points, 2 hands) That part is willing to communicate this to the rest of me right now, in the most gentle and loving way.

4. (Tap under eyes point, 2 hands) My body, mind and spirit are receiving this information now.

5. (Tap under nose point) Visualize affirmation.

6. (Tap under chin point) Visualize affirmation.

7. (Tap collarbone point, 2 hands) Transfer of information is now complete, or soon will be.

8. (Tap thymus point, one or two hands) And so I offer heartfelt thanks.

9. Continue tapping thymus point and say initial affirmation, 3 times.

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ASK & RECEIVE WITH LASER EAR SPRAY Laser treatment can support the Ask and Receive treatment.

Sandi Radomski uses Laser Ear Spray as a major treatment protocol in her Allergy Antidotes system. The cold laser used is at the frequency of 635 NM and less than 5 milliwatts. It is a cold laser and is considered LLLT (Low Level Laser Therapy). The laser is at the frequency of a healthy living cell. It makes the cells on the surface of the skin vibrate as a healthy living cell. By resonance, the next cell and the next cell begin to vibrate like a healthy cell. The laser is used primarily on the ear reflex points which refer all of the other points in the body.

When we first test the person for their desired goal they usually have a weak muscle test. In other words they are not in congruence with the statement.

Have person repeat the Ask & Receive steps when lasering all points front and back on both ears. All the acupuncture points in the body will now be in resonance with the desired goal.

For more information on Allergy Antidotes and Laser Ear Spray go to www.allergyantidotes.com.

ASK & RECEIVE WITH TAPAS ACUPUNCTURE TECHNIQUE (TAT)

Tapas Acupuncture Technique is an amazing technique developed by Tapas Fleming. A person holds several points on their face and back of their head while they repeat specific phrases. If you are not familiar with TAT, go to www.TATlife.com for more information

It is simple to use the TAT hand positions while repeating the Ask & Receive statements. It is another way to balance the body in relation to the desired goal.

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ASK & RECEIVE AND ENERGY CHORDS

Energy Chords was developed by Pat Carrington, PhD and Sandi Radomski, ND, LCSW. It evolved from working with EFT. In classic EFT, a person taps on various acupuncture points in sequence. John Diepold, PhD, created Touch and Breathe which includes merely touching and breathing at each EFT acupuncture point. Carrington and I then realized that we could then touch and breathe at 2 or more points at one time. We experimented with using different acupuncture end points of Meridians. We determined that holding the 3rd eye point and center of chin points are the most effective. These two points can be held while focusing on the problem issue. We are balancing the body in relation to the statements being focused on. Hold these points while repeating the Ask & Receive statements.

ASK& RECEIVE AND SPINAL RELEASE

Spinal Release is another technique developed by Sandi Radomski in her Allergy Antidotes system. In Spinal Release the practitioner taps gently with the client’s spine from C7 – bump at bottom of neck to just below the shoulder blades. You are tapping on the bladder meridian. Each point on the bladder meridian is associated with the other meridians of the body. Therefore, again we are balancing the body in relation to the statement being repeated.

Tap on either side of spine for each of the Ask & Receive statements.

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ASK & RECEIVE IN GROUPS

Ask & Receive has generally been used in individual treatment. We have also found it to be tremendously useful in groups. The power of everyone in a group doing the process together seems to enhance its effectiveness. Each person can work on their individual goal while a person is being treated as a demonstrator. Also the entire group may focus on the same issue and do Ask & Receive in unison. Also a surrogate for someone either within or outside the group.

Group Treatment:

a. Work on individual issues while A&R being done with demonstrator patient (borrowing benefits)

b. Group all together with same issue

c. Group all together as surrogate for another or out of group

ASK AND RECEIVE ON BEHALF OF OTHERS

We have found that Ask & Receive is very effective when done on behalf of others be they children, adults or animals. Parents of the Autistic children are using the Ask and Receive process for their children who are clearly not aware what is happening. One of my colleagues has been using Ask & Receive extensively for couples work where one partner treats on behalf of the other for everyone’s highest good. She has also used Ask & Receive to surrogately treat for a friends’ sister with ulcerative colitis. After this long distance treatment, the person no longer had any colitis symptoms even though she never knew what was being done on her behalf.

Animals have also been treated with Ask & Receive successfully. A cat had a tumor develop on its neck. Following Ask & Receive for the bump, the cat went for a nap. After the nap, all signs of the bump were gone.

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SUPPORTING RESEARCH

The following are various studies that support our Ask & Receive techniques. Since Ask & Receive uses muscle testing extensively, it is important to see it as a valid tool to gather information. Secondly we have documentation of the effectiveness of prayer since Ask & Receive can be considered structural prayer. Thirdly brain research documents our contention that early trauma changes the development of the brain which in turn changes perception.

MUSCLE TEST RESEARCH

Dr. Daniel Monti, M.D. conducted a study to show the validity of muscle testing. As reported in Perceptual and Motor Skills Monti muscle tested college students on true and false statements. He found that the people tested could withstand 17% more force for 58% longer period of time with true statements. The significance of the research is that the students were not tested by a practitioner. The strength of their anterior dynometer. Therefore there was no way that the tester could press with inconsistent strength. Clearly this machine evaluated muscle testing was consistently able to distinguish true from false statements

RESEARCH ON EFFECTIVENESS OF PRAYER

There have been numerous studies on the effectiveness of prayer. Since Ask & Receive can be conceived of as structured prayer, this accumulated research is highly relevant. One of the most quoted scientific studies of prayer was done between August 1982 and May of 1983. 393 patients at the San Francisco General Hospital Coronary Care Unit were randomly selected to receive or not receive intercessory prayer. The patients who received prayer as a part of the study were healthier than those who had not. The prayed for group had less need of having cardiopulmonary resuscitation and less need for mechanical ventilators. They had diminished need for diurectics, and antibodies and fewer deaths.

These types of positive results from prayer can even be seen in experiments with bacteria and other microorganisms. Prayers to inhibit growth of yeast, molds, and bacteria are highly effective.

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These studies also show that prayer is non-local and that it functions at a distance. These research findings document our findings that Ask & Receive is effective for both face to face interaction and also on behalf of another even at a distance.

RESEARCH ON TRAUMA CHANGING ONE’S BRAIN Research on brain development has shown that trauma changes the brain. These changes are consistent with our hypothesis presented in this manual. Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD, states that ―the brain is designed to change in response to patterned, repetitive stimulation and the stimulation associated with fear and trauma changes the brain…‖ The early trauma causes an increase in white matter in the brain. This abnormal increase in white matter then effects the processing of new sensory input. The trauma experiences ―in childhood has relatively more impact on the developing child’s life seem to cause more of a deviation from normal than if the trauma occurred later.

The majority of brain organization takes place during early childhood. In fact by 3 years of age the brain has reached 90% of adult size while the body is still only 18% of adult size.

The experiences of the child shape the development, personality and behavior of the adult. Perry concludes that ―children reflect the world in which they are raised. If that world is characterized by threat, chaos, unpredictability, fear & trauma, the brain will reflect that by altering the development of the neural system involved in the stress and fear response.‖

These traumatized children will also reflect limiting beliefs about themselves and the world which are consistent with their experiences. Those parts of the brain that have been affected by trauma, need to be treated for the return to normal development.

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CONCLUDING THOUGHTS Sandi and I feel excited, grateful and inspired by your interest in Ask and Receive. There will always be people who will look at this process and decide that it is not rational, overly simplistic and mumbo jumbo. In fact, not so many years ago Sandi and I would have been among them. No one sets out to be thought ―alternative‖ but if like us you care about your clients, about yourself and about change you won’t let a little thing like that stop you. This doesn’t mean that we want you to let go of rationality, we just want you to decide for yourself. These techniques and concepts are easily testable in yourself and those around you. Try it on something, but try it with respect for the latent power within you. Don’t start by treating your sexual abuse or your auto accident or war trauma. Start small until you develop comfort and confidence in the process and your body acclimatizes to the process. We have not seen any negative consequences from using A&R but that doesn’t mean there aren’t any yet to be discovered. We have tried to design in a safeguard by asking that each healing be done with ―grace and ease‖, but be respectful and careful. We only wish good things for you!

Please feel free to contact us with thoughts, suggestions or testimonials at our website at: http://www.allergyantidotes.com.

The name Ask & Receive grew out of our realization that this process resembled the biblical quote ‖Whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive‖. Matthew 21:22. Many other quotes from the bible instruct us to merely ask for what we want. In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus says ―Ask and it will be given you, seek and you will find and knock and it will be opened to you. ― ―If you do not have, you do not ask‖ James 4:2. Ask & Receive offers you an easy, concise, structured way to ask for what you want clearly and directly. We have found that the main problem with Ask & Receive is that we do not ask for enough. For Example, one person who was tortured with insomnia, asked for being able to sleep 5 hours a night. Once achieved, he wondered why he had not asked for 7 hours of sleep a night. Another person asked to reduce pain in her shoulder when in fact she really wanted to eliminate the pain entirely. Again, Ask & Receive is a simple, yet profound process. It is a simple,

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easy fast way to reset the perceptual filters or our limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in lower developmental levels. Limiting beliefs are created from trauma in a similar way that allergies are created. The body is protecting us but is using misguided information. The truth of our wholeness, oneness and love is pushed away in the face of trauma, fear and perceived danger to the organism. The body then lives in alert mode, ever cognizant of the negative substance or statement, criticism, or feared danger lurking. People with allergies can smell odors that no one else can because of their over-vigilance. In turn, people with limiting beliefs hear criticism, danger, harassment, rejection more than others. In both instances, the body is finely tuned to guard for the invasion of substances or insult. The reactions are fear based and keep people stuck emotionally, physically and developmentally. Ask & Receive is so simple and easy often people are not aware that it rapidly removes limiting beliefs that have cut off your full perception of the world. As the limiting beliefs melt away, we are free to move forward developmentally to higher states of more joy, contentment and grace.

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APPENDIX A – STAGES OF EGO DEVELOPMENT

Stage 1 is the initial state of being in experience. There is no figure, no ground, no perceiver, no attention, no intention. Only sensing, and resonance. This is a blissful state of BEING, but is dysfunctional because it leaves the person severely autistic with no ability to act in the world. Stage 2 is 1st person experience. All experience is self referential. All perception is external, object oriented and need driven. It is a lonely, angry, anxious stage. Attention and intention arise here and are directed toward meeting perceived needs. Depth in this stage is marked by the gradual learning of rules of behavior (applied to self and other) which are gradually developed in order to assuage an angry, unpredictable world. Stage 3 is the adoption of 2nd person awareness which in most people quickly develops into a simultaneous self and other awareness. Depth in this stage is marked by the gradual adoption of persons with whom it can be held. People ―become real‖ to the child which marks a shift in their relating. Emotions, self comparison, and genuine compassion mark this stage. Depth is also marked by the gradual shift from the external (mommy’s favorite color is blue) to the internal (mommy is feeling sad now). Stage 4 is the adoption of 3rd person awareness. Here the child becomes able to observe his own behavior and comment on and manage himself dynamically. Stage 5 begins with the ability to embed the 3rd person experience in time. Time here shifts from an external phenomenon to an internal one making the person more goal directed and expanding awareness to societies or large groups. All things that can be perceived at this level are considered separate, reducible and objectified. This is the goal of our society and the highest conventional stage. Stage 6 is marked by the adoption of 4th person perspective in which the person recognizes that the act of observing changes the thing observed.

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This is the ability to adopt a system, relativistic approach. Static boundaries start to break down and holes appear in the stage 4 logic. Breadth is marked by applying this understanding more and more deeply in perception and an expansion of focus on society and time. Stage 7 is marked by the ability to become aware of one’s own construct, to see the limitations of ego and to look for ways of reaching beyond. Nth perspective or higher self. People in stage 6 become very aware of language and that all things that can be named are only symbolic constructs. The boundaries between things, people and concepts begin to break down. Time concept is further expanded and social focus expands to the world. Stage 8 is the Unitive stage and begins when perception is no longer localized in the ego but in the higher self.

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APPENDIX B

PRE TEST

a. “My body knows how to ___ (state what you want)” or b. Touch place of problem

Test : If strong, you are in congruence with statement. If weak, do A&R Step 1.

1. “There are parts of my being that already know how to ____ with

grace and ease.”

Test: If strong, go to 2. If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

2. “Those parts of my being are willing to inform the rest of me now.” Test: If strong, go to 3.

If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

3. “My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.” Test: If strong, go to 4.

If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

4. “Information transfer is now complete.”

Test: If strong, go to Post-Test. If weak, investigate time to completion.

POST TEST

a. “My body knows how to (state what you want).” or b. Touch the place of the problem.

Test: If strong, you are complete. If weak, investigate blocking trauma or beliefs.

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HOW TO IDENTIFY WHAT YOU NEED TO ASK FOR: State affirmation and muscle test. If Strong, you are already in congruence with statement. If weak, you are not in resonance with your desire and can proceed

to do A&R. Muscle test each A&R statement (#1-4). They should be strong. If weak, check for blocking traumas or beliefs. Muscle test: a. There is a trauma blocking this treatment b. There is a limiting belief blocking this treatment.

TRAUMA BLOCKING TREATMENT If there is a trauma blocking the treatment: Use Muscle testing to identify the trauma Use Ask & Receive for trauma ie. “ I no longer need to be traumatized (sad, angry, grieved, guilty etc.) like I was when ______ happened.” LIMITING BELIEF BLOCKING TREATMENT If there is a limiting belief blocking treatment use muscle test to identify the limiting belief. We have found that the most common limiting beliefs are: Safety Possibility Deserving Muscle test: It is safe for me to (heal this problem). It is possible for me to (heal this problem). I deserve to (heal this problem). Use Ask & Receive to treat the above weak statements. Once strong, return to finish the original Ask & Receive.

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ALTERNATIVE SCRIPT FOR ASK & RECEIVE As we have been working with Ask & Receive we have used several different versions of the script. As each of you practice with the technique you may find that certain wording hums more for you or for your clients. Here are a few of the versions we have used for your experimentation. Original protocol- Parts of my Being: “There are parts of my Being that know how to _____ with grace and ease.” ― Those parts of my Being are willing to inform the rest of me now.‖ ― My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.‖ ― Information transfer is complete.‖ A part of my Being: We often interchange parts of my being with there is a part of my being. Some people respond better to one or the other. “There is a part of my Being that know how to ______ with grace and ease.” ― That part of my Being is will to inform the rest of me now.‖ ― My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.‖ ― Information transfer is complete.‖ A part of Being: We have also conceptualized that there is a part of the larger Being that we are all a part of that has the answers for us. “There is a part of Being that knows how to _______ with grace and ease.” ― That part of Being is willing to inform the rest of me now.‖ ― My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.‖ ― Information transfer is complete.‖ cont…..

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It (they) are doing so now: Pat Carrington added this step to ensure that the action step of sending the information is actually taking place. ― There are (is) parts (part) of our being that know how to ____ with grace and ease.‖ ― Those (that) parts (part) or my being is willing to inform the rest of me now.‖ “They (it) are (is) doing so now.” ― My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.‖ ― Information transfer is complete.‖ Thank you for this healing: We sometimes add this at the end of the script. Many people love this statement and always want to include it. ― There are (is a) parts (part) of my Being that knows how to ______ with grace and ease.‖ ― Those (that) parts (part) are (is) willing to inform the rest of me now.‖ ― My mind, body and spirit are receiving this information.‖ ― Information transfer is complete.‖ “Thank you for this healing.”

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APPENDIX C

Learning the Lesson of Your Symptoms

1) Problem: Thing you want/don’t want in your life:

______________________________________.

2) List consequences of having/not having thing in your life. Make sure to

list both feelings and beliefs.

3) For each feeling/belief in step 2, make a global statement

(identity/spiritual) that makes sense of and contains this feeling/belief.

I don’t want my Asthma

Hard to breathe in.

Fear and anxiety about the future.

I have trouble receiving.

I am limited.

I am afraid of the future.

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APPENDIX D

POSTITIVE BELIEFS THAT ENCOURAGE FREEDOM The following Positive Beliefs are Basic concepts that could be guiding our lives.

If we are not in congruence, alignment with these statements, a limiting belief is

restricting your life and your development.

I AM SAFE.

I AM PROTECTED.

THE WORLD IS SAFE.

MY TRUE BEING IS INDESTRUCTIBLE AND CANNOT BE HARMED.

IT IS SAFE TO FEEL MY FEELINGS.

I AM LOVEABLE.

I AM WANTED.

I AM ENOUGH.

IT IS SAFE FOR ME TO FEEL JOY.

IT IS SAFE FOR ME TO FORGIVE.

I DESERVE TO LIVE.

I DESERVE TO PROSPER.

I DESERVE TO SHINE.

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APPENDIX E

TESTIMONIALS

SURPRISING TESTIMONIAL FROM AUTISTIC TEEN

We received a fascinating testimonial of the power of Ask and Receive from a very unlikely source. We have been using this treatment for Autism often teaching the parents to treat on behalf of the child. One of our 12 years old patients was very verbal and able to be muscle tested. However, be was complaining and wanting to leave the session. As soon as we did Ask and Receive his entire demeanor changed. He suddenly became highly interested and attentive. He started asking his own questions to be answered with the muscle test. I had no idea why he responded the way he did. We were working on ―My body knows how to not snack at night.‖ He continued to ask questions for the next two hours. He explained this change by saying that the Ask & Receive process had allowed ideas to go from the back of his brain to the forefront. He said that before the puzzle had too big of a hole in it. He did not know where to put his thoughts.

This patient described being able to contact the part of his being that was able to comprehend, remember & make sense of his world. His mother was astonished hearing him speak about old hurts, trauma and current concerns. She had never heard him be this insightful, focused and intelligible. He continued to have this reaction after Ask & Receive in other sessions.

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THROAT CANCER SURVIVOR

Dear Sandi,

I’ve never written a testimonial before not even sure of the spelling.

Four months ago I was diagnosed with stage three neck cancer which

started on my tonsils. I prepared for the worst. I wasn’t afraid but

wasn’t optimistic.

The first doctor I saw said I would need seven weeks of radiation

concurrent with three heavy doses of chemo. The second doctor at

closer inspection said it was more advanced and I would need an

additional three heavy doses of chemo at 21 day intervals before

starting the normal protocol and that I had only a 50% cure rate as

things stood and a lot of nasty side affects some permanent if I

survived.

I left the office like a dead man walking. A lot of friends and family

members began coming around with all sorts of advice. Herb

remedies wheatgrass emanas, volcanic water, baking soda and maple

syrup. I tried a bunch. One friend from Philly said “I have a friend

who knows this woman that can cure you through EFT and magnetic

responses or something. I was not convinced but this friend said he

believed if his wife, who died of cancer recently had seen this woman

she would still be alive. They were talking about the strong emotional

component in cancer course and cure.

I totally got that because in examining my situation I realized that

something inside me had developed a pretty negative outlook over the

last few years and I also had some other issues over twenty years ago

that I still couldn’t find a way to let go of. I made an appointment to

see this woman but she was way down in South Jersey and the whole

trip with the session would have taken something like seven hours

there and back and I didn’t feel I had the energy.

We got in touch to talk with her about it and she said she could do the

whole thing over the phone. “Really”! I found it surprising. We kept

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the same appointment time but now everything was going to be over

the phone. Some of her technique I understood requires physical

evaluation as well as actual body work but she said she could

somehow do this from her office. This would be interesting. I called

and the session began. From the beginning I was in tears in fact I just

tear up remembering that feeling. The details are a bit murky now but

it had to do with me making statements and her somehow measuring

inner alignment of belief in what I was saying. Something like “I

don’t feel guilty about surviving the death of my dearest friend.” She

would say that is weak try it again. At this point I would burst into

tears and when I could control my sobbing I would try again repeating

the statement. She would say it was still weak and I would cry some

more with her encouragement to forgive myself or something and at

some point she would say now it’s strong. I don’t know what she was

doing at her end but she always seemed to know and my crying would

come down and subside.

This process went on right through the hour appointment into a

second hour. It got very intimate in the sense that I began to strip bare

emotionally and Sandi was right there comforting and encouraging as

more and more stuff poured out. We had to stop several times when I

couldn’t speak through the tears. Then she would say “now you’re

strong on that and we’d move on.

Toward the end of the second hour things started coming down. She

said “you have been choked up about these things for years and you

can release and let them go” and I noticed that all the discomfort and

stiffness in my neck was gone. The emotional component of my

illness was being healed. It felt very fresh and newborn, a cliché but

true. I felt we both felt we’d really been through something it was

deep & intimate I really opened myself and she opened no barriers on

either side.

I called Sandi a couple of days ago to say that after five weeks of what

was supposed to be a preliminary treatment of chemo and some on

drugs I was cancer free. Everybody was very surprised. The doctors

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are looking at my throat saying things like “amazing” with big smiles

on their faces.

When I was told my P.T. scan showed no cancer anywhere in the

body I began calling people and right after immediate friends and

family I thought of Sandi and when I had contacted for two and a half

months ago.

After our session Sandi said “This is interesting” What I said, “I don’t

know if I should say this “ I said “go ahead” “well I am getting some

indicators that your cancer will be gone in two weeks”, I took a little

longer than two weeks but even so!

I spoke with my cancer guide, the one who does research and protocol

with treatment and doctors, after we got the results of my cancer

negative P.T. scan and I talked about Sandi and the emotional side of

cancer treatment. My doctors have been great such caring and

supportive people.

But I want to acknowledge the importance of emotional therapy in the

treatment of cancer, it’s the other side of the equation.

It’s so important also in why people’s cancer sometimes comes back

and kills them. That may have a lot to do with underlying unresolved

emotional issue.

In closing I just want to thank Sandi, again and again for her

compassion and insight in working with me.

I can’t recommend her enough to anyone facing cancer or illness

because there truly is a mind body connection to these things.

Thank you again Sandi,

With much love and gratitude

Danny

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Hi Maggie, Rehana and Sandi, Here’s a follow-up on my session with Sandi right at the last minute on Tuesday afternoon. We worked on the pain in my stomach that has been pretty constant for a long time, a burning sensation, and it changed and moved about but didn’t go away. I realized the next day would you believe that it had gone and when I thought back I realized it had been gone from about an hour after we left the Conference Centre. It reappeared once or twice during the next day in a very modified way but other than that it has gone. I am THRILLED as you can imagine! Thank you very, very much Sandi!! Hope you can send this out so that that very warm and caring group can see that it did work – it just needed a bit of time to filter through. Elizabeth J Dear Sandi, I’m the one you treated for allergy to water at Geelong Conference Centre. Even though I was feeling good about being at the conference, I was obviously pretty tired as within 10 minutes of you treating me I had the most amazing surge of energy like a gerbra (a bright coloured proud daisy-like flower - which I love) transforming from a weak soggy- stemmed, sad, faded & wilting lonely flower in a vase of stale water to a strong-stemmed proud, happy & colourful specimen in bright light. I felt so strong in myself, I did not have need for my walking stick for the rest of the day. I resorted to my walking stick the next day, but the free strong feeling lasted for a week. Commitments & the pain of arthritis has depleted my energy a bit, but I must admit, my deep joy has remained & will continue. I am amazed at the number of people who have told me I look so well & fresh - no matter how tired I might be. I can only put it down to your complete healing of that water allergy & the resultant freedom of spirit. Thanks again so much Sandi. Rosie

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