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What is culture shock and cultural adjustment?
There are 9 stages of cultural adjustment. Most people manage perfectly well!
Stage 1. Own culture.
We are at home, living normally.
Stage 2. Move to new country.
We have arrived!
Loss, Chaos, and Expectations
Sometimes the chaos is so great that we don’t let ourselves grieve the loss we are feeling, even though this is when the feelings are most acute.
It is important to-
Mourn losses and let the children mourn also.
Listen, reminisce, give children the freedom to express their sadness.
Important objects – a teddy bear, a piece of jewelry –can remind us of the continuity in our lives.
Increased family conflict may occur!
Children must understand that optimism about the new places and people does not erase sadness about the old.
Children also should understand that liking new places and new friends does not devalue the old friends and places.
Life continues; another chapter.
Stage 3. Honeymoon phase
We usually look for what is familiar. We often find some similarity with our own culture. People are welcoming and caring, so we tend to feel good and function well.
Stage 4.The differences!
Eventually with more host culture interaction we start realising the differences. We may judge the host culture negatively. (This is often after about 6 weeks- be prepared!)
Stage 5. Understanding
As we begin to interact more with host culture we begin to understand it. We start to feel at home.
Stage 6. Holiday
We may return to our own culture- perhaps for a holiday.
Stage 7. Postive functioning.
We know how things work. We can function easily.
Stage 8. Questioning.
Often we see how much has changed. We may question home country values, beliefs and behaviours. We do not expect this!
Stage 9. Cross cultural understanding.
Begin to adjust. Understand both cultures. We have a broader understanding of ourselves and the world.
Arrival (non-employed partner)
Often in expatriate communities, this is the mother. Many have left successful careers, and lives in which they were completely self-sufficient.
The idea of moving abroad was exciting and romantic, but the reality is that she has found herself in a place where she may feel less capable.
Her struggle to forge a new identity can affect the entire family. Children will pick up on this!
Husbands who follow their wives’ jobs may also have a difficult time, with fewer peers with whom to bond.
Arrival- child
New children may have trouble breaking into friendship groups.
Normal turnover at international schools is 15-20%, so they are not alone.
The more challenging the posting, generally the easier it is to make friends.
What can parents do?
Parents play an important role in the way children experience the international lifestyle..
Through our attitudes and actions we can maximize the quality and pleasure of the experience.
Find a balance between own and host culture.
Teach tolerance
Tolerance: Openness and respect for the differences that exist among people.
Learn from others
Value differences
Parent’s relationship
Commitment to each other
Respect and support of one another
Kids feel secure when they know their parents “like” each other.
Look after yourselves.
Stress?
A highly stressed parent can affect the way a child adapts to a new culture..
Don’t put yourself last..
Take care of yourself..
• Eat right
• Exercise
• Socialize
• Join clubs and groups
You are important too!
Avoid…
Not listening to your child when they say they are unhappy.
Giving your child too much freedom.
Being negative about the local people, environment, or culture in front of your child.
Speaking of your home country as superior.
Not embracing the culture and country you live in.
Remaining in an “expat” bubble and not venturing beyond your comfort zone.
Children
• Home is where parents are.
• They may have difficulty leaving other care-givers.
School age kids
• Do better if siblings attend new school
• “Things” are more important than relationships (initially)
May ‘act out’ if feeling unhappy.
Teens
Face the greatest challenges as it’s already a difficult time.
• Some may be resistant to leaving their peer group.
• Others may see it as an opportunity to re-invent themselves.
TIPS
Let your kids be sad..
It is ok for them to grieve the loss of a country, friends, school, etc.
Try not to minimize their feelings..
Be there when they need you..
Validate and comfort them..
Be patient..
Watch out for…
Irritability
Not interested in spending time with friends or doing fun activities..
Frequent stomach and head pains
Not sleeping
Losing or gaining weight
Tearfulness
Not doing well in school
Lack off energy or complaining that they are bored or tired..
Talking about running away
Low self-esteem
Giving away favorite belongings
Talking about death or suicide
Teenage depression can be exhibited as irritability more so than sadness.
They will isolate from some, but not all, of their friends.
They may be overly sensitive to criticism, rejection, or failure.
They may have undiagnosed aches and pains.
Concerned?
Moving to a new culture is challenging!
Please, if you are concerned at any time contact the classroom teacher or Mrs Hook.
Remember: It is NORMAL for adults and children to feel ’down’. Usually this phase does not last long.
We also have a variety of library books you can borrow or check the websites at the conclusion.
IST has many books in the library to help you.
Resources
_ Third Culture Kids: The Experience of Growing Up Among Worlds. David Pollock and Ruth Van Reken, 2001.
_ Notes from a Traveling Childhood. Karen Curnow McCluskey, 1994.
_ The Art of Coming Home. Craig Sorti.
_ Homeward Bound: A spouse guide to repatriation. Robin Pascoe
_ Survival Kit for Overseas Living. Robert Kohl.
_ Among Worlds magazine (www.interactionintl.org/amongworlds.asp) encourages and empowers TCKs.
_ www.tckid.com. Here TCKs blog about their experiences, ask questions, view
current research, and meet other TCKs (TCKID, 2008).
_ “Third Culture Kid” Facebook group, which has more than 16,000 members.
_ More and more universities have social organizations specifically for TCKs.