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“Our son, Joe, had been at Mountainside for a month and was doing very well. But, we knew this was only the first step in his recovery, and we didn’t know what to do next. One of the Mountainside counselors thought Turning Point would be a good fit for Joe. As you know, Joe had a very positive experience at Turning Point. Its “no-nonsense” program taught him important life skills and gave him the confidence he needed to succeed. And, with the constant support from you all, he knew he was not alone. Joe still keeps in touch with many of the guys he met there. He is living and working nearby, has returned to college, and has a wonderful girlfriend. We love to be with Joe now! Thank you for that first phone call...and for your support throughout Joe’s stay. We have our son back!” Sincerely, Joan FAMILY MAILBAG IN THIS ISSUE APRIL 2013 • From the President’s Desk • April Activities Calendar • Recreation & Lifestyle Caron Comedy Night • Anniversaries Resident Profile - Lukas G. • Clinician’s Corner Alumni Life - Mike L. Unsung Heroes - Chas Lankford • From the Family Kevin and Susan S. Facebook.com/TurningPointExtendedCare Search for Turning Point Extended Care

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“Our son, Joe, had been at Mountainside for a month and was doing very well.

But, we knew this was only the first step in his recovery, and we didn’t know what to do next.

One of the Mountainside counselors thought Turning Point would be a good fit for Joe.

As you know, Joe had a very positive experience at Turning Point. Its “no-nonsense” program taught him important life skills and gave him the confidence he needed to succeed. And, with the constant support from you all, he knew he was not alone. Joe still keeps in touch with many of the guys he met there. He is living and working nearby, has returned to college, and has a wonderful girlfriend.

We love to be with Joe now! Thank you for that first phone call...and for your support throughout Joe’s stay. We have our son back!”

Sincerely, Joan

FAMILY MAILBAG

IN THIS ISSUE

APRIL 2013

• From the President’s Desk

• April Activities Calendar

• Recreation & LifestyleCaron Comedy Night

• Anniversaries

• Resident Profile - Lukas G.

• Clinician’s Corner

• Alumni Life - Mike L.

• Unsung Heroes - Chas Lankford

• From the FamilyKevin and Susan S.Facebook.com/TurningPointExtendedCare Search for Turning Point Extended Care

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F R O M T H E P R E S I D E N T ’ S D E S K

1Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

2Flag Football (PI) Gym (PI)

3Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)

4Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

5Hike at Crescent Lake (PI)Music Studio (PI)

6Gym (PI)Meditation at the Dry Dock (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsMovie Night (PI) & (PII)Avenue Q on Broadway (PII)

7Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsHike at Devil’s Hopyard (PII)

8Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

9Gym (PI)Trip to British Art Museum at Yale (PI)

1 0Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)Trip to Chelsea Piers NYC (PIII)

1 1Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

1 2High Ropes Course/ Zip line(PI) Music Studio (PI)Ceramics Studio (PII)Movies (PII)

1 3Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Meditation at the Dry Dock (PI)Bowling (PI)Mashantucket Pequot Museum (PII)CCAR Film Screening at Bushnell Theater (PI)Family Visits

1 4Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsRoger Williams Zoo (PII)

1 5Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

1 6Outdoor Basketball (PI)Gym (PI)

1 7Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)

1 8Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

1 9Music Studio (PI)Outdoor Paintball (PI)Ceramics Studio (PII)Trip to Metropolitan Museum of Art NYC (PIII)

2 0Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Movie Night (PI)Meditation at the Dry Dock (PI)Family Visits Mets Vs. Dodgers game (PII)

2 1Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsHike at Chatfield Hollow (PII)Movies (PII)

2 2Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

2 3Hike at East Rock (PI)Gym (PI)

2 4Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)

2 5Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

2 6Flag Football (PI)Music Studio (PI)

2 7Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Bowling (PI)Family Visits

2 8Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family Visits Hike at Kent Falls (PII)Birdland Jazz Club NYC (PIII)

2 9Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Trip to Misquamicut Beach (PII)

3 0Basketball (PI)Gym (PI)

PI = Phase 1PII = Phase 2

PIII = Phase 3P* = All Phases

To our loyal Friends and Family

I wanted to take this opportunity to share the overflowing amount of gratitude I have for each of you. This past month, Turning Point finalized arrangements to move into a new Phase I home. Over the last several weeks, I have personally received countless emails and messages from many of you. I have done my best to respond to all of them, but if I missed yours, thank you, from the bottom of my joyous heart.

This new house is the fruit of a two-year process to find and secure a home that is just right for the residents of Turning Point. Most importantly, this home is the culmination of many years of hard work – many years of successes and failures. This new home signifies a new chapter, one that I and my staff at Turning Point will continue to write for years and years to come.

Gratefully,David VieauPresident, Turning Point

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APRIL 20131Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

2Flag Football (PI) Gym (PI)

3Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)

4Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

5Hike at Crescent Lake (PI)Music Studio (PI)

6Gym (PI)Meditation at the Dry Dock (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsMovie Night (PI) & (PII)Avenue Q on Broadway (PII)

7Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsHike at Devil’s Hopyard (PII)

8Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

9Gym (PI)Trip to British Art Museum at Yale (PI)

1 0Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)Trip to Chelsea Piers NYC (PIII)

1 1Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

1 2High Ropes Course/ Zip line(PI) Music Studio (PI)Ceramics Studio (PII)Movies (PII)

1 3Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Meditation at the Dry Dock (PI)Bowling (PI)Mashantucket Pequot Museum (PII)CCAR Film Screening at Bushnell Theater (PI)Family Visits

1 4Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsRoger Williams Zoo (PII)

1 5Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

1 6Outdoor Basketball (PI)Gym (PI)

1 7Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)

1 8Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

1 9Music Studio (PI)Outdoor Paintball (PI)Ceramics Studio (PII)Trip to Metropolitan Museum of Art NYC (PIII)

2 0Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Movie Night (PI)Meditation at the Dry Dock (PI)Family Visits Mets Vs. Dodgers game (PII)

2 1Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family VisitsHike at Chatfield Hollow (PII)Movies (PII)

2 2Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)

2 3Hike at East Rock (PI)Gym (PI)

2 4Cardio Kickboxing (PI)Gym (PI)

2 5Mixed Martial Arts (PI)Resident/Alumni Dinner (P*)Alumni Meeting (P*)Bowling Night (PIII) & (PII)

2 6Flag Football (PI)Music Studio (PI)

2 7Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Bowling (PI)Family Visits

2 8Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Family Visits Hike at Kent Falls (PII)Birdland Jazz Club NYC (PIII)

2 9Gym (PI)Music Studio (PI)Trip to Misquamicut Beach (PII)

3 0Basketball (PI)Gym (PI)

PI = Phase 1PII = Phase 2

PIII = Phase 3P* = All Phases

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On Monday March 11th, several Turning Point residents and staff members attended a fundraising event at the Gotham Comedy Club in New York City. The event, called Greg’s Comedy Night, was an ef-fort to raise money for scholarships, enabling more families to seek the necessary treatment required to battle alcohol and drug addiction. In addition to the scheduled lineup, headlin-ing comedians Colin Quinn and Jerry Seinfeld made an appearance that shocked and pleased all those who attended.

Eleven Turning Point residents attend-ed, nine of whom happen to have completed Caron’s program. James T., a current Turning Point resident and Caron alumni, said that the comedy itself was “incredible.” “I really enjoyed everyone who went on stage,” James said. “I was totally surprised when Seinfeld came out. He told a hilarious joke about pop tarts and coffee. The event was unbelievably entertaining. I definitely haven’t laughed that long in a really long time.”

Lukas G. and Jared E., both Caron grads, also enjoyed the event. “There were a lot of laughs,” Lukas said. “It was a good time in a comfortable environment, and it was all for sobriety. Greg died from addiction, and his family set up a nonprofit to raise money and help provide scholarships.” The entire night was “pretty unreal,” according to Jared. “When Seinfeld and Quinn showed up it was crazy,” Jared said. “It was nice going into the city with a group of my close friends. All the money they raised went toward scholarships for Caron and it was nice to know that it was for a good cause. It was a great time and it was a reality check also. It goes to show that no one is immune to this disease.”

Four Turning Point staff members attend-ed the event: Sam Cohen and Tom Massey from Phase II, Dave Murphy from Phase III, and Turning Point’s Executive Director John Palmer. According to Palmer, it was “a great night for Turning Point on a lot of fronts.” The residents were introduced to many of

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Caron C omedy Nigh t

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Caron’s management team. “The residents were well-mannered and attentive,” Palmer said. “Our guys definitely were affected by this experience and hopefully we can participate in many more like it in the years to come.”

“The piece I enjoyed most,” Cohen said,” was the acknowledgement that Turning Point re-ceived from the Caron representatives. They took the time with our residents to give them that extra pat on the back. The guys have a spe-cial bond with each other and they took pride in representing both Caron and Turning Point. Above all else, laughter was the best medicine, and it was good for our guys to experience some fun in sobriety.” n

Caron C omedy Nigh t

A N N I V E R S A R I E SRECENT TURNING POINT GRAD:

Mike L.

16 MONTHSAlejandro M.

1 YEAR ANNIVERSARYRoss C.Tyler J.

11 MONTHSBen D.Jack R.

10 MONTHSTim H.Craig D.Anthony S.Matt E.Chris B.

9 MONTHSLukas G.Chris S.Noah M.Max Y.

8 MONTHSCasey O.Andrew S.Brian T.Michael P.Rhys D.Wills M.Derek P.

7 MONTHSNick T.Marcus C.Alex L.

6 MONTHSErik S.Ben E.Doug K.Jacob K.Peter D.Ethan B.Arjun P.

O T H E R N O T A B L E A N N I V E R S A R I E S :

Stephen H.Ben K.Dylan D.Alex F.Ryan C.Max S. Eric V.

5 MONTHSAdam S.Will D.Adam G.Greg K.Nick U.Zeke F.Connor P.John N.Gavin B.

4 MONTHSKyle C.Jim B.Troy D.Michael Y.Grant L.Alex K.Kevin F.Altay P.James T.Nicholas M.Joe P.Beau F.Gary L.

3 MONTHSAndrew M.Jason V.Sean M. AJ B.

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LUKAS G.Lukas G. is a Turning Point resident currently in the program’s third and final Phase. He came to New Haven after successfully completing primary treatment at Caron in Pennsylvania and since committing to recovery, he has made tremendous progress.

Lukas grew up in Stamford, CT and played competitive soccer throughout his early years. After high school, he enrolled at The Univer-sity of Rhode Island to study Psychology and it was there that his substance abuse surfaced. “I had a really bad breakup with a girlfriend at school and I just didn’t know how to deal with it,” Lukas said. “I had been offered pills before. I heard kids did them but I never had. After the breakup, I was angry and started doing them.”

Lukas began to regularly use opiates in the fall semester of his senior year at college, at the age of 21. He left school before beginning his

final semester and moved back home. “I was re-ally struggling,” Lukas said. “My parents could tell that I wasn’t doing so well but they didn’t know what addiction was. I was only supposed to go home for a semester but ended up staying longer.”

Lukas spent a year and a half back in his home town, splitting his time between his divorced parents’ homes. “I hung out with friends every

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I am motivated again to live a good life.”

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C L I N I C I A N ’ S C O R N E Rnow and then,” Lukas said. “I basically left the house to get what I needed and went back home.” The situation worsened when Lukas began stealing from his parents to support his habit and they eventually were forced to pay several debts that he had accrued.

“Basically, my whole personality changed,” Lukas said. “I went from being out-going to isolated. I wasn’t trust-worthy. Everything that came out of my mouth was a lie.” Lukas’ psychiatrist recommended Caron’s program for primary treatment and he entered their Pennsylvania facility on July 3, 2012. He spent 31 days at Caron and following the staff ’s recommendation, he immediately came to Turning Point Extended Care and Sober Living.

Lukas is currently in Phase III at Turning Point, hav-ing spent about eight and a half months in the program thus far. He was recently hired as a House Manager at the Phase III Academy Street residence. When Lukas gradu-ates from the program, he plans to work as a member of the Phase II support staff. He plans on getting an apart-

ment with friends in the New Haven area and enroll back into college next year and earn his undergraduate degree.

In the meantime, Lukas is focused on “being healthy.” “My relationship with family is good now,” Lukas said. “The trust is slowly coming back and I can actually talk to them. Turning Point teaches you how to live life again and become independent. I am motivated again to live a good life. I want to make something out of my life, not just be a drug addict.” n

T HE P OWER OF GROUP T HERAPY:

you walk into Center for Change you can usually find

a group running.

At Center for Change we offer an eclectic mix of psycho-

educational, experiential and process groups, such as: Life

Skills, Meditation, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Exploring Sub-

stance Abuse, and Family Systems. Each group is different in

nature and offers a unique experience for growth and change.

Group Therapy is beneficial as it helps clients to increase

self-awareness and increase social comfort. It also provides

support, educates, and helps clients to develop skills that they

can put to use in their everyday lives.

One of the many things that I enjoy about facilitating Group

Therapy is that it offers a venue for our clients to relate to

one another. It helps clients to realize that they are not the

only one with a particular feeling or facing a certain struggle.

At times during individual work, a client can feel as if he is

“all alone” with what he is experiencing, which can feel iso-

lating. However, during Group Therapy the client hears from

his peers that they too have gone through something similar

or have felt the same way. Clients learn that they are not as

alone or unique with their issues or their struggle with sub-

stance abuse, as well as the many emotions that they are now

feeling. It can be encouraging to hear that other people have

similar difficulties and can grow through them.

As a group facilitator, my goal is to provide a safe environ-

ment for the group to share. This is of utmost importance.

If

I am motivated again to live a good life.”

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MIKE L. A L U M N I L I F E

Mike L. graduated from Turning Point’s extended care program on February 19, 2013. His journey over the past few years has been a difficult one, but he is now fully immersed in the recovery process and ready to proceed with his life. Following attempts at two different primary treatment centers in the northeast, he came to Turn-ing Point in New Haven and is currently planning his future while working as a member of the Phase I support staff.

Throughout high school and into his early college years, Mike was a passionate music fan. “All I really did was play drums in my band,” Mike said. “If I wasn’t doing that, I was going to see other bands.” When he was 17, Mike experienced the loss of a close friend in a drunk driving accident and the incident caused severe emotional stress that affected many facets of his life. “I lost all faith in God and my attitude changed toward the world in general.”

“Looking back, we partied a lot and it gave me a feeling of invincibility,” Mike said. “I thought nothing could touch me in high school.” After grad-uating from high school, he tried several different colleges but finished with “almost no credits to show for it.” At this point, Mike’s father told him to “go to work full-time, or move out.” His father’s friend owns an oyster boat business running out of the Long Island sound and he went to work. “It was always an option, but it was hard work and I wasn’t willing. When I failed at school my last semester, I gave up.”

Mike’s addiction to cocaine surfaced while he was working on the oyster boats. The long hours led to many late nights and Mike used the stimu-lating effects of cocaine to extend his after-work partying. “I was working about 65 hours a week,” Mike said. “Eventually the long hours, and the scenario of being on a boat all day, made me want to party that much harder when I got off. It felt like I earned it. The long hours led to cocaine use on the weekends so that I could drink more and stay up with my friends. I used it like clockwork on weekends for about a year.”

After a bad breakup with a girlfriend, Mike’s alcohol and cocaine abuse spiraled further out of control and he began using both on a daily basis to “numb the pain.” “I hid it from everybody,” Mike said. “My brother didn’t know, my parents didn’t know. One day my dad found an empty coke bag on top of my wallet in the basement from the night before. I denied and denied, but he was on alert after that.” When Mike’s original dealer went to

jail, he began dabbling in inhalants and his father eventually found some leftover cans. “My parents were in shock, and upset they weren’t able to tell.”

Following the recommendation of a family friend, Mike initially tried a 28-day program in October 2011 but relapsed soon after leaving. He went back on Jan 1st, 2012, but relapsed again during a weekend visit home. After this, Mike entered a different program, and then found success in his original treatment center before graduating and coming straight to Turning Point.

“The first time I was just going through the motions,” Mike said. “The second time I was will-ing. I listened and paid attention. I got something

out of it but I wasn’t willing to change the people, places and things. I wasn’t really ready to let go of any of that. It wasn’t until things got really bad that I found any willingness, and a little is not enough. My last relapse scared the heck out of me. I didn’t really plan it; it just happened. There

I didn’t want to be here for a year BUT THAT YEAR IS WHAT SAVED ME.”

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Group Therapy is based on the premise of confidentiality, so

that what is said in the group, stays in the group and the indi-

viduals in the group are asked to honor that. Once trust is

established I encourage the group members to take a posi-

tive risk to self disclose at their own comfort level and provide

feedback to one another. Interaction between group mem-

bers is highly encouraged. In Group Therapy the work occurs

not only with the individual who is processing “an issue”, but

by the group at large who are impacted by similar themes or

situations in their own lives. Through this process clients are

able to develop empathy and see how others view them. It

also provides an opportunity for clients to learn more about

how they interact with others, as well as handle conflict. At

the Center for Change it is truly wonderful to watch this pro-

cess unfold and witness how supportive the group members

are to one another. n

Vanessa Reda, LMFTPrimary Therapist, Center for Change

Vanessa is a licensed Marital and

Family Therapist in the states of Con-

necticut and California. She earned

her Master’s degree from the California School of Pro-

fessional Psychology at Alliant International Univer-

sity in San Diego, CA. While in California, she worked

as a therapist at Phoenix House, primarily working

with adolescent high-risk males with addiction using

an evidenced-based model, as well as providing family

therapy at Phoenix House Academy, a dually diagnosed

residential substance treatment program in Descanso,

CA. From there she went on to work for the APT Foun-

dation’s Residential Services Division, as a Clinician and

Clinical Team Leader providing individual, group and

family therapy for dually diagnosed adolescents and

adults in a residential substance abuse and behavioral

modification program.

was no thought process, it was a compulsion. It showed me how really powerless I was.”

Mike’s family was introduced to Diana Clark, a therapist who pres-ents family workshops at Center for Change. She recommended Turn-ing Point’s extended care program. “That probably saved my life,” Mike said. “I wouldn’t have stayed sober at the other program. I didn’t want to do it at first. I didn’t want to be here for a year but that year is what saved me.”

“At Turning Point, there is much more involvement from the staff,”

Mike said. “The length of stay definitely helps. If I hadn’t been here after eight months, I definitely would have relapsed. I had a hard time there between sponsors. I let it go longer than I should have and I wasn’t working my program to the best of my abilities. I was depressed and I hated everyone and everything. I bounced back and got a new sponsor between Phase II and III. I hit the ground running and everything has been great since. I’ve tried to change everything about my personality because it wasn’t working before. Now I have the motivation to do the best that I can at whatever I do. ”

Since completing Turning Point’s program, Mike has moved into the Harry Rosen House in New Haven. In the fall, he plans to return to college where he will study

personal training and addiction counseling, two fields about which he is very passionate. In the meantime, he continues to work as a member of the Phase I support staff and one of his main goals is to remain self-supporting. n

I didn’t want to be here for a year BUT THAT YEAR IS WHAT SAVED ME.”

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CHAS LANKFORDChas Lankford. has been a Case Manager in Phase III of the

Turning Point program for almost two years. He began his career

as a case manager about 18 years ago when he started working at

the Children’s Center of Hamden. As a case manager there, Chas

helped local adolescents with substance abuse issues. Six years

later, he had a daughter and left the human services field to work

in IT for ten years.

“The [IT] job was good as far as salary and benefits,” Chas said.

“But I missed working with the guys, and helping young men get

their lives on track. When an opportunity [at Turning Point] came

up, David Vieau talked to me and I took it. I’m really happy and

glad that I did.”

“I help these guys stay focused and build life skills. I’m in con-

stant contact with them and their families, making sure that they’re

doing what they need to do.” According to Chas, the most difficult

part of working as a case manager is “seeing guys really have a

hard time and struggle with this disease. “I’ve been sober for over

19 years. I know what it’s like to be 20-years’-old and trying to get

clean. I think that’s what makes me most effective. I grew up in

recovery myself; I get it.” n

Dustin, the son of Kevin and Susan S., came to Turning Point’s extended care program after undergoing detox and successfully completing a 28-day residency at Father Martin’s Ashley in Maryland. The effects of addiction and substance abuse do not simply stop with the user. Kevin and Susan have undergone their own struggles during Dustin’s ordeal.

According to Susan, Dustin’s high school years were “difficult,” only to become more so during his time away at college. “We knew that there was something off,” Susan said. “We had him see various counselors and doctors, but no one ever discovered that he had an addiction.” Dustin spent a total of three semesters before leaving college in Florida and returning home to New Hampshire. “He saw

an academic counselor once a week,” Susan said. “He wanted to do well but just couldn’t perform.”

Kevin and Susan have since learned that the usage of alcohol and marijuana was prevalent throughout Dustin’s high school and college years, and the substance abuse progressively got worse. Dustin began self-medicating with Adderall and he later received a legal prescription. “I supported that at first, before I had any idea he was in the throes of addiction” Susan said. “When using Adderall as prescribed, he was able to focus better and read for long periods of time.” When he went down to Florida for school, Dustin also had problems with Xanax. Drug use significantly impacted his ability to manage all areas of his life: school, work and the tasks of daily living. He moved back home with Kevin and Susan just before Christmas in 2010 and began working at a local company that also employed his father. “He was enthusiastic and grateful but never performed,” Susan said.

In February 2011, Susan and her husband were plan-ning a move and she told Dustin that he had several

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He came to me and said,

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months to save the money required to live on his own and become independent. At this point, opiates entered the picture. Dustin assured his parents that he was saving the money for an apartment, but when the time came, Dustin ended up living with the family of one of his friends. “We began to suspect that there was something serious wrong, possibly drugs. We started to confront him calmly but he was very good at covering it up.” According to Susan, Dustin said that the drugs and alcohol have always run havoc in his life but it was the opiates and “benzos” that forced him to seek help.

“He lived with friends from the end of May [2011] until the begin-ning of August,” Susan said. “He called one day sounding destitute and asked if he could come back home. Again, at that point, we had no idea that he was using drugs. It came to a point where his life just became completely unmanageable. He came to me and said,

‘the reason why I’ve had these problems is that I have a problem with drugs.’ It was shocking for me to hear but it all made sense in retrospect.”

Once Susan and Dustin had this conversation, the family quickly proceeded in their attempt to help Dustin overcome his addiction. “We became educated,” Susan said. “We saw counselors. Dustin did his detox at home. He tried staying away from the friends that he used with and we invited people over who were in recovery and they talked about the importance of programs like AA.”

During the initial period of detox and recovery, Dustin was adamant about going through the process on his own, without any outside help. Susan learned that there was nothing she could do until Dustin was ready to accept professional treatment. Susan and her husband hired an interventionist, and they began covertly plan-ning Dustin’s trip to Father Martin’s Ashley. According to Susan, this was a “very dramatic and grim time”, but it gave them the courage to say to Dustin: “move out or go to a 28-day rehab program.”

“It was very difficult for Dustin,” Susan said. “He wanted help but the disease pulled him back. He was scared; we were all scared.” Once Dustin agreed to enroll in Father Martin’s Ashley, the family

flew with him down to Maryland to begin his 28-day treat-ment. “Everything that transpired there was truly a miracle,” Susan said. As Dustin neared the end of his 28 days, the counselors recommended that he enroll in an extended care program to help with his long-term recovery. “Dustin was not happy with that. We looked at two or three, and chose Turning Point because it was far enough away from New Hampshire but close enough to my parents so that he would have some support close by. It was a rough transition and there were a lot of dark days but we stuck with it. He stayed in Turning Point 11 months. The fact that the staff at Turning Point had all been through it themselves had a lot of impact. They had the perspective of “I’ve been there, I’ve lived this.” At some point in early 2012, Dustin surrendered to the process and positive

changes began happening. His sleep pattern started improving and his brain began to heal.

Throughout the ordeal, Susan had her fair share of ups and downs. “It was a roller coaster,” she said. “One of the saddest moments for me before treatment, was when I realized that the days he seemed communicative, happy and normal, were the days that he was using. The days when he was depressed and angry were the days that he wasn’t using.” Despite the deep sadness, there were several high points throughout Dustin’s struggle. With the help of Turning Point staff, Al-Anon, and the family seminars offered at Center for Change, Kevin and Susan have experienced the joy that comes with the early recovery of a loved one.

Dustin completed the Turning Point program in October 2012, but remains in contact with several of the case managers there. He now lives in his own apartment in New Hamp-shire and has returned to work. According to Susan, “it is like meeting him again for the very first time.” n

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He came to me and said, ‘The reason why I’ve had these problems is that I have a problem with drugs.’ It was shocking for me to hear but it all made sense in retrospect.”

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